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In the movie Out of Africa, Robert Redford tells Meryl Streep that when men from African tribes were put into captivity, they died because they couldn't understand that one day they would be released. And I do feel so lucky and grateful and happy, don't I? But I also feel like there's a glass wall between me and everyone else, like I'm a fish in a tank, or they're fish in a tank and I'm outside, because I can't quite make contact with anyone. I have an idea by now of what's gone wrong. My awareness of the problem has been creeping up when my guard is down: at some point in the past decade, I fused liquor and chemicals into my recipe for what makes me feel ecstatic. Various substances, too much and too often. And they do, they do heat up my blood, they make diamonds in my mind, they heighten life, for a minute. There's wildness--wait--now it's gone. And in the mornings, I'm deader than ever before. And then, at thirty-eight, I move to Texas, hoping--in the back, silent part of my mind--to leave behind some of my habits. My house is an old bungalow, the yard rich with roses, jalapeno plants, amaryllis, banks of jasmine. In fact, access to information does not necessarily lead to success, nor to accuracy in predicting the future. Rather, success lies in the ability to transform information into insight through creativity and judgement. In other words, thinking is still going to be an important function, no matter how much data we gather. Consider the majority of forecasts that pollsters were making just prior to the 2016 US presidential election. You may recall that most predicted Donald Trump was not only unlikely to win, he was even described as a `sideshow distraction' that wouldn't come close. Even on election day, some pundits gave him just a 15 per cent chance of winning. Obviously, they were quite wrong, despite having access to some of the most advanced information-gathering technology in history. Exactly the same thing happened in the UK's Brexit vote. Despite copious quantities of computer-gathered data, forecasters failed to predict the eventual outcome.

People were shocked. To do this, I start with the outer edges of the body, such as bringing awareness to the feet, and slowly work inward to allow an easier way for clients to ground themselves. As regulation takes shape, their breath tends to naturally, and without effort, become less anxious. In this more relaxed state, it is then safe to move into targeted breathwork practices. The experience of being overwhelmed by thoughts and emotions is often a marker of trauma. Trauma is anything that we experience as a threat to our survival or overall well-being. These threats register in our nervous system, and if the natural restoration process is interrupted, coping mechanisms are put in place to survive the experiences. If left unprocessed, those coping mechanisms may lead to belief and behavioral changes that create patterns that are difficult to heal without addressing the body, the nervous system, and the breath. Breathwork is incredibly powerful because, with proper pacing and guidance, it can be an entry point into the nervous system. This has the potential, along with body-focused counseling, to help restore the nervous system's natural rhythm. When this system is reestablished, the client is no longer in a trauma response cycle and the root of the trauma can be healed. Although America is vast, it is very closed off because so much private property is forbidden to walkers. Only in national and state parks and reserves and on the great trails such as the Appalachian and Pacific Crest can people really see much of the land away from the roads. We are free in many ways, but not free to explore our environment on foot or even in many cases to walk to work. It may be that city dwellers, by using public transportation, do more for the environment than country people who have no choice but to drive cars and trucks, as buses and commuter trains never serve rural areas. The cities, which seem restricting, actually provide more opportunities than the fenced-off countryside for walking and exploring--or they did before so many cities transformed their downtown areas into cloverleaf interchanges. The movement back toward large pedestrian areas in city centers and reclamation of abandoned lots, railway lines, and canals into parks are two of the greatest national innovations in the last few decades. For years after growing up, I continued my walks in those woods to the east of my parents' house. In winter the trees seemed all upright trunks, and snow turned the bushes to lace; One summer I started over the hillside with no particular destination in mind.

The hemlock, hornbeam, spruce, maple, iron-wood, and even the giant white oaks branching above the others were second-growth descendants of the old-growth forest, logged by settlers in the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries. I think people who commit suicide must feel that way too. Lying on the couch, vegetating in front of the television--hour after hour after hour for months--reliving my failures, losses, and unfair circumstances, I found myself engulfed by depression so heavily, so painfully that I couldn't bear it anymore. So I'd go to a doctor and spend an hour talking about my problems and re-experiencing the awful feelings of hopelessness, worrying out loud that each day for the rest of my life would be the same, the misery never going away. The thought that I would always be like that, I'd never laugh again, or feel good or want to do anything, or be passionate about something ever in my life, left me feeling even worse. I'd come out of the psychiatrist's office shaking, crying, sometimes even throwing up. The more the doctor had me talk about bad experiences, the more I noticed the world's hardships. What is the reason any of us are even here? What is my purpose? What am I supposed to be doing here? If there really is a reason for everything that happens, what is it? The perfume of a new place. Standing in my garden, the golden morning touches my face like a mother's hand, telling me I could be happy here, I should feel welcome here. And I do sink into the city, and I do have fun, and I love this new world of cowboys and motorcycles and dance halls and unapologetically original people. But what else do I do? What I've always done, assuming it's the thing to do. I'm with a crew of folks who are magnificent souls--we're all friends, but really, truly, at that hour, everyone is a stranger; The morning light is raw and evil, the birds are cruel. I find my way to my bed, sleep the day away, again. And I wake up and point to myself in the mirror and say, Please don't do that again.

And then I go out and I do it again. How could these major events be so wrongly forecast, given the times in which we live? It seems that even in an era where we create 2. Data is powerful (and we are big fans of getting as much of it as we can), but without insight, meaning-making and creativity applied to this raw information, it might be compared to a tree falling in a forest with no-one around. Does it make a sound? In other words, data requires meaning to become more than mere numbers. Data is only as reliable as its quality, completeness and focus. Good judgement must sometimes be exercised in imperfect conditions. No matter how much information we have accumulated, or how clever our data is, we will always need to overlay human insight and interpretation across it. Human beings are still needed to make sense of it and create meaning. The verbs used in this last sentence are particularly important. When I started teaching breathwork, I often taught very activating practices in big groups. As the size of my classes increased, I began noticing there were always a handful of students who got flooded with memories and stored emotions; I started working with those students privately and learned that the activating breathwork practices opened them up too fast, which is why their systems went into overload. These clients needed a different approach to working with their breath. Knowing that the breath can be a key component in trauma healing, I set out to deepen my personal practice and studies; I researched cutting-edge psychology, somatic therapies, and neuroscience, which shifted my approach to the breath as it relates to developmental and relational trauma. While working with clients privately and in groups, I developed my own set of practices and methodology that continues to support my clients, allowing them to shift the root of their trauma and integrate their past with their present. These practices are outside the scope of this article and are taught in my individual sessions and classes. It's easy to get overwhelmed with how to start a practice when you're busy, have a family, or are new to self-care and establishing time for yourself.

In this section, I guide you through my go-to best methods for establishing a breathwork practice and staying consistent. Water flowed over a large rimrock jutting out over an east-facing slope and fell to the stream below, gushing down the hillside all the way to the creek. I continued walking and found a clearing edged by tall white pines standing in a row so straight I knew they must have been planted as a windbreak. Just on the other side I discovered their purpose: they sheltered a picnic house, the remains of someone's dream of a private park, built about twenty years earlier. Swallows and bats had colonized decaying rafters, and picnic areas were now home to rabbits and groundhogs. The white pines soared thirty feet, perhaps fulfilling the dream in a different way than the designer had intended. Farther down the hillside, a pile of boulders--remains of a bank barn that had stood there perhaps as late as the forties or fifties--provided evidence that the place where I walked must have been pasture. A red-winged blackbird perched on a leaning fence post shrilled its call that sounded like ringing glass. At last finding the creek, I located the big square stones that were the only remnants of grain mills operated during the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries. The wooden millhouses and paddle wheels were gone, yet locals still knew the valley as Reed's Mills and the stream as Reed's Mill Creek; I felt part of all times at once--the present, when this stream valley seemed a sanctuary from the highways and cities; Sick of myself, tired of the couch, I rolled to my knees and prayed for understanding. Then I waited, and when nothing happened, no ideas or booming voice from the heavens answered, I flopped on the floor defeated, tears rolling out of the corners of swollen red eyes. How can I have any tears left? What happened to that girl who hit home runs so easily? Since the verdict, I had done nothing but cram food down my throat, and I was easily 40 pounds overweight, disgustingly pushing the scales at 170 pounds. Everything I read about depression said exercise and changing negative thoughts to positive would snap the afflicted back to normal. Dragging myself off the tear-stained rug, I searched through the month-long scattered clothes, trying to find something warm to wear so I wouldn't freeze, my bed calling me to come back. I tried desperately to think of anything good in my life. Then a glimmer of some forgotten fragment buried deep in my brain started to surface, and I remembered segments of a article I had been reading during my lunches at Boeing.