Monday, 3 August 2020

I can tell by the light in your eye that you're so far away

`Everyone else can do it. `They're all laughing at me. Malie: So what did you do with Tom's list of thoughts? Pamela: We explored Tom's thoughts and the possibility that he might be making mistakes in his thinking. These `thinking traps'138 are the ways our mind convinces us of one thing when in reality it might be completely untrue. In Tom's situation, it became clear that the nature of his NATs resulted in him experiencing unpleasant feelings like anxiety, physical sensations like a sore tummy, changes in his behaviour like not wanting to sleep on his own, and falling behind on schoolwork. Malie: All of which were maintaining his cycle of anxiety. Pamela: That's it exactly! I spoke to Tom about the different types of thinking traps and those most relevant to him. I encouraged him to put his negative thoughts on trial, with questions like: Culture can't be created through workshops, consultant input, or a printed and framed statement on the reception wall or in the CEO's office. Culture is something that develops and formulates as a result of the vision, behaviours, actions and values of the entire team -- it's the culmination of existing behaviours. A few years ago, I was engaged by a company that was undergoing a merger and acquisition. The resulting impact on the organisation was a lot of siloed working. It became evident that the team were frustrated at the lack of a positive culture; I let the whingeing, anger and frustration be shared and then asked, `Where do you think culture comes from and who can effect it? There's no doubt that culture and behaviour start from the top of an organisation and the leadership team plays a significant part -- and I appreciate that, as individuals, sometimes we may be so far from the top echelons of business that we believe we can't impact the change that's needed. However, the reality is that every one of us has the opportunity to effect and create the culture around us. Our own behaviours, and how we're leading ourselves and others, affect the people to the left and right of us, above and below us. The rituals we create, the habits we adopt, the way we engage and communicate -- all of these things together feed culture.

The author Vyasa is using the elaborate creation of Krishna to tell the passive part of himself that he is not a sinner and, that deep down, just like Clarence, he is a good person. His only fault, if you could call it that, is that he is in conflict. But we cannot feel guilty for feeling that. There is no sin in having a conflicted mind. Clarence needed to clear his head as his overactive mind was giving him a headache. He was confused about so much he just needed to get up and go wash his face. His mind was a theatre. So, Clarence imagined his consciousness, the reasonable and intelligent part of his mind, as his hero - Elvis. Someone he would wholeheartedly listen to and trust. In the same way, Vyasa created Krishna. What you can control is how you handle them . So if you can change the tape inside your head, then you have actually just empowered yourself to face any situation--isn't that wonderful? And as you no longer take people or experiences so personally, they float on by . Let's change that tape right now . Now inhale on the count of three: one, two, three. Exhale on the count of six: one, two, three, four, five, six. I wonder if there is a new tape you found in that scene. For most people, the new tape is some version of I'm good enough or I can do it. As I count from one to five, perhaps you could allow this new optimism to wash over every cell in your brain, your body, and your spirit. As you do so, can you feel this new optimism being reprogrammed?

You also know about all the major insomnias and other sleep disorders. The final step is to bring together some of the therapies and medications available to you to support your efforts to take control of your sleep. In this article I begin with some information about conventional medicines, including a table to introduce you to medications that you can buy over the counter and those your doctor may prescribe. Then you'll find advice on alternative therapies and natural medicines that have been shown to be beneficial to sleep. I'll explain what a sleep centre is and what happens if you visit one, and conclude with a whistlestop tour of some of the gadgets and gizmos that you can use at home to find out more about your sleep and how to improve it. CONVENTIONAL MEDICINE Conventional medicines are pharmaceutical drugs both prescribed by a medical doctor, appropriately qualified nurse or (in some countries) a pharmacist and over-the-counter (OTC) drugs. The latter are usually sold following a consultation with a pharmacist and bought directly off the shelf in a store. The laws covering the supply of medicines vary from country to country. Some of these differences may arise from cultural attitudes to taking medications to aid sleep. The outcome depends on how you use your thoughts. Your mind is an instrument--nothing more, nothing less. In this article, I shared how I've learned to use my brain more effectively. Sometimes you have to think differently, and there are times you must stop thinking altogether. It's up to you to decide when you should deploy which method. But no matter what you do, don't spend too much time in thought because that's a waste of life. At the end of the day, thinking by itself is useless without action. But like we talked about earlier, action follows thought. Effective thoughts? Effective actions.

Smooth out any bunching of the sides immediately under the knot. Turn your collar down. Tidy the short end of your tie away from sight behind the long end. TIE A BOW TIE Look in the mirror and follow these steps. The left side should be about an inch longer than the right. Cross the left side over the right side. Hold the junction of the T-shape to secure all the layers of fabric together. Pinch the dangling length of tie in half at its widest point to form the second part of the bow. Tidy and straighten as necessary. Still others needed to make input by putting Post-its on a whiteboard instead of having to speak. Karen was so excited by what had happened that she promised to give each person a T-shirt, in the color of his or her choice, that said, I think better when I think with you! To generate future pull, aim the collective attention, intention, and imagination of your group. Aim your team's attention by: Aim your team's collective intention forward by using analytic, procedural, relational, and innovative Inquiry. Aim your team's collective imagination by understanding what each person needs according to their mind pattern in order to think creatively, and enact it by using the CARE process (create, advance, refine, and execute). Enact mind share in your team by creating a collaboration handarticle. Have everyone prepare a one-article summary of what supports his best thinking, then share with team, deciding what to stop, start, and continue in meetings. Create an operating agreement to enact this going forward. THE RANDORI

This should be our new priority. St John article 11 Verse 35 Amy Winehouse HERE IS A JOKE. There is a knock on the door of the hospital mortuary. Jim, the mortuary technician, opens the door. It's the hospital oncologist. Good morning,' says the oncologist. He opens it and pulls out the steel trolley on which the body rests. The slab is empty. When I was twenty, I was a funny little punk. I drank, I fought, I listened to the Dead Kennedys, and hung out at tiny clubs and dingy record stores. But more and more I found myself put off by the reflexive liberalism of my peers, and more attracted to views that could be construed as conservative. I found myself laughing at the self-obsessed anger of the lefties on the Berkeley campus that I endured for four years, as I started reading right-leaning mags like National Review and The American Spectator. When I graduated from Cal, I ended up taking an internship in Washington, DC, at a conservative journalism outfit. There I stood out like a stocky sore thumb. I had little in common with many of my fellow interns, who were devoutly religious lifelong conservatives. They were good people, but many of them weren't my people. So, when acquaintances who think they know me ask me in disbelief, Greg, why in hell did you become a conservative? I always say, I didn't join conservatives to become a conservative.

Sunday, 2 August 2020

No before after, yes after before

If you listen with a stethoscope to the upper and lower parts, especially the lower part, of the lung of a chronic bronchitis patient, you will hear dry or moist sounds, an abnormal respiratory sound characterized by small crackles. They are either coarse or fine-grained, and they are heard in different parts of the lung. An X-ray will find an increase of pulmonary shadows and lung markings. Chronic bronchitis recurs easily and affects the emotional state of the patient. According to traditional Chinese medicine, the lung governs sadness, so the patient may easily feel depressed. Yang Tan (1120-1185), a famous doctor of traditional Chinese medicine in the Song dynasty (960-1279), created a fine prescription for curing chronic bronchitis, recording it in a medical article he wrote. I have reproduced it here. Ingredients: Sweet almonds (250 g), walnut kernels (500 g), and honey (500 g). Michelle Phan, on the other hand, spent years building up potential energy. She worked hard to hone her craft, stealing from the master tutorialist Bob Ross, studying the wave patterns of YouTube's homearticle, and superconnecting with media companies and the fans of famous pop icons by giving and teaching. She hacked the ladder from blogger to YouTube star to makeup spokesperson to cosmetics designer to entrepreneur. The 30-million-view Lady Gaga tutorial was not Phan's first great video, but it was her inflection point. She had been winding up for a big swing for a long time. Success is like a lightning bolt, Phan once declared in an interview with Mashable. It'll strike you when you least expect it, and you just have to keep the momentum going. Hot Babes and Paradise Save the world wasn't in Jane Chen's five-year plan when she landed an enviable consultant position at Monitor Group right out of college. But three years in, she read a New York Times article that changed that. Connect and redirect103 Our emotions spring from the right side of the brain, and reason springs from the left side.

When a child is overwhelmed by emotion, it's the right side of their brain that's doing the talking - or crying or shouting! Because a child's anxiety can trigger discomfort in the parent, a parent's reaction can be to smooth it over quickly, to judge the feeling, minimise it or try to solve it like they would any other problem. These are all left-brained responses, which unfortunately miss the mark. Here's why: the child's right side cannot process information from the parent's left side, so your reasoning and logic won't work. When a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs. We call this emotional connection `attunement', which is how we connect deeply with another person and allow them to `feel felt'. Here's an example: Child in right-brained (emotional) distress: `I'm so worried a monster could come into my room! Thinking about the goals you have for yourself over the next 12 months, who is your promoter, pit crew, teacher and butt-kicker? Think about who you already know, and if there's a gap, consider who you'd like to reach out to and why. Fill the gaps Get clear on why you want to meet someone. What's the one question you'd like to ask? How are you going to reach out -- for example, ask for an introduction from someone you already know; What can you share with them in exchange? Use the following table to help. Expand your network The next step is to look at the key people you need in your network. The war was between the Pandavas and the Kauravas. Just before he proceeded with what was referred to as a holy war (dharma yudha), the archer Arjun, who represents the Pandavas, was in great conflict.

He did not know what to do. His heart had given way and he did not want to proceed with the war because the army on the other side was full of his old friends, family and even his old teachers. They all represented the same race, and for Arjun, this war was madness. Such is life that he had arrived at a time where he must fight them and even kill those who he once held dearly for so long. Arjun understood that there are conceivably many causes worth fighting and potentially dying for, but there appeared to be no causes for Arjun worth killing for. Such was the nobility of the man. Arjun dropped his famous bow and declared that he would rather be a slave of war than take the life of another man. He did not wish to fight, so he sought counsel from his cousin Krishna. In just a moment, but not quite yet, I'm going to have you project an image onto that screen. Remember that your subconscious is also taking care of you--so it won't show you anything that you're not ready to see. You may use this same script 10 times, and every time, it may show you a little bit more. Isn't that so comforting? That's your subconscious taking care of you . This experience is going to help you stress less and find serenity. You see, today's stressors are often a result of yesterday's memories. Something or someone stresses you out, and you don't know why. Who does he or she remind you of? Why is this getting to you? I want to stress that all kinds of fatal insomnia are extremely rare. A form of hypersomnia (excessive sleepiness;

It occurs relatively rarely, affecting anywhere between 25 and 50 people per 100,000 depending upon which country you're living in. Incidence is very low among Israeli Jews, for example, but higher among the Japanese. The reasons for this are not clear. Sufferers may or may not feel warning signs that sleep is about to overcome them, but anyway warning makes little difference - falling asleep is impossible to prevent. There are two main types of narcolepsy: with cataplexy (sudden muscle weakness; Other symptoms may include terrifying hypnagogic hallucinations (see p. Most people first notice symptoms of the condition between the ages of 15 and 25 years old; The first symptoms are excessive daytime sleepiness and irresistible sleep attacks, both of which might be exacerbated by high room temperatures and boredom. I have a set routine every day, and it works very well for me. I feel happy, and I enjoy my life a lot. When I go away for even a weekend, my whole routine can be messed up. And then I need another two weeks to get back to my `old' self. However, I don't always have this mindset. Right now, I'm working on this article, opening a new office, and buying a new apartment. I'm focused on a few important things. But other times, I'm more flexible and actually do like to travel, visit friends, business partners, and live a looser lifestyle. That's why I now take more time to make decisions. Instead of following my first thought, I say, Please give me a day or two to think about it. PARALLEL PARK When you learned to drive, your instructor would have taught you how to parallel park.

However, if you haven't had to do it much, here's a refresher. Stop when the back of your vehicle roughly lines up with that of the parked car. Check your mirrors to make sure that it's safe to move, then indicate. This will point the rear end of your vehicle towards the curb at an angle. Don't turn too sharply into the curb because you'll only have to pull out and start again (plus you risk scraping the parked car). Aim the back corner of the car at the curb two-thirds of your car's length back into the space, before you turn the wheel the other way. DRIVE IN SNOW When snow is forecast and driving's a necessity, go prepared for the worst. You could say pivoting is in our DNA. What our bodies and hands remember, though, our habitual market-share mentalities seem to have forgotten. Each time you use all the styles of inquiry, each time you use the compass and wonder about how to pivot to connect with someone who thinks differently, you will be helping all of us reclaim an essential aspect of our collaborative intelligence. Inquiry helps us get beyond either/or. Ask questions that lead you away from differences into a common future. We tend to see things just from our cardinal viewpoint; Welcome a diversity of viewpoints. Inquiry will help you to adopt a wider perspective and to increase your influence. Use the three steps of the inquiry process to increase your chances of creating something extraordinary. This will allow you and those around you to utilize your differences instead of blocking, ignoring, or being frustrated by them. The downside is that it provides any journalist short of copy with an instant scare story. We are obsessed by mortality in modern health services when we should be paying greater attention to quality of life.

Saturday, 1 August 2020

You turn to the one and you turn inside

If I'm just going away overnight or taking the car, I'll pack a large, soft travel bag. Packing cubes I always suggest my clients buy a set of packing cubes to help keep both their suitcases and their accommodation at the other end in order. These wonderful organisers are so clever and will transform the way you pack. They come in different sizes, keep clothes neat, minimise creases and they're simple to use. Conventional thinking leads talented and driven people to believe that if they simply work hard, luck will eventually strike. That's like saying if a surfer treads water in the same spot for long enough, a wave will come; Paradoxically, it's actually a lazier move. There's a reason some people practice things for twenty years and never become experts; A business can work five times harder and longer than its neighbors and still lose to rivals that read the market better. Just like a pro surfer never wins by staying in one spot. I think that being able to pick and read good waves is almost more important than surfing well, Moore tells me. If you don't have a good or better platform to perform on than your opponent, you are going to lose. Her secret, and Sonny's (and Google's and 3M's and General Motors'), isn't practice--though that certainly helps. It's going to the beach to watch the waves and getting into the water to experiment. Or do you perceive mistakes as just another way in which you are failing as a parent? Your answers are reflected in how you look after yourself on a daily basis and whether you feel deserving of self-care. If this is difficult for you, this may stem from your early experiences of being cared for, which may well be worth exploring a bit further. If you haven't already addressed any of your own anxieties or pain from the past, now is a good time to start, in whatever small way you can. If you find that a certain issue keeps coming up time and time again, or that you have a strong reaction to your child expressing their needs, then it may be beneficial to speak to a professional psychotherapist or psychologist who can help you to explore those issues. When picking someone to help you and your child, make sure they're accredited in their field and that they have sufficient experience.

If you don't click with the first therapist you meet, try another. It's really important to find someone that you connect with and in whose company you feel comfortable. Going to see a therapist may not be for everyone. However, seeking support, whether through a professional or through more informal channels, like talking to friends or family, is known to have significant benefits in helping parents fill up their emotional cup - so do try to find the best support you can. Pass it on. And at that moment, with that one simple gesture, I knew I'd created a ripple of change for the day -- for the guy, for the people around me looking on at the exchange taking place, and hopefully for those who were the recipients of the next `pass it on'. Every single thing we say or do makes an impact. In Drew Dudley's TED Talk Everyday Leadership, he shares the story of how on his last day at Mount Allison University in Sackville, Canada, a girl approached him and reminded him of the day she had met him four years earlier. She shared with Drew how scared she was about going to university, so scared in fact that on registration day she was ready to back out and head home with her parents. But while waiting in line, she saw Drew holding a big sign raising awareness for the charity Shinerama (for students fighting cystic fibrosis) and handing out lollipops. Drew turned to the equally nervous guy in the line next to her and said, `You need to give this lollipop to the beautiful woman next to you'. She said, `I felt so bad for the dude that I took the lollipop. As soon as I did, you got this incredibly severe look on your face, looked at my mum and dad and said, Look at that! Look at that! This recipe is especially good for the middle-aged and the young who suffer from irritable bowel syndrome, because it tones the spleen and stomach, benefits the intestinal tract, and increase energy and blood flow. As a further benefit, the walnut kernels and sesame will nourish the kidney and strengthen one's essence. Eating the paste regularly over a long period will help regulate the spleen and stomach, cure intestinal spasms, maintain mental tranquility, tap intellectual resources, and benefit one's study and work. Walnut kernels. Liver and Spleen Problems Twenty years ago, someone came to me regarding his stomach problem.

I asked him whether his stomach ached more frequently an hour after eating. He thought for a while and shook his head. I asked him again, Does it have anything to do with your emotions? After further thought, he nodded. That's right. Now that you have your companion, let's open up that editing software. In just a moment, but not quite yet, the subconscious brain will press the rewind button. Ask the subconscious brain to show you a scene that you need to see from your past. You can rewind to a scene itself and, if needed, float all the way back to the first time you felt this way. I'd imagine this will help you ignite a flash of insight--that aha moment. And gently notice how these feelings are linked to that pitfall thought pattern. If it's something simple like a fender bender you'd rather forget, then just go back to the scene itself. But oftentimes, there's something deeper . If you feel like you're being abandoned in your relationship, when was the first time you felt this way? In my own experience, I've found that limiting food intake on the day prior to travel can help on a long-haul flight simply because it minimizes the feelings of bloatedness that can occur in the low cabin pressure of an airplane. However, adjusting to eastward travel - speeding up the clock to reset it forward in time - tends to be more difficult. The timing of your light exposure is the key. There are excellent online jet lag calculators (see Resources, p. Five ways to get into the zone In addition to light therapy, the following are my top five tips for helping you to adjust to a new time zone.

Sleeping pills prevent you from reacting quickly in an emergency, and they can also cause you to stay still in your seat for too long, increasing your susceptibility to deep vein thrombosis. However, you may want to consider melatonin supplements, which are available over the counter in the USA and by prescription in the UK (see box, p. Mealtime synchronization is not a magic cure for jet lag, but it can have a knock-on effect that helps your sleep-wake cycle to readjust, too. This will expose your body to natural light at the right time for waking, as well as giving your body a burst of energy and feel-good hormones that can set you up to feel positive and alert for the day. We've learned that novelty is a scary thing--so we do everything to avoid it. We're creatures of habit who prefer relaxing our mind instead of straining it. I need to relax and watch something on Netflix, is something I hear almost everyone, of all ages, say these days. I've said it myself as well. That makes me wonder what we need rest from? From the repetitive tasks we do at work? From the familiar thought patterns we have? If you really think about it, we hardly strain our minds unless there's a specific reason--like a test or exam we have to take. Otherwise, we often think, What's the point? Well, the point is to train your mind just like you train your body to keep fit. Repeat for stubborn stains. Unless it's a dry-clean only item, dab with water to dilute--this makes it easier to wash out later. Don't rub at the stain as this will push it further into the fibers. Test on an inside seam before applying. IRON A SHIRT It's easier to iron a damp shirt but a good steam iron will make short work of a bone-dry one, too.

The rest is down to technique. Remember to iron around buttons rather than over them as you work through these stages. Follow this order to avoid creasing areas already ironed. Flip the shirt over and iron the collar front. You, a soldier! What kind of ruler would have you as his guard? Your face looks like that of a peacock. Kartikeya became so angry that he began to draw his sword, but Narada continued, So you have a sword! Your weapon is probably much too dull to cut off my head. As Kartikeya drew his sword Narada remarked, Here open the gates of hell! At these words the young warrior, perceiving the master's discipline, sheathed his sword and bowed. Here open the gates of paradise! Hell and heaven and not geographical locations, they are products of the human mind. Disciple - There have been many so-called yogis and holy men who have made claims of enlightenment. You might argue that you cannot afford to hire a coach or buy a course, and I get that. However, you need to understand how successful people think. For them, time is their most important asset. The last thing they want to do is to reinvent the wheel and try to figure out everything for themselves. That would be silly. They actually want to shorten their learning curve so they can travel from Point A to Point B as quickly as possible.

Friday, 31 July 2020

When the light comes shining through

Having eaten the paste for a week, the boy no longer complained about abdominal pains. A month later, his appetite returned and he ate well. Simple and inexpensive, this recipe has extraordinary medicinal effects. Its recipe is included here. As you practice this more, you may even find that you lose a sense of time and space. You may even find that--if you'd like--you can create a sense of leaving the physical body for this healing time you've given yourself. If it feels comfortable, you may wish to see your consciousness actually leaving the physical body as a momentary out-of-body experience. Your consciousness will return effortlessly and easily by the time you finish this practice. In fact, you'll be more present than you were before. Counting now: Body float. Consciousness moving upward and expanding so that it's now larger than the body. Body becoming lighter and warmer. Consciousness moving upward and expanding even more so that it fills the room. How long will it take me to adjust? As a rough rule of thumb, adapting to a new time zone can take as much as one day for each hour travelled westward (although often less than this), and one and a half days for each hour travelled eastward. Using light exposure and avoidance shortens this adjustment period considerably. It might surprise you to know that I recommend operating on your home time for the duration of your trip if you aren't travelling across more than six time zones and your trip is short - say only two or three days long. Although this can be awkward to manage if you have meetings, it does mean that you won't need your body to readapt twice (at your destination and when you get home) in a short period of time. All of us, however, tend to feel the effects of changing time zones if we add or take away four hours or more.

Generally, we tend to find it easier to travel westward - to a time zone behind rather than ahead of our own. To set the biological clock back in time, the internal mechanism simply has to slow down more than it's used to. As a biological process this is easier than trying to speed it up. Given that most flights westward arrive during the day, it becomes fairly easy to get extra hours of daylight on arrival and in doing so slow down the biological clock so that it steps relatively quickly into rhythm with the new zone. But then I discovered X. And then my life changed. X is, of course, the idea they want to sell you. Since I'm honest with you, I'm no different. For example, in this article, I want to sell you on the idea of useful and useless thoughts. But there's a difference. I'm giving you my perspective--nothing more. It's up to you to decide what you're going to do with it. John Dewey, a pragmatist, and one of the fathers of functional psychology, famously said: The true is that which works. But that doesn't mean we should believe everything we hear or read. Some top-of-the-range washing machines include a gentle hand-wash program, but if you don't have one of these you'll need to know how to do it yourself. You will need hand-wash laundry liquid, which is gentler on delicate garments and designed to require less rinsing than machine washing detergent. Gather the garments that you want to hand-wash. Put the amount of detergent recommended on the bottle label into a clean washing-up bowl. For color-fast items, fill the bowl with water that is between warm and hot (comfortable enough to hold your hand in); Agitate the water with your hand to ensure the detergent is fully dissolved.

Immerse the items--not too many at a time--and use your hands to work the soapy water through them for a minute or so, paying attention to armpit areas and collars where odor and dirt more readily accumulate. Leave to soak for a few minutes if necessary. Lift the clothes out onto the draining board and tip away the dirty water. Rinse out the suds from the bowl, fill with cool, clean water and rinse the clothes in this by moving them around. When you call for the goddess Durga, you will find her within yourself. I read somewhere, or maybe I imagined it, (I don't remember), if one is courageous, if one uses heart, then one is like a house where lamps are lit - the demon Mahisha is afraid to enter. When there are no lamps and the house is dark, Mahisha can enter easily. The person who learns how to show heart, to listen to their heart, is like the house where there is a guard at the door, fully awake. It is difficult for the demon Mahisha to enter. He cannot gather courage because this is not his quality. This is a quality that comes from the heart. The mind wants to enslave your consciousness. The heart can defeat it. The weak part of the mind does not want you to have a heart. So, what results are you trying to obtain and what information do you need to get there? 2) Has anyone I know achieved this goal? Does anyone I know have the right information or know someone who does? If you know anyone who can help you, start there. It will save you the hassle of looking for the right information and prevent you from wasting time. Before looking for information on my own, I always try to think of people who can help me.

By doing so, I'm more likely to access the right information and, as a result, learn more effectively. 3) To achieve the results I want, who can I pay to help me find the information I need? Successful people don't spend hours looking for free tutorials or articles, they hire experts or buy the best step-by-step course available. They simply don't have the time to put pieces of the puzzle together from multiple sources of information. Am I being effective? As Daniel Pink points out in his article To Sell Is Human, social scientists have proven that this kind of interrogative self-talk is more valuable than declarative self-talk, such as repeating affirmations. Learning to shift to an inquiry mindset doesn't involve special training. It just requires you to have genuine, simple curiosity. When asked why he became a scientist, Isidor Isaac Rabi, winner of a Nobel Prize for physics, replied, My mother made me a scientist without ever knowing it. Every other child would come back from school and be asked, `What did you learn today? I never associated failure therefore with something bad. Just that I was taking a risk, which meant I was learning, she stated in an interview with Fareed Zakaria. While inquiry doesn't require fancy tools or techniques, it does require a profound shift in our thinking. In a market-share economy, the kind of questions that have value are those we can answer quickly with resolve and certainty. For Mum there followed a decade of decline. This journey will be familiar to anyone who has cared for a demented parent or spouse. It is an unrelenting succession of depressing events and visits to outpatient departments. There is a small multidisciplinary industry now of dementia navigators: specialist nurses, psychiatrists, social workers and carers. The trajectory is predictable and prolonged and includes gradually worsening mobility, incontinence, falls, endless crisis phone calls and ambulance staff visits. This is overseen by GPs, who blithely continue to prescribe statins to ward off death from a heart attack, flu inoculations and other preventative treatments.

Blind adherence to general practice's income-generating QOF (Quality Outcome Framework) standards inevitably lead to this absurdity. We struggled at home for years. Dad would sometimes get angry with Mum. This is a love that has no rewards. When something sparks outrage, you don't need a who, a where, a when, a what, or a why. It's a sentence in which the object becomes the subject (try to diagram that one). To prove this is an actual story, said blogger says, Here are 4 responses by people with blue check marks next to their names! One is probably a sputtering d-bag Patton Oswalt. In the era of Twitter, what constitutes a story is now based on what some say--the kind of story that gets retweeted again and again, until it's no longer just four people who are upset, but many, four hundred, which in the twittersphere can feel like four million. And those first four people who make up that total twitterstorm of the truly outraged takes a victory lap. We got a scalp! What do we do now? At some point, to save his job, the poor weatherman (or whoever he was: frankly I forgot already) decides he must offer a groveling apology, but he still gets fired. He's canceled. I would argue that all Asperkids be monitored closely for learning disorders by professionals who will not be blinded by intelligence but be sensitive to inconsistencies. At present, that responsibility lies largely, and unfairly, with families, something I desperately hope will change. Just a few years ago, I was very clearly told by one exceptional children's administrator that her job wasn't to ensure that any student reached their full potential, just that they passed the grade. As a mother and as a teacher, that simply is not alright with me. Even when they are having a hard time in classes, it can be difficult to tell, I know. Asperkids often choose not to ask for help from their teachers.

Sometimes I think I know where it's at

And, as Peterson suggests, it ends in a punch or a call to 911 or both. The stakes for any argument are ridiculously high. Perhaps that's the whole point. How to add legs to your two-legged stool. Only journalists love binary thinking. That's why poll responses that include none of the above and no opinion are despised--they get in the way of a story so simple even a journalist can understand it. It's the except in the case of responses that open the door to complications, and that means research and that means work and that's the edge of the media's flat earth. Your friends in the press love unbalanced political situations. Think of a stool with only two legs: Will we lean left? Articles, adjectives, and pronouns are all variations on the pyramid, tangibly reminding the child of their association with named things, people, and ideas. Conjunctions are represented by a pink wooden bar, and are taught using a thin pink ribbon to tie together groups of flowers, so suddenly three separate blossoms are one group of red and pink and yellow all bound together in one vase. Intricate steps come in between - sentences analyzed by allowing the child to stamp colored representations of the grammar shapes on printed sentence strips. Eventually, the child must write original sentences according to patterns of stamped shapes. You will recall my love of grammar a million years ago. Like Lego bricks, it's about small pieces fitting together, and when properly used, those pieces can create masterpieces. Obviously, I love to write. But I had to learn how and when and why to use this turn of phrase versus another. Otherwise, any thoughts I had that were worth sharing would never make it out onto a article with much power or possibility. The same is true for your Asperkids. These studies suggest that when the average person is about to see an emotional picture, he or she will respond before that picture appears (under double-blind conditions)12 [emphasis in original].

To repeat: Participants' skin was reacting before an emotionally provocative image was randomly generated, when the participants did not know the emotionally provocative image was coming. From 1998 to 2000, Dr Radin replicated the results in studies at Paul Allen's (cofounder of Microsoft) consumer electronics lab in Silicon Valley, Interval Research Corporation. Biochemistry Nobel laureate Kary Mullis visited the lab and acted as a participant in Dr Radin's study. Following his participation, Mullis remarked during a 1999 interview on National Public Radio's (NPR) Science Friday program: I could see about 3 seconds into the future. It's spooky. You sit there and watch this little trace, and about three seconds, on average, before the picture comes on, you have a little response in your skin conductivity which is in the same direction that a large response occurs after you see the picture. Some pictures make you have a rise in conductivity, some make you have a fall. That, with me, is on the edge of physics itself, with time. This representation will not only be beautiful, but immensely powerful and necessary if we are going to embrace and respect the variety of bodies that we have in real life. Post-birth bodies. Another idea we see glorified in the media is the ridiculous assumption that any woman worth her salt should have a body that bounces back after childbirth. I've never had a child, but I've watched my friends and others struggle with adjusting to post-birth bodies and the lasting changes that come with childbearing. The stripes. The loss of elasticity. The pouch or mothers apron as I learned it is sometimes called. The deflation of the boobs. All of these things affected my friends' self-esteem in some way--it was agonizing for me just to watch how they struggled, so I can't even imagine how difficult it must be for them to experience. I once asked my followers on Facearticle this question: Mothers: What was the hardest part of your body to love after having a child? Then use for planting herbs or flowers to put on the windowsill and brighten up your kitchen or for storing utensils.

Alternatively, you can transform them into attractive holders for patio lights. Just use a hammer and nail to make a pretty pattern of holes through which the light can shine. Who would have thought that a humble tin could be so useful? Cardboard boxes If these are in good condition, they make fabulous storage baskets for storing towels, linen, kids' toys, paperwork, etc Just follow these instructions: Cut off the flaps around the top of the box and throw them in the recycling bin. Starting from the base, take a roll of thick brown string and wrap it around the side of the box, working your way up to the top edge, until the box is covered. Use a hot glue gun to secure the ends of the string to the box to stop it unravelling. If you're a dab hand at sewing, you could upcycle an old pillowcase as a lining. It's timing. Sonny Moore seemed to have that pattern recognition; From First to Last spotted the fast rise of screamo before most bands--and mainstream audiences--saw it coming. When Sonny recognized that the end was near, he got off the wave. The real question is, was that all just luck? Was Sonny just a natural? Or can such wavespotting be taught? SOME TIME AGO, DRS. Erik Dane, Kevin Rockmann, and Michael Pratt, researchers in organizational behavior and human decision making, recruited a couple hundred college students to watch clips from some basketball games for extra credit in their business classes. Some of the students had played several years of basketball--the researchers called them high expertise. Compassionate parenting is about bringing kindness into our relationship with ourselves rather than self-criticism, because this doesn't do anyone any good.

By turning down our critical voice it helps to know that we're all in the same boat with our struggles and that we can use our vulnerabilities to create a better connection with our children in a more wholehearted way, which sees vulnerability as lying at the centre of the family story: Whether we're holding our children or standing beside them or talking through their locked door, vulnerability is what shapes who we are and who our children are. If we refuse to be vulnerable during moments of struggle and self-doubt, rather than being with ourselves through the peaks and valleys of life, we'll struggle to teach our children to acknowledge their own vulnerabilities. Parents' feelings about themselves are vital to raising children who live and love with their whole hearts. If we want our children to love and accept who they are, then we must love and accept who we are including our imperfections: We can't use fear, shame, blame, and judgment in our own lives if we want to raise courageous children. Compassion and connection - the very things that give purpose and meaning to our lives - can only be learned if they are experienced. And our families are our first opportunities to experience these things. Our own vulnerabilities and those of our children - far from being something to hide - provide us with precious moments to explore our colourful emotions with our children, to develop love and compassion, and to teach them resilience from a place of being `good enough' rather than equating vulnerability with weakness. Unleashing brilliance requires you to be highly disciplined; Being `in the green' at all times is an unrealistic expectation. It's how you get yourself back on track that counts. Ray realised that his `failed diary' was not conducive to his performance or leadership. He knew he had to reclaim his green brain state to fuel his brilliant performance. He knew that the key behaviours to support his stamina and mindset were around being disciplined with time, conserving his energy and mental capacity for the right work where he could truly add value, and ensuring that he built into his calendar the `me' time he needed to do the things that refuelled his energy. So he took charge and actively created blank space to think, to create, to strategise, to think about the business and next steps. He reset boundaries and intentions and realigned his behaviours to his key goals. He shared, `Success for me now looks like a clear diary with chunks of time for refreshing and sharpening the saw and the time to make important decisions'. Nicole Eckels, co-founder of Sapphire Group and CEO of Glasshouse Fragrances, provided the same insight during her time on my podcast. Withdraw the hands and stand upright.

Breathe 10 times with your hands overlapped on your abdomen. Rub your hands, face, and neck and the Dazhui point (the most prominent joint on the back of your neck when your lower your head). Then, move the left foot half a step to the left and do a half squat. Put your hands on your thighs, fingertips facing each other, and circle the legs six times from the outside inward, then from the inside out. After that, put your feet together, squat with your hands on your thighs, and circle the legs six times to the left, then six times to the right. Straighten up and pat your body all over from top to bottom, the left hand patting the right side of the body and the right hand patting the left side. This will get rid of the soreness you might feel when you practice this standing exercise. In the beginning, your legs and arms may ache or shake. This is normal. Your subconscious brain focuses on what's right with you. The subconscious can remind you who you are--and why. It can help you answer the questions: Who am I? What am I here for? How can I put my greatest gifts to use in this world? The theta brain waves your subconscious brain generates are involved in memory formation and retrieval,1 and they play a role in modulating emotionally charged memories in traumatized individuals. Here, the subconscious is the program a director uses to stitch expensive scenes together on a computer. Remember when Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet (two actors we used in other subconscious brain-based metaphors) were in Titanic together? Well, imagine writer/director James Cameron filming these actors on a sound stage. He imagines what he wants them to say. However, we need much more research in this area to be able to make conclusive statements about the link between the two.

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He admits that on reflection `overloading my diary was a failed strategy for me' as he let the habits and behaviours that he knew fuelled his success fall by the wayside. Ray had entered the red zone. There's nothing heroic about becoming a slave to your diary and other people's requirements. This is not aligned to maintaining the behaviours needed to be ready, to be brilliant. In fact, it's the fast-track to burnout and a whole heap of challenging mindset issues. We risk overwhelm, falling into the `I'm so busy' trap. We find it hard to navigate the murkiness to find the clarity; And as for those projects that matter and brilliant behaviours you know you need to re-implement to get things back on track? Well, they get thrown out with the trash! Maintain this state as you breathe ten times. Regular Movements Move the left foot half a step to the left, putting a distance between the feet that is three times the length of the foot. Imagine that your feet are rooted deeply into the ground like a big tree. Bend your knees and do a half squat, as if riding a horse. Keep the upper body upright, hold in the stomach slightly, straighten the head and neck, tuck in the lower jaw, and keep the Baihui point, Huiyin point, and the central point between the heels on a straight line. Bend the knees outward in a natural position, keeping them in a straight line with the toes. Look straight ahead, eyes slightly closed, and breathe naturally. Remain in this standing posture for 20-40 minutes each time. Concluding Movements Going back is how you dislodge an emotionally charged memory that is stuck in your brain.

Think of it like rebooting your computer if your Internet browser freezes and prevents you from using Word--you obsessing about your ex (the frozen browser) when you should be focusing on work (Word). In this case, you do need to go back to think about that breakup--but just for a few minutes. Then, the supercharged subconscious experience will set you free. If You Have a Happy Past Some people ask, But what if my past was happy? Do I still need this article? This article can help you understand how forgotten memories all fit together--shaping you into the incredible person you are today. Also, isn't it nice to remember our best memories? The subconscious brain isn't about pathology (ie, telling you what's wrong with you). The timing depends upon a variety of factors, including your ethnicity, how old you were when you had children, whether you breastfed, and your weight. The signs of approaching menopause - at first irregular periods, then later, intermittent periods, hot flushes, loss of libido, and mood swings among them - may be evident several years before a woman ceases to menstruate altogether. This lead time is called the peri-menopause. There are very few objective studies on the effects of menopause, but those that have been conducted offer some insight into how the menopause, and its side effects, may inhibit good-quality sleep. One study noted that during the first half of the night, women with hot flushes had significantly more arousals and awakenings than a control group and those without hot flushes. Women who were convinced that their hot flushes were causing a problem with their sleep on average reported around five hot flushes per night, and five sleep disturbances. Interestingly, the awakenings occurred immediately before each hot flush. In trying to find a solution to the problem, the researchers found that a lower ambient temperature of 18oC (64. I think 18oC is about the right room temperature (if such a generalization can be made) for sleep anyway (see p. Furthermore, oestrogen is believed to have an impact on the biological clock, making it harder to fall asleep or causing you to wake too early in the morning. Break them down into their component parts if you must, but even better, just get them out.

Once a week Once a month Every three to six months There are an increasing number of social enterprises throughout the country that will be delighted to take your old bikes off your hands; Google for one near you. Once a year Dispose of anything broken or that you no longer use. Decluttering and cleaning often go hand in hand, if only because during the course of decluttering we begin to see surfaces we might not have laid eyes on for years. It also becomes so much easier to clean up when we're not faced with the daily domestic steeplechase of too much stuff. Fry until the meat is white on the outside. Add the ham and cream, then pour in the stock. Let this bubble and reduce a little. Remove from the heat and transfer to a rimmed pie dish. Then heat the oven to 350-oF. Assembly and cooking Sprinkle flour onto a clean, dry kitchen counter and onto the rolling pin to prevent sticking. Remove the ball of pastry from the cling film and start to roll it into a shape of even thickness, larger than the diameter of the pie dish. Lift and turn the pastry 90 degrees each time you roll to prevent it sticking to the counter. Add more flour if necessary. The mind doesn't make just one cloud, it creates many.

We don't have one mind. We have many minds. Hundreds and thousands of minds. Each circumstance calls for a different mind. Our minds are a reflection of how we feel about society and our place in that society. We are anxious, afraid, alone, lost. With all these emotions we water the seeds in our minds. They may not flower right away, but, over time, they will. Then our consciousness, our real nature, becomes even more blurred as it gets even more lost behind the clouds of our mind. If you want to build a coaching business, focus on that. You need to build your expertise, find clients and learn how to convince them to hire you as a coach. There is a heck of a lot of work involved. Here's the bottom line. If you're not spending a major part of your time on one thing, you'll very likely get nowhere. And, while hedging your bets might sound like a good strategy, it often isn't. It's usually far more effective to find one thing you have an interest in and commit to doing it until you get results. Then, and only then, you can move on to the next exciting goal on your list and repeat the process. In my article, The One Goal, I explained how and why I set a goal of writing articles consistently until April 18th, 2020 (my 35th birthday). I specifically set this goal to avoid giving up or falling for the Shiny Object Syndrome. I had made a talent map as Nick described what drove his boss's thinking.

I wrote Nick's talents on it also, so we could compare them and find where and how they could connect. Nick hovered over the map as if it were the Rosetta stone. No wonder he always begins with what he wants to have happen in the future. Look at his innovative quadrant--exactly where my blind spot is, where I worry! I pointed out that, conversely, Martin's blind spots were in procedural and relational thinking, where Nick had an abundance of thinking talents and never worried. Pointing to his boss's map, he exclaimed, I get it, I get it! That must be why he stresses about how we are going to get things done and doesn't seem to care about the effect he has on people at all. I keep throwing my best ideas about operations and people right at the very places where he has blind spots--what you're calling his procedural and relational quadrants. TEAM MAP EXAMPLE 1 This is old-fashioned clinical medicine: just a story, a thorough physical examination and observation of the patient's home environment and how they are muddling through. Or, more realistically, how they are not muddling through. A good GP will refer their patient to the consultant who most suits the patient's temperament and expectations. A young, anxious, fitness-obsessed executive needs a young physician who will leave no stone unturned (and will quite probably leave the patient a little more anxious). A patient with a philosophical view on life who prefers to avoid fuss should ideally be referred to a specialist who can live with uncertainty and offer reassurance. Another of the unwritten but essential roles of a good GP is to protect their patients from the clutches of hospitals. These days, as soon as anyone enters a hospital, an unstoppable cascade of investigations, ward rounds and treatments inevitably ensues. For the elderly, hospitals are dangerous places, precipitating confusion, falls and fractures with the added risk of hospital-acquired infection. It is very easy to admit a frail elderly person but often very difficult to discharge them. It is not unheard of for events to lead to a patient leaving feet first. The personalization of debate deems any kind of hard truth harmful to one's fragile health and eliminates any chance for real conversation.

Thursday, 30 July 2020

When I need rest and sleep

During the menstrual cycle, at the point at which the egg has been released from the ovarian follicle and the remnants of the follicle have released the hormone progesterone, a woman's temperature might rise by up to 0. This slight increase can make a woman feel too hot in bed, making it harder to get to sleep or to stay asleep. The menstrual cycle also disrupts a woman's rhythms for releasing melatonin, thyroid-stimulating hormone and cortisol. Frustratingly, research is not clear as to the impact of these disruptions on major sleep characteristics (the amount of deep sleep, dreaming sleep and so on a woman has), but we do know that there are subtle effects at work. You probably don't need any of it at all. Most dry products such as eyeshadow and powder last a couple of years; When it's past its best, toss it. To keep brushes in best condition, wash them gently with a tiny dab of shampoo. Rinse them under the tap with the bristles facing downwards, blot dry on a clean facecloth, gently squeezing to remove as much water as possible, then leave them to dry naturally, resting on the facecloth. If you have sealed, unused toiletries which don't appeal to you, pass them on. Check out @thebeautybanks on Instagram. It's a non-profit organization which helps to get toiletries and cosmetics into the hands of people living in serious poverty. In the US, beautybus. Wash and wear Cool, before blending by hand or in a blender. Heat again to desired temperature. Season and garnish with a splash of olive oil, swirl of cream or croutons. If you prefer to use vegetable rather than meat stock, add garlic for depth of flavor. You will need pasta, a large saucepan, water, salt and a colander. Remove the lid and add a tablespoon of salt.

Return the water to a rolling boil, add the pasta and stir once to separate it. Cut it in half to see if it is cooked through. A white and grainy center means further cooking time is required. For al dente pasta--with a little bit of bite--remove from the heat before it is completely soft. We get annoyed and irritated as to why our minds cannot just be still for a moment. Why is the mind always wondering? Instagram shows me the same default yoga poses over and over again. How many more posts do I have to see with a yogi pointing his or her toes? I become so bored I just switch off. I look for an escape (which, to be fair, should just mean logging off). I find the same with my mind. The minds recollection system brings up the past over and over again and it also thinks about the future. I just see the same old images. This whole process (which again is just the default mode of the brain) just gets so boring. Did you know the diet industry is a multi-billion-dollar sector? Why is this? Because people keep trying different diets, hoping to find one that finally works. Clever marketers take advantage of this situation by selling different diet programs to the same people over and over. Now, is it possible that none of these diets work? Technically, yes.

However, I doubt that is the case. There are probably people who managed to lose a lot of weight with any of these diets--whether they maintain the weight loss is another matter. The point is, what matters the most is not the information you receive, it's what you do with it. Once you understand how to use the information you have effectively, you can achieve results even with average quality information. First I asked her if she was still sure she wanted to start her own company. Of course, she replied immediately. I just don't have the slightest idea how to get there. I suggested we look at her thinking-talents map again, to see the internal resources she had to do that. The first thing we noticed was how strong she was in the relational quadrant. I wrote the concerns she had on Post-its and placed each next to the appropriate quadrant. We put her worry about writing a business plan into the analytic quadrant; We discovered that all of her concerns, in fact, fell into the analytic and procedural quadrants. Interestingly, her blind spots were where I had most of my thinking talents. I suggested we create a thinking partnership to help her strategize through the transition. I am lucky enough to have worked with some old physicians from the pre-antibiotic era. One remembered, as a student, taking a trip up to Oxford at the end of the war to see a young man who had contracted erysipelas, a bacterial infection of the face, from a nick of the razor. The man had been brought back from the brink of death by a miracle new drug: penicillin. Alas, penicillin was available only in such tiny quantities that they ran out and, in spite of the doctor's efforts to recover it from the urine, the man died. Another physician told me of the `treatment' given for pneumonia, a common illness in the young before antibiotics. It would spread through one lobe of the lung, causing a raging fever and breathlessness, and the patient, struggling to maintain the blood oxygen level, would breathe faster and faster.

Breathing requires muscles and eventually, if the pneumonia did not settle, exhaustion would set in. The breathing rate would fall, and with it the oxygen levels, and usually the patient would die. Some patients would survive, simply through luck or their own resilience - so-called `resolution by crisis'. The doctor would arrive at the point of resolution or death and paint a grave picture of the poor patient's chances. But if we jettisoned these silly idea prisons, we'd be able to live better lives based on common sense. Sadly, current politics forces us into one of two positions, against the betterment of society. Now, if you look at that list I casually tossed out, you'll see how I've changed my views often. But now I pick views that range between two prisons, between two poles. I like to think I'm above it all, or maybe I'm just a man who likes stilts. For instance, climate change isn't a hoax and we should pursue ways to protect the environment; Somewhere between hoax accusation and Greta Thunberg hysteria lies the truth: that even if the predictions are bad, we can work toward a cleaner environment--especially if we incorporate nuclear power (which is really the cleanest, most effective energy of all). As I put words to paper, President Trump just pledged to plant a trillion trees to reduce global CO2 levels, at the same time condemning the prophets of doom saying the world will end in a decade. That, whether you want to admit it or not, is a stance that puts him outside both idea prisons. He's pivoted away from the hoax stance and walked outside toward practical action. That only left one unit spot to fill in, and we'd made 16 - a square of four beads by four beads! She tried it again, building with sevens, threes, fives; This by the kid who, only a few months earlier, had been successfully regrouping with no real understanding of the equations. Sensorial block puzzles will soon lead us to complex calculations like bi- and trinomial cubes (algebra), connecting the geometrical representations and mathematical calculation. That method can begin with the very young. When our two-year-old plays with the pink tower of ten wooden stacking blocks, they offer him proprioceptive and visual exploration of comparative quantities.

Gravity helps, too. Try to stack them in the wrong order and you get a very tangible result. Play around some more, and we observe that the bottom block sure feels and looks different than the top one. And so he learns the vocabulary to match the sensations of big versus small, or gradations - there are eight bigger and smaller than's to contrast between the endpoint superlatives. It turned out Leanne was having an epileptic seizure and was drowning in the bath. In another instance, Gemma warned Leanne that she would have an epileptic attack. Sure enough, later that day Leanne had an attack. The mother of a different set of twins wrote to Playfair claiming that 75 to 80 percent of the time, one of her identical twin daughters correctly predicts when the other will have a seizure. She'll just say, `Mom, she's going to have a seizure,' or even `Mom, she's having a seizure' before it even strikes. I have asked her how she knows when a seizure is coming, and she says, `I just know. Playfair noted that twins are also able to transmit emotions, physical sensations, and even symptoms such as burns and bruises. In one example, a father accidentally slammed a door on one of his twins' hands. The other twin yelled in pain even though her hand hadn't been smashed. That same twin whose hand hadn't been smashed developed a bruise on her hand. Now every girl is expected to have: The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes. This is why we are all struggling. And just so you know, Kim Kardashian has cellulite, and though I haven't chatted with her lately, I'm sure she has her own insecurities just like everyone else. Because NO ONE is perfect in the eyes of society's standards. Not even her.