Friday, 10 July 2020

I could live inside a tepee

After about a week, he wrote to me and said that while asleep one night, a person resembling an ancient sage appeared to him and pointed to a certain article in the article of Isaiah. He saw clearly the receipted bill. He awoke suddenly and rushed to his library. A crescent moon has two points, so the final line-- until you have three points--means never, just as we saw in the spell for soothing pain that said, until the mother of God gives birth to a second son. Universal Banishing and Prevention Holy Mother Mary moves through the land, With nine (name the disease) in her hand. If she does not have nine, she has eight, If she does not have eight, she has seven, If she does not have seven, she has six, If she does not have six, she has five, If she does not have five, she has four, If she does not have four, she has three, Greed makes you cling tightly to your own good outcomes, fearing anything that might make you lose a foothold on the rung on which you find yourself. You look down at those below you with pity, fear, or irritation, and up at those above you with envy or desperation. You grab at opportunities to get more goods for yourself, with little regard for whom you may be pushing aside or harming along the way.Through the mere act of ranking others, greed slithers in to create a false social topography that utterly denies the inherent sameness and oneness across all people. The truth is that there's no such ladder. When it comes to the things that matter most, others are neither beneath you nor above you. Time and again, studies show that the happiest among us are the ones who've simply shed this pernicious habit of social comparison. When you learn to see others through the lens of sameness, instead of through the lenses of downward and upward comparisons, you come to recognize that others' difficulties are also your own difficulties, either at present, or at some past or plausible future moment.

You also recognize that their good fortune doesn't subtract from your own, and it does you no harm whatsoever to celebrate it. Indeed, you multiply your own riches when you do so. Love's boundaries, as we've seen, need not be constricted, its vision need not be myopic. I was making the best of my situation and telling myself I enjoyed the freedom and the variety, and there was some truth in that. However, when I heard the question, I realized that in my relationship life I was behaving as though I was the victim. I was complaining to my friend about the women that I ended up with, but he pointed out the common denominator was me. As we saw earlier, my unconscious was trying to protect me, but the price of that was that I became a victim. As that thought became conscious for me, I realized I had a choice. As long as it was unconscious, I couldn't do anything about it. Now that I could see it, I could see the possibility of changing it. I took responsibility for my decisions. Taking responsibility does not mean saying everything is my fault. Clearly, I made mistakes, but my exes made mistakes too. The head-on assault contains the seeds of its own destruction, while the sideways approach, in which you allow the undermind to sneak up on the item you want, wins the day. That is why brainstorming and daydreaming are - as creative people have always known - effective ways of knowing: they capitalise on the brain's biochemistry. A map of neural pathways, showing how a change of entry-point can make an insoluble problem soluble. Activation has to follow the thicker line at each junction. This neural model also makes it clear why creativity favours not just a relaxed mind, but also one that is well-but not over-informed. In those parts of the neural network that represent the most familiar or routine areas of life, the continual repetition of patterns in experience may have carved out mental canyons and ravines so steep-sided that even when excitation is generally increased and inhibition relaxed, the course of activation flow will still be set. We cannot but construe the world in terms of concepts that are so engrained.

However, where the brainscape is contoured enough to formulate an interesting problem, but not so deeply etched that a single approach is inescapable, then moving to the broad focus mode may well reveal novel associations. It is widely assumed that the total amount of the brain that can be active at any one time varies only within a circumscribed range: there can be only so much activation to `go round'. At higher levels of arousal the pool may be increased somewhat, but it is clear that if activation were allowed to proliferate unchecked, cognition would lose any sense of direction or definition at all. She told Mr. Erwin if it was meant to be and was part of God's plan, it would happen. She wasn't worried about it. She knew who she was and trusted God knew what was best for her and her future. Erwin loved seeing the twins take on their challenges with optimism, hope, faith, belief, and trust. They knew the battle they faced but weren't scared of it. They walked and talked like champions who knew they were victorious and would eventually overcome any setback they faced. No longer would they allow fear to paralyze them, anxiety to control them, or stress to sabotage them. They knew they were in a battle. They knew the enemy's game plan. He opened the Bible to the article he saw in his dream, and there was the receipt. His infinite subconscious mind provided him with the answer that transcended the power of his conscious mind. How to Let Extrasensory Perception Function for You You have heard the wisdom of sleep on it. This means that when your conscious mind is stilled and you focus your attention on the solution or answer that you are seeking, the deeper mind, full of wisdom, power, and Infinite Intelligence, will respond to you and solve your problem. If you have lost something and you have searched everywhere for it, cease fretting and fussing about it, relax, let go, turn your request over to your subconscious mind and talk to it as follows: Infinite Intelligence within my subconscious mind knows all things.

It knows where this thing is and reveals it to me clearly and distinctly. I am Divinely led to it. I trust my deeper mind implicitly. If she does not have three, she has two, If she does not have two, she has one, If she does not have one, she has none. This magic spell was originally spoken to prevent illnesses of the eye; Its form is reminiscent of classical magic spells, in which one letter is sequentially omitted for the purpose of banishing, as well known from the Abracadabra formula, the meaning of which is still wrapped in secrecy: Abracadabra In this case the illness is reduced until it has disappeared. This spell is very powerful and easy to remember. One should always keep it in mind because you never know when it will come in handy. The following spell originates from the folk beliefs of the Hungarian Roma and speaks to the new crescent moon, meaning the phase in which you can see the first fine sliver of a crescent (the new light). Love is both open and caring. While love like this obeys the bedrock preconditions of safety and connection, and is in part defined by some form of shared positivity, it does not hinge at all on you and another sharing precisely the same positive emotional state. Given the many factors that shape each person's emotions, an exact matching of inner experience would be exceedingly rare and can hardly be expected. Fortunately, love doesn't require the absence of unpleasantness or misfortune. Nor does it require the presence of any certain form of pleasantness or good fortune. Awareness of these fundamental truths opens the entire spectrum of human experience as opportune moments to cultivate positivity resonance. Whether in sickness or in health, good fate or bad, love remains possible.

In this article, I share techniques for accessing two forms of love that may perhaps be less intuitive to you: loving through and despite another's suffering, and loving through and despite another's good fortune. Compassion: Meeting Suffering with Love By nature's design, we all recoil from pain. But it does not matter who makes the mistake or is at fault. If anyone `did something' to me, I was responsible for letting them do it. When I took responsibility and recognized that I had a part to play in what happened, I restored my power. I realized my choices were not my fault, but they were my responsibility. As I took responsibility for them, I could take charge of them. By taking responsibility for my own behaviour I can regain my power and change things for the better, regardless of what the other person thinks, does or believes. My friend's question was one of several events that made me aware of what I was doing, and that awareness was the first step towards changing it. Victim, persecutor, rescuer If anyone acts like a victim, they create two other roles: the persecutor and the rescuer. The persecutor is doing the things that hurt and make you a victim, and the rescuer offers a way to escape. We might experience an entertaining psychedelic firework display of ever-expanding associations and allusions, but we would rapidly become swamped by them, unable to discriminate the useful and pertinent from the random and trivial. A famous case was described by the celebrated Russian neurologist A. Luria in his article The Mind of a Mnemonist. The assumption of limited resource helps to explain why thinking in words can impede non-verbal, more intuitive or imaginative kinds of cognition, and how it is possible to become clever at the expense of being wise. Some of the conceptual hollows in the brainscape are labelled; Names naturally pick out and focus attention on those features and patterns of the concept that are most familiar and essential: they tend to be associated with the nub of features at the bottom of the hollow, rather than with those that are on the slopes. Slightly fancifully, we might extend the landscape metaphor by planting a tall flagpole at the centre of such articulated concepts, at the top of which flutters a flag bearing the concept's name.

Thursday, 9 July 2020

I have years spent tracing wondering how you left your track

Non-dairy items include nut and soy cheeses (cheddar, mozzarella, cream cheese, etc); Remember these rules: leafy greens and non-starchy vegetables go with everything! Main meals should be eaten at five-hour intervals (remember the article on digestion): It is to unite. You said love wins, Jay reminded him. Yes, it does, said Mr. Love wins because Love unites. Evil's main goal is to divide you and separate you from God. Yet we know God loves you and created you to be one with and united with Him. When you are united, you can't be divided. When you are united, you are strong. How do we become united with God? I don't feel united very often. But when you see it in a forty-year-old, it's not very attractive, is it? Of all the qualities a person can pursue, unselfish thinking seems to make the biggest difference toward cultivating other virtues. I think that's because the ability to give unselfishly is so difficult. It goes against the grain of human nature. But if you can learn to think unselfishly and become a giver, then it becomes easier to develop many other virtues: gratitude, love, respect, patience, discipline, etc Unselfish Thinking Increases Quality of Life The spirit of generosity created by unselfish thinking gives people an appreciation for life and an understanding of its higher values.

Seeing those in need and giving to meet that need puts a lot of things into perspective. It increases the quality of life of the giver and the receiver. That's why I believe that One builds the fire, The other splits the wood, The third blows on and off. The third line in the text is especially significant since it can be assumed that blowing occurs during this spell, meaning that people would blow on the afflicted area three times in the pattern of a cross to banish suffering. If more than one helper is involved, they always show up in threes: In the early morning dew, Three beautiful virgins were walking. One walked through the green grass, One searched for the leaf of a lily, The third took the fire. In lucidity, our capacity for meta-awareness - the awareness that we are aware - makes our thinking more finely tuned and reflective. I walk waist-deep in a creek at the base of the Eastern Sierras. Sunlight filters through the leafy covering, glimmering on the water's surface and the creek's golden sands. A few feet in front of me, a massive rainbow trout swims to the surface and then remains still. The trout looks too large to be a creek fish. I decide to catch the fish with my hands the way my father and I used to do when I was young, but then I realise that the fish represents the Spirit and stop myself. I notice that the trout has turned on its side, revealing a rainbow.

The fish looks exhausted. I now realise that if I were awake and entering the dream through the waking dream process, then my dream guide would invite me to touch the fish. At that point, just as my finger comes to within a hair's breadth, the trout darts down into the water. He wanted to visit his brother in the USA, she changed her mind and he had to cancel the trip. He had only three responses to his wife. He argued with her and would lose. Or he agreed with her when he did not want to and he felt bad. Or he would lie to her about what he was doing. We could say that the relationship has problems because he is not looking after himself and his own needs (see Question Three). But equally we could say the problem comes because his wife insists on getting what she wants all the time and does not care for the needs of others. Or we could say that the problem is that they have not yet found a way to disagree properly and learn and grow from the experience. Sadly, it looks as though the only agreement that couple will make will be to go their separate ways. It is absolutely not necessary to break up a relationship just because you disagree about some things, but it is necessary to find out how to disagree constructively. Your self-esteem is high. This is a devious obstacle to circumnavigate because it masquerades as self-love. Sure as day it's positive. Even so, a telltale sign that these positive self-descriptions fall short of true self-love is that they are guarded very tightly. As you shield your positive self-views from the light of contradictory evidence, a brittle narcissism emerges. Although narcissism like this is often taken as excessive self-love, in truth it's something else altogether. In believing yourself to be especially deserving and discerning, or especially wonderful--even at a deep, unspoken or unrecognized level--the slights and shortcomings that all people face as they navigate the social world become magnified out of proportion, viewed as threats or insults to your character.

If this is your obstacle, your happiness hinges on whether others treat you in just the right way, or show you the proper form of respect by turning a blind eye to your shortcomings. In truth, self-aggrandizement is often a defense--a protective armor donned to cover up a more negative view of self. It can be self-diminishment in disguise. I heard your voice clearly saying to me, `God is watching over you,' and I knew I was safe. The Bible says: He shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways (Ps. One thing is evident in this experience: the mother was telepathically en rapport with her son, as there is no time or space in mind, and through affirmation she cleansed her mind of fear by enfolding her son with God's love, light, harmony, and peace. This opened the way for the response of a guiding Providence to free her son from a death that would otherwise have been inescapable. Her faith and confidence were communicated to her son, and he experienced the joy of request fulfilled. How a Father's Dream of His Son's Death Helped Avert a Tragedy This is what a correspondent from New York City said in his letter: Dear Dr Murphy: How grateful I am is almost impossible to tell. I have been deeply impressed in reading The Amazing Laws of Cosmic Mind Power. I have learned how to affirm scientifically by studying each article. The more we acknowledge the existence of the undermind, and its incredible ability to register events and make connections, the less we may need to turn to magical explanations for mental phenomena that at first sight appear strange or supernatural. Take what is sometimes referred to as the `sixth sense', the rather mysterious ability which is sometimes invoked to account for the experience of somehow `knowing' that you are being looked at, or that there is someone else in a room that you had supposed to be empty. But is it a sixth sense that is at work, or merely a collection of unconscious impressions derived from the other five? Perhaps this form of intuition could be explained on the basis of a collection of minimal unconscious impressions derived from the five ordinary senses, each of which is too weak to impinge on consciousness itself, but which nevertheless add up to an inexplicable `feeling'? There do not seem to be any empirical studies of this, but the possibility is effectively described in Tender is the Night by Scott Fitzgerald, who was himself fascinated by the activities of the cognitive unconscious. In an inhabited room there are refracting objects only half noticed: varnished wood, more or less polished brass, silver and ivory, and beyond these a thousand conveyors of light and shadow so mild that one scarcely thinks of them as that, the tops of picture-frames, the edges of pencils or ash-trays, of crystal or china ornaments; This fact might account for what Rosemary afterwards mystically described as realizing there was some one in the room, before she could determine it.

We might even venture that a heightened subliminal sensitivity to other people, or even to the contents of one's own mind, might account for some `telepathic' phenomena. As Pierce and Jastrow suggested, `we gather what is passing in one another's minds in large measure from sensations so faint that we are not aware of having them . It is possible that their thinking on the matter may even have been influenced directly by a study, also reported in the 1880s by the French physician, philosopher and psychologist Theodore Flournoy, of the renowned medium Catherine Muller, or `Helen Smith' as she was pseudonymously known. If you have a public account, it's open to the public, so trolls have access just like the rest of us. Sometimes online bullies will not just comment on me and my photos, but also reply to my follower's comments, and I have to be on the lookout for that to protect them. Phones are the most distracting thing in the entire universe. They can literally take your attention away from any situation. Even when I'm out for dinner and I've turned the screen down flat on the table, I'll be tempted to turn it over to google how long it took a man to roll a Brussels sprout up a mountain with his nose . Just put it in your bag or somewhere you can't easily grab it. No one cares if your Instagram Stories aren't going up instantly. When you're out with friends and family, trying to perfect your stories like you're some kinda Van Gogh is not the best use of your time . Take photos/videos throughout the day and post them as a round-up later. They don't need to be live; Viewing this meal as medicine, I shall enjoy it without greed or anger, not out of gluttony or out of pride, not to fatten myself but only to nourish my body. Every meal should reflect an understanding of what your body and, most important, your pancreas can handle. The key to constructing a meal is to understand the basic foundation of Data-Driven Fueling and to master food combining. Once you have processed what constitutes a healthy meal that will benefit rather than impair your organic machine, you can dine in or out without having to worry about your health or your weight. In pursuit of the DDF lifestyle, the anatomy of a meal is your personal research study of the internal workings of your body and how it processes what you have chosen to eat. Constructing a healthy meal is simple. I will show you how easy it is to make the correct choices and to say no to incorrect ones.

Wednesday, 8 July 2020

Smiling and socialising.

Red is the color of life and has been used since ancient times to ward off evil and illnesses. This is also true for the male version of this custom. In Italy people like to wear the corno rosso (red horn) to ward off evil. It looks like a small red chili pepper, a male phallic shape. Brighid/Brigid of Kildare Brighid is venerated as a goddess of divine light in witchcraft and has her holy day on February 1, also called Imbolc. I think, `My boss will notice that I'm too sensitive to the light. I move back to my seat, thinking the `problem' has been solved, but notice that my boss has a chagrined look on his face. Suddenly, I realise that's what I do in waking life: dim the light that comes from myself. Then, I wake up. When I understood the significance of this dream, I resolved in future to speak out or take action - a resolve that lit up my world in unexpected ways! Through our dreams and dreamwork, we may learn to recognise self-defeating thought processes or negative life patterns that can literally clutter our dreams. A dream that parallels this idea was had by a woman named Angela, with whom I had been working for a few months. She longed to declutter and simplify her life in order to free up her unrealised creativity. As she relates: I am in a room that is cluttered with all sorts of objects and debris. She did that and nodded and gave me a little smile. Imagine the whole evening again from start to finish, but at some point I want you to imagine that one of you knocks over a glass of water, and see what happens. She closed her eyes as before and after a few moments she blushed and burst out laughing. And the fuss and the embarrassment and joking about it sort of broke the ice.

Her imagination had shown her that while beauty and talent are attractive, it is very often our mistakes and our vulnerability that bring us together. Two people trying to be wonderful can easily turn into a competition. Two people being honest can turn into genuine connection. Nominalizations When we say, `I really want a relationship,' or `I have a long-term relationship,' the words imply that `a relationship' is some kind of `thing'. Of course, a relationship is not a thing. The effects of oxytocin on trust turn out to be quite sensitive to interpersonal cues, like those subtle signs that tip you off that another may be the gambling type or irresponsible in other ways. Rest assured, then, if oxytocin spray were to be aerated through your workplace ventilation system, you'd still maintain your shrewd attunement to subtle signs that suggest whether someone is worthy of your trust or not. Researchers have since moved on to examine the effects of oxytocin on people's sensitivities to the subtle social cues that signal whether or not trust is warranted. From this work, I can tell you that, under the influence of oxytocin, you attend more to people's eyes and become specifically more attuned to their smiles, especially subtle ones. Perhaps because of the closer attention you pay to peoples' smiles and eyes, you become a better judge of their feelings and view people on the whole as more attractive and trustworthy. You also become particularly sensitized to environmental cues linked to positive social connections--for instance, to words like love and kissing. Researchers who have combined the use of oxytocin nasal spray (versus placebo) with brain imaging have also learned that oxytocin modulates the activity of your amygdala, the subcortical structure deep within your brain linked to emotional processing. Specifically, under the influence of a single blast of oxytocin nasal spray, the parts of your amygdala that tune in to threats are muted, whereas the parts that tune in to positive social opportunities are amplified. Reflecting these negativity-dampening effects, a single shot of oxytocin can also help you glide through stressful social situations, like giving an impromptu speech or discussing a conflict-ridden topic with your spouse. If you were to face these difficulties under the influence of oxytocin, studies suggest, you'd have less cortisol, the so-called stress hormone, coursing through you, and you'd behave more positively, both verbally, by disclosing your feelings, and nonverbally, by making more eye contact and friendly gestures. Commentary: Long before the Bible, ancient wisdom revealed, As a person imagines and feels, so does she become. This ancient teaching is lost in the night of time; Pyotr Demianovich Ouspensky, a Russian mathematician and esoteric thinker, stressed the importance of inner speech or self-talk, because internal feeling gives rise to external behavior and demeanor. Is your inner speech pleasant?

Let your words, your inner silent thought and feeling agree with your desire. Nicols, Ouspensky's student, used to say, Watch your inner talking, and let it agree with your aim. Desire and feeling joined together in a mental marriage becomes answered prayer. Write Your Own Affirmation to Counter a Negative or Destructive Thought Commentary: Others may have planted negative, self-defeating thoughts in your mind over the course of your life, such as You'll fail. You haven't got a chance. Fast intuitions depend on the undermind taking a quick look at the situation and finding an analogy which seems to offer understanding and prediction. These unconscious analogies surface as intuitions. Whether they are right or not depends not on how `intuitive' they are, but on the appropriateness of the underlying analogy. Often we are absolutely right. But sometimes the undermind is fooled by appearances, and then it leads us off in the wrong direction. This example also demonstrates how the way of knowing you employ may give different answers to the very same question. D-mode and intuition may well draw on different processes, knowledge and beliefs, and thus may produce conflicting solutions. If you followed the mathematics in the notes, then you might be rationally persuaded that the gap is a foot, while intuitively you persist in believing it to be minute. Below the surface, some assumptions are being made that lead to one answer. Above the surface, so it seems, different premises lead to a different answer. Imagine if there was a period-pant graveyard for all the knickers we've ruined: RIP (Rest In Pants), thank you for being there for us, sorry we weren't very prepared to save you. As I write this, we are confirming the date of the wedding and I'm actually trying to work it around my period. With my cycle changing length every time, it's quite hard to predict, but I'm doing everything I can to make sure I'm not on my period because of the pain. Genuinely not wildly bothered about the blood and white dress combo, more so the way I feel and the lack of energy I have.

So I'm just going to have little words with my uterus, praying for her to listen, in the run-up to the wedding. Periods are something we should all be speaking loudly and proudly about. We're using our upstairs lips to talk about what's going on in our downstairs lips. We are taking back ownership of our periods. OH THE PAIN The way I try to explain it to Mat is that I've invited two sumo wrestlers into my body. Plant protein--in beans, grains, and vegetables--does not appear to have this effect. Both dairy and animal protein are acidic in your gut and require a buffering agent. The buffering agent of choice is calcium. Because your body is hardwired to survive, it strips calcium from your bones to buffer the steak and cheesy potatoes you just ate for dinner. Due to its inflammatory properties, dairy is especially bad for individuals who have acne, asthma, or cancer. Mixing alkaline and acidic foods is not good for you. So, the next time you go out for breakfast and the waiter asks whether you want potatoes or fruit with your omelet, say neither or ask for the fruit to go and eat it ninety minutes after you have finished your omelet. The basics of food combining are explained in detail in article 14. Remember, alcoholic beverages like wine, beer, rum, and fruity drinks can raise your blood sugar. If you have a glass of wine, please have a full glass of water before you have a second glass of wine or make a spritzer (mix wine with sparkling water). Remember that doctors have feelings, too. Be diplomatic. Say, I think I wasn't clear instead of, You don't understand! When you bring up chronotherapy, recognize that your doctor may know only a little about the field--you are teaching each other.

Our position is that if you have difficulties related to circadian rhythm disturbances, adjustment of the inner clock should be the first-line intervention, before recourse to drugs. If the clock is at the root of the problem, drugs are unlikely to fix it. Instead, drugs may simply mask the symptoms in ways that fool you into thinking you have found a solution. You will likely have to take the first step by persuading your doctor to give chronotherapy the attention it deserves. Your inner clock should work for you. It should, and can, help you gain more restful sleep, more energy, and an improved mood. Truthfully, in business only a few decisions are important. Realistic thinkers understand the difference between the important decisions and those that are merely necessary in the normal course of business. The decisions that matter relate directly to your purpose. James Allen was right when he wrote, Until thought is linked with purpose there is no intelligent accomplishment. Realistic Thinking Is a Catalyst for Change People who rely on hope for their success rarely make change a high priority. If you have only hope, you imply that achievement and success are out of your hands. It's a matter of luck or chance. Why bother changing? Realistic thinking can dispel that kind of wrong attitude. Her special position is easy to see: she is venerated as a Christian saint as well as a Pagan goddess. Hers are the primal elements water and fire, but she is also a goddess of smithcraft, which links her to transformation and initiations. She is especially helpful if you feel that an illness wants to say something to you, to discover its deeper meaning. Also, if complaints tend to recur and you can't figure out why you have this particular susceptibility, you can ask Brighid for the crucial spark of insight.

Tuesday, 7 July 2020

Turning a blind eye to the lies just to keep it all together

Photos and postcards are also a nice idea, the main thing being that it speaks to your heart. Give her perfume and incense, and play joyful music when talking to her, she loves music. Of course, in modern times she also loves to see (cat food) donations to animal shelters that give refuge to cats. Magic does not always have to be magical in the sense of candles, incense, spells, and all the like. It can also be done on a very practical basis. Baubo is the goddess of the vulva, which was sacred to many ancient cultures and a favorite symbol to ward off evil. Pure light in a dream can leave an indelible impression, as in this report from the archive of the Alister Hardy Religious Experience Research Centre. An English man in his sixties, who described himself as reckless in his youth, recounted an experience he had in his twenties when he crashed his car while driving under the influence of alcohol. After being diagnosed with a mild concussion, he was sent home to rest. There he fell asleep and had a moving experience, the account of which follows: I was one with eternally pulsing light, not a dazzling but a peaceful light, `such as never was on sea or land'; Yet I was not conscious of being safe so much as of there being no longer anything to fear. There seemed to be a completeness about everything and everything went on for ever: there was no birth or death, beginning or end. There was no need to be, because in that moment was eternity, it always had been and always would be. Nor was I by any means alone: I was communicating with infinite wisdom, not as an individual but as an entity; I had no need for companionship because I was, in a sense, companionship. Some of the best things in life happen unexpectedly, and often that includes getting into a relationship. Sometimes, a couple meet each other's gaze across a crowded room and immediately feel an electric connection. In that moment, their lives change. Those relationships do happen but they are not that common.

People meet in shops and businesses, through friends, through sports and completely by chance. Many, many people meet at work, more and more meet via dating apps, and every day people meet when they weren't expecting to meet anyone. Some of the best relationships start when people are not looking for a partner. Quite a few relationships begin as just a bit of fun and gradually grow as people discover they like each other and get on better and better. Sometimes both partners fall in love at the same time, sometimes one person falls in love instantly and woos the other until at last they see how that person is truly loveable. Of course, it doesn't always work. Dramatic new evidence of oxytocin's power to shape your social life first surfaced in Europe, where laws permitted the use of a synthetic form of oxytocin, available as a nasal spray, for investigational purposes. Among the first of these studies was one in which 128 men from Zurich played the so-called trust game with real monetary outcomes on the line. At random, these men were assigned to either the role of investor or the role of trustee, and each was given an equivalent pot of starting funds. Investors made the first move in the game. They could give some, all, or none of their allocated funds to the trustee. During the transfer of funds, the experimenter tripled their investment while letting the trustee know how much the investors had originally transferred. Trustees made the next move. They could give some, all, or none of their new allotment of funds (the investors' tripled investment plus their own original allocation) back to investors. The structure of the game puts investors, but not trustees, at risk. If an investor chose to entrust the other guy with his investment, he risked receiving nothing in return if the trustee chose to selfishly keep the entire monetary gain for himself. Actually he is governed by the ghosts of the subconscious that walk the gloomy galleries of his mind. When you pray for such a person, it is necessary to do all the work yourself. You have to convince yourself of his freedom, peace, harmony, and understanding. Repeat this affirmation two or three times daily with love, affection, and belief that your loved one is getting better.

By repeating these Truths to yourself, realizing that there is but one mind, you will gradually, through frequent picturing in your mind, reach a dominant conviction, and the person you are praying for will at that moment be healed. Remain Youthful Life flows through me like electricity through wire. It is an ageless force that constantly invigorates my mind and body. I look forward eagerly to each new day, which always delivers opportunities to learn and to enjoy the beauty that surrounds me. I am ever curious to explore the wonders of the universe as they reveal themselves to me. What was more interesting, however, was the mental activity of the subjects who did find the new solution. They were not earnestly figuring out the answers, or making calculations on bits of scrap paper. They were actually musing in a much more general way on what type of questions were being asked, and what the experimenter was up to. One said, `I was wondering what the experiment was trying to prove. Let me illustrate how intuition works with the aid of a slightly more complicated example (one, incidentally, that Wittgenstein was fond of using in his philosophy seminars). Imagine that the Earth has been smoothed over so that it forms a perfect sphere, and that a piece of (non-elastic) string has been tied snugly round the equator. Now suppose that the string is untied, and another 2 metres added to the total length, which is then spaced out so that the gap which has been created between the string and the Earth's surface is the same all the way round. How big is this gap? Could you slide a hair under the string? A paperback article? Mumma taught me how to insert my first ever tampon safely. I had one foot on the toilet seat, jelly stuff around the cardboard applicator, and a seized-up body from crying. I absolutely hated the feeling of an alien object going inside me, a string hanging down outside of me. MY TOP 3 `BLOODY HELL!

IWaking up in a warzone three weeks into a new relationship with a boy who'd never had a girlfriend before. I'd bled through his bed sheets, onto the mattress . IIYou know that magic trick where a napkin turns into a whole stream of napkins tied together? Well, that's what it felt like when I pulled out a tampon, then felt another string hanging down. I'd spent the whole day in pain, convinced I had appendicitis, but there I was, totally unaware I had `doubled up'. IIIBleeding through white jeans on a date in the cinema. Some studies show that Stevia may lower blood glucose. Sounds great, but I'm not sure it is healthy in the long run. It appears that Stevia may have the same effect as Metformin and Glucotrol (glipizide). Both are used to treat type 2 diabetes by causing insulin sensitivity. In laymen's terms, it makes your cells more receptive to the insulin key, which in turn force-feeds glucose to your cells. The glucose leaves your bloodstream, goes into your cells, and lowers your blood glucose numbers. The numbers may look great, but remember, the glucose didn't disappear: it went somewhere. The long-term effects of force-feeding your cells glucose has yet to be researched. In addition, some studies report that alternative sweeteners have been linked to weight gain. Your brain and taste receptors are partially satisfied, which causes many to consume more food in order to feel satiated. Chronotherapy is based solidly on careful scientific research, but too often being right is not enough to guarantee acceptance, or even a hearing. We need to turn toward a different model of medical progress, one that puts the patient at the center of the initiative. Call it Therapy from Below. Or as Dr Frederick Goodwin, a former director of the National Institute of Mental Health, put it, How do you teach psychiatrists?

Teach it to their patients. One of our hopes for this article is to give you, the reader, the concepts and facts to communicate better about chronotherapy with family members and health professionals. You have already taken the initiative by picking up this article. We want you to keep thinking about chronotherapy after you've finished reading about it here. Tag the parts of the article that struck you as particularly interesting and relevant. Explore our supplementary online material (see Resources for Follow-up). After a while, I realized that it was necessary, so I began to engage in it occasionally. And any time I could delegate it, I did. And in time, I became willing to think realistically before I got in trouble and make it a continual part of my life. Today, I encourage my key leaders to think realistically. We make realistic thinking the foundation of our business because we derive certainty and security from it. Why You Should Recognize the Importance of Realistic Thinking If you're a naturally optimistic person, as I am, you may not possess great desire to become a more realistic thinker. But cultivating the ability to be realistic in your thinking will not undermine your faith in people, nor will it lessen your ability to see and seize opportunities. Instead, it will add value to you in other ways: Realistic Thinking Minimizes Downside Risk She's the source, the origin, and the door to life. The divine vulva was often depicted in stylized form, like the diamond shape or the downward-pointing triangle. Cowrie shells also evoke this divine energy because of their form and were favored amulets in old Europe. The motif of a goddess displaying her vulva is seen from the dawn of mankind.

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In fact, they make it harder to keep to a better schedule once Monday rolls around. Sleeping in also allows your internal clock to drift later, because you are waiting too long before you get to see daylight. This is what makes Monday morning the most dreaded time of the week. Get more morning light. Bright light plays a critical role in keeping our inner clock in sync. It also has a powerful effect on our mood and energy. The simplest way of taking advantage of this process is to go outside at the end of your normal sleep cycle and spend at least ten or fifteen minutes in full sunlight--assuming you've had a decent night's sleep. If that means while you're waiting for the morning school bus, stake out a sunny spot and face east. Get more exercise, but not in the evening. Exercise in the morning helps to synchronize the internal clock, making it easier to get to sleep earlier at night, but late night exercise has a risk of making it harder to get to sleep. TIP #1: ASK QUESTIONS TO CREATE SELF-AWARENESS. Identifying any intensity of self-loathing is an important part of thriving in motherhood. No matter how pained or vulnerable you feel, I want to remind you how incredibly brave and strong you are. You can get through this and you will--with time, dedication to yourself, and the support of a therapist. But first, I want you to ask yourself the following questions: What was it? What positive messages were told to me and by whom? What negative messages were told to me and by whom? Am I afraid to make mistakes? If so, when did this start?

What does that mean? Well, I can change the conversation; I've been turning all the rules upside down. I spend a lot of time cultivating my commitment to faith. I also feel my confidence and certainty growing. I give my dreams my attention. I'm working to uncover all my gifts. That's taking time. But you're finding some nice surprises, I bet. And I'm finally getting a handle on sequencing what I need to do and when and how. Cut down on caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine. Scientific studies--like most people's personal experiences--make it very clear that caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine have bad effects on sleep. By limiting your consumption during the day and cutting it out altogether during the evening hours, you can improve your sleep and your general health. And do we need to point out that alcohol and nicotine consumption is not just unwise but illegal for most teens? Cut down on evening light. Exposure to bright light during the evening pushes the inner clock later, making it harder to get to sleep on time and to wake up the next morning. The TV, computer screen, or brightly lit article is making your sleep problem worse. Does this mean you should sit in the dark doing nothing until bedtime? Of course not, but try to reduce bright light as the evening goes on. Put your room light and desk lamp on dimmers, so you can see everything easily while avoiding overstimulation.

If not, how would I like to live? What does my authentic self need to be happy, to be content, and to live with purpose and meaning? TIP #2: BE INSPIRED BY OTHERS, BUT DON'T COMPARE. Self-loathing is a shadow emotion fueled by intense negative and critical thoughts that focus on deficits, flaws, and hurtful personal insults through comparisons with others. Comparison is the enemy and thief of joy, happiness, contentment, and thriving. Don't compare yourself to others; When you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, remember to stop and challenge yourself by keeping in mind that what you see in another person is only a small portion of their reality--it's what you perceive but is not 100 percent accurate. Instead, I want you to look at others through the lens of inspiration: What do they do (or what do you see) that inspires you? What qualities do they have that you'd like to cultivate in your life? When you think from a place of inspiration instead of comparison, you may find yourself encouraged to create a more authentic and meaningful life. Okay, good. And it's just going really well, Loral. I feel like a lot has shifted for me, so I really don't think I need all that support and team you talk about. Are you serious? Well, it's just, you know, I have a lot of gifts and abilities, and I just find that when I delegate, well, no one ever does it as well as I do. No one ever does what as well as you? Everything? Well, no, but . Although people like this might be on a momentary high from discovering their Yes! Energy, it doesn't last.

Avoid using bright white fluorescent lamps, including the energy-saver type. One step that can help a lot is to download an application called f. It's pretty cool. Unwind with a pre-sleep routine. You will find it helps to create a regular transition between the stresses of the day and going to sleep--an appealing routine that puts you in a calmer frame of mind. What this looks like is very much up to you. Lots of people find that a cup of warm milk or uncaffeinated herb tea helps. Others swear by meditating, taking a warm bath, or listening to soothing music. What's important is that it work for you and that you make it such a regular habit that you don't even have to think about it. Get a little help from your friends. TIP #3: PRACTICE SELF-COMPASSION. Self-compassion is a practice of self-love and understanding that every mom deserves to feel, including you. Self-compassion starts with an awareness that you deserve to feel happy, loved, and secure. Next, self-compassion is giving yourself the same kindness and understanding that you give to others. Finally, self-compassion is about being aware of your suffering, pain, and insecurities and being intentional not to judge, criticize, or harm yourself with the words or actions you direct at yourself. Self-loathing, on the other hand, is a shadow emotion fueled by negative thinking and self-talk; As simple as it sounds, you can start this moment by making a commitment to talk kindly to yourself, as you would a friend and your child. Learning the skills of self-compassion will help you heal patterns of self-loathing and foster more health and well-being in all areas of your life. TIP #4: NOTICE PATTERNS OF SELF-LOATHING. The shadow emotion of self-loathing is often triggered by certain situations, people, or events.

In fact, this path quickly leads to exhaustion and anger. The Energy Equation is not a short-term pick-me-up idea. This is about long-term ooEOEoo. There's a reason for each of the eight factors in the formula. None can be skipped, and none can be ignored. No one can do everything. No one knows everything. In fact, most people know very little, so those who do everything themselves are doomed. Community and collaboration can create monster potential. But you can't just build any community or collaborate with just anyone. Tell your best friends that you are going to deal with your sleep problems. By letting them know, you are making a sort of public statement, which is usually easier to keep to than private decisions. Ask them to help by not texting or calling you late in the evening. Just for insurance, turn off your cell phone audio alerts for the night. Your friends may tease you, but they are probably having the same problem. Why not rope them in, and use the buddy system? If you are feeling depressed, anxious, or both--and this is interfering with your sleep, schoolwork, home life, social life, or even your outlook on life--don't keep it to yourself. There are many possible causes as well as ways to deal with the problem so your mood improves rather than getting worse. Take a deep breath, and don't delay sharing this with your parents, a friendly teacher, guidance counselor, or doctor. If you are in the U.

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If your partner's insomnia is caused by chronic pain or stiffness, try the other basic and advanced techniques for that area as well. Basic Massage: Feathering (light pressure, 1) Have your partner lie face down. Using both hands, stroke from the base of your partner's head to the base of their spine with rhythmic movements. As one hand reaches the bottom of the spine, your other hand starts at their neck, so there is always one hand moving down their spine. Use this stroke for at least 3 minutes to reset and sedate your partner's nervous system. Basic Massage: Acupressure (light pressure, 1 to 3) Hold UB15, the point that is one finger-width from the spine at the midpoint between the top and bottom points of the shoulder blade. This point is effective for relieving chest pain, heart palpitations, chest congestion, difficulty breathing, forgetfulness, and symptoms of anxiety and insomnia. Hold ST36, the point that is four finger-widths down from the outer side of the knee, just behind the shinbone (tibia). Do you wonder if difficulties with sleeping, mood, and energy levels are getting in the way of having the kind of daily life you want? If so, you shouldn't be surprised. These problems are common, and can have many causes, for teens as well as for adults. Sometimes they become so severe that they need to be treated by a professional who is skilled in using chronotherapy or psychotherapy. On the other hand, you may well find relief just by taking some simple steps on your own. You can decide to improve your sleep, mood, and energy. Learn the reasons for the problems and how they can be solved. Take concrete steps that fit your goals, personality, and any external issues. Then resolve to carry out your plan, since no one else is going to be responsible. There will probably be setbacks.

I can try to see the beauty of, and take pride in, the amazing thing my body has achieved through pregnancy and birth. What are the things I can do to take care of my body, so that I can be the healthiest version of myself emotionally and physically? No one knows what an impostor I am; I'm having a tough moment, and I feel insecure. I'm not an impostor. I have strengths and great qualities, but right now my negative thinking is blocking me from seeing my strengths and abilities. I had some challenging experiences that impacted me, but they don't have to define me. I'm strong and loving, and my child loves and needs me. My kids don't deserve to have a mother who is this broken. I'm so afraid I'm messing them up. This point is helpful for poor circulation in the legs, leg muscle cramping and pain, depression, anxiety, fatigue, digestive issues, chronic illness, and decreased immune function. Hold HT7, the point that is on the pinky side of the inner wrist crease, just inside the nearest tendon to the edge. This point is helpful for chest pain, irregular heart rate, forgetfulness, and symptoms of insomnia and anxiety. It is known as the main point for emotional issues, especially excessive worry and anxiety. Hold KI1, the point that is at the center of the ball of the foot, where the sole of the foot creases when the toes are curled. This point is calming and induces restful sleep. Depression is characterized by emotional and social withdrawal, prolonged sadness and hopelessness, loss of interest in your favorite things, and sometimes even thoughts of harming yourself. Other symptoms include irritability, restlessness, fatigue, low energy, difficulty concentrating, insomnia, changes in your appetite, chronic pain, cramps, or digestive problems, and feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless. Chronic depression is usually diagnosed when you have dealt with five or more of these symptoms over a two-week period or longer. Depression can be caused by sudden changes in your physical or emotional circumstances, including changes in your relationships, finances, or career.

It won't always be easy to keep your long-range goals in mind when a more immediate temptation comes up. But if you can stay with the program you set yourself, you are sure to see encouraging changes. Some of our pointers may sound totally obvious, but please don't brush them aside. Instead, ask yourself: If they are so obvious, why haven't I been following them? Get more sleep. There is nothing you can do about the time you have to get up on school days. So any changes have to take place at the other end, with bedtime. It will work best to change gradually. Let's say you now go to bed at 12:30 AM and fall asleep by 12:45 AM. Make a commitment to yourself to be in bed by 12:15. I'm not broken, I'm having a tough moment. Hating myself is not going to make me feel better, but it's a coping skill I learned a while ago that I need to change. I'm not messing up my children--I'm doing the best I can, and while this is a fear right now, where is the evidence this is true? Reaching out for support is what I need to do. I don't have to go through this moment alone. I think I'm repulsive and disgusting. Is this kind? Is this true? Is this a loving statement to myself? In this moment, what do I need to feel better, to take care of myself, and to give myself compassion instead of judgment?

If you deal with depression, you are not alone. Depression affects 10 percent of American adults and can cause chronic pain, asthma, heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. It also costs you money when you miss work, go on short-term disability, or feel unproductive. Massage can help by improving your mood through increased serotonin levels. Studies have shown that regular massage sessions over several weeks can significantly reduce the severity and number of your symptoms of depression. To relieve the low energy of depression, start with slower movements, like acupressure and gliding, and work your way up to faster, more energizing movements, like percussion. Find a friend, family member, colleague, or health professional to talk to about your feelings of isolation, sadness, and hopefulness. Learn positive coping skills and break unhealthy thought patterns and habits. You are worth the time and effort to get help. Only you can serve your unique purpose in this world! The first few nights you may stay awake until 12:45, but don't give up. Soon you'll fall asleep by 12:30. Once that's done, move your bedtime back to midnight. Keep the process going until you reach the bedtime you need to get the amount of sleep you need. Get more regular sleep. Try to get to bed at the same time on weekends as during the week and to get up weekend mornings after no more than eight or nine hours of sleep. If you are getting less sleep than you need on school nights--as is true for practically all teens--the pressure to sleep builds up during the week. The urge to catch up on the weekend is very hard to resist. Plus, of course, Friday and Saturday evenings are prime time in your social life. However, those hours sleeping in on Saturday and Sunday morning do nothing to help you during the week.

How would I respond if my child said this exact thing about themselves? I need to do the same for myself. I am not a good mother. Right now I don't think I'm a good mother, but I am; I love my child and am doing my best. The way I'm feeling is coloring my thoughts and what I focus on. I am the best mother I can be right now, and I have to remember that motherhood is not one moment but a series of moments. The judgment that I'm not a good mother is untrue. If a dear friend were going through exactly what I am right now, what advice would I give her? Moving Beyond the Shadows Get active. Add a little bit of movement each day, whether it's taking the stairs, checking the mail, taking a walk, or going to the gym. It all adds up, and a tiny bit is better than nothing. Better yet if you get some sun, which increases serotonin levels and boosts your mood. In my organization, teams interconnect in many Olympic-like circles, strengthening the chains of the entire community. If You Don't Have Time, You Need a Team Finding team, and asking for support, is vital. Unfortunately, though, I've often heard a variation on the following: Loral, I've got ooEOEoo down. Okay, great.

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To get a more detailed understanding about what's going on, teens should take the online chronotype questionnaire (see Resources for Follow-up). The personalized feedback will help them find out how much of a lark or owl they are compared with other people. When does their internal clock think they should be going to sleep? Is that when they are actually getting to sleep? If you suspect your teen is showing signs of depression, there is the confidential online self-assessment of depression severity. This will help them to face the next steps and, if indicated by the questionnaire's personalized feedback, to seek help. Antidepressant drugs may not be the answer. In a recent drug-company study of more than three hundred children and adolescents with depression, Prozac seemed to help the kids, but not the adolescents! Our interpretation is that adolescent depression is closely associated with the inner-clock shift later that comes with puberty, and Prozac is not a chronobiologically relevant drug. What's needed is to shift the clock earlier, in sync with sleep--in other words, chronotherapy. I want you to know that you are just like the mom in my counseling room. You matter so much. Feeling disgust in motherhood is not limited to experiences with our children. Self-loathing is a shadow emotion with a combination of feelings, most often anger, sadness, guilt, regret, shame, and unresolved trauma and pain. The shadow emotion of self-loathing and self-hatred is one of the most delicate to read, write, and talk about. But make no mistake, this shadow emotion is being experienced by many mothers--you are not alone. In the therapy hour, so many mothers share with me how they feel mild forms of disgust toward themselves, to moderate feelings of self-hatred, to intense feelings of self-loathing. The reasons are varied but tend to be in reaction to changes in body shape, size, and appearance; In milder forms, the shadow emotion of self-hatred and self-loathing shows up when we feel ugly or unattractive or when we overfocus and highlight our flaws and insecurities. Being human means that at some point we'll have moments of self-criticism or judgment, moments when we do not feel good about ourselves.But when there is a persistent pattern of self-loathing, when we feel bad about ourselves more than good, we are in an unhealthy place.

Encourage your partner to avoid talking about or thinking about stressful matters, including work, family, health, or money issues, during your massage session. Use this time to practice healthy coping skills: for example, meditation, prayer, or visualization. Essential oils: For additional anxiety relief, add your own blend of anxiety-relieving essential oils to your massage lotion or use a diffuser to scent the room. Try bergamot, lavender, geranium, sandalwood, cedarwood, cypress, ylang ylang, vetiver, frankincense, or marjoram. Basic Massage Do rocking and shaking for the whole body (back, arms, and legs). Do the Head, Neck, and Chest sequence . Do the Back and Shoulders sequence . Do the Arms and Hands sequence . Do the Hips sequence . Now that you and your teen see how many problems these sleeping patterns are creating, what next? First, it is crucial to understand that having these difficulties does not mean your son or daughter is lazy or crazy. And the fact that they (and you) are finding these problems hard to deal with does not mean they lack willpower! This is what being an adolescent is all about--changes. The physical, hormonal, and neurological changes that began with puberty push their internal clock in the direction of a later daily rhythm. It happened to you when you were their age, it happened to your friends and classmates, it happened to teens on the other side of the world, then and now. And today's 24/7/365 culture has dramatically worsened the problem. It is a universal fact of adolescence, just as much as getting taller or moving toward sexual maturity, and it has to be dealt with by you and by your child. However, it is equally important to recognize that biology is not destiny. Adolescents do not have to put up with sleep or mood or energy problems just because these problems have physiological causes.

Nothing changes a mother's body more dramatically than pregnancy. It's miraculous how a mother's body rapidly transforms to carry life, intuitively knowing what to do to grow a baby over the span of nine months. The changes continue postpartum and long after, especially when a mother nurses her baby. From stretch marks on her breasts, abdomen, and legs to the changing size and shape of her breasts (not to mention the scars and incisions from birth), a mother's body is like a map revealing on the outside that she's been forever changed. And if a mother's body didn't change due to pregnancy and birth, then it's only a matter of time before, in the course of caring for her child, she loses sleep and becomes so exhausted she hardly recognizes her reflection in the mirror. A mother may get more regular sleep as her child gets older. But self-care is too often far down on her priority list, because there's always so much to do--exercising, showering, styling her hair, and even changing her clothes seem impossible. So to cope with her stress and exhaustion, she creates habits to comfort her, like scrolling on her phone, staying up too late mindlessly watching TV shows, or using the quiet time at night to indulge in snacks, treats, and sweets. She's filling a void, ignoring what's really going on: She's missing the part of herself that has been crowded out by motherhood. You Are Not Alone: Brigitte's Story Do the Legs and Feet sequence . If your partner's anxiety is the result of chronic pain, try the other basic and advanced techniques for that area as well. Basic Massage: Feathering (light pressure, 1) Using both hands, stroke from the base of the head to the base of the spine with rhythmic movements (see here ). As one hand reaches the bottom of the spine, the other hand starts at the neck, so there is always one hand moving down the spine. Use this stroke for at least three minutes to reset and sedate the nervous system. Basic Massage: Acupressure (light pressure, 1 to 2) Hold GB20, the point that is just below the base of the head on either side of the neck, about two finger-widths away from the spine. This point reduces stress, calms the mind, improves breathing, and helps with headaches and neck and jaw pain. It also helps with insomnia, fatigue, and general irritability.

That would be like saying, because some kids are physiologically nearsighted, they should resign themselves to never being able to see the blackboard. Of course not! Instead, they are given an eye exam and get glasses or contacts to correct the problem. Of course, as a caring parent, you will do what you can to help, but in the end teens need to take responsibility for dealing with their sleep issues themselves. The more they understand the sources and consequences of their sleep problems, the more they are likely to want to change and believe that change is something they can really accomplish. If they feel the necessary changes are being imposed, however, you are more likely to find resistance instead of cooperation. Discuss what you have learned. Suggest that they read this article, especially the section below, Our Advice to Teens. Then propose arriving at an agreement that lays out the steps they intend to take to deal with their sleep issues. Adolescents are often hypersensitive about being told what to do, but they can also appreciate the concern and support implied by reasonable rules. Brigitte was preoccupied most days with constant negative self-talk, hating so many parts of herself--her face, body, and almost everything about her appearance. No one knew this inner turmoil; Brigitte spent a lot of time in the morning putting herself together in order to look perfect, which was a ritual she developed in college--flawless hair, expertly applied makeup, coordinated outfit--in order to suppress what she believed, and had been told: that she was ugly and worthless. Brigitte grew up with parents who had untreated mental health issues, who verbally abused and berated her throughout her childhood and into her young adulthood. Bright, motivated, and focused, she knew there had to be another way. She worked to put herself through college, securing her independence. Brigitte came to see me after a cosmetic surgeon recommended counseling; Brigitte was planning to have significant plastic surgery to fix all of her perceived flaws. Our work focused on addressing the pain and suffering she had suppressed since childhood. We focused on highlighting her strengths, reframing negative and abusive self-talk, and postponing any cosmetic treatments for a period of time, so she could heal her suffering and make a clear decision without seeing her body through the lens of pain.

Hold UB15, the point that is one finger-width from the spine at the midpoint between the top and bottom points of the shoulder blade. This point is effective for relieving chest pain, heart palpitations, chest congestion, difficulty breathing, forgetfulness, and symptoms of anxiety and insomnia. Hold PC6, the point that is three finger-widths down from the crease of the wrist on the inner forearm, in the center between the two thickest tendons. This point relieves pain and fullness in the chest, anxiety, depression, insomnia, nausea, motion sickness, and wrist pain. Hold HT7, the point that is on the pinky side of the inner wrist crease, just inside the nearest tendon to the edge. This point is helpful for chest pain, irregular heart rate, insomnia, and forgetfulness. It is known as the main point for emotional issues, especially anxiety and worry. INSOMNIA AND FATIGUE Insomnia means difficulty sleeping, whether falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up in the morning. It has many causes, including emotional and mental health issues, excessive eating or exercising, alcohol or drug use, chronic illness, and pain. Three aspects of your teen's daily life call particularly for your input: Bedtime. Always staying up late when you know you have to be up early the next morning is not a badge of adulthood--it's a sign of a problem that needs to be dealt with. Discuss with your teen what a reasonable bedtime would be, and then help him or her lay out the necessary steps to reach that goal and make it a habit. Electronic media. The latest research makes it very clear that looking at a TV or computer screen in the evening pushes the body's systems toward a later bedtime. Encourage teens to set their own time limits on exposure. Remind them how much better they have felt after a good night's sleep. Setting time limits on exposure might help tremendously--although it may not meet with much cooperation from older teens. Employment.