Dealing with denial

The traditional oriental classification of causes includes Masses seem to come and go, and it feels like you can move them; Stuck Blood. Think of a small child bringing a bandage to a parent who has purposefully cut himself. The feelings of helplessness and terror must be overwhelming. You don't have to wonder why adult children of parents with BPD are at greater risk for having emotional problems themselves. So, if you suffer, know that you're not alone. Others have walked the same path and gotten through it. Here are a few options: Seek therapy from a professional who has experience dealing with BPD. Join support groups and learn about the disorder that disrupted your life. See the Appendix for additional web sites and resources. Becoming resilient And I need a cuddle. Just so desperately, desperately need a cuddle. So I run to mummy and she flips. What I saw, of course, was her switching. The therapist is right to question the word. She didn't flip. She switched.

I triggered her no doubt with my attachment need. She couldn't handle it. She didn't know how to respond to it. Pain is stabbing and has a fixed location, and the fibroids are not movable and feel hard. Masses feel soft and have a fixed location; According to traditional Oriental Medicine the abnormally heavy bleeding is a symptom of a particular diagnostic pattern. Most women who exhibit this type of heavy bleeding usually show other symptoms that confirm a pattern of underlying weakness. This pattern may be seen with whatever type of abdominal mass they are dealing with. I find that Oriental Medicine works well to help build up the lost Qi, improving overall health while the specific symptoms are being reduced. Easing the pain and excessive bleeding caused by abdominal masses. Locate LU-7 (Broken Sequence), which is about two-finger widths above the wrist crease on the side of your thumb. Hold this point with your index finger, taking easy, deep breaths for two to three minutes. Do both sides, together with KD-6 (see the next figure). Your goal shouldn't focus on having a perfect life. That doesn't exist. Resilient people have encountered more than their share of setbacks. However, when they're faced with tough times, they have the ability and resolve to dig down deep and carry on. Even after multiple stumbling blocks or failures, they work to learn from such experiences and become stronger. The good news is that most people with challenging childhoods turn out okay: They have resilience. Realize that having a difficult childhood may even have had a few advantages.

Dealing with a parent with BPD can help you understand and feel empathy for others. Sometimes it can even clear the path for making you emotionally stronger. The key is to avoid feeling like a helpless victim and to reach for the realization that difficult backgrounds have much to teach you about coping with adversity. And she switched into the rageful screamy one and threatened to send me away if I didn't stop crying. But it was okay for her to cry, I think to myself, wistful but angry. The upset has subsided within me. I have, for this moment, dual awareness: I can hold in my mind's eye the traumatised child, bereft of comfort and support, and I can see--for now at least--that she was me. And at the same time I know that I am here, and that I am me, and that I am sat with the therapist--the therapist, not my mother--and that I am remembering. This is a feat of therapeutic progress which has taken years to achieve. I can both be here, and remember, and I can know that I am me, and she is me, and that I am remembering being me. And yet only a few moments ago I became her. My progress is neither linear nor neat. But this time I've come quickly back into my adult self, and the therapist has mediated that shift. Easing the pain and excessive bleeding caused by abdominal masses. Locate KD-6 (Shining Sea) directly below the inside anklebone. Hold this point with your thumb or index finger, taking easy, deep breaths for two to three minutes. Do both sides, together with LU-7. These acu-points activate the channels specific to abdominal masses. Bladder Infections: Say Goodbye to UTI Bladder infections, also known as cystitis, are one of the most common conditions among women of all ages.

According to a new study at the University of Washington School of Medicine, an estimated 7 million episodes of acute cystitis occur annually in the United States with an annual cost of $1 billion. The study further showed the term honeymoon cystitis is still accurate in that having sexual intercourse increases the risk of developing the condition. Escherichia coli (E. Advice for Therapists of People with BPD IN THIS article Recognizing early signs of BPD Letting go of your ego and focusing on your client Setting serious limits -- and sticking to them Taking care of yourself The complexity of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can send shivers down the spines of some mental health therapists. Clients with BPD present with multiple issues, including impulsive behaviors, relationship problems, substance abuse, emotional dysregulation, and a high risk of suicide. In fact, 10 percent of people with BPD eventually do commit suicide. The treating mental health professional feels a great deal of anguish and pain when a client's life ends through suicide. I am learning. I am beginning to be able to be me and remember being me, without switching away, out of shame, from the unacceptability of me. The therapist is making it acceptable. I have a sudden insight. The sense I made of it is that I was wrong to be upset. The sense I made of it is that I shouldn't have fallen off my trike--I should have been more careful--that it shouldn't have hurt when I did, that I shouldn't have been upset by it, and that I shouldn't have sought comfort and care from my mother. Really see it.

And see it from the outside, not just be immersed by it, on the inside of it, reliving it, swamped and drowning. I feel like there are two pieces of paper, each with a heading: `Then' and `Now'. I am lining them up in my head, side by side. Fecal-contaminated bacteria gains access to the bladder through the urethra. Women are 30 times more likely to have cystitis than men due mostly to the different lengths of the urethra (women's urethras are just one-and-a-half inches long, while men have urethras about eight inches long). Men experience UTIs with obstructions like urinary stones or enlarged prostate. According to the National Bladder Foundation, an estimated 3 percent of girls and 1 percent of boys have UTIs by the age of 11. Among elderly women living in nursing homes or hospitalized, 20-50 percent will develop asymptomatic bacteriuria, which is a UTI without symptoms. The elderly and pregnant women are at risk for this type of UTI, which is symptom free but can still develop into serious kidney infections if left untreated. Get the Point Over-the-counter dipsticks are available that change color when you have a bladder infection. The tests detect about 90 percent of UTIs and may be especially useful for women who have acute infections. Risk Factors: Keeping an Eye on the UTI No wonder many therapists feel unprepared to meet the challenges of a person with BPD. Other therapists unknowingly accept people with BPD into their practices and become enmeshed in an entangled complex relationship that eventually spins out of control. Thus, they may find themselves providing unusual amounts of help, giving special considerations, or feeling angry and annoyed with their BPD patients without even knowing why. At the same time, treating people with BPD can be uniquely rewarding. Changes may come more slowly than they do in other cases, and obstacles may seem more daunting. But, hanging in there and giving someone with BPD the tools and skills she needs for a better life gives you, the therapist, an opportunity to use all your talents and training. And nothing is more satisfying than seeing someone's life turn around with your help.