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To yang the yin. To escape the threat. To close the loop. To resolve the disagreement. This desire to close the loop is embedded deep within our psychology. What happens when a sentence-- --hangs? Why are bread-sliced bagels so triggering for some? This dynamic between tension and release that makes us laugh at jokes, dance to music, and get out of bed every morning to see what the day has in store for us is the same mechanism that makes it really difficult for us to sit with something that's unresolved. She just would not give up on finishing the movie. So I watched it five more times while she fell asleep. I was on their couch, and I woke up one morning feeling so empty inside. I had lost myself somewhere. This experience was slowly and quietly killing me. Each day was spent watching her body melt into nothingness. My main task was to help her swallow the thousands of pills that she took only to make her comfortable. Everything I knew to be normal had been abruptly taken from me. I was fighting the process my mom knew as death. Apollo Creed style! If they don't dig deeper into the issue, both can walk away offended, thinking they were right.

Doug feels entitled for his anger as Mike's design error caused him to look bad in front of his bosses. Mike could also feel rightfully resentful as he sacrificed his date night to help a friend out with a project that was not even his job, yet all he received was criticism. How can we move from blame to accountability? Errors can happen even in the best-designed systems. And even with a clear vision on systems dynamics we can still look at individual mistakes as root causes of problems. One way to change the blame dynamic is to understand the two vicious reinforcing loops it creates. Another way is to intentionally change our attitude at work. Marilyn Paul, a systems thinking expert, distinguishes between three levels of behavioral change in shifting from blame to accountability: the individual, the interpersonal, and the organizational levels. Individual Level We literally create our reality. This first bullet point is a brief synopsis of the entire article. To some this may sound absurd and downright crazy, and to others it may sound accurate, but this statement is absolutely true. I would not be wasting my time writing this article if this concept was utter nonsense, but I am living proof. I would not have believed this if this simple truth had not proved itself over and over again. Throughout history, every wise man, philosophers, and holy man has come to the same conclusion: we become what we think about. But now, modern science (Quantum Physics) has come to the same conclusion. Quantum Physics now states that the mind is actually constructing and manipulating the physical world we live in. Quantum Mechanics states that everything is vibrating energy, and since everything is energy, everything has a frequency. In the spiritual world, like energy attracts like energy, so the frequency your energy is vibrating on is attracting other energy that is similar to that. Body language similar to Mikhail's

Mikhail and sunset Mikhail and brown hair Mikhail's likes Mikhail's dislikes Countless combinations of Mikhail patterns fit the rule. Unknowingly, she kept thinking of him all the time. As long as Mikhail was perceived as `high risk', her brain would keep looking for him in people, places or things in an attempt to protect her from the potential menace. The key to Olivia's release from her pain was to stop perceiving `Mikhail and his related data' as a threat. This was possible if all the `Mikhail data' was transferred into files in the unimportant folders of the brain. A school-based mental health professional can give extra practice sessions using the type of guidance shared in the story of Carlos (article 2) to facilitate a pendulation. This involves helping the youngster think of a time (one example is sufficient) when they may have experienced a pleasant surprise and having them explore those sensations, with plenty of time for the sensations to be named, felt, and deepened. Focusing on the feeling and exact location of the pleasant sensation (rather than the frightening one) for approximately sixty seconds can create a totally new brain/body experience. Repetition will support a student in developing healthy habits increasing synaptic connections of positive experiences that can change the meaning of the word surprise from being something unpleasant will happen to sometimes something pleasant might happen, sometimes something unpleasant might happen. When a pleasant, expansive, spreading warmth and flow can be sensed internally for a long enough period to be integrated right down to a youngster's gut feelings, the balance of healthy, functional synaptic connections versus toxic, dysfunctional, trauma-induced connections has shifted toward our biological imperative of pro-social behaviors. Just like the frequently trodden path through the forest or the worn tracks down the ski slope, with time and practice the successfully wired connections will strengthen and be more easily accessible through repetition as they overtake the reactive threat cycle pathways weakened with disuse. Positive pendulation practices like the one described above are necessary for the students who begin school without the advantage of a secure attachment to their primary adult. A Few Words about Attachment Theory (Secure and Insecure Development) This now brings us to a deeper dive into attachment theory and the polyvagal theory, how they are connected, and how teachers and mental health professionals can provide a variety of experiences that help students feel comfortable in the classroom. When students feel safer and calmer at school, it is easier for them to be motivated and more confident learners who display appropriate behavior in their interactions with both teachers and peers. This is when you are emotionally mature and able to discern these things better.

Anticipatory A good example of this would be when an individual has negative or uneasy sensations all over their body. This is always a sign to them that something not so positive is going to happen. Many people like to believe that this makes a person psychic, but I am not a fan of that term, some people like to call them prophets, while others refer to it as having visions. However one chooses to look at it, the fact of the matter is that it is very real, and should not be taken lightly, because the day is coming where these are the individuals that we will follow. I know someone who kept getting bad feelings in her gut the whole night before the attack on the twin towers in New York and the Pentagon, she just thought that they were signs about her family. She had a sister and a niece who had a habit of hanging out on the streets until three or four in the morning, and she believed that her gut kept turning because they may be in some kind of harm. She called her niece a few times throughout the night, pretty much begging her to get off of the streets and go into the house because she had a bad feeling. Well, the next morning, she woke up, like the rest of us, to find out about the horrible incident that had happened, the first thing that she could think of, was the way that she kept getting those uneasy feelings in her gut all night, and it gave her chills. Try to shift your thoughts about falling back into an old habit from I'm so horrible for doing that, I can't believe I failed so miserably to I wish I had acted differently back there, but what's done is done. I want to do what it takes to make it so that my behavior is better from now on. This can be a small event if you make it one. Another thing we need to do when we are trying to change our habits into good ones is to remember that we have control over our urges, and that feeling the impulse to do something does not require you to do it. Think back to lectures you had to sit through during your years at school. There were probably somewhere you could not wait until your time with that teacher was done because they did not present the class material in any kind of way that would be entertaining for the listener. A fantasy might have even come into your mind of telling them something very abrupt and curt, like Can you just get this lecture over with so we can leave? This is boring. However, you did not go through with it because you knew you would have been asked to leave the classroom, meaning you would have missed valuable information that could show up on the test later. Not to mention, you did not want to be disliked by your professor, who could hold the decision whether or not to bump your grade up just a couple of points if you need it. It's incredibly uncomfortable.

The voice of reason tells us that we have to either find a solution or give up on the problem. Either way, it wants to be done feeling bad about it. In the case of approaching our own limitations in the universe, both biologically and socially, there is no final solution, but we can't ignore the problem. What we need to do is honestly acknowledge our discomfort and keep it alive in us, because it points us toward paths for growth. Even if there is no final, all-grown-up state for us to reach, we still need to take this path. We need to develop honest bias because it offers a place in between awareness and solution that allows us to keep the question open and to feel the discomfort of that open-endedness without losing the ability to function in the world. THIRD THING TO TRY Develop honest bias If you take nothing else away from this article, take these four steps on the path toward developing honest bias. I had enough. Death was happening whether I was there by my mom's side or not. I had accepted that there was nothing I could do to save her. I decided to leave my parents' home and head back to New York. I told my mom early on that I couldn't and didn't want to be there for the end. I didn't want my last memory of her to be her taking her last breath. I never wanted to know what that looked like. So I told my mom that I loved her and that I would be back in a few weeks. When she was first sent home for hospice the doctor said it would just be a few days or weeks. It had been three very long months, and I was starting to think we were being Punk'd. In order to shift from blame to accountability, we need to be familiar with both of them.