The 3 Parts of Personal Development

My problem areas used to be procrastination with work and waking up early. I built those habits by rewarding myself with tasty treats and the occasional day off training (usually to catch a movie or see a friend). This way I was able to build the habits I wanted (and the discipline) while still enjoying life, because the missed workout or odd treat won't affect my highly disciplined approach to health and fitness. An accountability partner is a good way to improve your discipline. Most people find it easier to motivate somebody else than to motivate themselves. This is because you see problems from the outside with an objective view. It's kind of like the dissociation NLP technique mentioned in article 12, because you see the facts of the problem without the emotional side attached. You can come up with the right solution and approach pretty easily this way and advise your friend to take that path. It doesn't have to be elaborate or fancy but should be simple and conducted in the proper manner. Intuitives want their worship experience to speak to the right side of the brain, not just instruct the left side. Teaching is all right, but inspiration is better. How might the sensors in a worship service respond to a strong intuitive minister's preaching? How might an intuitive respond to a strong intuitive minister's preaching? How might the sensors in a worship service respond to a strong sensor minister's preaching? And how might an intuitive respond to the same? In a Bible study, S and N differences are apparent. An S's approach is read it, believe it, do it. A sensor doesn't like the idea that there might be secrets in the Scriptures and that we might have to figure out what God actually meant behind what was written. Individual Differences in Aggression Learning Outcomes

Differentiate the likelihood and style of aggression in men and women. Explain the role of socialization experiences and genes in the likelihood to aggress. List reasons intelligence is a factor in aggressive behavior. Identify the personality traits that foster aggression. We've seen how a person's learning experiences and situations partly determine their anger, hostility, and aggression. Now let's consider some factors of the individual him- or herself that make a difference Gender Differences in Aggression Over the course of history and across the globe today, men are more likely than women to be physically aggressive (Archer, 2004; One warning - make sure your accountability partner is as serious about this as you so they can actually be depended on to try hard and stay focused. You can help each other during the bad times by offering an outlet to vent to while also giving good advice. Tell each other what your current goals are and how you're progressing as well. Keep a checklist of what your partner is aiming to do, and check in to make sure they're on track. A quick text asking if they worked out today is easy to do. If you're the one being asked and you respect your accountability partner, it's going to prompt you to go get that workout in if you haven't already. This subtle pressure is a great way to keep yourself motivated and on track, because letting yourself down is weirdly easier than letting down other people. Being action oriented makes a big impact on your discipline. It's tough to believe but a lot of people mess up just by overthinking! They're so caught up in what to do first, or which task is important enough to do now, that they drain their own mental energy without actually doing anything! On the other hand, an N may want to find symbolism and secret meanings where there are none. In a class situation, a sensor will ask precise questions and want the answers to be precise.

N's want to see the possibilities of applying God's Word in many areas and in many ways. If you and your spouse have the same preferences, each of you may want to work on accessing your opposite preference to bring more variety into your relationship as well as to learn how to communicate better with others in your lives. What's Your Plan? Go back through the article and write down each characteristic that describes you. List how you will respond differently than you presently do and how you would like your spouse to respond differently. Which characteristic about your spouse has been the most difficult for you to understand? Different Ways to Make Decisions Do you struggle when making decisions? Card et al. Men commit the vast majority of violent and homicidal aggressive acts, such as murder, armed robbery, and aggravated assault (Daly & Wilson, 1988). However, women are more likely than men to engage in acts of verbal aggression by spreading malicious rumors and gossip, excluding others from desirable events and groups, and threatening to end friendships (Archer, 2004; Card et al. Crick & Grotpeter, 1995). Men and women do not differ in their overall level of aggression as much as they do in their preferred mode of aggression--physical for men, verbal for women. Although verbal aggression does not directly physically harm the victims, it can be extremely harmful for emotional and psychological health. Victims of verbal aggression are at a high risk for depression and anxiety (Crick & Grotpeter, 1996). The distress and humiliation they experience can even lead them to take their own lives, as we saw in the cyberbullying case of Brandy Vela described earlier in this article. Words do hurt. In a few articles, we'll explore what this means a bit further. To sum it up though, it means less thinking and more doing.

If you have anything that you know needs to be done, get started on it immediately. Don't overload yourself when planning out your schedule or goals. If you have a schedule that is jam packed already, it only takes one thing to go wrong or one delay to make you start feeling the pressure. Be generous with your planning and consider that things can go wrong, and emergencies can pop up too. Keeping your mental state clear and healthy is important to long term success, so help yourself out by keeping a steady, sustainable work rate. It's good to aim high with your goals, but it's also important to be realistic. Getting the right balance here should motivate you; The goal has to be tough enough to keep you driven in this way. Do you wonder why and how your partner makes decisions differently from the way you do? There are reasons for these differences that affect the way each of you communicates. Some people are thinkers who make decisions quickly, while others are feelers who seem to take forever to reach a decision. The thinker style of communication tends to come across as sharp, clear, definite and decisive, while the feeler style tends to be cautious, gentle, investigative and option oriented. This third set of MBTI preferences--thinker (T) or feeler (F)--shows how you and your partner individually prefer to make decisions. These differences will be quite evident in the communication process. For a relationship to succeed, you will need to mesh your differences and develop your own decision-making style as a couple. Dr David and Jan Stoop describe these two personality types: Thinking people can stand back and look at the situation. They make a decision from an objective viewpoint, interpreting the situation from the outside. Victims of verbal aggression are at higher risk of depression and anxiety. In some cases, they commit suicide.

Such tragic cases duly noted, because the consequences of physical aggression are usually more immediately apparent and severe, considerable research has sought to understand why men are more physically aggressive than women. One theory traces this gender difference back to physiological differences between men and women (Maccoby & Jacklin, 1974). Recall that testosterone level is correlated with aggressive behavior, particularly in response to provocation, and that men secrete more testosterone than women. Another factor is that men may be more likely than women to engage in physical aggression and do more physical harm because they are generally larger and physically stronger than women. A third factor is that men are more likely than women to interpret other people's actions as intended to provoke them, for example, by insulting their reputations (Crick & Dodge, 1994; Dodge & Coie, 1987). Another way to understand the gender difference in physical aggressiveness is to ask, why aren't women more aggressive? According to Eagly and Steffen (1986), boys and girls are socialized with different normative expectations about what men and women should and should not do. What you don't want though is a goal that looks doubtful from day one. That drains your energy because it creates a negative state. Stay positive minded and productive by making sure the goal is attainable if you can stay on track around 70-95% of the time. The number you choose should be based on how successful you already are with discipline, and always be aiming for higher numbers each year. All Positivity, No Negativity Look closely at the tips and advice given in this guide so far. You'll see that there's a big focus on the positive side, not much on the negative. I don't like the use of punishments for failing to hit goals, because it can create a bad state of mind. Any negativity that affects your mind or spirit is a bad thing. Reward yourself for doing well, but don't punish yourself if you fail - just don't reward yourself either. They believe that if they gather enough data they can arrive at the truth. They are always searching for this truth, which they believe exists as an absolute.