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This leaves only your relationship to Smart Water undetermined. According to balance theory, the audience would experience an internal pressure to evaluate Smart Water positively in order to maintain a harmonious state in which all the elements (themselves, Aniston, Smart Water) are consistent with each other. If people were not naturally inclined to prefer balanced over imbalanced relationships between their thoughts, then we wouldn't expect them to feel any motivation to like Smart Water because they would be perfectly comfortable if some of the elements in this system didn't quite fit together. Balance Theory According to Heider's balance theory, if you like Jennifer Aniston and she likes Smart Water, then you are inclined to like Smart Water, too. An image representing balance theory can be divided into two parts. Part (a) shows a hoarding showing poster of actress, Jennifer Aniston advertising for smart while part (b) shows a triangle with vertices labeled as You, Smart water, and Aniston, where side between Aniston and smart-water is base, marked with a plus sign. The between Aniston and You is marked with another plus sign while the side between You and Smart-water is marked with a question mark sign. It feels like the world is falling apart. That's a problem for you, and for everyone in your social network. Emotions are contagious. Not only in face-to-face situations, but online too. Every time you click on a terrifying news story about the state of the planet on social media, you are actively catching emotional despair, and every time you post or share that message, you're spreading it. We hear a lot more news about environmental problems than solutions Climate change is an urgent, global-scaled problem. In October 2018, the world's leading climate scientists--the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change--released their most dire report ever: the world is currently 1 degree Celsius (1. Yet worrying about a problem that is way too big for you to tackle inevitably feels discouraging. It's disempowering. Emotional symptoms are also common with PTSD. These are a little different from person to person.

Some become very withdrawn and anti-social, while others explode outward in anger and rage. I blinking hate PTSD. If you did your time and had to live through something so terrible, your brain really should do you a solid and just let you move on. So those are the main villains in our anxiety story. They all deserve to die. Luckily for you, they are most certainly manageable. Many people have had success on their own, with therapy, with medication, or some combination thereof and have been able to change their lives and conquer their anxiety disorders. Don't give up hope if you fit the profile for one of these. Positive Mood Another way to create positive feelings toward a message is to deliver it when people are in a good mood. A classic study by Janis and colleagues (1965) found that participants given peanuts and soda to snack on while reading messages on topics such as the armed forces and 3-D movies were more convinced by the messages than participants who were not snacking. Since this study was conducted, research has shown that people more readily agree with messages when they experience success, hear pleasant music, or view beautiful scenery (Schwarz, Bless, & Bohner, 1991). The influence of positive mood on persuasion has not been lost on people. You probably know that businesspeople often take clients to lunch at a fancy restaurant, or you may have experienced a salesperson opening up a conversation with a funny story. If you are in a good mood while receiving a message, you will be more likely to agree with it, even if the reason for your good mood has nothing to do with the message itself. Negative Emotions Of course, not all persuasive messages try to create positive emotions; In these cases, the designer of the message is hoping to arouse negative emotions and then offer recommendations for assuaging the concern. It breeds apathy. The same phenomenon happens in politics.

When someone says, Why would I bother voting? To counter this feeling, psychologists say it's important to see how our individual actions make a collective positive impact. But unfortunately, that's not the way climate change is typically reported. Less than 19 percent of climate change coverage on major nightly news programs in the US in 2017 and 2018 mentioned climate change solutions. Stories that emphasize the failures of climate politics intensify people's feelings of despair and cynicism. Journalist Elizabeth Arnold, in her five-year study of national media coverage about climate change in the US Arctic, found that almost every story perpetuated a narrative of fear, misery, and doom that left the public feeling powerless. As David Bornstein (journalist and co-creator of the Solutions Journalism Network) put it: If the news were a pill, and all the known effects of the news were given in pill form, the FDA probably wouldn't approve it. In a 2017 review of more than fifty thousand abstracts from articles published in ocean and coastal science journals between 2006 and 2015, Murray A. Your journey starts now. Okay, so this is cool and futuristic. I tweeted out (@duffthepsych) that I was working on a second edition of this article and asked if anyone had suggestions. One awesome fan made the perfect suggestion of writing a article about dealing with people who don't understand anxiety. I can't believe I didn't initially realize how useful that would be. Well, that's exactly what I want to do this article because I'm fairly certain that nearly every single person that I have met who suffers from anxiety also suffers from some dumb dumb in their life who just does not get it. Maybe you have heard a few of these gems: It's all in your head! You just need to stop worrying so much! Dude, just breathe. I'm sure statements like these really help out, right? Most commonly, these kinds of messages try to evoke fear in the audience. Your current author (Mark) recently saw a pamphlet (and, yes, read it!

Sometimes fear works, leading to more attitude and behavioral change. Banks and colleagues (1995) found that middle-aged women were more likely to follow a recommendation to get a mammogram if they had watched a video that framed mammography in fear-arousing terms (emphasizing how not getting a mammogram might result in death) than were women who had watched a similar video that framed mammography as promoting health. This shows that the way a message is pitched can make a big difference (Rothman & Salovey, 1997). People generally are more likely to comply with a message that frames a health behavior in gain-related terms (Use sunscreen to help your skin stay healthy) when the behavior involves prevention of a risk condition such as skin cancer and they don't see themselves as particularly at risk for that condition (Updegraff et al. However, a message that frames a health behavior in loss-related terms (Without regular mammograms, breast cancer can go undetected until it's too late) is often more effective for detection of a health problem such as breast cancer or when people think their risk is particularly high (Ferrer et al. Thus, there are different ways to use fear to effectively change attitudes. But fear also can backfire. Janis and Feshbach (1953) found that a message was less effective at persuading the audience to improve oral hygiene if it used fear-arousing images of rotting gums and teeth than if it used more neutral images. Rudd of Emory University determined that the vast majority of articles did not propose actual solutions to environmental-change challenges. Because environmental reporters often base their reports on journal findings, those reports are heavily weighted toward presenting problems without solutions. In many ways, the negative skew of climate change media stories is also a reflection of the general tendency for the media to focus on negative news. Plane crashes, for example, are always covered in the news, but car crashes hardly ever are, even though they kill more than 125 million people (and injure and maim 20-50 million more) every year. In 2019, the fatal accident rate was on average one death for every 5. Studies reveal that news all over the world has grown gloomier in the past two decades. Major US newspapers, studies show, are far more likely to report on unsuccessful climate actions than they are to cover climate action successes. Maxwell Boykoff directs the Center for Science and Technology Policy Research at the University of Colorado Boulder. The Center operates a Media and Climate Change Observatory, which monitors how climate change is reported across 117 sources (newspapers, radio, and TV) in fifty-five countries. They've found that problems caused by climate change are deemed more newsworthy than solutions, and that this coverage drives a sense of hopelessness. Of course not. These are telltale signs that someone simply does not understand what you are going through.

Be happy for them. That means that they have not felt the true shittiness of anxiety the way you have. I do understand that this can be incredibly frustrating though. If this person is family, it tends to amp up the frustration factor even more. I think that often times we try to communicate what it's like to have anxiety and then give up when it doesn't seem to sink in for the other person. The process of trying to communicate clearly and find the right words to say can be anxiety provoking in and of itself. Couple that with the fact that you are exhausted from fighting your own private battle with anxiety all day, and it can feel pretty pointless. I want to help you out by providing some ideas about ways you can communicate to these people. Janis and Feshbach interpreted this result as showing that some fear-arousing messages are so overwhelming that the audience defensively avoids them, and so no attitude change occurs. So what makes the difference? Leventhal (1970) proposed that arousing fear on its own is not enough to persuade people. When people are told simply that they will suffer some threatening outcome, they feel distressed or helpless, and they often tune out entirely. But if you provide them with a clear means of protecting themselves from that threatening outcome, they are more likely to be persuaded. That is, fear-arousing messages are most effective in changing people's attitudes if, in addition to heightening fear about a threatening outcome, they provide the audience with information about what specific actions are required to mitigate or avoid that threatening outcome (Rogers & Prentice-Dunn, 1997; Ruiter et al. Tannenbaum et al. Witte & Allen, 2000). In one study testing this possibility, Leventhal and colleagues (1965) found that participants were more likely to follow the recommendation of a health message and get a tetanus shot if they were exposed to a fear-arousing message about the dangers of tetanus and they were given a detailed set of instructions on how to get the shot. There's still a pervasive doom and gloom, Boykoff said in a 2018 interview. When these stories just focus in on doom and gloom, they turn off those who are consuming them.