Building Community: A Differing Mindset

They are as ordinary as hair. For example, their response could have been some version of It didn't happen that way, It's not a big deal, You should just forget about it. Spend some time connecting with your child self, exploring what you may have felt when your parent-figure(s) responded in those ways. People who are wholly wrapped up in themselves aren't capable of empathizing with and caring about others. That's because that knowledge will give you the confidence to start taking classes and develop the necessary techniques. Just think, if you have an ideal that you have to have three eyes, a problem immediately arises because you have only two eyes, and your ideal says if you don't have three, something is missing. But he would start at the very beginning, Brothers and sisters For the whole fifteen minutes we heard only that portion—beginning with Brothers and sisters and going up to the point where he got stuck, again and again. Research has shown that the higher the score, the greater the chances of negative life outcomes, from higher rates of substance abuse and suicide to increased risk of developing chronic illnesses. So don't just remember, relive it. They cannot help; they themselves need help. These are human needs. Just a few moments, and the leaves will have gone and the dirt will have settled and the water will be pure again. If you mistrust yourself you will project your mistrust on people around you. We learn spending habits, worldviews, and beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. In a moment, this expert will appear on your mental screen standing or sitting in front of you. Parents often convey these messages because they want to protect their child; afraid they can't meet the challenge and will be hurt or feel put down in trying. But that does not mean that you are awake. He can observe himself from a distance; he can look at his own energies as if they are separate from him. They cannot be satisfied with limited love. Why? He is fast asleep in his home. Keep asking questions and recording answers until the questions and responses stop. His salespeople found his disposition sunnier and they felt motivated to work harder. What else do you see?Now go on, and as you walk uphill, note that the trees give way to bushes. In fact, I invite you to put down this book right now and plant a seed of hope. Someday the man you have loved, the woman you have loved, may find somebody else. You look all around and it is emptiness, it is nothingness. I will be more ready to hear about and act on new things. You both agree with each other, never is there any argument—so understanding of each other, so compassionate toward each other, so sympathetic! But after the honeymoon is over, then small things so small that when you want to talk about them you feel embarrassed. Or you can do even more, as will be discussed in later chapters. A woman cannot walk in the night alone—and this is civilization? He may be doing something wrong, he may be saying something wrong, he may be making some effort to humiliate you, to insult you—but that is his freedom. You start by imagining who you want to be, visualize yourself in the new role using mental scripting, practice mental scripting, and turn the new script for yourself into action. So look into your own self. Accept yourself and there is freedom, because psychological pain disappears immediately. The political leaders, the social ideologists, the utopians were promising the same thing—not in paradise but here on earth, somewhere far away in the future when the society goes through a total revolution and there is no poverty, no government, and man is absolutely free and has everything that he needs. Children instinctively understand boundaries. Likewise, if you think you have certain qualities and talents, then you will have them. He was really a religious man! Priests were only talking about the hell that was waiting for you after death. And you must know that each hand is connected to one hemisphere of the mind, the left hand with the right hemisphere, the right hand with the left hemisphere. The so-called religious people have never trusted human nature. You can do it, it is not a question of believing me. Now you are going into an impossibility and you will drive yourself crazy. The real fall is the fall from being a witness into getting identified with something and losing your witnessing. In setting the scene for your scenario, use somewhere that you want to use your new role.For example, to develop a more assertive, authoritative personality to take over a managerial position in your company, picture yourself being that way in your present position and see others responding to your new image in the appropriate way. Soon after she started doing this, she learned that the agency was preparing a bid for a new account, and the answer suddenly came to her: submit a sample advertising campaign to the copy chief organizing this effort. They were just starting to get serious and you destroyed all your effort. Your loneliness and any significant losses that may have contributed to your loneliness might have left you feeling despondent and tired. He is repeating the story of Turgenev, because living in the negative he feels great; his ego feels satisfied. Experience the different parts of your body moving up and down and in and out as you breathe.With each breath, direct your breath to a different point in your body. The male part of the mind has logic, and the woman's side is illogical; it is not dangerous, it is just a mistake, it can be corrected. Our attitudes and emotions actually change the chemistry in our brain to make us function more or less effectively.3Luckily, negative attitudes and thinking can be changed. I see myself up on the platform. It is the absence of love—be more loving. They have been teaching you to renounce, they have been teaching you that all is wrong. That is not the case; they are misunderstanding the whole thing. So if you slow down everything, you will be surprised that your sadness, your misery, all are slowed down. I saw this choicelessness firsthand in my training. And soon you will feel that the sap is not running only in the tree, it has started to run in you. Whatever you are going to do, see the energy coursing through you as needed so you can direct it to that purpose.For example, if you want to write or type something, visualize the energy surging out through your hands. What do I really, really want? After you work with these physical movements, you can visualize them or replace them with a voice in your mind so you can pick up these cues anywhere. Her feelings of frustration turned into feelings of fulfillment because she was doing what she wanted, which started with simply changing her initial belief in herself. Finally, when you feel ready, stop asking questions and responding and return to the room.Continue to practice this technique for about a week or until you feel that your yes-no quick choice response has become a part of your life. Let them both be your wings; don't cut one wing, otherwise you will never be able to go on that eternal flight—the flight from the alone to the alone. You start to feel physically unable to avoid sugary soda. The stream flows by itself, so allow it to flow. We are very fearful about making mistakes. In many cultures to have a good belly laugh means you are not cultured. Imagine scenes of the past—when you were very dull and dead, and you wanted to commit suicide, and there was no zest to life—and exaggerate them. In fact, one is simply surprised; one cannot believe it, it is so incredible. Watch your own behavior. They also performed better as he eased his demands on them. But repression makes you false. A little girl from India put her hand up when the teacher asked again, Who is the greatest man in the world? But you should rejoice that you made so many people happy! And why did you choose that quotation? In fact only recently in the West, particularly in America, a new sort of work has arisen that is for the body-oriented man. If something hadn't yet gone wrong in her life, she thought it probably would. It is easier to go off to a quiet, isolated place where you may feel a more direct connection with your thoughts. Nature is a celebration. My feeling is that if Jesus had been able to laugh, Christianity would not have been such a calamity as it proved to be. Start breathing from the mouth but not deeply. My emphasis on love has a basic spiritual reason. And if one day the wife says, Leave me alone, the husband is hurt very much; his male ego is hurt very much. Let everything go and be aware of the difference. If you do something for, you are expressing it, and when you are expressing it you are getting into a mess because the other person may not be a meditator—most probably he will not be. And it is difficult to work with anger directly because it may be deeply repressed. Disidentifying from the feelings is a little difficult because they are deeper, and they are rooted more in your biology, in your chemistry, in your hormones. Just pay attention to what is happening in your life, and you'll find the time investment to develop these skills well worth the effort.Although you can use these techniques anywhere—even on a busy street to tune out annoying noises and distractions—it is best to begin in a quiet place where you can be alone. Practice the process and later you can use it in response to any situation in which you feel negative.Find a quiet place where you can be alone. From the form to the formless, from the formless to the form; from the body to the no-body, from the no-body to the body; movement, rest; rest, movement—this is the rhythm. If you don't have a pet right now, I hope you'll consider adopting one that suits your lifestyle, volunteering at an animal shelter, or spending time with one that belongs to a friend or neighbor. How would he look without it? The chemistry is inner, that's all—otherwise it is a drug. The whole hall was shouting, Again! and he was in such a difficult situation. You can write down your insights about what you believe is likely to happen in a given situation, and then compare what actually happens with your prediction to help assess your insight and make more insightful assessments in the future.I have two books I use for keeping records. How? Just draw whatever you see and don't think or analyze.You may find that sometimes you are seeing pictures and drawing what you have seen after the fact. Practice this technique for a week or two until it becomes second nature. Now take a mental journey to wherever you want to go to get inner information just as the previous techniques have described. It is simple arithmetic that it is not going to help; you are destroying the very thing that you want to preserve.