My Apprehension: Putting It All Together

And when you know exactly what you want, you can work for it. One would think that an active type must be so tense that he could not relax, but this is not the case. You speak about watching the clouds of moods passing by, but you have also talked about being total, going totally into whatever is happening. The cycle of unresolved trauma, repetition of maladaptive coping behaviors, and consistent denial of Self allows the pain to live on in our mind and body, where it can eventually make us sick. You will need both wings. A significant placebo effect has been documented in conditions ranging from Parkinson's disease12 to irritable bowel syndrome.13 Some of the strongest responses have been observed in depression studies,14 where participants who believe they are on antidepressants but are really taking sugar pills report feeling generally improved. Loneliness is often especially prominent when the person who died was a daily companion or routine presence in the life of the person who is grieving. They have a lot of enthusiasm. And, really, many of those who heard Hitler felt that when he was speaking he was not Adolf Hitler at all. Once you have built this association, whenever you feel negative about something simply pull the trigger and stop the feelings and thoughts.Say you feel yourself getting angry in a confrontation with someone and you're about to hurl an insult or you feel like hitting the person. Have you ever traveled to work and wondered, How did I get here? That is the only space available in the body, the only hollow place where you can store things. But now become more conscious, and don't do the same thing to your children. If you mistrust yourself you will project your mistrust on people around you. Just watch. A rationalization is a way of hiding things. Choose a place that is free of disruptions such as doorbells or ringing phones. If their freedom is violated they fight, but the fight is individual. When we horse around with someone, play a pickup game of soccer, or even compete against a friend in a video game, we shift into and out of fight/flight/freeze modes and our safe social engagement mode of calmness and security. What can death take from you? Such as the many stories of miraculous survival in winter storms, days at sea, and other devastating conditions. Accept whatsoever you are. It is like the sun rising in the morning. What about casual acquaintances? But our habit is to exaggerate. These are not ideals; these are very natural phenomena. Fear is intelligence. A little girl from India put her hand up when the teacher asked again, Who is the greatest man in the world? One has always to listen to one's own being, to one's own heart. Impossible! It was a flare-up. You can take the parts apart; nothing dies. You can use this visualization at any time, unlike a physical gesture that might be out of place. A love that is absolutely alert, aware, conscious, immediately turns into a tremendous revolution; it opens the doors of the innermost shrine of being. If others have been watching, thank them for their support. You can see this happening in ordinary life also. You know, I should not be doing it. In the East we have said, Annam brahm, food is God. It is a great conspiracy, and they have destroyed the whole human mind. But if you really take a person near and there is no armor, no wall between you and the person, then your heart will melt into the other's heart. Take us away from, 'You are the victim of life,' to introducing the fact that we are the creators of our life.11 We are not only our genetic wiring. Because you are angry, you can push a big rock—you cannot do it ordinarily. It's likely they were spent sharing quality time with those you loved the most. Enjoy it, allow it: not even a subtle repression. But deep down you know that you have wasted your life. As far as you are concerned you are just worthless; you are just dust and nothing more. We want to trust, we pretend to trust, we want the other to believe that we trust, be we don't trust. But what is the purpose of those tears? But when they come, the whole group immediately feels the presence of something higher, something greater than everybody, something mysterious. Our minds are familiarity-seeking machines. And the third is to catch hold of this process, which ultimately results in an act, before it becomes a thought. This gravitation toward the familiar kept our ancient ancestors safe from various threats such as wild animals, food shortages, and hostile enemies. So many of us exist in a state of unconsciousness. The whole turmoil of life seventy, eighty, or ninety years' turmoil, and all the miseries of life, and all the excitements and the distractions and the anxieties simply disappear, are no longer relevant. They go into the unconscious and they start working from there. Your parent-figure(s) may have commented on aspects of other people's appearances, highlighting some qualities positively and others negatively. Such questions come up for everyone dozens of times a day, and obviously you can't take the time to use an extended visualization to discover an answer. Taking Notice Thrice In Buddhism they have a particular method that they call taking notice thrice. But a woman, after all, is a woman. Fear is part of being alive, part of being delicate, part of being fragile. Not that you try to be transcendental: you simply allow the fear to totally take possession of you, but suddenly you become aware of the contrast, you become aware of the still point. He might abandon her, and she is not educated, she is not financially capable of standing on her own feet. Or you may see the question you want to ask appear. It is so clever that it can manage a dream in which you see that you are sleeping and having a dream, and in the dream you have fallen asleep and are again having a dream. Would you please comment? The deeper love of the heart is just like a breeze that comes into your room, brings its freshness, coolness, and then is gone. I imagine it may be becoming easier to see how trauma is intergenerational, passed down from one parent-figure to the next to the next to the next—to us. This is a great achievement in meditation. If life were logical, then there would have been no paradox. Focus on your breathing for a minute or so until you feel very centered and relaxed. Then you can tell him to do anything and he will do it, knowing perfectly well that it is stupid, knowing perfectly well deep down that it is all nonsense—but who knows? In many ways, I was one of these people. You cannot close your ears but you can close your eyes. But these are all indirect ways. If your ideal is being a person with popularity and power, visualize images of that such as having an entourage of people around you, giving a speech before an audience of thousands, or arriving at a gala opening as the press snaps photos of your arrival. You feel excited, energized, strong, and very self-confident. If the latter is the case, don't say I can't right away. Let it flow, let anger come. I will explain how you can use this technique yourself. The more you suffer, the more you seek salvation. That point is the only thing that exists in your consciousness.Then, with your consciousness directed on that point, notice how you can turn the stimuli of the outer world on and off. I don't trust your laws. They are doing it very well. And some people are body oriented. You need a very active woman, almost male. How can you grow closer to some of these people? There's nothing to be concerned about or afraid of. You became discontinuous with your past. Tell yourself that and think about how you can learn from that experience to change something you do in the future to be more successful and move on.For example, many now-successful movie stars have gone through a period of failure before soaring to great heights. If a child hears these negative messages often enough, they become internalized and block out valuable learning experiences. It's that can do confidence. When order is needed, use order, use the conscious mind; when chaos is needed, use the unconscious and let chaos be. So whenever I speak, I am speaking through two mediums: through words and through hands. What has it to do with you? Each time you zap it you experience the anger releasing and draining away.This method is especially suitable if the person causing the anger has a strong emotional hold over you. You'll lack the confidence you need and your whole manner will convey the impression that you don't think you are any good. I recognize that what you say about oscillating helplessly between heaven and hell, ecstasy and despair, is true of my life. It may be a machine, it may be a wife, it may be a husband, it does not matter. A beautiful woman looks into the mirror, it makes no difference. Watch the moment from where you could have come back, but beyond that there is no return. See yourself doing this vividly.