Perfect Evaluations: Thought, Feeling, Action: Understanding Your Type

So remember to go slowly; there is no hurry and your laughter should not be disturbed. But there is no self. Instead of writing down your answers, you will draw pictures and images and then interpret these images.The steps are the same as for automatic writing. I don't teach any solutions, I teach the solution: just step back a little and watch. Do you have to do something about it? Somebody else is afraid of an airplane. You are already on the way to transformation. When do you find yourself sad? For example, look around you and imagine someone you see with different features. You became discontinuous with your past. The real fall is the fall from being a witness into getting identified with something and losing your witnessing. One should start from the most solid, because it is easier, and then one should move to subtler experiences. They give messages that you may not be able to catch, but now scientists have created instruments that can detect the messages given by them. Focus on your breathing for a minute or two to calm down. Whatever you are going to do, see the energy coursing through you as needed so you can direct it to that purpose.For example, if you want to write or type something, visualize the energy surging out through your hands. To clarify, sometimes the stage parent acts with intention (this is associated with the more maligned Hollywood parent who pushes their kid on stage for financial gain), though many other times the parent truly desires a better life for the child. Then as you turn the pages or flip from page to page in the document, move your fingers more quickly down the page, and again follow your fingers with your eyes. Death comes and fulfills life. Yet you are not aware. I said, Just as an experiment, today you do one thing: take beautiful roses, and the best ice cream available in the city. But don't let your watcher disturb the laughter. Reasoning has to be objective, without any prejudice on your part. Indian scriptures say that in childhood the father should protect the girl; in youth the husband should protect the girl; in old age the son should protect the woman. She begins by seeing herself in a beautiful meadow and then walks along a path that leads through the woods into the mountains. If you believe your loneliness may be tied to chronic low self-esteem, I hope you will both work actively on cultivating self-compassion and developing good-self-care and start seeing a counselor. If the immune system is constantly misdirecting its inflammatory chemicals, like the cytokines, the body's ability to respond to real illness is diminished. Meanwhile thinking, I'm not limited to what I have. What will really satisfy me? Then imagine that this picture is suddenly torn up and see yourself with the opposite or different quality. Next list your goals with the highest rating in the third column. I am rich and have all the money I need and want. Social cues that would be seen as friendly when you were in social engagement mode—such as a pause in the conversation for you to enter, eye contact, a smile—will be either misinterpreted or ignored. There are three types of effort. You have millions of dollars but you cannot sleep. She calls all my attempts at reasoning rationalization. Why can't I change? Alexander was a disciple of Aristotle and he was trained by him in fine logic. So don't make a problem out of it. They are afraid even to see it themselves. In the beginning you will be very sad, looking at things inside you. The preacher said, You have to take care, because there were so many people asleep and you were disturbing them all. All remains the same. For now, consider picking just one self-care activity to focus on. Then it is not a question of coming and going; it becomes your very being. You feel nervous, you repress energy. They have not yet been able to accept themselves. And if you go on saying no to each and every thing, chunk by chunk you are disappearing. Find out to which type you belong, or which type is predominant. I told you that Gandhi is an active type. As long as you follow the basic principles and use these techniques fairly regularly (about twenty minutes or more a day), these techniques will work. In this calm state, we enter what is called social engagement mode, where we are primed to feel safe, secure, and able to connect easily with others. That is our potential, and anybody who is not achieving it is wasting his life. The moment when you were in control and you could have gone back, the return was possible, and the moment when you cannot come back, the return has become impossible; now the body has taken over completely, you are no longer in control. It is superficial, but it is stable. You may already feel anxious and tense because you consider it crucial to make a good impression, but these worries take away your inner confidence that you can do it. That is his misery. But that alternative is harder, it is more difficult than this one—and that is to get identified with every cloud that moves. But that is only a hypothesis; there is no experiment to prove it. No longer do we need to accept the narrative of faulty genes as our fate. Sometimes you may notice an immediate difference or the change may take a few days, depending on the skill or goal you are trying to achieve. Yes, sometimes it happens in animals, but they don't believe in fasting, they don't have a philosophy of fasting. If you are saintly and good and moral, you will have heaven and all the pleasures of paradise. Once I start speaking, everything seems to fall right into place just as I had imagined it. Joy is just to be yourself: alive, fully vibrant, vital. Don't bring the mind in. The lower you go, the sadder. They would guess, and the man would say, No, this is not my mother tongue. Don't call it names, because all words have become contaminated. The mystics have been talking about it for thousands of years, but only recently has science discovered that there are hundreds of centers in the brain controlling all your behavior. You have the simplest problem: you are making too much out of it. For more information, ask yourself, What else must I do to stay calm?As before, the key to communicating with your inner powers is encouraging your inner spontaneity to tell you the information you need to know. If you are really pure—this is the Jaina idea—your body will not perspire. The problem is that the child was having a legitimate feeling and looking to be comforted and supported; instead they were told that the pain was inconsequential. SelfHealing is not only possible, it is our reality as human beings, because no one outside of us can truly know what is best for each of us in our uniqueness. The woman hesitated a little but I pushed her, so she hugged the man and the man was so shocked, he fell on the floor! He had never imagined that she was going to hug him. You have already decided that it is bad; without giving it a chance you have already judged. If so, ask yourself why you are saying this. You have known one woman, you know her nagging, you have become accustomed to it. Or you can do even more, as will be discussed in later chapters. The boss in the office says something and you cannot be angry, you might lose your job. If desire disappears you will not be coming again. And friendship needs no marriage because friendship is far higher. Whenever a man falls in love with another woman, something in him toward the first woman changes. Nature is a celebration. Such events are life altering, splintering a person's world into a before and an after—as Christine's sexual abuse did. By doing so it becomes automatic, a habit. Usually you will have clear answers as a result of this process. You can and should be someone who offers that to them. There are not two things, only you—you and your absolute glory. As you visualize this scene, notice you are feeling more and more energetic and more and more enthusiastic. If you really want to communicate with your woman, or a woman wants to communicate with her man, the only way is that both should step aside from reason and emotion. Then she kicked off the conversation by talking about some recent sailing events in the news and segued into asking him about his own participation in sailing competitions. Slowly go on cutting your identifications with the mind. What you think about others is basically a declaration of what you think about yourself. And small things are so expressive, mm? The day you are completely unidentified with the mind, even for a single moment, there is the revelation. You can choose any animal that you like. Then you can decide if that is what you want or not and act accordingly.Where Am I Likely to Be?Get relaxed using any relaxation technique and close your eyes. To prevent the anxiety from returning once he went back to work, he asked his inner mind what he needed to do to stay relaxed. For example, if your goal is to perform well at work, see the job fully completed and done perfectly.