Your Frame Of Mind: Building Community

Then, the fear is a subtle dance of energies in you. But still, it is solid enough to be seen; you have to just practice a little bit. The missionary was shocked: this man was saying, This man shows some potential, he will become a buddha?! He said to Nan-In, But he is the only son of God! Nan-In laughed and he said, That is the trouble. Remember, if you can relax easily, you belong to the active type. Then what will happen to all those muscles that were ready to be aggressive? Then, by affirming that you have what you want with the intensity of focus that creates belief you can help overcome the fears and barriers standing in your way and make what you want happen.You can use the following exercise to help you do this.Affirming Your Beliefs about Yourself and Your Future Even if you have experienced failures, you can put those aside and move on. I had to help him up. Teachers, seminar leaders, salespeople, and countless others use this technique to develop and perfect their skills.Once you get rid of any I can'ts standing in your way, you'll be free to develop your talents and skills. Otherwise that will become a block and your being will never be able to grow in that dimension. The active man always looks like that. The truth is behind both; it is in your consciousness, which is neither head nor heart. Sometimes when you feel like not eating, don't eat—I am not against fasting, I am against the philosophy of fasting. Say you want to close a stock deal. If there are just a few alternatives, you want a quick signal to say this or that is best. Self-preservation leads to self-betrayal. A rooster waddled over, studied it, then said, I'm not complaining, girls, but look at the work they are turning out next door. Put on some gloomy music, and feel dead. If you don't use that energy, again the habit will have to be formed by the mind; otherwise, where will the energy go? Then you can borrow it from someone else. Coming up with a variety of alternatives and selecting the best one (as described in Chapter Ten) can be one way to reach a decision. They feel they don't deserve promotions or are unworthy. But instead of recognizing this immense quality in women, men have been condemning women. He came to me and he said, I am trying to prove that reincarnation is a scientific truth. There are marginal cases who are forty-nine percent feminine and fifty-one percent male, or visa versa, and it is very difficult for them to decide who they are. Once in a while, everybody gets fed up; that does not mean your love has stopped, it simply means a little change is needed. And when you mobilize your inner forces in this positive way that's what you will get back. You were not so clean before, because the possibility of anger was there. Every few weeks he'd send his wife a wire saying, Can't come home, still buying. I see that this helplessness is unsatisfactory and painful. And that is the first step: to be aware in the act. What makes you ecstatic, knowing, or loving? But even for you to bring your mind to that passive acceptance, in the beginning you will need effort. If they follow the rituals prescribed by the priest, he will save them. If something is predetermined, it's not necessary to look at anything beyond our DNA. Anger is active sadness; sadness is inactive anger. People go on imagining things . Also, notice if you gave the answer as a word you heard, as a word you said in your mind, as an image you saw, or something you felt.Now ask either those same questions or different questions, but this time answer untruthfully. If the answer is yes, it is an indication that the signal is valid and that you can use it to guide you. That paleness is like when a man is dying, and his face becomes pale. This creates a rift, an anxiety, and that anxiety destroys all your possibilities of relaxing, of trusting, of loving, of having any communion with anybody—a friend, a beloved. The difference here is that you are training your physical body rather than your mind to respond with cues. This state functions very similarly to the feeling we get when we're lost in conversation with someone we love, caught up in a moment, living almost outside the boundaries of time. These emotions are like the flowers of a garland. Some things will resonate, others won't; the objective is to use the tools that work best for you. The wholeness you have to seek is within you. Alexander was a disciple of Aristotle and he was trained by him in fine logic. We have been taught to compare, we have been conditioned to always compare. Just see the facticity of it—without condemnation, without appreciation, without any judgment for or against. Five, four, becoming more and more alert; three, two, almost back; and one, you are back in the room.Practicing Your Mental ScriptOnce you have created a mental script you like, practice applying it in the real world. He cannot move to nonattachment, he cannot move to the realm beyond feelings. He has no morality about it, no teaching about it; he simply gets angry and the anger is released. It can feel uncomfortable or even downright scary to become an active participant in your own healing. But in the beginning, everything is going to be an effort, so don't become a victim of words. In fact the ostrich becomes more vulnerable to the enemy. They can offer their flower. If you exhaust your energy, you create a situation in which you will fall into deep sleep. He cannot be relied upon so you put him in chains, and you continue forcing him to fast. All sorts of thoughts may come up in your mind. It is not love that is blind, it is the heart that has no eyes. How do you stay connected to them? You have collected all that material, which has become so powerful that now it can force you to do things: things in spite of you, things against you. That man is an opium addict. You may notice lush green foliage or you may see flowers. I will be more ready to hear about and act on these new ideas. We divvy up tasks and specialized skills among us because we appreciate that living well is a community effort. It is very efficient; machines are always more efficient. That is one of the problems: the man thinks, I am talking such beautiful things, I am being so loving, I am saying such great things, and the woman is simply uninterested! She knows when you are talking but your heart is not in it. If you love somebody and you do something, and the person is really angry, frankly angry, you feel grateful because he loved you so much that he can afford anger. Only when you have moved beyond will you be passive, and that passive awareness brings the miracle. And friendship needs no marriage because friendship is far higher. As previously discussed, the four ways you may get intuitive information could be seeing, hearing, feeling, and sensing that you know something. If so, this is probably a trait you will want to change. To help you notice the change, keep a list of the goals you have achieved or a regular journal to chart each day. It's like a radio receiver receiving energy waves from the universe. Loneliness is a necessary part of your grief, but like other emotions you are experiencing, it is painful and difficult. Remember, a person who cannot be angry cannot be loving. Slowly, slowly, the personality becomes thicker through upbringing, education, religious teaching. What I came to realize is that therapy and singular transformative experiences (like ayahuasca ceremonies) can take us only so far along the path to healing. You have not just to repeat, parrot-like, all the great values that make human beings the highest expression of consciousness on this planet. You are already on the way to transformation. You can rationalize about anything and you can pretend that it is reasoning. When you feel like eating, eat. Scientifically, it has become more clear now, but even without scientific investigation the mystics have been saying exactly the same thing for thousands of years—that all these things your mind is filled with are not yours; you are beyond them. Now think about other ways or things to which you might apply this technique. Of course, it is better to say yes than to say no, because one cannot really live by saying no. Later, you can create a visualization of yourself cleaning out this negativity. You have to show that you are not angry, you have to smile a painted smile. If you don't cling to the ego, what is left? Your prayer is going to be a depressed prayer. In cases of chronic stress, our adrenal glands release cortisol and other stress hormones, such as adrenaline, continuously. You can copy what this person is doing so you know exactly what to do. Nothing distracts like feeling chilled.The following relaxation exercises will help you calm down and get prepared for whatever else you want to do. You may have pain, psychological pain—that is your creation because you were not able to accept and absorb something that was arising. Society needs heads, not hearts. Don't weep; if you weep you show that you are afraid. One, if you are a knowing type then all your experiences basically will begin with knowing, never with anything else. Is this what you want to do? Plastic is one of the most indestructible things in the world. Your clarity and your lightness are only momentary. The male part of the mind has logic, and the woman's side is illogical; it is not dangerous, it is just a mistake, it can be corrected.