Behavior Is Strongly Influenced by Our Social Cognition

This is a helpful tool, because it allows you to guide them through their thoughts/emotions and to better deal with them. You won't be able to control their mental/emotional states, but you will be able to influence them and hopefully bring some discipline to their lives too. Why does the discipline of other people matter? Because we are all affected by our surroundings. If you're surrounded by undisciplined, negative people, then it will make it a lot tougher for you to stay disciplined, happy, and productive. On the flipside, having positive and disciplined people around will push you to maintain your standard AND try even harder. Having a positive effect on people is noticeable for them too. It will create a public image of you as a disciplined person, which is the next step after your disciplined self-image. Let him know you're not challenging his decisions; Keep in mind that what your J partner is saying may not be set in concrete, even if he says it is. Ask your partner how important the decision is on a scale of 0 to 10. If it's anything more than a 6, follow through on it. If you tend to drift off the topic in a conversation and your J partner brings you back to the issue at hand, thank him for doing so. You probably needed that. Remember that your J partner's need for certainty and structure is who he is, not a personal vendetta to control you. Some couples believe they have an ideal relationship because they both have the same set of preferences on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. The combination of your preferences does affect your marriage, but both the preferences you have and the ones you don't have help determine the quality of your relationship. You may have a complementary advantage when you have the same preference as your spouse, but you will lack the advantage of the preference you're missing. These criteria also help explain why the death penalty has not been effective in deterring violent crime. In fact, as FIGURE 12.

When the death penalty is introduced, the murder rate actually tends to increase (Goldstein, 1986). Capital punishment makes aggression salient and communicates the idea that killing is sometimes justified. Executions tend to happen many years after the murder that they are intended to punish. In addition, most murders are committed in a fit of rage when people are unlikely to be thinking of consequences. Murder Rates in States With and Without the Death Penalty The death penalty is intended as both punishment and deterrent, but statistics show that murder rates are higher in those states with the death penalty than in those without it. The image of a graph to represent percentage of murder rates in death penalty states and non death penalty states from 1990 to 2007. The x-axis is labeled as percentage and ranges from 0 to 12 in increments of 2. If viewing yourself as a disciplined person helps to enforce it, adding on the social pressure of others viewing you in that way will help as well. The understanding of emotions and thoughts will become deeper within yourself too. You'll know immediately when something isn't right and will be able to spot signs earlier. This helps you deal with the problem faster and more effectively. Over time, staying in a positive and disciplined state becomes habit, so the work is more about staying on track instead of getting on track. Maximizing Your Routines Once more, it's time for you to do some analysis and see how you're progressing. Keeping logs and diaries is very helpful, although it's probably easier to see where you need to make tweaks, thanks to your already high level of discipline. Look for any gaps or areas where you can squeeze out even a small improvement. It's extremely helpful if you can create some positive feedback loops as well, which fuel your desired life goals. For example, if both of you are missing a certain preference, you would probably avoid the activities or experiences enjoyed by someone with that preference. To enjoy the full spectrum of the personality preferences, you would have to make an effort to access your non-preference side and learn to use it.

You would need to read as much as you could about the missing preference and learn to compensate for what you don't have. Remember: You do not, will not and cannot change your spouse's personality type. You learn to adjust to it. There is no wrong personality type. It is God's gift to each person. Yet the bridge between the personalities in marriage partners may need to be relocated a bit for better traffic flow. Why not make some 3x5 cards with the following statements and read them over several times a day to reinforce how God sees you and your spouse (see 1 Cor. My personality is God's gift to me. The y-axis is labeled as years and ranges from 1990 to 2007 in increments of 1. The complete estimated data of the percentage of murder rates is given in the attached file. What forms of treatment would work to decrease violence in an individual? One promising alternative approach is multisystematic therapy, which addresses what drives individuals to aggress in specific contexts in which they are embedded, such as school and neighborhood (Borduin et al. Henggeler et al. Courses and other training programs that focus on rehabilitation, as opposed to deterrence or retribution, also hold greater promise. But American penal institutions spend very few of their resources on rehabilitation (Goldstein, 1986), a fact that probably contributes to the high recidivism rate. Half or more of inmates released from U. Bureau of Justice Statistics, n. Reduce or reframe media depictions of aggression. For example, if you want to travel and get healthy, but also want to be disciplined with work, then you could reward your work related discipline with interesting fitness or travel related rewards. You might reward yourself by taking up a new hobby sport for example.

Taking part in this sport is a reward but also requires discipline, plus it makes you happier and feel rewarded, so you really want to push through with work discipline again. Having the reward will also have refreshed you ready for work. The idea is that when you get back to work (from your holiday or after your exercise session), you will be working even harder and sticking to discipline even more because the reward is fresh in your mind and giving you extra fuel. This gets you more rewards, which makes you work even harder, and so on in a circle until you reach the highest levels possible. This is how you take advantage of positive feedback loops. Don't forget the effects of momentum too. Striking while the iron is hot is how you maximize your development. Once you are moving forward and your discipline is improving, you should never slack off. I am made in the image of God. God loves me very much. I am worth the precious blood of Jesus; What's Your Plan? Go back through the article and write down each characteristic that describes you. List how you can respond differently and how you would like your spouse to respond differently. Which characteristic about your spouse has been the most difficult for you to understand? Write out what you and your spouse have learned up to this point about your communication styles. On a scale of 1 to 10, to what extent are you now speaking your spouse's language style? For more information about your personality type, see Type Talk by Otto Kroeger and Janet M. With all the evidence that exposure to violence in the media can prime and model violent thoughts and actions, we might reduce aggression by minimizing people's exposure to such media depictions. Of course, censorship carries its own costs, but there is no question that American society can do a better job of limiting exposure of young children to violence in the media.

Another approach is to direct people to media that model prosocial behavior or depict the negative consequences of aggression. The media frequently portray people as benefitting from aggressive behavior. Viewing such portrayals increases aggression. In contrast, exposure to scenes showing punishment of aggressive behavior inhibits viewers from aggressing (Betsch & Dickenberger, 1993). Just as playing violent video games can increase aggressive cognitions and behavior, playing prosocial video games decreases hostile attributions and aggressive cognitions (Greitemeyer & Osswald, 2009). The more children play prosocial video games, the more they also engage in prosocial behavior (Gentile et al. Thus, there is potential for reducing aggression in exposing people, and especially children, to different types of media depictions. Another useful approach is to educate people about how to interpret violent media depictions. It takes more energy to start a ball rolling from a standstill than it does to speed it up if it's already rolling. Momentum with discipline works in the same way. If you're already disciplined and moving along that route, then adding a few more tweaks to be even more disciplined isn't too hard. For people who aren't showing any discipline at all, even a couple of simple steps can seem really hard. Make sure your work isn't wasted by focusing on total development of discipline. Slacking off should never be a reward, being undisciplined should never be a reward, and your belief should be to maintain a disciplined life from here on out. Negative momentum is also real, so if you start to slide, your focus has got to be on stopping it. Stop any deterioration, and then focus on rebuilding discipline afterwards. Deterioration is a big sign of poor discipline; An important note - a sudden lowering of discipline can be a sign of unacknowledged mental or emotional issues. Thuesen and Why Can't I Be Me? The Root Causes of Anger