Going Within And Releasing Resistance

People who feel bored: Some individuals have a somewhat higher need for excitement than others. They may be pulled into a relationship with someone with BPD because it feels exciting. They crave new, sometimes risky, experiences. I chance a furtive glance at her and then look away, frowning, displeased. This is my dysfunctional, ambivalent behaviour: it says, `I want you to know that I want to engage with you, but I also want you to know that I'm not happy with you, so I'm not going to make it easy. I grump a bit longer. Then I sigh. And some of the tension escapes with it and suddenly there's space for words. I do know, or at least I do know a little bit but I need to say something so that I don't forget how to speak and the silence doesn't deafen me. Suddenly I'm irritated with myself and I want the connection back again. I don't know why we're stuck. I know it'll sound stupid. I beat myself up a little in advance of my mortification. Again, place a few drops of your favorite massage oil or olive oil, only this time use smaller circles. Begin next to the navel and go in a clockwise direction, with smaller, gentle rhythmic motion. Continue the singing and you'll hear goo goos! Place your thumbs beside your baby's navel, slowly and gently stretch the abdomen by moving your thumbs to the outside. Only a slight amount of pressure is needed to help your baby's digestion. Repeat 2-3 times. After completing a few circles as in the previous figure, move your baby's knees to his or her chest and hold for 15-30 seconds.

Straighten out your baby's legs and massage them. Repeat this entire cycle two to three times daily for best results. Smile while you massage . This yearning can lead to trouble for both of them. Lonely, empty people: Some people feel lonely. Perhaps they're new in town, lack social skills, or just haven't found good connections. They're vulnerable to the quick intimacy offered by someone with BPD. Once again, the closeness frequently turns to contempt. Anxious attachment: Some folks have a strong sense of insecurity about their personal relationships. This issue usually stems from childhood when they may have experienced frequent interruptions or disruptions in close relationships. The person with BPD often provides a large dose of adoration and affection, which feels irresistible to those with anxious attachment. Sadly, many relationships end with another interrupted attachment. Those who are drawn to people who have BPD share some similar issues such as emptiness, anxiousness, sensation seeking, worry about abandonment, and so on. She raises an eyebrow, seemingly a little surprised. Sudden shame, because I got it wrong. I didn't mean to surprise her. I thought she knew that's how I felt. I constantly forget that she can't mindread me. Another self-irritated sigh, and then the words leak out. I don't feel safe.

I don't feel you're safe. I can't trust you. I want to trust you, but I can't trust you. Pediatric Asthma: Silence Is Golden Needless to say, the parental panic button goes off when your child can't breathe. This inability to breathe is caused by an overproduction of mucus and inflammation, which contracts and blocks the bronchial airways (the little tubes going into the lungs). Asthma now affects 4. I've heard parents say to me, It seems like a lot more kids have asthma. You know what? They're right! The rate of asthma among children has increased by about 72 percent between 1982 and 1994. Most experts are attributing this to a dramatic increase in environmental toxins in our cities and towns. Asthma can begin at any age, but most children experience their first attack before age four or five. Generally speaking, many relatively normal people have a few elements in common with those who have personality disorders such as BPD, but they don't have as many symptoms or at the same intensity levels. Their day-to-day functioning is not significantly impaired. In other words, everyone has issues. It's important to evaluate potential friends early on in a relationship. Ending a likely problematic relationship early is a whole lot easier than doing so once the friendship has deepened. People who don't have BPD can develop caring, loving relationships with their friends who do have BPD. Unfortunately, the costs sometimes mount up, which can virtually necessitate an end to the friendship.

That hurts both of you. The more intense the relationship is at the early stages, the more important it is to conduct this evaluation early and carefully. Detecting Serious Symptoms I don't know who you are. I can't remember you. I think you hate me. I trail off, embarrassed. I expect her to scold me for thinking and feeling the wrong things. Instead--of course! I notice it, even though I'm not looking at her, and it hurts. I hate that softness. I want to be told off. I feel safer being hated and hurt. In the early years, 10-15 percent of boys and 7-10 percent of girls develop asthma. By adolescence, the girls' rate catches up to the boys' until adulthood. Half of children are free from asthma by the time they are 20 years old, but can relapse into attacks with stress, poor diet, and a decline in overall health. The proper management and prevention for your child is essential in order to avoid a lifetime of breathing problems. The cost of pediatric asthma is stunning, on a personal and on a national level. Take a look at these statistics: The cost in medical care and lost wages to families dealing with an asthmatic child exceeds $1.

Forty-three percent of the asthma costs are from emergency room visits and hospitalization. American families who have children with asthma spend 5. Ten million school days are missed each year due to asthma. You may have found a new, seemingly best friend and not seen any signs of a personality disorder. Or perhaps you ignored the signs. Or maybe your friend was better than most at keeping her issues out of view at first. Some people with BPD become quite adept at hiding their issues, although, in time, their attempts inevitably fail. Someone or something will eventually trigger your new friend's BPD symptoms. The trigger can be something as simple as you don't have enough time to spend with your friend one day, which leads your friend to fear abandonment. Or it may be a mix-up in communication that cascades into rage and anger. The one exception is the person with BPD who has emerged from highly successful treatment -- in which case, he doesn't have anything to hide anymore. At some point in your relationship, your friend may start down a path strewn with reprehensible behavior. You feel yourself swirling downward, sucked in by an enormous whirlpool fueled by inexplicable behaviors, guilt, worry, and confusion. The softness is jarring. It contradicts my core beliefs about what other people are like, and how I deserve to be treated. I shrug helplessly because the words have dried up and suddenly I feel like I've stepped partway into Narnia, into a deep place of unreality in my head. Part of me is with her in the room. Part of me is somewhere else. I'm not sure which world to choose. I'm not sure if I can choose.