Personal SWOT Analysis

I ended up having a follow-up conversation with the person who dropped the rape metaphor. I learned that she had religious reasons for abstaining from voting: Jehovah's Witnesses see themselves as biblically obligated to remain completely politically neutral, which was something I didn't know. We talked about her relationship to her church and the experiences she'd had of being ridiculed by people outside the church, as well as her complicated relationship with the church itself. This context helped me understand where the strong reactions about consent were coming from, and ultimately led to an even better understanding of the complex positions that can be held on this topic. In hindsight, I saw I had asked the wrong question. I had asked people to give me their opinion about what others should do, instead of asking people to tell me what they themselves felt compelled to do. When I reframed the conversation and invited people to share their own perspective, in their own words, it became much easier to see how each person could arrive at their own unique position. FOURTH THING TO TRY Speak for yourself My mother was dead and so was the only family I'd ever known. She was the glue that held it all together for us. I would only ever call home to check on her. But whenever I called home, she'd make sure to find my brother and my dad so that I could chat with them for a few minutes, too. My mom isn't here to make sure that we all talk. She's not here to make sure we're still a family. And I felt alone. Now that she was gone, it felt like I was standing on the emptiest emotional road ever. I felt cold and abandoned. The worst part was that I was all by myself holding shattered pieces of me. I felt compelled to advocate for Sheila.

However, not all clinicians agree with the manner in which I confronted Sheila's mom. Any potential working alliance I was to develop with Sheila's mother was certainly ruptured and not likely to be repaired under the structure of a brief, psychiatric hospitalization. Once, when I was presenting on this topic and told this story, I had a clinician in the audience say to me, I don't like what you said to the mom. I explained that I understood, but I also felt compelled to advocate for Sheila. The clinician continued to challenge me, I still do not think that was the right thing to say. So, I responded: I understand that you do not like what I said. And I understand the ramifications of saying to the mom, `Wouldn't that be convenient for you. I am sure there are better things to say. But that's what I said. If you're hectic, your world will be hectic; On Self-Affirmations The man who succeeds must always in mind or imagination live, move, think, and act as if he had gained that success, or he never will gain it. - Prentice Mulford Affirmations are one of the most powerful tools you can have in your creative tool box. Affirmations should always be done in the present tense. I am or I Have The most powerful statement you will ever use with your affirmations is I-Am. Those two words (I-Am) are the greatest creative force that will ever come out of your mouth: I-Am Happy, I-Am wonderful, I-Am Healthy, I-Am Wealthy, I-Am abundant, I-Am- Prosperous. When doing affirmations, make sure that you are putting feeling and emotion behind them. I often close my eyes and yell my affirmations in the shower; We are constantly tuning the frequency of our FM broadcasts into this time-space continuum.

When we emit positive vibes or vibrations, we are setting up a positive vibrational frequency. Then we can only receive positive vibrations back and vice versa. Today, there are more mobile phones than people in our world, but no other mobile will catch the call. I turn to him. What sense does it make to you? Andre is juiced by the question. He stares at the ceiling, trying to find the best words to express his thoughts. When I think an angry thought or feel angry, the universe responds by creating a situation that justifies the anger within me. So if I'm angry, the universe creates more situations that make me angrier. A secure attachment is a prerequisite underlying the infant's physiological and psychological development, as they grow hand in hand. Polyvagal Chart Used by permission. For the color version of this chart, please go to: https://rubyjowalker. Polyvagal Chart Used by permission. For the color version of this chart, please go to: https://rubyjowalker. The following sequence is the typical patterned behaviors of students with unrepaired early trauma (fetal period to eighteen months of age): Their nervous system has rarely or ever experienced a ventral vagal green-zone state and may have defaulted to blue-zone survival mode. What might appear to be a tiny stressor (even if pleasant, such as playing a ball game) may cause a quick spike in sympathetic red-zone arousal from a dorsal vagal shutdown in the blue-zone state. The key to doing this is to immediately think of a happy memory and replace negative or traumatic thoughts.

It takes a while to master it, but after doing it for the first time, it will eventually begin to form a new habit for you. This will help you begin to look at things from a different perspective, and you will be able to keep yourself on track mentally. You need to get in touch with your navigation system, get in tune with your heart, which means allowing yourself to feel more not less. Meet your own needs fully, allow yourself to feel your emotions completely so that you can develop trust with yourself as well as the art of discernment. When you get to this point, you will no longer befall into that dangerous role of being codependent out here in this crazy world, you understand the power of choice and use it wisely. Empathetic Stages The Awakening Stage When you go through a spiritual awakening, your thinking will change immediately. It will happen so quickly that you will be confused as to what happened to the beliefs that you just had. Do not write off all of your personality quirks and interests as things that are bad and should be kept hidden. Perhaps you have an interest in collecting stamps, and when you mention it in a group, there is someone who shares that passion with you. This makes you strike up a conversation, and before you know it, you have become friends with that person all because of that one little bit of information you let out about yourself. Whenever we have trained our brains to think negatively, we will think that everything we do will have a negative outcome. When we do this, we do not give anything good a chance to happen. If you do not think positively, you are not likely to accept offers that could change your life for the better, such as invitations to social events, dates, or job offers. You will think about how you will probably fail or make a fool of yourself, or think the other person will disappoint you. With all of these things in mind, you will shut out anything that brings a possibility for something new to come into your life. There is a commonly held idea that in order to never be disappointed or hurt, you need to lose all expectations, and therefore you will never be hurt. This is a flawed way of thinking and a dangerous one at that. Speaking for yourself means avoiding two common bad habits: speaking for other people, and speculating about the perspectives of groups of people.

It's harder to avoid these two habits than you might think. I just spoke for you. For example, if I say, If you don't vaccinate your kids, it means you prioritize your children over mine, I'm speculating about what your behavior reveals about your internal thoughts. It's possible that I'm speculating correctly, but you are a better authority on what your internal thoughts actually are. If I was trying to speak only for myself, I'd instead say, I vaccinated my kids because I thought it was the best option for my children. What are your motivations for not vaccinating your children? This leaves an invitation for you to reveal something about yourself that I'm not able to imagine on my own. What if you're not right in front of me and I can't ask you this question? That's when we sometimes engage in the second bad habit of speculating about the thoughts and motivations of groups of people. I was desperately trying to put my foundation back together. I had to finally admit to myself that my entire floor was just gone. Grief had slowly crept its way inside my heart, and it was blindsiding me with huge karate kicks to my chest. The pain of losing my mother had grown so rich with rage and hate that I didn't know who I was anymore. I did what my mother would have told me to do had she been here to answer all the questions I now had. I became grateful for all the things I still had in my life. I remember as a kid I would complain about our dinner options. I could almost bet what my mom would be cooking for dinner each day of the week. The rotation didn't change much, if at all: meatloaf, spaghetti, baked chicken, pork chops, fried chicken and maybe on Fridays we'd get treated to a trip to Pizza Hut. Or Chinese food. That's the story.