Identifying What Needs Changing: A Flawed Hypothesis

So this is my suggestion: that you cooperate with it, and by and by you will see that the body will have a very subtle and graceful movement with every emotion. The physiology does not decide, the psychology does. You are simply a throbbing body, an alive body, an organism in tune with the whole, just like an animal. You draw on your own internal forces and build yourself up mentally, rather than relying on outside sources and stimulants where you are giving over your control to the power of a drug, which can sometimes have undesirable side effects.By contrast, when using visualization and mental imagery you are energizing yourself naturally. That's when your creativity can help you find an alternate method, develop the skills, or discover the needed resources to reach your goal. The ability to co-regulate is established in childhood. They looked at Nasruddin and asked, What dream did you have? No longer do we need to accept the narrative of faulty genes as our fate. As you visualize your success, experience the satisfaction and feeling of power this brings. Truth is not your imagination, it is not your feeling. It may be in the form of words, or your teacher may take you somewhere, show you something, or ask you to look ahead of you to a place where you will see your answer revealed. It will change so many things, you cannot conceive. Otherwise, there is no possibility. You were not so silent, so peaceful; now you are. They touch, but nothing flows from their hands. I use the heart as a vehicle to take you to the other shore; I use the heart as a boat. Ramakrishna was the feeling type, and in the end he moved to Vedanta. A significant placebo effect has been documented in conditions ranging from Parkinson's disease12 to irritable bowel syndrome.13 Some of the strongest responses have been observed in depression studies,14 where participants who believe they are on antidepressants but are really taking sugar pills report feeling generally improved. A fat woman? This feeling is so strong it comes always like thousands of wild horses running. So whatever is experientially real, accept it. Go very slowly so that you can see each act separately, each fiber of the whole cloth separately. Do you think you are going to have a good sleep? Now it became a joke. This is the physiological stage of love. In that very meditative state, I am fear, freedom starts descending. It is not bubbling up from the heart. Either it is anger, or hate, or love, or greed, or desire. But as you have probably realized, it's not as simple as saying, I just need to make friends or I just need to socialize more. For one, making friends and socializing is difficult for some people, and the more disconnected you are at this point, the more difficult it can be. We have to rearrange the whole inside of man, and the most basic revolution will come when the heart decides the values. Every child, when he or she is born, breathes into the belly. Tell it that it can come back later on, but for now you are devoting your time completely to negativity. Comfort is an attitude of mind; it is an approach toward life. In my career, I have worked with many lonely people who have worked to rebuild self-esteem and connection with others. How can you measure the intensity of your belief and increase your chances of correctly interpreting your intuition? I live naturally; and it is very natural to live in comfort and convenience. Many people seem to fluctuate between the emotional and the intellectual—so how can one come to a final decision about which type one belongs to? However you get your answers, keep drawing. Have you not watched sometimes? You have followed many people, and they have all destroyed you. It enables true transformation. He imagined what he needed to do to get to this goal and began doing it so the pounds melted away—about ten pounds a month.Finally, after several months his efforts gradually started to pay off as he started to find that women now responded positively to his efforts to talk to them and go on dates with him. Return on it now. Once in a while everybody gets bored being with the same person all the time. By doing so it becomes automatic, a habit. Watch the thoughts, because in your watching them, they disappear. They visualize themselves speaking to the jury. Mulla Nasruddin said, I am not an ascetic, so I cannot claim any self-control. People who are too much in thoughts remain in a private kind of world. The heart has no questions—this is one of the mysteries of life—it has all the answers. You cannot be a great lover, you can only be a great receiver of love. Mind is the subtlest part of the body, and body is the grossest part of the mind. I have never heard of anybody surviving. Seeing this with the clarity of innocent eyes, if he cries you cannot condemn him. And God wants me to be saved, so the halva has to be given to me. But this is the mind of everybody. Perhaps there is a reason; perhaps they have been aware of some superiority in women, the superiority of love. To me, seriousness is a sickness. It is good that that man had to go; otherwise you would have been sitting here the whole day. Because you go against the ideology, guilt arises and you are ashamed. Unless this master becomes crystal clear in you, crystallized, you don't have any soul. We inherit their ways of seeing and interacting; we inherit their beliefs, habits, and even their coping strategies. They have become almost one energy. Usually you will have clear answers as a result of this process. UNDERSTANDING THE ROOTS OF JEALOUSY What makes you jealous? What about repetition? The first step is to drop all rationalizations and all sentimentalities. So the first thing is that nothing that is experienced as a fact has to be denied reality. When you are feeling angry, it is not something partial. All you need to begin this transformation is your conscious Self, a desire to dig deep, and an understanding that change is not easy and the road ahead will sometimes be rough. How were they different in their intensity? And the struggle for freedom, for bliss, for truth is not with the world; it is a fight with this puppet mind. You cannot accept it, and you cannot destroy it by rejecting it. They really like what they are doing and are totally into doing it. What made this possible was Jerry's openness to these coincidences. For example, people can often get bored if they have to do the same things every day or if a series of events with the same crowd feature the same activities. By reminding yourself that every experience has a positive potential and knowing that you can take some time later to realize these positive possibilities, you can help release your emotional upset and anger.Just as negative emotions can be a barrier to getting what you want, so can negative thinking, such as when your inner critical judge puts you down with thoughts of, I'm not good enough to get it. He said, This is help? Now there is no avoiding it. Some people make a regular practice of writing down their ideas and experiences daily. And you are going to have a great surprise. In both cases, it remains lukewarm. A certain situation is pressing the remote control and you feel sad, you feel angry, you feel frustrated, you feel worried, you feel tense—all these things are coming from the outside and the mind is responding to them. However you want to do it, see these fears disappearing. For the first time in many years you have felt feelings; hence the problem. As you proceed, continue to remind yourself that you can achieve your goal because you have all the qualities and abilities you need (or know where to find them). This color will remain with you and whenever you want to be more outgoing and dynamic, think of this color. The mind was a barrier, so your awareness was never bridged with your body. Mulla said, No problem, I will do what is technically right; I will stop the ship and lower the anchor. Then life starts from ABC again. We are not merely expressions of coding but products of remarkable arrays of interactions that are both within and outside of our control. Be receptive and see what comes to you. You barely have to think consciously about doing any of these things because you've done them so frequently that your mind is on autopilot. Often the situation shapes the role we play—we step into different costumes to take on different roles.But what about with new people and new situations? That's what happened for Nancy, a dental assistant who felt bored and unfulfilled. Wait till life comes and knocks at your door. Practice shifting your focus from one place to another—to the external world, to the middle between worlds, and to the internal world. Notice your breath going in and out, in and out. I am threatened because they are not attuned to my needs. The process is a bit like building the foundation of a house and solidifying the structure.