Tuesday 3 November 2020

Basing Decisions on Abstract Versus Concrete Ideas

Its color is indigo, and it represents our ability to see the big picture and make sound decisions. You decide to tell the kids a semi-embarrassing story of one of your childhood faux pas and hope it will help Corey loosen up and enjoy the evening. You start by setting the scene, including your perspective at the time. I remember the first time I had dinner with my best friend, Sam. We were super close friends, but she had three big brothers who seemed like giants to me, plus two dogs. I was an only child, so her house seemed loud and crazy. One day I went over there for dinner. I was trying not to be scared of the dogs and the brothers and Sam's very friendly but very loud dad. I tried to just focus on eating my burger. The next thing I knew, one of the dogs jumped up at me and gave me such a fright that I knocked over my glass of water. It spilled right into her dad's lap! And a follow-up study found that the children whose mothers had received training were still benefiting from it when the children were age three (van den Boom, 1995). The Enduring Influence of Attachment: Adult Romantic Relationships So what does attachment during childhood have to do with adult romantic relationships? The nature of this initial love relationship influences the close relationships individuals have over the course of their lives, including adult love relationships. Just as attachment to the parents is central to a child's psychological security, attachment to the romantic partner is central to psychological security for most adults (eg, Mikulincer, 2006; Simpson, Rholes, & Nelligan, 1992). Attachment theorists explain that childhood experiences result in working models of relationships--that is, global feelings about the nature and worth of close relationships and other people's trustworthiness and ability to provide warmth and security (Baldwin et al. Collins & Read, 1994; Pietromonaco & Barrett, 2000). These working models of relationships, which originate early in life, become our style of attachment in adult relationships.

They are stable patterns in the way we think about and behave in our adult relationships (Hazan & Shaver, 1987; When this chakra is not balanced, you easily feel stressed, and your judgment is often clouded. You also have a hard time organizing your thoughts or making a practical decision. This chakra is associated with different crystals and precious stones such as purple amethyst, tanzanite, danburite, satyaloka quartz, herderite, scolecite, petalite, and phenacite. Crown Chakra (Sahasrara) This chakra is located at the top of your head. It represents your spirituality, and it allows you to experience pure bliss. It represents universal wisdom, inner peace, clarity, unity, and enlightenment. Its color is purple, and its governing element is ether or space. When this chakra is balanced, you have the ability to understand things in a much wider context. You feel that you are always in the right place at just the right time. He was completely soaked. I started to cry. I was embarrassed and so afraid that I'd never be able to play with Sam again. But her dad just laughed and said, `Hey, don't worry. In a crazy house like this, accidents happen all the time! Sam's dad was so sweet and kind. Even though I made a complete fool of myself, it was almost like nothing had happened. He just laughed about it, and we carried on joking about it for a long time after that. So, Corey, I'm pretty sure you're not going to spill water over the table.

But even if you did, it wouldn't matter. Shaver & Hazan, 1993). Working models of relationships Global feelings about the nature and worth of close relationships and other people's trustworthiness. Cindy Hazan and Phil Shaver (1987) conducted the first studies providing evidence that these attachment styles relate to adult romantic relationships. They recruited community participants of various ages in their first study and college students in their second study. They created three descriptions of how people think and feel about getting close to others that corresponded to the secure, anxious-ambivalent, and avoidant attachment styles established by Ainsworth. These are depicted in FIGURE 15. Take a look and, as the participants did in the study, pick which of the three best characterizes how you relate to other people. Hazan and Shaver hypothesized that if attachment theory applies to adult relationships, the percentages of people who picked one of the three different paragraphs should be similar to the percentages that Ainsworth and colleagues found with very young children. And indeed it was: Across the two studies, roughly 56% reported the secure style, 20% the anxious-ambivalent style, and 24% the avoidant style. You'll also feel empowered and joyful. If this chakra is not balanced, you can experience a number of psychological and physical issues such as depression, confusion, mental disconnection, schizophrenia, epilepsy, light sensitivity, headaches, and neurological disorders. Crown chakra imbalance also causes you to become selfish, greedy, materialistic, and domineering. So, if you're too bossy or you find joy in shopping at high-end department stores, you may have an unbalanced crown chakra. This chakra is associated with a number of crystals such as rainbow quartz, amethyst, black merlinite, beta quartz, hyalite opal, nirvana quartz, clear quartz, howlite, rutilated quartz, and sugilite. The root chakra, solar plexus chakra, sacral chakra, heart chakra, throat chakra, third eye chakra, and the crown chakra are the seven major chakras. Some chakra systems actually have 12 chakras, which include the earth star chakra, navel chakra, causal chakra, soul star chakra, and stellar gateway. The eighth chakra is called the soul star chakra. This chakra cleanses and heals your lower body.

It is located around eighteen inches above the crown chakra. You're sitting next to Mike, not me, so if you do spill anything, he's the one who will have to change! By the time you get to the end of your story, Corey is smiling and laughing as he pictures you scared out of your wits and Sam's dad soaking wet. Corey manages to eat half of his spaghetti, and the two boys run off and play. Before Corey leaves, you tell him, You're very welcome here. Come over whenever you feel like it. I'm so proud Mike has a friend like you. Brush up on your conversation game by thinking up a few short stories, such as moments you tried something for the first time or times you experienced an epic fail. Used judiciously, these stories can be great for putting people at ease and helping you come across as an amusing and interesting conversationalist. Remember Who You're Talking to--Names Are Important It's nice when you remember the name of someone you just met at a social event, although it's not always easy to do so. Subsequent studies have found similar frequencies of these attachment styles (Mickelson et al. Attachment Style Questionnaire Hazan and Shaver developed these descriptions to capture three basic attachment styles. Which one best fits your view of close relationships? The questionnaire shown on the article contains a set of three questions. First question labeled as (A) reads out I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being. Second question labeled as (B) reads out I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me.

I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me. This chakra is known as the seat of the soul. This chakra governs your life purpose. Earth Chakra The earth chakra is the ninth chakra. It is located one foot below the ground. This chakra keeps you connected to the earth. It is the center of a powerful force called Kundalini. Solar Chakra This is the tenth chakra. This chakra attaches you to the angels that dwell in the sun. You're at a fundraising mixer for the parents of your kid's soccer team. Your daughter is new to the team, so you don't know many of the parents. As you mingle with the group, you wonder how you're going to keep so many names straight. There's Doug, and Janelle, and Mark, or is it Martin? Uh-oh, you're already forgetting some of the names. At that moment Doug (or is it Dave? You smile and nod thanks without using his name. You're concerned because you know some people can be offended if you get their name wrong, and you don't want to ruffle any feathers or appear careless. Then you recall that using someone's name as much as you can in the first few seconds can help keep it top of mind, and that making associations can also help.

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