Our Observations Come from Our Own Unique and Limited Perspective

You could view it as if some friend or family member had the problem and you're advising them. You can also zoom out and see the problem and your situation as only one small part of the massive world around us all. Unless your problem is a large meteor headed straight for us, or an impending nuclear launch, it's unlikely to be any more than a ripple in the ocean that is Earth. Seeing that your problem isn't so bad makes it more manageable, while looking in from the outside removes your emotional reactions and responses, neither of which have any place in a disciplined approach. Speaking of visualization, it's an effective technique for problem solving as well. Again there's a focus on our outlook and reaction here. You don't have to have an exact solution, you just need to visualize that you CAN and WILL solve the problem in front of you. Problem solving should be part of your self-image, too, because it helps the visualization to become more powerful. Scripture also speaks of justified anger. An example is found in the life of the Lord Jesus: And He glanced around at them with vexation and anger, grieved at the hardening of their hearts, and said to the man, Hold out your hand. He held it out, and his hand was [completely] restored (Mark 3:5, AMP). In Ephesians 4:26, the apostle Paul speaks of two kinds of anger and how to deal with both: When angry, do not sin; In the phrase when angry, do not sin, Paul is describing the kind of anger that is an abiding, settled attitude against sin and sinful things. You are aware that you are angry and you're in control of your anger. In this verse, God is actually instructing us to be angry about the right thing! Anger is an emotion created by God; Cultures invariably teach people that they are obligated to help close relatives, so we don't know how much of the preference for helping close kin is innate and how much is culturally learned. In addition, many examples of human helping cannot be explained by kin selection.

These include devoted parents who raise adopted children; Sociability, Attachment, and Helping Why do people like Joe Delaney (see Social Psych Out in the World) help when it clearly doesn't serve their interests to do so? One answer is that our evolutionary history likely selected for not just a tendency to help close kin but also a general proclivity to be helpful. This inherited propensity can lead to behaviors that sometimes prevent the transmission of an individual's genes, even though on average, across people and situations, they may have adaptive value. As we noted in article 2, our hominid ancestors lived in small groups in which members were successful by caring about others: emotionally attaching to them, caring for and cooperating with them, fitting in with the group, trying to be liked and to live up to internalized morals. These bonds with others connect to the innate capacity humans have for emotions such as sympathy, empathy, compassion, and guilt. These emotions are the bases for the human propensity to engage in prosocial behavior. Regularly practice visualizing problems and working your way through them. Visualize how you will stop at nothing and keep a disciplined, high output to get through life. See yourself achieving your goals and succeeding. By visualizing all of this vividly, you will build your own confidence and belief in your problem solving ability. You can also couple all of this with positive affirmations to make them even more powerful. I find that listening to positivity podcasts and videos helps a lot with the affirmation side. It's a little bit like being surrounded by positive people all day - for me, it's the next best thing to having Tony Robbins, Jocko Willink, or Gary Vaynerchuck as my own personal friends and mentors. I use videos daily as a way of surrounding myself with positive affirmations and belief. It helps to keep my discipline at an extremely high level, and I don't even need to take time out of my day for it. I listen to my affirmations and podcasts in the car, while doing chores, and even in the shower/bath. He created us as emotional beings. The phrase do not sin is a check against going too far.

The kind of anger that is justified because it is against sin and sinful things and fully under your control is the kind of anger that has God's approval. Scripture counsels us never to take irritation or embitterment to bed. If we do we are sure to lose sleep (not to mention peace, friends and even our health). In the phrase do not ever let your wrath . Here he links anger to irritation, exasperation and embitterment. As Ephesians 4:31 and Colossians 3:8 instruct us to do, we are supposed to put this kind of anger away. If we do get angry in this negative sense, we should deal with it quickly--before sundown. Scripture counsels us never to take irritation or embitterment to bed. We help because we care. SOCIAL PSYCH OUT WORLD A Real Football Hero During the 1980s, Joe Delaney was a star running back, jersey no. Many thought he was on his way to a Hall of Fame career. In 1983, he was the best young running back in the American Football Conference. He was also happily married, with three young daughters. However, his bright future was cut tragically short by his own heroic actions (Chiefs Kingdom, 2013; Reilly, 2003). On a hot and sunny afternoon in 1983, Joe Delaney was relaxing at a park in Monroe, Louisiana. I have in-depth guides for mindfulness and meditation available to you already. Those guides are much more informative and comprehensive than anything I could list here, so if you want to know more, check those out.

It's been quite a journey through this article so far and if you're still here, then congratulations on sticking with it. You have walked a few more steps along the long path of discipline. In that time, we've explored the makings of discipline, how it works, and how you can adapt it. Those lessons start in changing your core and your self-beliefs, just as I did many years ago. Creating a new identity in your mind of the person you want to be and enforcing it through small decisions. For me, it started with morning routines during university and moved on from there. I learned to chunk assignments, to grind out hard days with a lower output (but never zero) if needed, and to create plans for my days. Since then, I've began to strategize my life, control thoughts and emotions, and to aid my development by living a healthier lifestyle - one that includes good diet, exercise, relaxation, and socializing. If we do we are sure to lose sleep (not to mention peace, friends and even our health). WHAT DO YOU THINK? Using the biblical descriptions of anger, describe the kind of anger you usually experience. How do you express anger? Describe the kind of anger your spouse usually seems to experience. How does your spouse usually express this anger? What can a person do to become slow to anger? Describe how a person can be angry and not sin. As we see from the verses we've read, not all anger is wrong. Write down some of the verses--especially from the article of Proverbs--on some 3x5 cards and keep them with you. After hearing cries for help from a nearby pond, he bounded into action. Three young boys had waded into the pond to cool off in the hot Louisiana sun.

The boys included two brothers, Harry and LeMarkits Holland, and their cousin Lancer Perkins, all aged 10 or 11. None of them knew how to swim, but they had unexpectedly stepped into deep water and were struggling to stay above the surface. Joe did not stop to consider if someone else should be attempting this rescue. Although he knew that his own swimming skills were weak, Joe felt an immediate obligation to try to save these children. He managed to grab LeMarkits just as water began to enter the boy's lungs, saving his life. But his attempt to save the other two failed, and the boys and Joe drowned. The park was crowded that day with people enjoying the summer afternoon, but only this man, celebrated for his speed and agility, rushed into action. In a documentary on the event, Deron Cherry, Delaney's teammate, described Joe's heroic actions that day, You ask yourself, what would you do in that situation? Pushing outside of the comfort zone in different areas of life has helped as well - and you can benefit a lot from pushing your boundaries in general too. Remember that life can be what you want it to, if you are really willing to live the lifestyle that goes with it. I mean the real lifestyle, not the Hollywood make-believe where rich people get to lie around all day and boss people around. As Jordan Peterson says, the top of the pile is a tough spot to be - everyone looks to you for the answer and solution. For most of us, we want a moderate amount of success, enough to enjoy life. It's about the lifestyle that will make you happy, and most people don't actually want to be Elon Musk and still working those kinds of hours. Most people want to enjoy the perks way before that time, and that's perfectly okay - I know I'd be happy some distance before the billion dollar mark. Once you have decided what you really, really want (and are willing to put the work in for), then you adapt that persona. Believe in your ability to get there, and back it up with effort. Hold yourself to those new standards and create that identity, ingrain it into yourself, piece by piece. Read them aloud several times a day for a month. By that time the verses will be committed to memory.