Personal Development as an Innovation Project

If it does, break it down again. Start by making your bed, or even just opening the curtains. The important thing is that you get started, because even a tiny step creates a little bit of positive momentum. If you look around and try to do every little task (five minutes or less) that you can find, then you're going to notice tasks getting knocked off pretty quickly anyway. The momentum will make you feel better, too, so it's easier to move on to the next chunk. These little chunks eventually take care of your bedroom, so then you take another room and break that one down as well until it's done. You end up sorting the entire house room by room, all without the pressure of completing the task playing any part. Time, Intensity, and Action When they share their day with you, they aren't just downloading a list of data; Ask questions that draw them out. F's must remember that T's simply cannot fulfill all their social or relational needs. Don't interpret his cool reserve as personal rejection but as a personality trait. What may hurt you probably wasn't intended to hurt you. You may need to guide a T, in a positive manner, in new ways to express things to you. But that's what relationships are all about--growth. Remember that both of you are a mixture of T and F. One trait is dominant in each of you, so both of you may need to work on nurturing (I used a feeling word because I'm an F) your less dominant preference. By the way, when you pray for your partner, do you thank God for the fact that he or she is either a T or an F? A minor slight or insult that a sober person would likely ignore or deflect is more likely to provoke aggression in a drunk person. In addition, this cognitive impairment makes it less likely that drunk people will consider the consequences of their actions (Steele & Josephs, 1990;

Taylor & Leonard, 1983). Neuroscience research further shows that patterns of electrical activity in the brains of intoxicated people indicate that they are less distressed than sober participants by the mistakes they make (Bartholow et al. All these factors highlight alcohol's tendency to reduce the self-regulatory controls with which we ordinarily inhibit aggressive impulses. A second reason that alcohol increases aggression is that we expect alcohol use to lead to aggression. Participants who drank a placebo beverage that they believed contained alcohol (but actually did not) showed increased behavioral signs of aggression compared with those who knew they were not drinking alcohol (Rohsenow & Bachorowski, 1984). In fact, simply exposing participants to alcohol-related pictures (eg, a beer bottle or martini glass) or even subliminal flashes of alcohol-related words on a computer screen leads participants to interpret a person's behavior as more aggressive, and leads to more hostile evaluations of another person when frustrated (Bartholow & Heinz, 2006; Friedman et al. These effects tend to be stronger the more strongly people believe that alcohol use causes aggression. Speaking of five minutes or less, this is another cool trick that helps you stay disciplined and productive. Planners and schedules are great tools for helping to shape the life you want, but if you overuse them, they can be counter-productive. Nobody should need to put take out the trash or brush your teeth on the list. These are all normal tasks; Absolutely anything which only takes around five minutes or less should be done immediately. These are the little jobs that can affect your mental and emotional state if you let them pile up. Get them knocked out immediately instead, and you'll feel less stressed, plus it builds the habits of immediate action and discipline, creating the self-image of a doer. Speaking of immediate action, that's the name of our next tip. Breaking down the big jobs into chunks is a great trick for boosting or maintaining your mental state because the job doesn't seem as long or difficult. It's easier to get started by using this approach, and getting started is the most important step. And speaking of prayer, when a T prays, he or she will probably reflect on the attributes of God. For them Bible study is a time to study the doctrinal and ethical truths of their faith.

A feeler spends more time with his or her heavenly friend. For a feeler, knowing about God is all right, but knowing God personally is so much better. In a Bible study, feelers want to be moved emotionally. WHAT DO YOU THINK? Describe how your preference is demonstrated in the expression of your faith, your prayer life and your worship style. How Do You Approach Life? There is one last set of preferences in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator--Judging (J) and Perceiving (P). Let's consider this set of preferences through a scenario that typifies each viewpoint. Although the bulk of the experimental research has focused on the effects of aggression on perpetrators, some research suggests that victims of violent crimes are also more likely to be drunk (eg, Chermack & Giancola, 1997). One explanation for the latter finding is suggested by research showing that when people have consumed alcohol, they become less able to read the emotions on the face of another person and other social cues (Steele & Josephs, 1990; Taylor & Leonard, 1983), a phenomenon Steele and Josephs refer to as alcohol myopia. So in a bar or at a party, a drunk person may, because of alcohol's disinhibiting effects, become increasingly annoying to another person, but because of their insensitivity to facial and social cues, they are insufficiently aware of how much they are angering that person. Consequently, alcohol consumption not only makes a person a more likely perpetrator of violence, but also a more likely victim of it. Worth keeping in mind! SECTION REVIEW The Roles of Alcohol and Other Drugs in Aggression Altered states can contribute to aggression. Drugs contribute to aggression because: Illegal business activities are often regulated through violence. Back when I was studying at university, I would sometimes struggle with the big assignments. Having to come up with a 10- or 20-thousand word essay?

I've never met anybody who looked forward to this kind of task. Even breaking it down into chunks can still be a bit intimidating, because whether it's five thousand or one thousand words, it still feels like a lot. Plus in this type of situation, chunking is a little less helpful. If each chunk is basically doing the same thing again, then it still seems like a tough task to start. Writing 1,000 words can feel tough. Imagine writing them while knowing that you'll have to repeat the process 10 or 20 more times. Here's where immediate action has its best impact. With immediate action, you don't even worry about the chunks or the end. You're out to dinner at a restaurant and there's a couple sitting next to you. The waiter comes up to take the order and the wife says, I'll have the rib-eye cut, medium rare, baked potato with butter only and the salad with dressing on the side. The waiter asks, What kind of dressing? We have French, blue cheese, honey mustard, Italian and ranch. She replies, Ranch. The waiter turns to the man, and the man asks several questions. He wants to know the differences among several of the steaks and which is the most popular. After all this, he seems to have enough information to select a meal. He orders fish. Then he asks what salad dressings are available (even though the waiter already listed them when the wife ordered). Drugs can increase arousal and create a sense of paranoia. The most commonly used drug is alcohol, and research supports its causal role in aggression because:

It impairs higher-order thinking. We expect it to lead to aggression. It impedes a potential victim's ability to read social cues. Violence Against Women Learning Outcomes Differentiate the three types of domestic violence offenders. Identify characteristics of men who engage in sexual coercion. Explain false beliefs that contribute to sexual coercion. You literally just focus on making a start. Got 20,000 words to do? Great, just make a start; By the time you get started and do 100 words, you probably need to do more just to finish your paragraph or the point you're explaining. This can easily take you to a few hundred words, or even a thousand. Eventually this first burst will start to fade away, and your point will be made. Know what to do now? Start on the second point. Just start, that's all. Sometimes you will start and fade away before too long, leaving a point half made - but hey, at least you've got maybe a couple thousand words more than nothing, right? Just as the waiter starts to walk away, the man changes his mind and orders a steak. Have you been around a couple like this?