Sunday, 23 August 2020

I bought the dream and I had to play along

Having worked with thousands of individuals over the years, I have found that my protocols, which call for regular exercise along with a healthy diet, can perform wonders in promoting weight loss. And exercise, like good eating, pays off not only in reinvigorated health but in the joy found in the moments of working out or eating delicious food. Case Study--Natalie Having summarized the healing strategies I believe are de rigueur for weight loss, I think this might be a good place to look at an actual case, that of a woman who I saw go from poor health and obsessive behavior to a state of renewed vigor and well being. She was not grossly overweight but had various fixations and phobias about food that made for a very unhealthy life. That I should skip lunch if I want to lose weight. No, usually by mid afternoon I'm ravenous and I end up eating twice as much, and besides, by 3 pm my head is thumping and I can't concentrate on my work. Saying no made simple When someone makes you an offer or asks something of you, it's always OK to ask for time to think about it. You don't have to agree to Sunday lunch straight away. When you say no make it assertive, look the person in the eyes. If you want to explain, keep it short and make it simple; I've had lunch already' works better than the over-apologetic `Oh sorry, it looks really nice and I would but do you mind if I don't because I feel a bit full at the moment' or an aggressive `Don't be ridiculous, there's no way I'm eating that, I had lunch half an hour ago. Start the sentence with the word `no', it's easier to stick with it if it's the first thing you say. Keep repeating your assertive, clear, polite `No, thank you' until they get it. I went to an all-girls school where we learned to cook and sew, she said. I didn't know who the Beatles were and thought hamburgers were made of ham. At sixteen, she had to sign a document promising not to take the SAT. At eighteen, Fraidy was put into the marriage pool. With parents who were separated and poor, she was not considered a good match.

She started going on arranged dates on which the intendeds were not allowed to be alone or make physical contact. You'd sit across from each other, order Coca-Cola, and talk about how many kids you'd like to have, she said. Then you'd go home and have to decide whether to spend the rest of your lives together. When her first match confessed he'd tried marijuana, Fraidy turned him down. Her next match was a chain-smoker who had dozens of violations for reckless driving. I asked citing the regional newspapers of our neighboring cities. They tend to lean toward a localized or regional worldview. Wealthy women know that that knowledge of the international landscape has many benefits including the ability to network and communicate with a wider breath of colleagues and access to the information necessary to make informed investment decisions. Even if I do not travel out of the country or have any money to invest? Remember that the activities I am sharing with you are strategies that will allow you to build the behaviors of an upper/professional class individual. In the future, you will be evaluating investment strategies and the global market. Because you already have learned that in order to build wealth you need to create or invest in additional revenue streams that will supplement your working income. Start the habit of reading about international issues today and in the future you will have a strong foundation of knowledge that will only strengthen your investment decisions. Speaking of investments, how are you doing meeting your goal of saving ten percent? Laughter turned quickly to frustration as Elizabeth and I had our first heated argument. These steps are essentially a map or a guide that takes you from where you are to your ultimate destination. It follows a very logical and methodical sequence: One step after another. Disciple: I have been taught dhyana before in a `yoga workshop', and if I am honest, I am not sure of what I was doing. I felt like I was not as spiritual as others because I could not meditate or get in the zone. Is this why dhyana is so hard - because I have skipped so many proceeding steps?

Simply put, the answer is yes. Most teachers nowadays teach the meditation of the West, yet many also believe that they are teaching Patanjali's meditation. Teaching a Western form of meditation is probably harmless but teaching meditation under the yogic umbrella only shows their own ignorance. I mean we are all definitely ignorant in our own ways, but these meditators are the most uninformed of us all My wife once showed me a video of Sadhguru in India talking about why Westerners often fail in meditation. POSTMODERN THINKING: DECONSTRUCTING THE SELF Postmodernism is hard to define and can be difficult to understand. First, if we are all postmodernists now, what it is, exactly, becomes hard to discern. Second, some technical aspects of postmodernism--such as deconstructing narratives and meta-narratives--are complex and hard to follow, just as many of the movement's most important thinkers and writers, including Derrida, Eco, Foucault, Rorty, Lyotard, and Lacan, can be very intellectually demanding. Finally, postmodernism covers so much intellectual territory overall--from literary criticism and philosophy to architecture, painting, and other artistic movements--that it can be hard to see the big picture (or even become aware of all the parts). Nonetheless, here is a very brief overview. If modernism is in part founded upon the assumption of the autonomous individual as the sole source of meaning and truth, then postmodernism is in part founded on a rejection of the autonomous individual with an emphasis upon anarchic, collective, anonymous experience. An informative overview law review article--The Multiple Self: Exploring between and beyond Modernity and Postmodernity--provides a great deal of background detail in philosophy and Buddhist theory. It notes that members of and advocates for oppressed groups--including women, nonwhites, and those in the LBGTQ community--have made broad use of postmodern theory to help explain, ground, and legitimize their rights and perspectives. For example, the author writes, Contemporary feminist theorists have made a significant contribution to the rejection of the modern unitary self by asserting that if such a separate and autonomous self exists, it is certainly not the female self. Just listen to it . Superficially it sounds authentic, doesn't it? But you'll soon come to notice how it's never quite free, that there's always something ulterior mixed in, a little hook punctuating some raw, malicious urge . I am not laughing. I'm the butt of some joke she is making with the guide - a local in his early fifties whom we are to call `Kid' for some reason (a young moutain goat?

But he's old, bloated-looking, hamsterish more than caprine) whose comprehension appears limited though he talks fluently in this irresistible mix of Japanese-English, his two main tourist constituencies. She's been like this for the last hour: light-headed, giggling incontinently, then stopping suddenly. She appears totally unconcerned by how far we still have to go if we are to make the tea house before nightfall. I know different. And she's off again, triggering Kid like an ecclesial call and response, their guffawing arpeggios climbing high above the steepling valley wall. Look into the mirror and study the lines that may be there. Did they come from happy or sad times? Have you had long exposures to the elements, or are you not getting out as much as you'd like? Do you have any scars or replaced parts that you've picked up along the way? Let's take an accounting of our lives today and journal the years that impacted us the most. Run down the timeline and write the years or eras that had significance. You can go from present day backward and then start from birth and forward again. This way you can recall more items and layer the nuances in. Keep it to the big stuff, the dings and dents you'd see in the rings of a 100-year-old tree. Now let's think about how you're living your life presently. In addition, individual personality traits of conscientiousness, optimism, and adaptability to changing conditions were evident in top performers. However, this brings us to the chicken-or-egg problem of which came first, a strong, striving personality (as Carroll described it) or early success in sports that built their self-confidence over time. Hardy and Rees leave that issue on the table for the next batch of studies: Key questions for future research include examining the causes of exceptional levels of motivation, resilience and mental toughness, including assessing whether and how psychological skills at junior level influence long-term adult elite/super-elite performance. I Think I Can, I Think I Can To execute the Just do it mantra of grit, an athlete needs to believe that change is possible and achievement is not predetermined.

That optimistic attitude has been given another sound bite-ready label, a growth mindset. As with grit, the commonsense allure of a growth mindset, as opposed to a fixed mindset, reinforces the life advice that hard work toward a goal will eventually be rewarded. Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University, is widely credited for her research on mindsets as an answer to the question, Where does ability come from? As she explained in a sporting context for TeamUSA's Olympic Coach magazine, Those with a fixed mindset believe that their talents and abilities are simply fixed. In this mindset, athletes may become so concerned with being and looking talented that they never fulfill their potential. Natalie (not her real name), a long-time employee at my health food stores and restaurants and also a dancer, is now a forty-five-year-old tall brunette. Looking at her--she exudes a healthy glow--you wouldn't realize what a hard struggle she fought to achieve her current plateau of health and liveliness. Growing up, Natalie was very sensitive to the risks of developing an illness since there was a lot of sickness in her family. Her father had battled cancer throughout Natalie's youth, and her mother was bipolar and an obsessive compulsive. Although she was neither a full-blown obsessive compulsive person nor an anorexic, she did become fixated on staying in shape, exercising constantly, doing hundreds of crunches several times a day. She also cut her calories intake way down, drinking coffee as one way to repress her appetite. She was afraid to eat too much because, occasionally, she would lose control and binge. Such behavior arose from overindulgence in her childhood. She recalls, My mother, on her good days, would carefully craft thick loaves of ten-grain bread from my grandmother's recipe. They were irresistible to me. It takes practice, so start with some easy nos. Play a game. Choose a day when you will say yes and no truthfully, all day. Remind yourself that saying no to others means saying yes to yourself. REALITY CHECK

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