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Instead, she argues for considerably more flexibility in what makes for an emotion. Posing an assumption-shaking challenge to the field we share, Barrett contends that your brain comes preset only with the capacity to represent what she calls core affect, the more amorphous pleasure or displeasure of your bodily states, along with some degree of arousal.What makes for a specific experience of anger, fear, or joy, then, is your ability to weave together your appreciation of your body's current state of pleasure or displeasure with your conceptual understanding of what's happening to you in that very moment. In other words, higher-order mental processes--like memory, learning, knowledge, and language--are the more basic ingredients of mind that combine together with core affect to create the various recipes for states like anger, fear, or joy. Although aspects of Barrett and colleagues' constructionist view of emotions can be traced back to earlier scientists, theirs is the first to be backed by modern neuroscientific evidence. What does this mean for love? What does it mean for you? For millennia, your ancestors felt energized by markedly good feelings when they interacted and connected with others. Those were the moments that made them feel part of something much larger than themselves, more energized, alert, and alive than they felt in other, more ordinary moments. Piecing together the commonalities across the many and varied situations that gave rise to such powerfully energizing good feelings led your ancestors to come up with words, rituals--and indeed whole religions--fashioned to represent and cultivate those longed-for feelings, in themselves and in others. Having such words and rituals makes a big difference. I know God is my real Employer and I am working for Him. The real Self of me is God and cannot be hurt, vitiated, or thwarted. I realize I am the one who has hurt myself the most by my self-criticism, self-condemnation, and self-denigration. I send kindness, love, and joy to all people; Three weeks transpired; How a Beneficial Philosophical Attitude toward People Was Developed I had an interesting conversation with a Japanese businessman in Hawaii, who philosophized along these lines: I have been in business 50 years and have traveled extensively. I have learned that people are basically good and honest. I take people as they come.

Distance healing was common in the old days as well. When a patient was too sick to make the trip to see the healer, friends and relatives went instead to ask for help for the sick person. They often brought a few hairs, nail clippings or similar things with them, so that the healing work could be specifically tailored to the patient. Nowadays people primarily use photos. Of course, all this carried with it the sensitive question of what to do if people request help on behalf of a sick person who is unaware of the request? What to do with a worried mother, for instance, who would like her daughter to be worked on even though the daughter is against alternative healing methods and would consider her mother's endeavor laughable hocus pocus? Or what to do when someone cannot communicate due to health reasons and cannot answer questions? There are several different approaches to this. Some healers flat out refuse to work with cases like these while others have no problems with it and are happy to help. In the old days people were of the opinion that if the illness is bad, it needs to go. Research coming out of Barrett's lab and other labs, including my own, demonstrates that even the particulars of people's bodily experiences hinge on the labels and ideas each person holds about emotions. For instance, inspired by Barrett's work, Lindsay Kennedy and Bethany Kok, working in my PEP Lab, were drawn to test whether the bodily effects of anger depend on whether the person experiencing it believes anger to be an emotion, as is typically the case, or whether he or she is led to believe that anger is not an emotion, but instead an instinctual response to an imbalance of resources. Fitting with Barrett's view, people's understandings of the unpleasant state that they were just then experiencing shaped their bodily response: Those who took anger to be an emotion showed the typical jumps in heart rate and blood pressure, whereas those for whom the idea that anger is an emotion was debunked had an appreciably more muted cardiovascular response. This means that the mere act of reading this article may well have added a new and powerful emotion to your repertoire of interpersonal experiences. How you come to think about love actually stands to reshape the way your body experiences it. A global poll, released on Valentine's Day, 2012, revealed that most married people, or those similarly coupled, identify their significant other as their most important source of happiness. Likewise, nearly half of all single people say they yearn to find their own happiness by finding their own special person to love. While these numbers certainly varied culture by culture, they strike me as a worldwide collapse of imagination. Thinking of love purely as the romance or commitment that you share with one special person--as it appears most on earth do--surely limits the health and happiness you derive from micro-moments of positivity resonance. Put differently, your beliefs about what love is become self-fulfilling prophecies.

They are all different: they have had different training and conditioning; I know complaining about people and getting angry with customers won't change them. I don't let them disturb me; I refuse to let anybody get under my skin. I bless them all and walk on. How collections of unpaid bills were made He showed me a list of ten customers who owed him considerable sums of money and who had ignored his several bills. He said, I have been praying for each one, morning and night, realizing God is prospering them in all ways and that God guides, directs, and multiplies their good. I pray that each pays his bills gladly and that they are honest, sincere, and blessed in all ways. I started a month ago doing this; Today we tend to start ruminating on whether or not the illness could possibly serve as a warning to the patient and may help them change his or her behavior (I am not speaking of karma or what most people understand it to be, or of guilt, but of instances where people may have an epiphany). If we begin working with it and thus shorten the illness, we may deprive the individual of an important process of realization. As I wrote about in my article Magie Leben (Living Magic), I do believe that we can work for this patient; Figuratively speaking, this is like creating an energy depot for someone while letting the subconscious of the person decide if and how it will accept the energy. You will need a connection to the affected person in order to do distance healing. It can be a name or a birthday, but also hair, nails, worn clothing, writing samples and many other things are imaginable. A photo is ideal, of course. One depicting the whole body is best. The affected area should be on the photo. If someone has back problems, for example, it is recommended that the photo shows the person from behind.

If, for instance, you think love can in fact also bloom between you and the utter stranger with whom you connect for only a few minutes at the airport, then it more readily can. If, by contrast, you think love can bloom only between you and a special, predesignated one, then you've severely limited the prospects for yourself and that kindly person at the airport. Think of the old-school view of love as pouring a thick layer of cement over a garden that has been planted with a thousand flower bulbs. Although any single flower might still push its way through cracks in the cement and bloom nevertheless, the odds are severely stacked against it. Yet by upgrading your view of love to recognize its full scope, you break up and remove this cement to let a thousand flowers bloom. Positivity resonance exists, whether you adopt a new view of love or not. It remains the ancient life-giving, soul-stretching state that your body craves. The difference you get with an upgrade is whether you are awake to the thousands of opportunities that surround you for fulfilling this craving. When you awaken to this new understanding of your heart's potential, a new and life-changing emotion is born within you. Do-It-Yourself Gene Expression? There are two to go, but I know they will pay, too. He discovered that when he changed his mental attitude toward the delinquent customers, they changed, also. The Key to Happy Relations Treat people with respect. Honor and salute the Divinity in the other. Radiate love and goodwill to all. Realize that nobody acts in a contentious, hostile, antagonistic, and surly manner who is well adjusted. Know there is a mental conflict somewhere. As the Kahuna says, There is something eating them inside. There is a psychic pain somewhere.

The person can be dressed in normal clothing, of course. What's important is simply that the person can be seen from head to toe and that the affected area is in the picture. I am ending this article with an old article theft blessing I found by accident during my research. Finding thieves and preventing theft was actually an additional job for many healers in the old days, as surprising as this may sound today (but not so surprising if we see that shamans do exactly the same things even in modern times). Theft was a widespread problem in the old days; The so-called theft blessing was supposed to prevent such pilfering. Healers were often active in warding off thieves as well. Precious as articles were in these days, they had to be especially secured. This article is loved beyond belief He who steals it is a thief. Also in the span of time that I've written this article, my research team and I have been making new discoveries about how your experiences of love may be either amplified or muffled by the expression of certain genes within your cells. As sketched back in article 3, we've already discovered that people with higher cardiac vagal tone somehow extract a larger and more immediate positive jolt out of their efforts to practice the style of mediation, LKM, that I've featured prominently in part II. Even more inspiring, we found that practicing LKM actually raises people's vagal tone such that positive feelings and higher vagal tone feed each other over time. In our most recent experiment, we obtained blood samples from study volunteers before they tried out meditation for the first time. By the flip of a coin, they tried either LKM or a different style of mediation, one that does not aim to cultivate loving feelings. Before and immediately after their assigned guided meditation, we asked them to rate the extent of their positive feelings. We then processed the blood samples in my collaborator Karen Grewen's lab at Carolina, and later shipped them to my newest collaborator, Steve Cole, the director of UCLA's Social Genomics Core Laboratory. Using sophisticated computational techniques, Cole analyzed each person's RNA to determine whether any differences in gene expression uniquely predicted whether people had especially positive reactions to LKM. A compelling pattern of differences emerged. While it's too soon to say exactly what this pattern of differences means, it is consistent with the more general hypothesis that my team has been testing: that certain biomarkers, like cardiac vagal tone, inflammation, gene expression patterns, and perhaps even body mass index, can either amplify or muffle the good feelings you get when you try to cultivate love.