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The dogfights were also tracked and recorded by radar. The students who attended the Top Gun academy were the next best fighter pilots in the navy after the trainers, and collectively they were known as the Blue Force. They flew U. Navy fighter jets, again without the missiles or bullets. Each day they would climb into their planes and take off to face the Red Force. In those combats the pilots were expected to push their planes--and themselves--right up to the edge of failure in order to learn what the planes were capable of and what was required to get that performance out of them. Some clients come with relationship issues with their partners -- break-ups, or when both the partners transitioning, or if only one partner transitioning, separation, coming out to family members, etc WHAT KIND OF HELP DO COUNSELLORS GET? Certainly, our work is taxing and complex. So there are certain mechanisms that we have evolved in the organisation over the years, and it's a constantly evolving process, to be honest. It can either be therapy or we have a list of activities that they can use that they think will help their mental health. This operates at various levels: one is that they have access to peer supervision where their senior colleagues are available to them, there is also one-to-one supervision where a person is appointed to help the person through any issues. These are just some efforts to make the environment more friendly for them. As an organisation, we like to believe that we are sensitive to people's needs and each of us is mindful of each other's mental health. The team will encourage frequent timeouts to make everyone feel less burdened . It is a question I can truly empathise with, as a mother myself. It's `all supply' or `no supply' rather than `both all and none'. Manic-depression is the effort to separate, to maintain an elementary differentiation in the place of a more confusing and more painful set of contradictions. And this is perhaps the real sense of bipolar: not the alternation of moods that much contemporary psychiatry is so eager to pathologize but the search for a primary bipolarity, a baseline splitting of traits. When researchers discuss where everyday mood alternations end and bipolarity begins, they miss this crucial point: that manic-depression is precisely about the effort to create extremes, to create a world of opposites.

There is thus no sense in trying to find bipolarity in mood swings unless that is what the person themself is trying to do. What appear to be extremes of behaviour in manic-depression are thus ways of purifying extremes: grey must be separated into black and white. As Terri Cheney says, `mania doesn't just give you the desire for extremes, it gives you the energy to pursue them'. Binaries must be kept distinct, and bipolarity is less a pendulum of moods than an effort to keep two poles apart. Cheney tells us that mania is more than a `disease': it is a way of thinking: `The world should be one way or another . If they weren't gods, they were villains . EMSN applies to all out-of-hospital Medicare services, but it considers the total out-of-pocket costs for all services. Once the EMSN threshold is met, Medicare pays for 80% of future out-of-pocket costs for the remainder of the calendar year. The 2019 EMSN thresholds were about $1,460 USD ($2,133 AUD) for individuals and families and $470 USD ($680 AUD) for specific classes of public benefits recipients, called concession cardholders--for example, pensioners. There are caps on EMSN benefits for certain services, including assisted reproductive therapy, obstetrics, and some surgeries. Recent work suggests that the EMSN program disproportionately benefits higher-income Australians. Physicians and private hospitals are mainly paid through a fee-for-service model, while public hospitals are paid through activity-based funding. In the public sector, value-based and capitated payments to providers are almost nonexistent. Some private health insurers have capitated contracts with private hospitals. The federal government, through Medicare, is the only payer for outpatient physician services. States, Medicare, and private insurance all pay for hospital care. Do some tests of your own. Observe old people. I'll bet you'll find that the ones who have no hobbies or interests look and act a lot older than the ones who do. OK, forget hobbies for a sec.

Think of a person with a defeatist, Been there, done that attitude and one with a zest for learning--old, young. Bottom line, you are either soaking up life or withering on the vine. I heard of a study where they took some old people and placed them in an environment that replicated typical surroundings when they were in their twenties--music, decor, and such--and not only did they start to act younger, they actually started regenerating new cells within their physical bodies where they weren't supposed to be able to. These old people were making twenty-year-olds' cells! What a difference an environment makes, huh? So, if you apply this type of thinking to your feng shui, especially to the Children and Creativity area, you can make a huge difference in how you age. They tried different tactics in different situations, learning how best to respond to what the other guys were doing. The pilots of the Red Force, being the best the navy had, generally won the dogfights. And the trainers' superiority only increased over time, because every few weeks a whole new class of students would enter the Top Gun academy, while the trainers stayed there month after month, accumulating more and more dogfight experience as time went on and getting to the point at which they had seen pretty much everything the students might throw at them. For each new class the first few days of dogfights, in particular, were usually brutal defeats for the Blue Force. That was okay, however, because the real action occurred once the pilots landed, in what the navy called after-action reports. During these sessions the trainers would grill the students relentlessly: What did you notice when you were up there? What actions did you take? Why did you choose to do that? What were your mistakes? What could you have done differently? As parents we unfortunately do not have a manual to guide us on how to handle the growing needs of our child at every stage -- to know at times if how they are behaving is normal or if how we are responding to it is adequate. We rely on our instincts, learning from our own parent's mistakes or when they got it right with us and from extended family members who readily bail out advice whether we ask for it or not. As our child grows, so do our concerns at different stages. I still remember the time when our son didn't walk even at 17 months;

This was very frightening for us to hear and we spent the next month getting him a walker and physiotherapy sessions. Our son did not budge at all and was happy crawling around exploring the world on his fours. And, one fine day he just got up and started walking. He is now a 10-year-old athletic child who is on the school football team, but who would have guessed that back then? While I am relieved that my son didn't have a gross motor delay, I do realise that it was helpful that we followed our instincts and reached out for help when we noticed the delay and provided him with the necessary support and intervention. Unfortunately, what is often seen with emotional difficulties, mental health issues or disabilities of varying kinds is the delay in seeking help -- a concern also shared by Dr Amit Sen in his earlier interview. We can see bipolarity here as a kind of solution. A patient described the onset of a manic episode after seeing a woman who resembled her mother on the tube reading a article entitled Angelic Spirits. This, for her, was a contradiction, since angels were good but she had always thought of her mother as a `spirit' when the latter was possessed with a malevolent force. The many binary pairs that emerged during the subsequent mania could be seen as ways to keep the two separate. Another patient described how, when hospitalized, she had `used symbols' to regain an equilibrium. Sunlight was bad, but the night's blackness was good. She had then used these terms to generate sets, so that all bad things were `symbolized' by sunlight and all good things by blackness. Now, as she stayed awake throughout the night, good and bad could be kept separate. She would try to sleep at exactly those points when the barriers between light and black were most fluid: at dusk and at sunrise. We could remember Spike Milligan and the Elfin Oak. Public Hospital Payments About 40% came from the Commonwealth, 51% from states and territories, and the rest from private insurers and individuals. Historically, Commonwealth payments to hospitals were based on fixed global budgets. The Australian government gave block grants to states, which in turn set capped budgets for hospital networks.

However, the system is in the process of transitioning to an activity-based funding system using DRGs. Public hospitals must provide free care to all Medicare patients, so payment to public hospitals occurs through governmental funding. The actual mechanism for funding hospitals is different in each state, and the process is being reformed because constrained hospital budgets generated significant waiting lists for elective procedures. As one researcher described the problem: Our public-sector waiting lists are caused because we have had prospectively capped funding of the public hospitals. If you get a fixed amount of money determined in advance, then you naturally end up with waiting lists. Find a few things that made your heart sing in the past and make a little space for them in the present. Whether it's big band music, Kool-Aid popsicles, or a jump rope, enveloping yourself with such youthful reminders can literally slow down the aging process. I'm not advocating living in the past here, but merely creating surroundings that make you feel alive and youthful. A client, Alexandria, had the Children and Creativity section of her family's new home missing. An outdoor courtyard with a built-in barbecue engulfed their whole Children section. Although the courtyard was to be used as an outdoor play space for their three kids, the ch'i stagnated and eddied. The missing piece created a weakened condition for the home--not to mention the influence of ch'i-melting barbecue! Alexandria asked me to help the family with their landscape design. These were my suggestions: Complete the space by burying a line of red string across the border of the missing piece (see Figure 26). When necessary, the trainers could pull out the films of the encounters and the data recorded from the radar units and point out exactly what had happened in a dogfight. And both during and after the grilling the instructors would offer suggestions to the students on what they could do differently, what to look for, and what to be thinking about in different situations. Then the next day the trainers and students would take to the skies and do it all over again. Over time the students learned to ask themselves the questions, as it was more comfortable than hearing them from the instructors, and each day they would take the previous session's lessons with them as they flew.

Practical strategies to help you learn how to eat with purpose

Don't get caught up in other people's success stories who lost 100 lbs. Our bodies are all different. Third, read about the science and take strangers' advice with a grain of salt. Not everyone on the internet is an expert. Red The powerful color of red can add excitement and energy to almost anything. For centuries the Chinese and many other cultures have thought that red is a very powerful color. Because of this constant thought pattern over such a very long time, red now is a very powerful color, strongly set in the universe. Remember, energy follows thought. So keep that red power tie here. Green Anything green will do. Just remember--use green to get out of the red. I have seen Americans use sheets of real, uncut dollar bills in frames for their potent green symbol. So if your money is green, red, or purple--use it! You can use the colors from either side of the Prosperity gua to achieve greater power. Finding ways around these barriers is one of the hidden keys to purposeful practice. Generally the solution is not try harder but rather try differently. It is a technique issue, in other words. In Steve's case, one barrier came when he hit twenty-two digits. He was grouping them into four four-digit groups, which he used various mnemonic tricks to remember, plus a six-digit rehearsal group at the end that he would repeat over and over to himself until he could remember it by the sound of the numbers. But he couldn't figure out how to get past twenty-two digits, because when he tried to hold five four-digit groups in his head, he became confused about their order.

He eventually hit upon the idea of using both three-digit groups and four-digit groups, a breakthrough that eventually allowed him to work up to using four four-digit groups, four three-digit groups, and a six-digit rehearsal group, for a maximum of thirty-four digits. Then, once he reached that limit, he had to develop another technique. This was a regular pattern throughout the entire memory study: Steve would improve up to a point, get stuck, look around for a different approach that could help him get past the barrier, find it, and then improve steadily until another barrier arose. The best way to get past any barrier is to come at it from a different direction, which is one reason it is useful to work with a teacher or coach. Each Athletic activity gives us an opportunity for the three types of learning. The hospital walks can help you learn how to refine your walk or walking stride for maximum efficiency when feeling pain. The hospital walks can help you re-learn to walk, as your mind teaches your body to move again or move more efficiently. The hospital walks can help you un-learn some bad habits that you may have acquired or developed in your gait. Adventure . Attitude determines adventure just as much as action does. We often have a sense of admiration and envy for people who travel to the wilderness for a backpacking Adventure or people who travel frequently because their actions provide a clear visual of Adventure. But Adventure is the desire to see the world in a new way so that intention + action can mean Adventure. For example, a person who is diagnosed with cancer faces difficult choices and has to deal with real life-and-death decisions along with the emotional and social impact of the diagnosis. However, many people find a sense of Adventure in the process of treatment. To utilise false awakenings to your advantage, you should perform a reality check whenever you get up and out of bed, especially after attempting to induce a lucid dream. Doing so will not only prevent frustrating loops but will also make you lucid in very realistic and vivid dreams! Why the SILD method works When your body relaxes to sleep, your mind will start to wander and show you images that eventually translate into dreams. By creating a vivid mental environment to focus on, you'll have a familiar place to guide your wandering thoughts to. A simple task like counting down keeps your mind engaged enough to remain active despite your body falling asleep.

Descending the stairs serves to engage your physical senses (or your mind's recreation of them) and is also a useful metaphor for drawing you into the dream. Re-awakening after being asleep for a few hours greatly increases your chances of entering a lucid dream. Often you'll be able to go directly from awake to dreaming with little or no transition, finding yourself in bed one moment and lucid at your staircase the next. People who can induce Lucid Dreams at will nearly always use some form of awakening technique. Finally, this is a lifestyle and not a diet. For me it's about getting my body to function the way it was intended to and not so much about weight loss. There is some give and take to find what makes my body happiest. However, that does not mean IF will cure all your ailments, it just means I'm not a slave to food and my body can function better if I'm not constantly eating. Living a DDD lifestyle is the best thing you can do for your health. Weight loss may be slow to start with because the body prioritizes internal healing over weight loss. But once that is dealt with it's amazing how the body can give up fat and gain muscle. Two years down the line, I am now the slimmest I have been since my early 20s. Is it safe for children or teens to fast? Can someone with type 1 diabetes fast? For example, red and green are good in the Prosperity gua because they are the colors of the neighboring Family and Fame sections. Gold For obvious reasons, gold stuff enhances the wealth area. Give your corner the Midas touch. Use a symbol from your heritage if you want. For example, if you are Irish, get that pot o' gold thing going using (chocolate) gold coins. Symbols That Remind You of Wealth and Abundance Change sorters and piggy banks are meaningful to some.

Exotic fruits or perfumes mean wealth to others. Another word for this area of the home is blessings. This is a great place to acknowledge what you have been blessed with already--your spouse, a second home, vacation photos. Place photos of your dream car (boat, house, vacation, wardrobe) in this gua if thinking about it makes you feel abundant. Someone who is already familiar with the sorts of obstacles you're likely to encounter can suggest ways to overcome them. And sometimes it turns out that a barrier is more psychological than anything else. The famous violin teacher Dorothy DeLay once described the time that one of her students came to her to help increase his speed on a particular piece that he was scheduled to play at a music festival. He could not play it fast enough, he told her. How fast, she asked, would you like to play it? He answered that he wanted to play it as fast as Itzhak Perlman, the world-famous violinist. So DeLay first got a recording of Perlman playing the piece and timed it. Then she set a metronome to a slow speed and had her student play the piece at that pace, which was well within his abilities. She had him play it again and again, each time speeding up the metronome a bit. And each time he nailed it. Of course, we don't wish poor health for one other, but during treatment and while climbing mountains we are given the opportunity to learn, re-learn, and un-learn on a daily basis. We can learn about how well we deal with crisis despite of and then because of our moments of difficulty. We can re-learn how to find a little extra strength to push ourselves farther when we thought we had nothing left. We can also un-learn behaviors that don't help ourselves or others. Academics . Some of the best learners have incomplete or no degrees.

A film editor in Los Angeles spends her free time reading articles to prepare for her next documentary and she enrolls in online courses monthly in subjects ranging from web design to chemistry. Academics can be the formal study of a subject. But Academics can be defined as curiosity combined with action. We can learn anything, anywhere, anytime online. How not to lucid dreams Getting to the point of having a successful lucid dream can be a long process regardless of which technique you're using. Not a difficult process, but a long one. Until you become experienced, you're somewhat at the mercy of your mind to have that click where you think Oh, I'm dreaming! Some nights, or even most nights, despite all the preparation in the world you just won't have a lucid dream. It can be very frustrating when you work hard to prepare and go weeks without progress, but the human mind is largely a mystery and we only have so much control. Sometimes reality checks will go unrecognised in your dream, sometimes your dreaming self won't be triggered by an obvious dreamsign and just won't perform one. Sometimes it just doesn't work. It is entirely possible to learn to induce lucid dreams at will and for some people this might take time. On the bright side you can still achieve several lucid dreams a month very quickly if you temper your expectations, relax and do the simple tasks presented in this article. Can someone with type 2 diabetes fast? Is it safe for women to do IF? I read a blog post / heard from a friend / watched a video that said that women shouldn't do IF or that women need to do IF in a special way. And will IF affect my menstrual cycle? Is it safe to fast while pregnant or trying to conceive? Is fasting safe for breastfeeding mothers?

Turbocharge Your Physical and Mental Health by Moving Your Body

Then, allow yourself to really feel it as you anchor it. O ver time, you will find that you do feel calmer than ever. You will find that you do feel better and that you are certain that, at the end of the day, you have done what you needed to. You will then want to try using your anchor to see if it works for you. If using your anchor then immediately triggers those good feelings for you, you know that you have succeeded. Does this mean that the process of learning differs from previous generations? There have always been distractions to learning. The tonic for distractions has always been concentration on one task. When it comes to learning in the age of distractions, the formula is simple. Reduce distractions and increase concentration. Academics in your daily life How do you include learning in your daily life? One way is simple. Ask yourself every morning, what will I learn today? Your brain will spend the day answering that question and giving you results. Research shows that cutting carbs helps. Cutting fat and cholesterol has no effect. High Blood Pressure: ECHOES OF A SALT-SCARCE PAST THESE DAYS salt is cheap and widely available, but it wasn't always so easy to get. In prehistoric times, humans often suffered from lack of salt.

Indeed, their ability to go without food and water for long periods depended in large part on the amount of salt in their bodies. One of your kidney's main jobs is to pull salt molecules from the urine and put them back into your bloodstream. It's a survival mechanism. Your ability to withstand dehydration depends largely on your kidneys' ability to retrieve salt. This requires work on the part of your kidneys. If it does not, however, you know that you will simply keep working and keep being consistent with it. Y ou can also anchor actions to your gestures as well you can train yourself to do just about anything if you pay attention to what you are doing and try hard enough. This is strongly recommended; B elief Changes Finally, belief changes are the last of the methods that we will consider within this article. To change your beliefs, you will want to begin to acknowledge them. Remember, your beliefs that you have are generalizations. They may be entirely flawed, especially if they are negative beliefs that are not helping you at all. If you are suffering from negative beliefs, it could be well worth the time and effort of doing so. You are able to stop, recognize the negative belief, and then recognize how that negative belief is actually a problem. Academics like the other As shouldn't been seen as a pastime reserved for the few. Just as amateur athletes don't stop exercising simply because they are not professional athletes, people should not stop learning just because there are not professors. Learning gives life meaning and purpose. To be human is to learn. To learn is the third step to Discovering Your Human Algorithm.

Infant social development across the transition from crawling to walking. Frontiers in psychology, 7, 960. A neural marker of perceptual consciousness in infants. Science, 340(6130), 376-380. Iterative is often used in scientific circles and research and development circles to talk about how through trial and error new discoveries are made. The healthier your kidneys are, the better they are at preventing salt from leaving the body. You could say that high blood pressure is an echo of our salt-scarce past. Our kidneys evolved to be more efficient at retrieving salt than we need them to be. Many people's kidneys are overly reluctant to release salt into the urine, which triggers reflexes that raise blood pressure. Indeed, for most people, high blood pressure can be easily treated with a mild diuretic, which lets the kidneys release salt. Avoiding salt in the diet doesn't work very well for lowering blood pressure because the amount of salt in your body depends little on how much salt is going into your system. It's more a matter of how much your kidneys let out. Most people's blood pressures rise as they age. It's hard to call high blood pressure a disease when it's actually the manifestation of a survival mechanism that was once invaluable but is no longer needed. Nevertheless, it increases the risk of blood vessel disease, and treating it prevents heart attacks and strokes. Then, you must be able to make sure that you make the changes. T his particular shift in thinking is all about changing your thoughts. It is as simple as correcting yourself when you do notice that you are engaging in negative thoughts that are not helping you at all. If you negative thoughts are doing nothing but hurting the way that you are able to interact with the world, then you know that you have no choice but to change them. Changing them is all about correction.

E very single time that you catch yourself thinking those negative thoughts, correct them. Do not allow them to linger and do not allow yourself to entertain them. Simply erase the thoughts from your mind and ensure that, at the end of the day, you will be able to fix the problem. It all begins with the change of one belief. When you reprogram that one thought first, challenging it regularly, you will then realize that something wonderful will happen as a result--you will realize that, at the end of the day, you can fix the problem entirely. To be human is to create. As humans, we are born to create. With learning, new ways and forms emerge: Art . The fourth A stands for Art and its order in the 6As is important. Though engaging in Art is sometimes dismissed as frivolous, it is Art that serves as a cornerstone to Discovering Your Human Algorithm. Art incorporates Athletics, Adventure, and Academics because each is required to engage in creative activities. For example, filmmakers on a set of a movie have to engage in physically demanding chores for 16 hours daily for weeks on end in order to meet the demands required by producers. This grueling production schedule, even when well planned, will require that filmmakers (directors, directors of photography, gaffers, sound people, writers, actors, stunt people, caterers, wardrobe and makeup people, editors, and others) solve countless problems with sometimes no apparent reason or end in sight. Not everyone is willing to engage in this type of madness just to place images side by side on a timeline that then move from one image to the next for 120 minutes. Beyond the physical and problem-solving demands, filmmakers have to apply intelligence, craft, and skill to each activity. The reality, though, is that high blood pressure is difficult to control with diet and exercise alone. If lifestyle changes don't bring your blood pressure down, you should not hesitate to take medication to lower it. The longer you let high blood pressure go untreated, the harder it is to control it. The good news is that one or two pills a day will usually lower your blood pressure to where it should be. A word of caution: Lowering your systolic blood pressure when your diastolic pressure is normal can be tricky.

It's important to try to get the systolic pressure under 140, but medication that's too strong can cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure in this situation. Taking care of your blood vessels is not just about one number--your blood sugar, cholesterol, blood pressure, cigarette smoking--it's about all four. Reducing sugar shocks with the Sugar Blockers Diet not only will lower your blood sugar but also will improve the balance between your good- and bad-cholesterol levels and even help lower your blood pressure. And if diet, exercise, and other lifestyle changes aren't enough, be thankful that we have medications that really work. The bottom line is, if you keep those numbers where they should be, you can live to a ripe old age without missing a day of active living because of blood vessel problems, heart disease, or diabetes. You can ensure that you are able to control the way of thinking that you had and in doing so, you can then enable you to better deal with everything. NLP Techniques for Others While this article is not entirely meant to indulge in the idea of NLP as a form of mind control, it can be used to directly influence the way that those around you are thinking. It is quite simple in the way that it does so, as well. It is usually able to engage in the way that other people are thinking, changing the mind and subtly and subliminally interacting with them. When you do this, you are able to slowly but surely influence how those around you are reacting. A s has been mentioned already, if you want to be able to engage in the use of NLP on other people, you must remember that you need to pay attention to the rapport that you build with other people. It is really only when you are able to really understand the other person and really recognize that the other person also trusts you that you can begin to make good, solid use of the NLP techniques that you would otherwise be reliant on. At the end of the day, you must be confident in the ways in which you interact with those around you to ensure that you are better able to understand how to influence them. W e are going to take a bit of time to consider three ways that you can begin to influence the mind of others with ease. The writer has to bricolage a compelling story in compelling visual form while keeping track of character arcs. The director must mix compassion for actors and crew while minding the budget of the people who pay for the movie. The director of photography needs to ensure that the lighting and shot angles are clean while managing a crew of people dedicated to the service of the technical requirements of the camera. The actors must rehearse their lines then deliver them as if they have never said them before understanding how their character serves the story. The editor must ensure that there is continuity in look and feel from one shot to the next to cobble together a story that's compelling and watchable.

Personality Myth

Frustration and disappointment--they're not fun. I spent my entire drinking career (twenty-plus years) avoiding having to feel any such things, not that I knew this was what I was doing at the time. I thought I was just a party girl who liked to have fun. I didn't realise I was an A-grade emotion-avoider until I got sober and got so goddam emotional. Crikey, I was all over the show for quite a few months, lurching from one emotional state to the other. Generally, Americans enjoy a wider variety of foods for lunch than we do breakfast. However, the quintessentially American midday meal is the sandwich. One reason it's popular is that you don't need a knife, fork, plate, chair, and table to eat it. You can sit on a stump, pick up your sandwich with your hands, and eat it. Or even eat it while you're walking and talking, in true American multitasking fashion. When it comes to your blood sugar, the problem with a sandwich, of course, is the bread. The glycemic load of a couple American-size slices of bread (42 grams per slice) is approximately 300. That's your starch allotment for the entire day. So how do you get the convenience of a sandwich and the taste you're used to without shooting up your blood sugar? Learn to make a wrap--a sandwich made with a tortilla. You learn to identify the way of thinking to find different patterns, and that ability can also become extrapolated and used to help benefit other situations as well. You can look at the way that you can solve other problems as well with these methods. You can learn how you can develop new strategies and new approaches to a situation because of the resilience that you develop with these processes. I t Can Help You Control Your Mindset Along those same lines, then, you must also consider the fact that, when you use NLP, you are able to control your own mind.

You are able to take utter control over those areas in your life that you once believed to be entirely out of your grasp, such as your thoughts and your feelings. Many people regard feelings to be entirely out of your control because they are automatic and instinctive. While that may be the case, it is also important to remember that, at the end of the day, your feelings themselves are really only the product of your thought processes that you are having at any point in time. When you keep that in mind, you can understand that you can control your mindset and your emotions. You have the freedom to create the emotions and the motivation that you will need to ensure that you get the results that you need at the end of the day. It was like I was strapped into a crazy rollercoaster ride called `human experience' that I couldn't get off. Thankfully things eventually calmed down. I got used to riding the waves of emotion and managing the mood fluctuations that come naturally in life. I learned that sadness and anger (and all those other supposedly `negative' feelings) don't kill you, they're generally there for a reason, and allowing yourself to fully feel them makes them easier to deal with. Sounds so cheesy, doesn't it? But it really is true. Going through a hard or gritty time without reaching for a million bottles of wine (as I would have in the past) not only makes it quicker to process things, but also makes things clearer and easier to understand when looking back in hindsight. If I think back now to some of the hard times I've encountered since I stopped drinking, the tears I shed or stress or discomfort I experienced at the time makes perfect sense. It feels right. My reactions were appropriate--they fitted the severity of what I was going through at the time and accurately reflected how significant those events were. An 8-inch wheat tortilla has a glycemic load of 80, which is less than a single slice of bread. The glycemic loads of low-carb tortillas are even less. I discovered the low-carb wraps and love them, said tester Jane Wilchak. Wraps are easy to make. Just put all of the ingredients you would normally include in a sandwich on top of a tortilla, roll it up into a tube, and fold one end so that the filling doesn't fall out when you pick it up.

If you're packing your lunch, wrapping it in plastic wrap will help hold it together. Or, as you learned in article 9, turn your sandwich fillings into toppings for an entree-size salad, with the works--meat, cheese, nuts, olives, avocados, mushrooms, tomatoes, and any kind of dressing you like. It's a shame to put all of those sugar blockers to waste, so have a little bread if you want. Just make sure you eat it after, not before, you eat the salad. A Typical American Dinner When you are able to change the development of these thoughts and improve upon yourself, you will find that you will greatly better yourself and that is very important to remember. I t Can Help You Break Bad Habits We all have bad habits at one point in time or another. It could be that you bite your nails. It could be that you reach for the bottle whenever you have a bad day at work. It could be that you have a tendency to mindlessly snack through the day. No matter what that bad habit that you have is, it becomes important to recognize that you do have some degree of control over it. You can learn how you can defeat those negative behavioral patterns for yourself and ensure that your bad habits are entirely defeated. When you can do that, you can ensure that you are not wasting your time, your efforts, your money, or anything else. You ensure that you are living the life that you want to live and that is a huge deal at the end of the day. Even if at the time it was uncomfortable and I might have wanted to avoid or escape the difficulties (with my former best friend, vino), by simply allowing myself to sit with my feelings and experience them fully I felt more in touch with what was going on and, as a result, more resolved about what was happening. As time goes on, everything starts to appear more manageable, and it leads to a lovely overall feeling of calm as the years roll on. What I've learned since I've been working on becoming a fully emotional human being (rather than one who constantly numbs and avoids emotions) is this: it's best not to panic when the shit hits the fan and you start to feel uncomfortable emotionally. Don't automatically reach for something to make the pain go away. Slow down and trust that the feelings are there for a reason.

Try to adopt an open mindset and be curious about what your emotions are telling you. Understand the importance of letting yourself fully experience what you're going through. Trust that time will help and you'll look back and be grateful that you allowed yourself to get through with a clear head. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Self-care is really important. What could be more American than meat and potatoes? A typical American dinner frequently includes a small salad, some type of meat (usually beef or chicken), vegetables on the side, and a starch (potato, pasta, or rice), with a beverage and something sweet for dessert. Most of these foods are fine; Here's how a savvy eater would handle it. First, have a fatty snack--a handful of nuts, a piece of cheese, or a couple of pork rinds--10 to 30 minutes before you eat your meal. The fat will pass into your small intestine, which will send signals to your stomach telling it to empty more slowly. This helps keep the meal you're about to eat from being digested too quickly. It's okay to have a beverage with your fatty snack, but refrain from drinking liquids during your meal. This will prevent the food in your stomach from liquefying too quickly, which speeds digestion. Next, eat your salad. W hen it comes right down to it, your bad habits are just unconscious thoughts that are being acted out. You can learn to identify the thought, reframe it, and then take control of the problem that you are facing or the bad habit that you engage in. When you do that, you are able to make use of all sorts of techniques that you can use to break these habits--permanently. It Can Better Your Relationships Because of the simple fact that you are spending time learning to understand how you work yourself, you are able to ensure that you develop the healthy habits that you will want to encourage and facilitate to ensure that your body and mind are able to also facilitate positive relationships.

Making use of this will greatly help you understand that, at the end of the day, you can take control. It will ensure that, at the end of the day, you are in complete and utter control of what you are doing, how you do it, and how you want to do it. This means that you can ensure that the habits that you develop are healthy, beneficial, and will help ensure that your relationships are better than ever. They grow stronger, facilitated by your better habits. I t Can Improve Your Ability to Communicate And if things are too monumental to get through alone, reach out and get some professional help. There are loads of lovely trained people dotted all around our communities, just waiting to put their skills to use and help. Shit happens to all of us, all the time. There's no avoiding it. So don't try. Get stuck in and deal with it. It hurts at the time, but it is far, far better in the long run. Future you will thank you. Trust me on that. Developing new habits It will provide soluble fiber to soak up glucose and slow its absorption into your bloodstream. Consider adding nuts, olive oil, cheese, chunks of vegetables, or a vinegar-based dressing--all of which inhibit starch absorption--to your salad. You can also use vinegar as a condiment and sprinkle it on other foods. It substitutes well for salt. Eat as much of your vegetable as you can, which will add to the salad's fiber.

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Also, don't forget, alcohol is a tricky trickster. It presents itself as a social lubricant, but it's not. And it's not just me saying that. Here's Catharine Fairbairn and Michael Sayette from the University of Pittsburgh's Psychology Department: `The experimental literature examining alcohol's effects within a social context reveals that alcohol does not consistently enhance social-emotional experience. Alcohol's effects within a social context are largely explained by its tendency to free individuals from preoccupation with social rejection, sedating their limbic and cortical regions, and allowing them to perceive social rewards (even if this is not factual). Crack the egg into the center. Sprinkle with the bacon, Parmesan, and pepper. Bake for 8 minutes, or until the egg white is set and the yolk is still runny. Per serving: 337 calories 27 g protein 9 g carbohydrates 23 g total fat 9 g saturated fat 4 g fiber 775 mg sodium SALMON BRUSCHETTA THIS CLASSIC COMBINATION is a sure winner for a weekend breakfast. The protein and fat in the cream cheese and salmon help block the blood sugar-raising effects of the bread. Change it up by substituting one of a variety of flavored cream cheeses. Prep time: 5 minutes Total time: 10 minutes For example, with a higher level of emotional intelligence, you are able to do the following with ease, Show resilience even if you don't agree with another person, allowing you to listen effectively and understand their thoughts and feelings. Show flexibility, which allows you to put yourself aside in order to understand the people that you are trying to analyze. You will be able to listen actively, which is highly effective in analyzing people because the better you can listen, the more you can understand another person. You will be able to understand other people's problems and show compassion to them.

You will be effective when navigating complex and difficult situations, allowing you to remain calm and understand other people's responses to situations, which is quite telling when trying to analyze them. Show an excellent emotional response to other people's thoughts and feelings, making them feel comfortable enough to open up to you and share their deeper thoughts and feelings, helping you to analyze them on a deeper level. W hen it comes to the ability to understand your own emotions and the emotions of other people, high emotional intelligence is required. Naturally, a person that has high emotional intelligence are better at communication as they have a good grasp on how others are feeling and how they can properly express their emotions. By being able to better understand the emotions and actions of yourself, this will help you to better understand the emotions and actions of others, which is essential in being able to analyze people. Alcohol doesn't consistently enhance our social experiences; It might feel like it's working to give us confidence in the moment, because we're made to feel bubbly and flirty and free, but it's not authentic confidence. It's faux, temporary confidence, not the lovely deep, grounded confidence that comes from knowing, accepting and being who you really are. This real confidence is something many people experience only after they quit drinking. Here are a few quotes taken from the hundreds of Sober Stories I've published at livingsober. Kerry: `I always thought I was confident, but I had no real idea how much further from the truth that really was. I only thought I was confident because I was drinking. I was so surprised to start feeling positive, confident and HAPPY after I quit. I feel invincible in any situation now. Now I'm stronger than I ever thought I could be and realise I didn't need the drink to have confidence. Makes 2 servings 1/4 cup chive-onion cream cheese 1/2 cucumber, peeled and thinly sliced Place the bread on a work surface and spread the cream cheese on 1 slice. Top with the salmon and cucumber and the remaining slice of bread.

Cut in half to serve. Per serving: 307 calories 23 g protein 22 g carbohydrates 14 g total fat 8 g saturated fat 2 g fiber 374 mg sodium TRY DIFFERENT VARIATIONS of this delicious filling to start your day. Opt for raspberry preserves, raspberries, and chopped almonds for a change of pace. Or try flaxseeds instead of the chia seeds. E motional intelligence has grown in importance over the years, especially when it comes to the workplace. Just because you walk into your workplace it does not mean that all your emotions that you were feeling that day gets automatically put away. Although it often appears that way to most people, in reality, emotions are always existent in the workplace but they are normally kept in check in order to remain professional. People often pretend that they do not have emotions during work hours to avoid appearing unprofessional. I n society today, emotional intelligence is very important because of how workplace culture is different. Nowadays, most work is done in teams and not as individuals. Employers that are forward-thinking are realizing that acknowledging emotions in the workplace tend to build better working environments. This would mean that people have to be more aware and conscious of other people's feelings along with their own. People who have better emotional intelligence are more adaptable to change which is a required skill in today's fast paced environment. L eaders in the workplace that have higher emotional intelligence tend to have happier employees which lower major costs like attrition and increases overall workplace productivity. Growth into a confident, self-sufficient sober person, with new habits and values. Getting sober helped me find myself again. I love being all of me with confidence and genuine respect for who I am. I trust myself, value myself and feel free. That was unfathomable before;

Now, not everyone needs to quit drinking completely and get sober in order to accept who they are authentically and find their true courage. And not everyone is a through-and-through introvert who is only ever happy spending time with small groups or alone. In actual fact, Nimmo says a lot of people are a bit of both--extraverted in one context and introverted in another--and the goal is to be comfortable with both sides of yourself. That is, being able to be with people socially and also be relaxed when you're on your own, not craving attention or validation from outside sources. But wouldn't it be great if all of us, no matter what our natural social inclination, somehow found the courage to be our authentic selves, rather than feeling the need to drink booze in order to make us feel more sparkly (something I did for many years)? Other fruit, such as sliced peaches or bananas, can also work. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination! Prep time: 10 minutes Total time: 15 minutes Makes 1 serving 1/4 cup part-skim ricotta cheese 1/2 cup strawberries, hulled and sliced 1/4 cup blueberries Set the tortilla on a work surface and spread the Neufchatel up to 1/2 from the edges. Spread the preserves over the Neufchatel. Like we discussed earlier, people who have higher emotional intelligence tend to live a happier life outside of the workplace due to lower risk of disorders like depression and anxiety. U nderstanding this is not only beneficial to you if you are in a leadership position, but also if you are an employee whom this kind of environment affects directly. By being able to analyze people and show them how you are feeling, this can help you to improve your workplace environment and keep yourself, your employees and your coworkers happy. How To Tell If You Are Being Lied To No matter how much a person may want to conceal the fact that they are telling a lie, there are tell-tale signs to look for that even the best liars have a hard time concealing, as they often happen without the person's control.

The body naturally acts in a different and specific way when we are saying something that we do not truly believe. There are many ways to determine when someone is telling you a lie, and we will look at these ways in depth in this article. W hy Is This Important? As you begin practicing using this information and the techniques which you will learn in this article, you will become better and better at spotting a lie in its early stages. You will become better at recognizing people who have lied to you in the past and can look for signs of compulsive liars in your life. If we did allow ourselves to be authentically who we are, not only would we feel more grounded and comfortable in our own skin, but we'd also probably find that we'd start to attract the right sort of people to us. People who fit. It's like my whole world has realigned and rearranged itself so that I'm now living in a world that I fit. Whereas before I felt like I was jamming myself into something that didn't fit. Doesn't living authentically, feeling like you fit and having like-minded people around you sound like the ultimate party? I don't think anyone would require liquid courage to hang out in that space. There was alcohol around me growing up, but it wasn't until I became a teenager that it became really widespread. From around thirteen years old I'd go to weddings and older kids would get me a drink. Then from the age of fourteen or fifteen our friends' parents would supply us with alcohol for parties. That was just completely normal and they'd laugh about us: `Ha ha ha, so-and-so's got a hangover. Spoon the ricotta in a strip on the lower third of the tortilla, about 1 from the edge. Top the ricotta with the strawberries, blueberries, walnuts, and chia seeds. Starting at the filled end, roll up the tortilla. Cut in half. Per serving: 429 calories 21 g protein 44 g carbohydrates 26 g total fat 8 g saturated fat 18 g fiber 475 mg sodium

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Prep time: 5 minutes Total time: 10 minutes Makes 1 serving Pinch of ground black pepper Heat a medium nonstick skillet coated with cooking spray over medium heat. Self-regulation W hen a person is self-aware, those with high EI are able to regulate their emotions and keep them in check when needed. Self-awareness W hen a person has self-awareness, they are able to know their own strengths and weaknesses and have the understanding of how to react properly in situations and to other people. H igh Emotional Intelligence Versus Low Emotional Intelligence When it comes to the ability to understand your own emotions and the emotions of other people, high emotional intelligence is required. Naturally, a person that has high emotional intelligence are better at communication as they have a good grasp on how others are feeling and how they can properly express their emotions. High emotional intelligence does not mean that someone is always happy or in a positive mood. It simply means that the person is able to make good decisions regarding their actions when they are faced with a difficult situation. They have the ability to process their emotions in order to make decisions that aren't fueled by their feelings alone. When I was young and drinking, it was still kind of frowned upon for girls to get messy drunk, but now we see far more of it in our culture. For young girls it's almost seen as empowering or a rite of passage to get blotto drunk. And for many women on social media it seems to actually be something that they're proud of, that they need a wine to get through the day. I have a number of friends who will make comments about how much they need wine. It's a joke, but it seems to me like a weird thing to boast about.

I think that people have this impression that you can't have a good time without drinking. I see that a lot. It really scares me, the number of people who have a reliance on it and don't realise that they do. Sometimes, until you stop doing it, you don't actually know how much it's impacting you. When I was drinking I wasn't making decisions based on what I wanted. In a small bowl, beat the eggs, Parmesan, and pepper. Pour into the skillet. Cook for 2 minutes, stirring, or until the eggs are softly scrambled but still moist and creamy. Spoon small dollops of the ricotta over the eggs and drizzle with the pesto. Stir briefly to just swirl into the eggs. Per serving: 381 calories 27 g protein 3 g carbohydrates 29 g total fat 11 g saturated fat 0 g fiber 460 mg sodium EGGS RANCHEROS BLAND AND BORING EGGS reach new heights with this flavor-packed quick-and-easy breakfast. To make ahead, double the recipe except for the eggs and cheese, reserving half of the tomato mixture. The next day, bring it to a simmer and cook the eggs as directed. L ow emotional intelligence plays a significant role in the way we interact with other people. People with low emotional intelligence often make social situations and interactions with other people tense and difficult. You can see how this would lead to difficulty analyzing people. Individuals with low EI tend to be very oblivious regarding other people's emotions and feelings. For instance, they have a hard time understanding why their friends might be upset with them or why their co-workers are annoyed.

In addition to that, they often feel like they should be the ones annoyed at other people because of other people's expectations of them to understand their feelings. While this holds true for those who have high EI, people with low EI don't have the ability to properly assess the feelings of other people. The mere topic of emotions tends to cause people with low EI to feel very exasperated as they are unable to empathize or understand why other people may feel the way they do. Due to the fact that individuals that have low EI have trouble understanding what other people's emotions are, they are often unable to feel empathy for others. They just simply do not understand what emotions the other person is feeling so it makes it very hard for them to see things from their perspective let alone empathizing. I was making them based on the feelings that I had--the shame and the guilt and feeling bad about myself--not from a place of power. That's all changed now. Liquid courage There are a million reasons why women drink, but underlying all of them is this one: alcohol works. It would be stupid to deny this. Alcohol does what we want it to in the moment. When that liquid enters our bodies, gets carried around by our blood, hits our brains and triggers all those lovely chemicals, it feels good. We're instantly warmed, relaxed, uplifted, loosened and confident. Who wouldn't want that? That's the reason why so many of us drink. Prep time: 10 minutes Total time: 20 minutes Makes 2 servings 1/2 teaspoon olive oil 1/4 teaspoon ground cumin

1/2 cup medium salsa 1/4 cup water Heat the oil in a small skillet over medium heat. Cook the scallions, spinach, and cumin, covered, for 5 minutes, or until the spinach is just tender. Stir in the tomato sauce, salsa, and water. F urther, people that have low EI tend to feel that they are always right and will intensely defend their stance and refuse to hear what other people may have to say. These people tend to be pessimists and are very critical of other people's feelings. B elow we will look at a list of common attributes of people with a low level of emotional intelligence. Find themselves getting into arguments with others often Have great difficulty understanding other people's feelings and emotions Feel that other people should be less sensitive Do not find value in listening to the perspectives or feelings of other people and therefore they do not pay attention to the perspectives of others. Blame other people when things do not go as planned or when problems arise Have difficulty handling situations that involve emotions and feelings They have trouble regulating their emotions and this often leads to sudden outbursts of emotions That's the reason why so many of us keep drinking even when there are negative impacts. Because, in that moment when we take that first sip, the drug works. Of course, the feelings aren't genuine. They're chemically induced, and once the drug departs our system we get dumped back down to our normal state (or lower than normal if we've been drinking a lot and our brain receptors have downregulated) and any uncomfortable emotions and insecurities are still there. But hey, take another drink and whammo!

You're back in that lovely warm, relaxed and confident state. Of all the feelings I've heard people say alcohol gives (or gave) them, this last one--confidence--is undoubtedly one of the most common. Time and again when people explain why they drink (or drank) alcohol they talk about it making them feel confident. Charmaine admits here that when she started drinking alcohol, `I became the party girl that I wanted to be, a completely different person. It made me feel happy and confident and like I was having fun, all the things that I wanted. Bring to a simmer. Make 2 shallow indents for the eggs. Crack the eggs one at a time and drop into the indentations. Cover and simmer for 3 minutes, or until the yolks are just soft. Remove from the heat. Sprinkle with the cheese, cover, and let stand for 1 minute, or until melted. Per serving: 299 calories 19 g protein 27 g carbohydrates 10 g total fat 4 g saturated fat 5 g fiber 858 mg sodium BROCCOLI AND CHEESE MINI FRITTATAS MAKE THESE ON A WEEKEND, and quickly microwave for a last-minute breakfast. Or tuck a frittata in with your lunch for a satisfying midday snack. Find it difficult to maintain friendships with people as their low level of EI ultimately gets in the way Have trouble understanding the feelings of others and therefore lack empathy T here has been quite a lot of talk about empathy in this article so far, and before we go any further, I want to take some time to delve into the term deeper, as it is something that will come up over and over throughout this article. E mpathy is the ability to share someone else's feelings. It is also the ability to understand the feelings of another.

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So safe and kind, full of positivity and connectedness, where people share only truthful and uplifting content based on good intentions and solid information. Yeah, right. The truth about social media, as we all know, is that it's a deeply complex and conflicted arena. It can bring joy and connectedness, but, boy, can it also bring pain and negativity. At best we get to enjoy highlights from our loved ones' lives, and access useful and interesting content from individuals and organisations we choose to follow. At worst, we get all manner of stuff that can make us feel isolated, upset, jealous, worried and angry. Nowhere is that more apparent than when it comes to alcohol-related content. There is a veritable crap-tonne of booze-related material floating around social media. Most of it is targeted at women, especially mums. We seem to be ripe for the picking when it comes to online alcohol promotion. In articles 4 and 7 you learned that protein consumed with starch triggers a first-phase insulin response, which improves insulin's efficiency so that you need less of it to keep your blood sugar down. Some of us have a glass of wine with meals, which helps the liver remove sugar from the bloodstream after eating. We save our dessert for last. If we slip up and have a little too much sugar for dessert, the sugar blockers we had with our meal help keep it from raising our blood sugar. Some of us even go for an after-meal stroll, which, as discussed in article 7, allows our muscles to remove sugar from the bloodstream without the need for insulin. There you are--an eating pattern that lets you combine several sugar blockers while conforming to the way we customarily eat. When you eat starch with a meal, try to do the following: Have a fatty snack 10 to 30 minutes before your meal. Start your meal with a salad. Use a vinegar-based dressing.

When we see an animal in a strange setting or around other animals that it may have to fight with it will be positioned in a way where nothing will be able to access its heart, its lungs or its stomach area. Thinking of humans in this way will be a great tool for analyzing them. Now we will look at other areas of the body and the messages we can get from learning how to read them accurately. First, is the movement of the arms. The arms themselves can close us off or open us up to the world. The positioning of the arms in relation to the body can be something that happens automatically. Someone may be extremely comfortable with the situation they are in if they have their arms at their sides, resting on the armrests of the chair in which they are seated. This may happen automatically as a result of feeling unthreatened and safe in their surroundings. A person may cross their arms when they are feeling threatened or hug their chest in an effort to protect themselves from the outside world. When people do this they are attempting to physically put a barrier between themselves and you, whether they know this to be true or not. Quirky memes with vintage cartoon images chirp `Motherhood: Powered by love, fuelled by coffee, sustained by wine' and `Wine is to women what duct tape is to men: it fixes everything'. Photoshopped images show mums guzzling from ginormous wine glasses under the words `I wish my tolerance for my children would increase as much as my tolerance for wine' and `Tick-tock it's wine o'clock'. Babies are snapped wearing onesies with slogans saying `I'm the reason mum drinks'. Cutsie nicknames for alcohol like `mummy's juice' or `mummy's little helper' get liberally bandied about. This is the Wine Mum culture online and it's rampant. Images are liked, shared and commented on at such a rate they've spread around platforms like Facearticle, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest and Snapchat like the plague. What once offered a cheeky laugh has now been bastardised and cynically commercialised to the point where it's simply no longer funny. The once subversive little in-joke is now a deafening roar, and we can't hear ourselves think (let alone parent) without being hit with the message that we need alcohol to help us carry out our motherly duties. We'd all still be laughing if it wasn't so bloody damaging. Being a mum is wonderful, but it's also hard work on so many levels.

Include a serving of vegetables with your meal. Include protein with your meal. Consider having a glass of wine or a shot of alcohol with your meal. Eat sweets for dessert only. Go for a walk afterward. And most important of all, never eat refined carbohydrates on an empty stomach. Of course, it may not be realistic for you to incorporate all of those sugar blockers with every meal. But remember that combining sugar blockers works better than relying on just one kind. As a rule of thumb, use three types of sugar blockers for each serving of starch. How Much Does It Take? Our bodies are made to automatically protect us from danger. Our emotions and feelings signal to our body that there may be a threat and our body acts accordingly. This happens regardless of whether there is a real physical threat, or simply a topic of conversation that is making us uncomfortable. When someone is feeling comfortable and welcoming, they may open their arms and leave themselves fully open to receiving the world. A rms behind the back indicate that the person is feeling secure and welcoming a challenge. We know this because they have their protecting elements (their arms) behind them and their chest out and exposed meaning that they will not be able to quickly protect themselves if need be. This is an indication of feeling secure and comfortable or feeling like they are stronger than those around them. The hands being up around the face indicates a desire to remain mysterious or not to show one's true expressions. H ands on hips may indicate that a person is trying to assert dominance. When someone puts their hands on their hips, it makes them take up much more space.

Births can be traumatising, sleeplessness is crippling, hormone surges are overwhelming, information overload is intense, insecurity hobbles us, opinions come from everywhere, cabin fever is real and loneliness sometimes achingly painful. Having a drink at the end of a long and tiring day can offer us a way out, and I've been very open about the fact that my drinking escalated hugely when I started being at home more after having kids. Opening a bottle of wine at 5 p. I was drinking alone, but there's no doubt I felt supported and encouraged in my solo habit by all the Wine Mum content pouring from my computer. It helped me justify my regular, heavy drinking. It normalised it, and it made me feel connected with other mums who were dealing with the same shit (literally, at times) as I was, in the same liquid way. I was there on the front lines slurring, Yes, way! The memes, hashtags, mimosa brunches, and Insta pics of moms drinking cocktails to deal with their kids--they were enabling me and I loved it. Anna, who shares her story with us here, reads very clearly the underlying message we're sending every time we click, like, comment and share. You're putting on Facearticle about how you can't cope with everything so you're taking drugs. You need only a little fat to slow stomach emptying. Five grams--about a teaspoon--will do. A handful of nuts or cheese easily provides that. It takes 2 to 4 tablespoons of vinegar to slow starch absorption--about as much as you would normally put on a typical serving of salad. A modest serving of protein--say, 4 ounces--will boost the first-phase insulin response to starch. It takes about 1 1/2 ounces of alcohol, approximately the amount in a typical-size glass of wine or cocktail, to reduce your after-meal blood sugar. Fiber is another matter. You need a lot of it to do the job. It takes 10 grams--about two large servings of high-fiber fruits or vegetables--to reduce your after-meal blood sugar surge by 25 percent. Most fruits, vegetables, nuts, and seeds contain soluble fiber.

Putting the hands on the hips is usually accompanied by a wide stance. This type of body positioning causes people to spread themselves out as if to say, you can try to cross me but it will not work. H ands in the pockets can indicate nervousness and even deceitful behavior as they are hiding a part of themselves that tends to move in an indicative way. Look out for this along with other signals that the person may be trying to withhold information or remain vague. T he hands holding something between the person, and you create another type of barrier like crossing the arms does. For example, holding a article or a notepad out in front of them is putting something between themselves and you in order to distance themselves from the conversation. The feet are another important place to look in order to analyze a person. This is because people are usually expecting their face to be the place people look to for clues into their subconscious, so they forget all about their feet placement. The feet placement is similar to the glance mentioned earlier in that it tells you where the person wants to be. Just as someone will glance in the direction of what they want, their feet will usually point in the direction of where they want to be. We're saying, Look at us, we fall apart at the end of the day, we can't cope. Joanna, whose story you'll hear next, also reads the messages loud and clear and it grates: `I hate with a passion that whole thing of wine o'clock. I just hate it. I see so many women I know on social media posting about their drinks, and I just think, Do you not get what you are promoting here? Maybe it's okay for them. But then most of the ones who put those photos up online, I know that they're not okay. And therein lies the problem with the Wine Mum culture. It masks the truth. It makes light of something that is often very heavy. It sells the idea that all is fun and laughter when it comes to mums and alcohol, when often it's anything but.

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LOW-CARB LIVING, STONE AGE-STYLE The foods we eat contain three major nutrients: fats, proteins, and carbohydrates. Manipulation can allow you to literally mold other behaviors. Manipulation allows for you to change the way that people are going to behave in several other ways. It will allow you to convince people to act in certain ways. It can allow you to even change the way in which other people think, allowing you to literally change the thoughts in the minds of others. W ithin this article, you will take a closer look at what manipulation is. You will learn all about how it exists as a form of social influence and you will also look at some of the most common reasons that people choose to manipulate those around them. When you read through this article, you will want to keep in mind that this is the background information that you will need. You will see the ways in which manipulation exists and how it works. You will also understand the reasons that are commonly used to manipulate other people as well. Social Influence and Manipulation The problem isn't me. The problem is the alcohol. And then this: If I take the alcohol away, the problem has gone. And with these thoughts I found a small sense of strength. I managed to tap into the tiny part of me that still believed in myself, that had some power. The problem isn't me. The problem is the alcohol. If I take the alcohol away, the problem has gone.

I seized on that tiny feeling of strength, got up off the loo, and made a monumental decision. I was going to quit booze--completely. Each has its own building blocks: Fats are made of fatty acids, proteins consist of amino acids, and carbohydrates are made of a type of sugar called glucose. Fat and protein come primarily from animal products such as eggs, meat, and dairy products, and from oily foods like nuts and olives. You get carbohydrates from plant products, including fruits, vegetables, flour, potatoes, rice, and sugar. Your digestive tract has to break down each kind of food to its basic building blocks--either fatty acids, amino acids, or glucose--before it can be absorbed into your bloodstream. If you're typical of most modern humans, you get most of your calories from carbohydrates--foods that your digestive system breaks down into glucose. However, we didn't always eat this way. Prehistoric humans mainly ate other creatures--large ones, small ones, fish, and even bugs. The plants they consumed--grasses, roots, and wild fruit in various stages of ripeness--contained plenty of vitamins but yielded little in the way of calories. That's because natural vegetation is full of indigestible fiber and other substances that interfere with the breakdown of carbohydrates to glucose and prevent their absorption into the bloodstream. The digestive tracts of our ancient ancestors had to work hard to digest the plants they ate. Ultimately, manipulation exists as a method of social influence. Social influence itself is the way in which people will naturally change their actions and behaviors depending upon the social environment that they are in. When you give in to social influence, you are most likely to be changing the way that you are acting in response to something else that happened around you. That could be in response to what someone else has asked or said to you. It could be in response to the actions of someone else. It could also be in response to what you believe that those around you think or will do. G enerally speaking, there are three primary methods of social influence. These are compliance, identification, and internalization.

Each works slightly differently, but they both work to make use of two inherent needs that people have--the need to be right and the need to be liked, both of which we will be discussing in more depth later. C ompliance No more trying to control and moderate. No more attempting to do deals with myself. Alcohol was going from my life and I would teach myself how to be a non-drinker. How completely and utterly terrifying. All my years I had been conditioned to believe that alcohol was a vital ingredient if you wanted to lead a full, fun life. Facing the prospect of never drinking again was like standing on the edge of a cliff, staring into a black abyss. But I knew something had to change, and this was it. Alcohol had to go. I had no idea what was to come. Getting sober transforms every single aspect of my life. Whatever glucose they absorbed trickled into their bloodstream over several hours. Most of the vegetation they consumed passed through their intestines undigested. STARCH: NATURE'S Rocket Fuel HOW DO seeds get energy to sprout if they're underground and don't have leaves to soak up sunlight? Nature solves this problem by loading up seeds with a powerful fuel: starch. Starch is nothing but sugar molecules linked end to end by flimsy bonds, which plant and animal enzymes have no trouble breaking. Starch looks like a white powder, but it's actually chains of glucose molecules stacked together like cordwood to form tiny crystals loaded with caloric energy. No food we commonly eat, including fat, has as many calories packed into as small a space as starch.

The funny thing is, you can't taste it. Starch doesn't turn to sugar until it reaches your gut, where it is quickly broken down and absorbed into your bloodstream. T his refers to the appearance of agreeing but not actually agreeing in theory. You may act in the way that was requested of you, but you are not going to actually believe in it. For example, imagine that you are currently being asked to change a policy at work--perhaps you are told that you must refuse to serve anyone wearing purple and green shirts. If they are wearing both purple and green, you are told that you must not allow them to enter your store. Despite the fact that you may think that the rule is silly or is something that should not be enforced, you do force the point simply because you believe that you must follow through with what you were told to do. After all, if you do not comply with the whims of your employer, you will simply no longer have one. The result is that you will tell other people that they cannot shop in your store on the basis of the color of their clothing. You tell them that if they change their clothing, they can come in, but if not, they cannot enter. You apologize for the rule and say that you disagree with it, but you have no choice but to follow along. After all, you still have bills to pay. After my sad and shameful hiding-the-bottle moment, I go through a monumental turnaround. I quickly come to the realisation that for most of my adult life I've been an A-grade emotion-avoider, using alcohol to help me hide from uncomfortable feelings. Coming to terms with my sadness and anger (plus every other emotion you can name) is a painful and messy process. I slowly discover how to embrace fear and vulnerability, which enables me to properly connect not only with myself, but with all the people around me. I learn how to recognise the workings of my brain, how to distance myself from my thoughts, and how to ground myself in my body and the moment. I learn how healing tears are, and how pure joy makes my breath catch in my throat. I also discover new, authentic ways to relax and unwind, and how to socialise without a drink (or eight) in my belly. Mingling with others while sober is awfully awkward and uncomfortable at first but, like everything else after quitting, it eventually becomes my new, comfortable normal.

I realise that parties and events succeed or fail based on a range of factors that don't include the type of liquid I have in my glass. In short, I discover that I don't need alcohol to live a full, fun life, and that all the messages I've been fed my whole life regarding alcohol are complete and utter bullshit. About 10,000 years ago, the human diet changed dramatically. In an area known as the Fertile Crescent in what are now parts of Iraq and Syria, wild wheat and barley grew in abundance. The seeds of those grasses contain unusually large amounts of starch, a powdery substance that consists of glucose molecules linked together in long chains. Enzymes in the seeds can break the bonds that hold the starch molecules together and use the glucose for the energy needed to sprout. The high starch content of these seeds gave them a jump start so they could mature quickly during the short rainy season typical of this region. Although Mother Nature intended starch to be used as an energy source for plants, not animals, the bonds that hold its glucose molecules together are weak enough that the digestive enzymes of animals can break them, too. To keep predators from eating the starch in these seeds, they were encased in rock-hard husks. You can't just strip wheat seeds from the stalk and eat them; Somehow you have to extract the starch from the husk. About 10,000 years ago, some of our more resourceful ancestors learned to grind wheat and barley seeds between rocks and let the wind blow away the chaff. You still have mouths to feed. You need to work. This is compliance--you act as if you are in agreement even if your true thoughts on the matter are contradictory. I nternalization I nternalization, on the other hand, is meant to influence the way in which people think and act at the same time. It is the attempt to change the thoughts of someone else while also encouraging the change of behaviors as well. It is essentially getting people to agree with you and the thoughts that you have. It is asking people to change the way in which you are able to think and act at the same time.