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She walks among the valleys now, she strides upon the hill. Her smile is in the summer sky, her grace is in the breeze. Her memories whisper in the grass, her calm is in the trees. Her light is in the winter snow, her tears are in the rain. Her merriment runs in the brook, her laughter in the lane. Despite the apparent similarity with nonobjective art, it still lacks the tension necessary for authentic mature art. It is a promise but not yet an achievement. Sooner or later the growing person's art must relate itself to the dialectic tension that comes out of confronting limits and is present in all forms of mature art. Michelangelo's writhing slaves; Van Gogh's fiercely twisting cypress trees; Cezanne's lovely yellow-green landscapes of southern France, reminding us of the freshness of eternal spring--these works have that spontaneity, but they also have the mature quality that comes from the absorption of tension. This makes them much more than interesting; The controlled and transcended tension present in the work of art is the result of the artists' successful struggle with and against limits. The significance of limits in art is seen most clearly when we consider the question of form. Form provides the essential boundaries and structure for the creative act. And reach out if you're struggling--to family, friends, a trusted therapist. In the meantime, consider the potential power of essential oils. WHAT essential oils CAN DO: Pain relief is the most time-honored use of the coffee plant: it was held up as a tonic in China more than 4,000 years ago. A deeper scientific dive shows the potential for its cannabinoids essential oils and caffeine to treat pain in fibromyalgia and migraine, arthritis, cancer, MS, and more. The key lies in their interaction with the ECS.

Trials have shown their role in boosting the production and activity of key endocannabinoids and other chemicals in the ECS to target pain. A 2018 Journal of Pain Research study showed that a essential oils-caffeine combination--present in the drug Sativex, in FDA trial as of 2018--delivered significant relief for sufferers of cancer, MS, and other pain-intensive diseases. Other coffee plant compounds may play supporting roles: in his 2008 report in Clinical Risk Management, Dr Ethan Russo noted that the terpene myrcene is both analgesic and anti-inflammatory, and that at least one flavonol has the potential to relieve pain more effectively than aspirin. Topical: salves, balms, lotions, oils for back, arthritic joints, and other localized pain. As we approach the end of life, we all wish to take our leave painlessly and with serenity. So my hidden protective impulse distracted me from his aggression. Identification with the aggressor and protection of the victim work together to reinforce the fragile bully's antagonism, and the dance goes on. Though misdirection has the effect of a deftly performed magic trick, someone in the grip of narcissism has little awareness of the performance. Directing the focus back to oneself is a narcissistic reflex. The fragile bully's vulnerability is both a reality and a convenient tool. Barb, like Narcissus, couldn't bear to part with her own reflection, and her team became another way for her to affirm her fleeting sense of self. The team, in a sense, became her. This is why her dedication and commitment got so easily mixed up with bullying and control. Anything that shifted focus away from her was a problem needing swift correction. Delegating Aggression Rodriguez had played sports in high school and he knew the value of practice and repetition, but this was a lot more complex than any sport or any skill he had ever tried to master. As soon as he became comfortable with the instruments, he would be faced with the daunting task of learning to execute various flying maneuvers (like rolls), and to develop a feel for the exact speeds needed to enter them. All of this required extremely rapid mental calculations. The golden boys would ace these maneuvers in no time. For Rodriguez, it would require a lot of repetition and intense focus every time he entered the cockpit.

He noticed sometimes that his body would get there ahead of his mind; Once this mark was passed, he would have to learn how to fly in formation, working with other pilots in an intricately coordinated team. Flying in formation meant juggling several skills at the same time, and the complexity of it all could be mind-boggling. Part of him was motivated by the great excitement he felt commanding such a jet and working with the team, and part of him was also motivated by the challenge. He had noticed that in gaining control of the jet and the various maneuvers, he had developed acute powers of concentration. Her gentleness is in the flowers, her sigh in autumn leaves. She does not leave, she is not gone, 'tis only we that grieve. This time, Rob and I spoke at our daughter's memorial in person. We used many of the same notes we had written for Lauren's Ottawa gathering, and had only fleeting moments where emotions risked closing our throats. I recall walking up the stairs from the audience at Koerner Hall and onto the stage. As I stepped up to the podium, I took a deep breath. I began by saying the words I'd always used in the studio when there was a challenge at hand: We can do this. And we did. I told our friends and family in the auditorium and watching online (both live and later on) that Lauren had never worried us: she didn't do drugs, didn't drink and always made sound decisions. She was everything we wanted in a daughter, and we took comfort in knowing that she knew we felt this way every day that she lived. It is no accident that the art critic Clive Bell, in his articles about Cezanne, cites significant form as the key to understanding the great painter's work. Let us say I draw a rabbit on a blackboard. You say, There's a rabbit. In reality there is nothing at all on the blackboard except the simple line I have made: no protrusion, nothing three dimensional, no indentation. It is the same blackboard as it was, and there can be no rabbit on it.

You see only my chalk line, which may be infinitesimally narrow. This line limits the content. It says what space is within the picture and what is outside--it is a pure limiting to that particular form. The rabbit appears because you have accepted my communication that this space within the line is that which I wish to demarcate. There is in this limiting a nonmaterial character, a spiritual character if you will, that is necessary in all creativity. Palliative care is a step in that direction. Often called hospice care, palliative care may take place in a patient's home or in a care facility, hospital, or inpatient hospice. A team made up of medical, social, and spiritual caregivers helps the patient address the many factors that can make this period one of pain and apprehension. Rather than actively trying to heal a condition, the focus is on managing pain and comfort and bringing emotional, psychological, and spiritual contentment. End-stage conditions can include cancer, congestive heart failure, pulmonary fibrosis, kidney disease, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, and many more. In each one, pain management is key, especially with end-stage cancer. But other physical concerns, like shortness of breath, constipation, and nausea, must be managed, too. And psychological and spiritual concerns need to be addressed. Nearing the unknown can bring stress, loneliness, depression, and sleepless nights. Hospice patients often suffer anxiety as they worry about the future of their loved ones. In addition to moving us closer to power and rewards, identification with the aggressor allows us to relinquish responsibility for our own aggression. Aligning with the bully comes with its own form of misdirection: we can disavow our own violent feelings while secretly appreciating that someone else has expressed them. For women, who face social constraints on aggression and still have limited access to power, this identification may indirectly empower them. The woman who marries a strong bad boy may be considered weak, when she is actually--though perhaps unconsciously--being strategic. I recall my little sister and me tagging along with my dad on his clergy visits to the elderly.

My sister lacked my shyness about asking for what she wanted, and at each stop blurted out, Do you have any candy? I loved this, because when they offered her candy, I got some, too. I even took to whispering a prompt to my sister to remind her to make the requests. I could remain sweet and quiet, and she was small enough to get by with her less refined manners. Though this is a benign example of delegating aggression, it illustrates the reason why we may empower people we would not want to emulate. He could tune everything out and immerse himself completely in the moment. This made every new skill set a little easier to master. Slowly, through sheer tenacity and practice, he rose to the top of his class, and was considered among the few who could serve as fighter pilots. But there remained one last hurdle in his ascent to the top: flying in the high-scale exercises run by all branches of the military. In this case it was a matter of understanding the overall mission and operating in an intricately orchestrated land-air-sea campaign. It required an even higher level of awareness, and at moments during these exercises Rodriguez had an odd sensation--he was no longer focusing on the various physical elements of flying or on the individual skill components, but was thinking and feeling the overall campaign and how he fit into it in a seamless fashion. It was a sensation of mastery, and it was fleeting. He also noticed a slight gap between himself and the golden boys. They had relied for so long on their natural skills that they had not cultivated the same level of concentration that he now possessed. In many ways, he had surpassed them. I joked that she grew up knowing there would be a therapy fund for her if she ever needed it. But she was so well-adjusted, it turned out she didn't, and we had Rob to thank for that! I said that I'd learned at her Ottawa memorial that although Lauren had worried she wasn't going to be good enough to get into Algonquin College's radio course, her professor said she was the best student ever to have gone through the program. Then I apologized if that sounded boastful. Throughout the time I had at that podium, I kept asking: With her short courtship, her desire to get into her career as soon as she could and, of course, her untimely and tragic passing, Why couldn't she wait?