Saturday, 31 October 2020

Making people laugh

This is plausible as well. People with depression often withdraw from social contacts, because they fear to annoy others with their bad mood. Or they are very quiet, because they are lacking in drive, energy and motivation. Or they constantly talk about how terrible things are, because in the depressive mind thoughts like these are dominating. For friends and family, this behavior is usually quite disturbing, and at some point, contact to the depressive is avoided. This expressive training was supposed to help people being more disinhibited and spontaneous. It consisted of exercises, in which participants practiced to communicate the own feelings (verbally and with the appropriate facial expression), to disagree with others in a very decisive manner, to use the word I very frequently, and to explicitly agree when being praised. With the help of this training, many shy ones got transformed into blissful egocentrics. The Best Year Ever Blueprint Live Event: The TD Threshold partnered with my buddies Hal Elrod and Jon Berghoff for an annual three-day event. The Best Year Ever Blueprint (BYEB) live event is designed to be highly experiential so that each attendee can create their personal playarticle for the year and discover the fuel needed to bring their most compelling future visions to life. The event is unlike any other. Year after year, attendees never know what surprises they might encounter, but at previous events they've found anything from drum circles to professional improv training. There have been interviews with billionaires and magic shows on the same afternoon. The fun, energy, and inspiration is all mixed with actionable content, meaningful conversations, and the co-creation of your best year ever. The experience is world-class, and people return time and time again because the environment is carefully designed for each person to come fully alive. If you want to have your best year ever, visit FrontRowFactor. THE POWER OF PROXIMITY Newcomb discerned that the difference was that the young women who became liberal used the campus community as a reference group, whereas the young women who remained conservative maintained their families and friends from home as their reference group. APPLICATION Conformity in Juries

One context in which conformity probably plays a large role is in criminal jury trials. In the United States, juries typically have 6 to 12 members and usually have to come to a unanimous verdict. If they don't, the result is a hung jury, and the defendant is either released or retried. Because the goal is a unanimous verdict of either guilty or not guilty, there is likely a lot of pressure to go along with the majority verdict. Indeed, research supports the role of conformity caused by normative pressure in juror decisions. In a survey study of former jurors from 367 jury trials, Waters and Hans (2009) asked their participants what their verdict would have been if they had decided the verdict alone. For 38% of the juries, at least one person reported that he or she would have chosen a different verdict if he or she had decided alone! This percentage of juries in which at least one private dissenter conformed to the majority of jurors is strikingly similar to the finding in the Asch study that participants conformed to the wrong answer on 37% of the line-judging trials. In the 60s and 70s, Joseph Wolpe took up these ideas and created assertiveness training. A central part of it is the classification of behavior into passive, aggressive, and assertive. Passive behavior is when someone is not defending against aggression and abuse, and instead is practicing appeasement. That's what it's called when one's entire behavior is directed towards not angering the other person under any circumstances. Typical behaviors: speaking with a low voice, avoiding eye contact, excessive begging for apology, holding back the own opinion, etc Aggressive behavior is defined as expressing and enforcing the own will while totally ignoring the interests of others. Typical behaviors: shouting, touching, giving orders, speaking very loudly, not listening, pointing a finger, showing the finger, etc Assertive behavior is regarded as the way to go. Here, attention is paid to the other's point of view, but also to expressing the own sight on things. Typical behaviors: speaking loud and clearly, communicating own feelings, avoiding passive and aggressive behaviors, etc Dr John Norcross, an expert on behavior change and the author of Changeology, states, Your environment is not defined simply by where you are; Where you are matters.

What you see, feel, and experience matters. And who you're with matters. Your environment is anything in the physical realm--locations, activities, people-- that affects your emotional experience, because it captures your attention and changes your experience, consciously or not. Within FRF, one of the most powerful forces at work is simply taking recipients out of their daily environment and putting them somewhere new. While allowing them to share the experience with loved ones, it also puts them in proximity with their heroes--the great moment makers of entertainment or sports who help make life special. This experience interrupts the pattern of daily life and allows space for something new to emerge. We've taken that same philosophy, which started with FRF recipients, and applied it to the Retreat, the Summit, and everything else we do. If proximity is power, how can you shape your world, your environment, to make the most of every moment? In addition, Waters and Hans (2009) found that hung juries were more likely when there were two or more private dissenters than when there was only one, consistent with the Asch finding that a fellow dissenter makes it much easier to hold one's ground and not conform. This pattern of findings suggests that conforming to the majority due to normative pressure contributes to decisive verdicts that profoundly affect people's lives. Neural Processes Associated with Conformity Research using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) of the brain provides some insight into the neural processes that may be associated with conformity. Recall that Sherif's work suggests that a majority group opinion sometimes changes the way we actually perceive stimuli in our environment. Are these changes in perception reflected in how our brain processes perceptual stimuli? It appears so. Berns and colleagues (2005) scanned participants' brains while they made judgments about the spatial orientation of three-dimensional geometric figures. Participants were given feedback about how other people who were purportedly in the session thought the figures were oriented. In another condition, participants were given the same type of feedback but were told it was computer generated. There are special techniques that are often taught in this training. Here are two examples.

The broken record This technique comes into play when you have said no to something, but the other does not accept this refusal and tries to persuade you to a yes. The trick: repeating the words of rejection over and over again in a monotonous manner without any variation - like a broken record, where the player needle keeps jumping to the same spot. Do this until the other gives up. This technique is for situations in which you are confronted with a personal attack. When doing fogging, you don't defend yourself or start a counter-attack. Instead, you partially agree to the attacker's subjective point of view (not to the statement being objectively correct). It disrupts the other's expectation in which way you are going to respond, and evokes confusion. Creating these experience for the past 11 years with TD Threshold has caused me to ask myself, How can I intentionally shape my environment to create the most meaningful experiences for my family and business? For a few years now, my wife and I have been exploring what environment would most align with our values. We explored Richmond, Virginia; Athens, Georgia; Denver, Colorado; Temecula, California; Jupiter, Florida; Hudson, Ohio; At times, we'd visit areas for up to five weeks to really immerse ourselves in the culture. All were amazing cities, but in the end we wanted to make one of them home, and eventually our very last stop became our first choice. When participants conformed to the opinions of others, the areas of the brain implicated in spatial perception and mental rotation (the occipital-parietal areas) were more active. However, this effect did not occur when the feedback was said to be from the computer.

Berns and colleagues argue that peer opinion--in contrast to other forms of information--exerts an especially potent influence on how we perceive objects in our world. This research also informs how the brain responds when we go against the grain, fail to conform, and thus stick out. Brain scans of the nonconformists showed increased activation of the amygdala in the brain's right hemisphere, an area commonly associated with fear. This fits with the negative feelings nonconformers report when they are socially rejected (Cialdini & Goldstein, 2004) and the idea that people conform as a way to avoid such feelings. The neuroscience perspective also teaches us that conformity may occur in part because people view going against the group as akin to making a mistake. In a study conducted in the Netherlands, Klucharev and colleagues (2009) had participants make judgments about how attractive they found pictures of people's faces while their brains were being scanned. After each rating, participants were informed of the average European rating of each face. About a half hour after this, participants were unexpectedly asked to re-rate the attractiveness of the faces. Another example of what could be considered as fogging is shown in the movie Roxanne from 1987. Here, Steve Martin plays a man with an exceptionally long nose. In a bar scene, he is confronted by a bully who calls him bignose to start a fight. Instead of being outraged or attacking back, Steve Martin's movie character C. Bales challenges his opponent to a bet about knowing the best insults for people with long noses. After Bales presented the cheering bar audience 20 variants like would you mind not bobbing your head? The orchestra keeps changing tempo, the attacker was out of ammunition. The next evolutionary step of social skills trainings was the addition of cognitions. The idea is that social behavior is greatly influenced by the own thoughts - such as, what I think is appropriate when being with my boss, what goes through my mind when walking through a crowded street, or what I guess are my chances of getting the phone number of that hot lady over there. In general: it's about how I judge myself and other people around me. It was Austin, Texas. We've been asked a lot recently, why Austin?

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