Saturday, 31 October 2020

You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve

After taking on the 8-day Front Row Moment Experiment, many in our community have committed to 8 weeks. While 8 days will be great place to start, if you really want to ensure you've created a new daily rhythm, you may find that 8 weeks is a sweet spot. It's short enough that anyone can participate, and it's long enough to help build a true rhythm into your life. Personally, I've found that in order for a new rhythm to stick in my life, I need somewhere between 45-90 days. Some of you may be thinking about committing even longer. Nina chose 180 days--why? She really wanted to create a new rhythm in her life what would stick. Whether it's 8 days, 8 weeks, or 180 days, I invite you to join others in our community and be part of the Front Row Moment Experiment in hopes that you realize the benefits that so many others have and ultimately become a partner in the Front Row Moment Movement. First, he proposed that from an evolutionary perspective, groups with a single leader and people willing to do what they are told may have operated more effectively as small groups in obtaining food and other resources and defending the group from threats. Thus, a capacity to obey may be part of our heritage as group-living animals. In situations in which individuals feel that they are in the presence of a legitimate higher authority, they acquire a state of mind in which they view themselves as agents executing the wishes of that authority figure, thereby abdicating personal responsibility for their actions. Some research supports this agentic account. In a situation resembling Milgram's, participants in Belgium were either ordered by an experimenter to administer electric shocks to another participant or were given the choice to administer shocks (Caspar et al. What is surprising about these studies is that participants actually inflicted harm on each other; The researchers measured electrical activity in the brain often associated with feeling responsible. When participants obeyed commands to inflict harm, they showed neurological signs of a lower sense of personal agency, as if the cause for their action came from outside themselves. However, Milgram (1974) himself reported that his participants often exhibited signs of stress and internal conflict, including nervous laughter. These indicators suggest that participants struggled with what was the right thing to do rather than simply becoming agents of the authority figure and entirely abdicating responsibility for their actions. A very obvious neutralization is the excessive wiping after one thinks that a contamination may have occurred. But there are also much less obvious neutralizations, such as counting the steps at home when walking from room to room.

Why counting the steps? Because, if the number of steps you just did is the usual amount, then this proves that you weren't outside, running someone over with your car, and not remembering it. And indeed - there's nothing wrong with this logic. OCD has its own popular cognitive-behavioral model as well. The boxes show the way from having an intrusion to performing obsessive-compulsive behavior, and the arrows picture how neutralization contributes to the persistence of the problem. Diagram based on Paul Salkovskis [19] Third wave of cognitive behavioral therapy Mindfulness Our goal in this experiment transcends the nature of the temporary commitment inherent in it. Meaning, what starts as an experiment for you builds your confidence and enthusiasm to join what is already a life philosophy for others just like yourself. A way to maximize your life experience well beyond the experiment itself. Whether you call this experiment a challenge, goal, or commitment, the essence is that you're elevating your life and the lives of those around you by experimenting with something new. Reading this now, you may already be a moment maker--awesome! There is always another level of mastery. If you're brand new, perfect! This is a moment when you get to choose a new adventure. Are you ready to get started? Step 1: Get the Front Row Moment Experiment Quick Start Kit And, of course, a substantial minority of participants eventually refused to go on even after being forcefully prodded to continue (Reicher et al. Another explanation begins by noting that a considerable portion of the socialization process involves teaching children to obey first their parents and then teachers, other adults, doctors, police, and a host of other legitimate authority figures within the culture.

So we all have been taught to obey legitimate authority figures. And by and large we are rewarded when we do obey and are punished, often severely, when we don't. Obedience is the norm in all cultures and becomes a remarkable and negative phenomenon only when authority figures tell us to do things that end up causing great harm. Besides the innate predispositions and learning experiences we humans share, Milgram also pointed to some specific factors in the paradigm he created that may have contributed to the levels of obedience. One is the gradual increase in the severity of the actions in which the participants were commanded to engage. Fifteen volts is barely a noticeable tickle, a 30-volt shock is very tolerable, and so on. Thus, one aspect of the process was its gradual nature. Once the participant delivered 30 volts, why not proceed to 45? While the first and second wave of behavioral therapy came as true theoretical and methodological revolutions, the third one isn't quite as radical. The division into different waves has its origin in the American psychologist Steven C. Hayes, who suggested this in his 2004 article Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Relational Frame Theory, and the Third Wave of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies [20]. Instead of a single bright idea, the new wave is characterized by the appearance of some novel CBT-oriented psychotherapies, in which the usual techniques were mixed with methods from other therapeutic schools. It also has its unique feature: Far Eastern spirituality. Conditioning was the defining term for the first wave. Cognition it was for the second. And the third one has its magic word as well: Mindfulness. Hearing this word instantly makes the eyes of countless behavioral therapists shine. Since the start of this trend, the look of a lot of CBT offices changed, since these are now decorated in a Buddhistic fashion: singing bowls, incense sticks, blissful smiling Buddha figurines, etc Being mindful has even become the universal advice for nearly all life situations - from drinking tea to dealing with getting cheated on by partners. Visit FrontRowFactor. This will give you a daily tracker and journal along with other supplies that will support your experiment.

Take a moment now and go download this quickly. Whether you decided to take on 8 days or 8 weeks, this is where you'll begin. Step 2: Today, document one front row moment Starting now, document your first #FrontRowMoment. Want to see some examples to get you started? Our community is most active on Facearticle, and by using this hashtag you can search hundreds of other front row moments to both like and comment to encourage others or simply to gain inspiration. When you download your Quick Start Kit, you'll get a personal invite to our community article. Step 3: Put a reminder somewhere you'll see it so you remember to do this each day. Once 45, why not 60? And if one has delivered 330 volts, why resist moving on to 345? Can you think of any theories that could explain how actions once taken can increase commitment to further actions along similar lines? Recall self-perception theory, which suggests that we infer our attitudes from our own actions, and cognitive dissonance theory, which proposes that people often shift their attitudes to justify their prior actions. Either or both of these theories could help explain why someone who has delivered 315 volt shocks likely would be okay with delivering 330 volts. Such processes are even more likely to be involved in harmful real-life examples of obedience. Imagine being a non-Jewish German during the early 1930s. Perhaps a friend coaxes you into going to a Hitler rally. Once you are there, others greet you with Heil Hitler. You find yourself following suit. If you search on Amazon for articles with mindful in the title, you get over 30. The trend in February 2014 even made it to the cover of the Time magazine with the headline The Mindful Revolution.

Mindfulness is a concept that has its roots in Buddhist meditation. The word describes a state of consciousness, in which one's attention is intentionally focused on the present moment without being judgmental. For achieving this inner state, mindfulness aspirants can choose from a great variety of exercises. If one day you should meet a person that is slowly moving a single raisin between their fingers, inspecting it thoroughly from all sides, licking on it from time to time, and even holding it to the ear to discover potential sounds, then you either have found an extraordinary expert for dried grapes, or somebody is doing the raisin meditation from Jon Kabat Zinn's program Mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR). Mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) MBSR is the oldest of the third wave-therapies. Already in the 1970s, people ate their raisins in slow motion and with maximal attention. The program is often offered as an 8-week group course, with the main parts being lectures about mindfulness and meditation, and practical training in a variety of mindfulness exercises. It could be an alarm on your phone, written into your calendar, or scribbled with lipstick or dry erase marker on your bathroom mirror. Creating a new habit or rhythm takes time, so give yourself every possible advantage. Step 4: Find an accountability partner Hundreds of experiments later, I've noticed that when someone has an accountability partner, they're far more likely to follow through. It's not only more fun to share this experience, it's more effective. Who do you know that would value this experiment? Invite them to join you right now. Take bold action in this very moment. To help ensure you recognize or create one front row moment each day, here's the secret sauce. THE MOMENT MAKER'S THREE ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS EACH DAY Sometime later, the Nazi propaganda machine exhorts you to boycott Jewish shops. If you support that, why not support the deportation of Jews to concentration camps, where they will have to work for the Third Reich?

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