Bossy Taking Charge

Instead of focusing on facial expressions or bodily sensations, which are not shared or reliable ways to identify emotions, I focused on how we understand and use emotions. I studied each emotion in relation to what was happening, how people responded, and what they did with the emotion in question. Some emotions, such as anger, were easy to organize because their purpose is so obvious: for instance, anger helps people set boundaries around what they value. How people set those boundaries -- with clarity, weakness, or violence -- was completely dependent on their emotional skills (or lack of skills), but the purpose of anger remains stable in all cases. Some emotions, such as anxiety, were harder to figure out, either because I didn't feel them in stereotypical ways, or because the emotions were so demonized that people repressed them or refused to admit to feeling them (think of jealousy, envy, hatred, and shame, among others). But every emotion eventually responded to my empathic inquiries (thank you, my friends! In DEI, we work to make the emotions as easy to understand as possible without simplifying them too much. We've found that organizing the emotions into four families helps people identify and empathize with them more easily. The short lists that follow present the seventeen emotions, the gifts they bring you, and the empathic questions you can ask them that will help you understand and work with them as your friends and guides. Because this article focuses on anxiety, I won't be covering all seventeen emotions in detail. Many caregivers find it very difficult to get another job after having been away for many months or years. Your health can be a cost you may not think of when you enter the world of caregiving. Studies have found that many caregivers say their role has caused their own mental and physical health to decline. Researchers have also found that caregivers have worse physical and emotional health than do non-caregivers. This equates to increased health care costs for caregivers, especially those who have lost their health insurance as a result of having left their job to become a caregiver. The hard costs of caregiving Though the costs may at first appear to be higher, there are a range of options that can provide the care your loved one needs without costing you time, lost wages, and so forth. Following are the 2019 U. Nursing home (private room): $280/day, $8,517/month, $102,200/year Nursing home (semi-private room): $247/day, $7,513/month, $90,155/year

The famous Adverse Childhood Experiences study done by Kaiser and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention documents the lifelong effects of early stressors. According to author Joseph Chilton Pierce, expectant mothers who are stressed or anxious give birth to babies with a smaller neocortex (the part that has the higher cognitive functions) and a larger hindbrain (that has the more primitive fight-or-flight survival circuits). Without a well-developed neocortex, there are problems with executive function, emotion regulation, and impulse control, leading to behavior problems, cognitive deficits, and emotional disorders. These babies begin life with significant neural disadvantages. The emotional life of most adults is rife with emotional neurotoxins--stressful, scary, or anxiety-producing relationships, relationships with emotional or physical bullying or harassment, important relationships where there is emotional coldness, distance, or controlling behavior. On top of this many experience financial stresses, illness, family stresses, worry about politics or the future. These emotional neurotoxins produce physical neurotoxins that have a profound impact on the brain. Stress also disrupts the tight junctions of the intestines and the blood-brain barrier, allowing in toxins and producing inflammation in the brain and gut. On the opposite side, as more and more people withdraw from human contact into their cell phones and computers, this lack or diminishing of real, physical relationship creates loneliness, social isolation, and a lack of real intimacy, which in turn produces stress, inflammation, increased interpersonal fear, and anxiety. Healthy, genuine relationships are necessary to feel good, but with the retreat into screens, this vital emotional nutrient is in shorter supply than ever. You don't have to write a letter; It's so difficult for some women to put themselves first that they would rather continue with so-so hair than hurt someone's feelings. Don't let this be you! For more ways to find a new stylist (or any beauty pro), read article 3. What If You Can't Find a Style Genius Near You? Chris Cusano has a client who flies in from London. Antoinette Guzzo has one who hops a plane from Germany. But here's a little nugget that makes me marvel at the ingenuity of modern American women. There are groups of women in Virginia, North Carolina, and Florida who round up their friends and relatives and organize a beauty weekend splitting the cost of flying in a hairdresser from New York. They article the stylist into a hotel, where she spends the weekend cutting the hair of all the women who are in on the deal.

Trauma results in a fundamental reorganization of the way mind and brain manage perceptions. It changes not only how we think and what we think about, but also our capacity to think. What about the 2020 pandemic that put us in isolation, fear, mistrust and panic? What trauma has this caused our society as well as humanity? Many of us rely on physical social interaction to maintain a positive energy level. During the months of lockdown during the 2020 pandemic, that energy was not available to us. Mankind suffered in many different ways during the pandemic due to isolation. I had clients calling from New York City who were stuck in apartments by themselves for ten weeks, having groceries delivered with no exposure to the air outside. The impact of living this way for extended periods of time is traumatic, leaving an imprint on one's consciousness full of fear, doubt, sadness, and anger. People were forced to go inward, without much of a choice, and the fallout was profound. All people have doubts at the beginning. But that shouldn't be surprising. They're being asked to buy into something on faith. Not only have they had no experience with being empowered, in many cases they've been unempowered. Also in the beginning they don't know how the process is going to work. They have no sense of WIIFM. What's WIIFM? What's-In-It-For-Me. You can't blame people for being skeptical. Enough flavor-of-the-month programs have come and gone for people to believe that this is just another one of them.

If you want to reach your goals you have to put a lot of effort into it, and most important of all you have to take action. Just sitting on your sofa and imagining and visualizing a better life is not enough. To take action, to make things happen is one of the secrets to success and happiness in life. Just talking about your dreams, plans, and goals is not enough. It's the results that count, and without action, there are no results. The biggest difference between people who reach their goals and people who stay stuck is ACTION. People who reach their goals are doers who are taking action consistently. If they make a mistake they learn from it and go on; Be an action taker. If you really, really want something, chances are that you have to get out there and earn it. Release other people's opinions of you. Affirm: I am good enough. I am worth loving. Your Day 5 Mirror Work Exercise Stand in front of your bathroom mirror. Look into your eyes. Say this affirmation: I love and approve of myself. Keep saying it over and over again: I love and approve of myself. Repeat this affirmation at least 100 times a day. Yes, that's right: 100 times.

Gradually, you will notice a decrease in your productivity. You are unlikely to feel good about yourself since there is little that you achieve. Worrying too much about not being able to sleep can make you uneasy and you may find yourself in a state of captivity. If this is something that you have been experiencing, then it sounds like you might be an overthinker. What could you do about this? First, if you are not active, then it is vital that you find a way of keeping yourself busy. In addition, meditation is a great practice that can help you stop overthinking and relax and focus on the present. You Always Live in Fear Are you afraid about what the future has in store for you? If you answer yes to this question, then chances are that you're caged in your mind. Socrates was the wisest man in Greece on the grounds that he realized that he knew nothing. The thing is, it is difficult to make progress on refining your judgment when your attention is consumed by the pursuit of externals. Indeed, the very fact that you still think that pursuing externals is important is a measure of your scarce progress. You can't devote much energy to becoming wealthy and wise at the same time; It is one or the other. And you ought to know which one. AS DIFFICULT AS IT MAY be, you need to accept that your children, your companion, your friends, and indeed yourself are not going to live forever. This is not a sad fact, it is a fact. The sadness is entirely a construct of your mind. You are foolish if you wish these things not to be the way they are, because it is not in your power to change them.