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Use your free time to consume the information that supports you in creating the life that you want. Before you know it, even when you are left to your own devices, your automatic thoughts start to manifest themselves in ways that support your vision- not to the silly comment made at you during lunchtime. When the worry is bigger We have all had those near-breaking point moments, which look different for each person. It doesn't matter how big or small it appears to you - whether it's the death of a loved one or nasty words aimed in your direction by a colleague, it's all relative. There are times when needless worry kicks in, and that's where taking control of your free-thinking time can serve you tremendously. However, if it's something that's continuously on your mind, you need to deal with it. I find that most of my worries tend to dissipate during my free-thinking time or when I exercise but there are times when it just keeps coming up again and again. So many people relegate their thoughts to, `It's not important', `Nobody understands' or even worse, `Nobody cares anyways', but the reality is that it's relative. No worry is too small - worries are like seeds - if that seed is planted and you leave it alone, it can grow into a mighty oak tree. You have to be sure in your own mind that the ship is lost, metaphorically speaking, rather than merely off course, or waiting for a fairer wind. If you started this journey with belief in yourself and belief in the path you had chosen, then you owe it to yourself, and your dream, to give it everything you have. Many people give up on their dreams just at the last moment - as they are about to achieve a major breakthrough, if only they had given one last push. So how do you know if this is you? Let's consider some possibilities. Shiny object syndrome In most cases the reasons behind wanting to quit is not the fact that we have given up on our dreams, or the `Why' behind our reasons for starting a running program in the first place, but rather that the program we are on has become stale and dull, and doesn't excite or inspire us anymore. We start to think and believe that there must be something else out there that will help us achieve our goals faster, easier and at the same time will be much sexier and a lot more fun. And the guy in the local bar talks about the fantastic cycling program he's following, or the girl from the office raves about the `buzz' she gets from her spinning classes, and suddenly you become convinced that this is the path you should take. In all probability you are suffering from what's known as `Shiny Object Syndrome' - where you are being tempted by something new and far more exciting than what you are already doing, which promises the same outcomes in an easier way.

Her ski caught an edge and before she knew it, she had fallen and broken her ankle. The immediate reaction was tears of pain from what she was experiencing in her ankle. Within minutes, the throbbing began, and the pain subsided, but what ensued then was the suffering of the mind, a failure of intelligence. Will I be able to walk? Take care of my children? What about work? How am I going to take care of the family? On and on the psychological suffering continued and before the ski patrol even arrived, she was hysterically crying as she dropped deeper into the fear of the future, again a failure of intelligence. This is pain, hurt, and trauma got stuck in the manomaya kosha, in the mind. The mind will latch on to the past or the future, creating mental disturbance that is not relevant to the current situation. Contemplation/Getting Ready In this stage, a person recognizes the negative impacts of her behavior, while typically also feeling pronounced ambivalence about taking any action. As she adds up the positive and negative consequences of the behavior day to day, she may be aware that there is a problem and feel equally overwhelmed by the prospect of doing something about it. It can be helpful to people in this stage to feel supported in examining the costs and benefits of change, openly and without the need to defend either side. For example, when your loved one says, I know I'm often hungover and sleep late on Saturdays, but I do enjoy my time with my friends on Friday nights, you might simply reflect back: Yeah, you were really sick last weekend, but I guess to you it felt worth it. If you can manage to say this with empathy for her dilemma and without sarcasm, you may find her voluntarily taking up the argument for change. Defenses down, she might wonder whether it is in fact worth it, rather than argue that it is. Preparation/Readiness At this stage, a person is preparing to make imminent changes based on her evaluation of the impact of the behavior in her life. She may not yet have fully determined how to accomplish these changes, or exactly what her goals are going to be, but she is considering a plan of action.

The most essential element in the creation of your desire to realize your dream is feeling or emotion. Your subconscious mind feeds on and stores any impulses that reach it through your senses. But those accompanied by the strongest emotions are remembered the best and replayed the most. It is interesting that negative impulses enter your mind constantly and undisturbed. It is stored and replayed making you act according to that stored blueprint, especially if it caused your emotions to spike. Positive impulses, on the other hand, need to be infused or injected constantly into your conscious mind to be stored in the subconscious mind. If you consciously keep injecting positive thoughts and emotions it will be prioritized as the preferred way to behave until it becomes a habit. You have to keep on repeating or injecting the positive thoughts behind your why. And in the process it must create a sense of achievement that fills you with strong emotions of joy and fulfillment. Only then will it override the negative thoughts which manifested as negative behavioral patterns or habits in your life and create new positive habits that help you achieve your goals. Those who grow up with such conflicting parental behaviors are thought to use various strategies to seek certainty, minimize threat, and protect themselves from criticism. The resulting perfectionistic and rigid behavior patterns only increase the person's vulnerability to anxiety, depression, and obsessive-compulsive symptoms. In support of these ideas, research on hoarding behavior indicates that uncertainty about parental attachment and ambivalence about oneself may be related to materialism, hoarding behavior, and compulsive buying. Also, people who hoard report feeling less warmth in their family compared to non-hoarding individuals, although not necessarily less than people with anxiety disorders. In a related vein, lack of warmth is associated with more severe hoarding. In one case study, people with hoarding problems cited emotional and material deprivation in childhood and not being allowed to keep items as possible factors in their attachment to objects. Dr Michael Kyrios and Colleagues' Model for Hoarding Disorder Related to this concept is the idea that possessions can increase feelings of security as symbols of interpersonal ties with others and cues for recalling past positive experiences. Hoarding is associated with hyper-sentimentality about personal belongings, such that people who hoard derived more comfort from their possessions than people who don't hoard. It is common to observe that people who hoard feel their possessions as extensions of themselves and feel responsible for taking care of the objects.

If you have panxiety responses that don't make sense, somatic healing approaches such as Somatic Experiencing can help you access these body-based responses, resolve your hyperactivation, and settle your system. To my eye, trauma-related panxiety is the form that's most often mistaken for anxiety. This is the misnamed anxiety attack. It's the misnamed anxiety disorder. This is an understandable mistake for people who don't understand the value of mixed emotions because anxiety is certainly involved in this response; This is also post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), but I don't support the use of that term because I challenge the idea that trauma-related responses like these are disordered. They can certainly feel out of place, destabilizing, or frightening, and they can lead us to respond in unusual or unhealthy ways to seemingly normal situations. However, if a traumatic response is still activated because it has not been down-regulated, resolved, or integrated, then it's important for your emotional system and your anxiety to highlight it. I call this a post-traumatic response rather than a disorder because it's normal to respond strongly to trauma, and it's normal to need support to deal with and down-regulate from it. Your panxiety may also be related to an ongoing situation of social inequality, illness, poverty, or a lack of safety. It's why Virgos constantly pick apart what they do. People think it's because you're perfectionists, but it's actually an elaborate form of procrastination. Focusing on what's wrong keeps you from identifying and then building on what's right. A to-do list is not a life purpose. It's a list of chores that changes every day but stays the same. Life purpose is when you connect to doing something that's unique to you and truly fulfilling. Chances are you already know what that is, but you've created such a laundry list of what you need to do beforehand that you're working harder, not smarter, toward getting there. The secret to your success is in finding your niche. This is what will make you truly indispensable. Virgos are the experts, but you're not experts because you're know-it-alls;

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