Controlling Your Emotions

Here's a little P. If you're not sure whether the timing is right or, if you want to delay placing your loved one in a nursing home, you may want to try adult day care. As discussed in article 40, adult day care can give you and your family respite during the day while allowing your loved one to have access to the services and care they need. This may be a great solution until your loved one's care needs increase. Keeping Peace in the Family I found if my husband stays very active, he does better both physically and mentally. So I suggest not sitting around feeling sorry for oneself. If they have had kids, they say, I lost my shape when I had babies. Women need a reason, but really the reason is that they have lost their physical connection with themselves at the deepest level. We women are fed countless get slim quick scams. Often, we try them! Nearly every diet is set up for an immediate 10-pound weight loss, but most are almost impossible to sustain. When we gain weight back, we blame ourselves and not the diet, which did make us thinner at first. We are human beings; Many times we aren't assuaging our physical hunger, but turning to food for other reasons. Extreme dieting doesn't just take away our food, it also keeps us from staying in touch with other important parts of who we are. I believe that we must learn to eat for every reason that we need food, for every part of us--all of the three selves: physical and mental and emotional. Inform -request - insist - walk away. For example, if somebody talks down to you, you inform them: I didn't like that comment or I don't like you talking to me in that tone. If they keep on, you request them to stop: Please stop talking to me like this.

Usually, that's when most people back off, but there will always be one or two that continue. With those you have to get a little more serious and insist: I insist that you stop talking to me this way. If all three steps don't help - leave. Leave the situation. State neutrally, I can't have this conversation, while you are _______. Let's talk later. Setting boundaries will improve your life and your self-esteem a lot. You almost never have a plan. And if you do, you rarely stick to it. Your genius is in making things up as you go and convincing everyone else this was what you had in mind all along. Mercury is in domicile in Gemini. It's where it's the most spontaneous, inventive, and improvisational. Nobody can paint themselves into a corner or talk their way out of a jam like you. Life would be much easier if only you'd learn to leave well enough alone, but that's just not going to happen. You were born with a curious mind that can't resist a riddle, mystery, or do not press button. So what do you get for all your aggravation? The things that only experimentation can bring like a new twist on a familiar formula, a fresh approach to an obstinate problem, or a secret passage where a brick wall used to be. Faux can be fabulous (just don't blab about it). Jeans are for daytime only. Jeans are hot and sexy for evening -- with heels and an embellished top.

Y&H EFFORTLESSLY CHIC WARDROBE ESSENTIALS Build your wardrobe with these classic essentials. Invest in the best, and they will be part of your wardrobe for years: THE BASICS OF LOOKING EFFORTLESSLY CHIC Okay, now we're set to get the scoop on Y&H dressing, shopping, and closet organizing that every fashionista follows but never talks about. GET CASUAL: LOOSEN UP YOUR LOOK -- BUT ONLY SO FAR In today's workplace, every day has become Casual Friday. These patterns are now manipulating your habits. Wikipedia defines a habit as a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur sub-consciously. It is not always easy to break or change old habits. When you have been doing something for years without thinking about it the habit or behavior has imprinted a neural pathway or pattern in your brain. This pattern takes conscious effort to change or replace. The following simple exercise will give you some idea of what I mean: Fold your arms. I believe it was quite easy and you did not have to think twice about how to do it, correct? When I cross my arms, my right hand is lodged underneath my left upper arm and my left hand rests on my right upper arm. Yours might be different, but we have been crossing our arms in this way for a very long time and we do it automatically without thinking. Ongoing, repeated trauma drills fear ever deeper into the brain. Trauma treatment is its own specialization. Unbeknownst to most traditionally trained therapists, many of the basic practices of regular therapy can be retraumatizing with trauma patients.

As most therapists are poorly trained in trauma, it's important to find someone who has special training in this area. Trauma and its residue can be treated and resolved. When this occurs, anxiety goes down significantly. Some of the best studied approaches are: Sometimes with specific traumatic incidents, trauma can be resolved relatively quickly. When trauma has been repeated and sustained over months or years, however, working through takes time. The first requirement is to feel safe. Things can get a bit tricky with family as you get further down the road with Parkinson's. As with any chronic illness, when a loved one starts to show signs of needing more care, there are many issues for family members to discuss and numerous vital decisions that need to be made. Sometimes the severity of these decisions and their potential implications can cause very heated discussions within a family. Depending on how big your family is, and how many people want to be involved in the caregiving process (even if it's not hands-on), having family meetings to discuss your loved one's care needs can be both practical and helpful. Before you have these meetings, it's important to keep a few things in mind. First, know that it's not uncommon for family members to disagree over how a loved one should be cared for. Even the most harmonious siblings can become divided on various topics relating to their parents' care. The good news is that peace is possible throughout the process. Try the following strategies to help keep the peace when discussing your loved one's care needs with family. Before you have your family meeting, you'll want to choose the right place for it. You can always make smart, healthy choices without depriving yourself of good foods. Our overall well-being always comes first. For the most part, we can't just diet, diet, diet.

We can't live with food restrictions, or we will begin to dream about food and shame ourselves for wanting things that we can safely consume and may even need for nourishment, both physical and emotional. When I am meeting with a client who truly needs to lose weight, the most important first step is movement. Moving is absolutely vital to successful weight management. Often, someone will try to delay this step and say, As soon as I diet off these extra 20 pounds, I'll start moving again and take a class. This is the wrong approach! They will need time to learn to commit to the dieting part of their journey back to health; Once they no longer have such sedentary habits, and they have improved upon their physical performance, a piece of pizza or an ice cream cone can be part of their balanced lifestyle and do no harm. Part VII - Be Here, Now Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Happiness is not something that happens to you from the outside. Happiness is a habit, a state of mind. Happiness is so many things. But the decisive and most important thing is: What is happiness to YOU? The latest studies have found that happiness is not a thing that happens to you from the outside. It ' s a choice you make, but it requires effort. The good news is: It can be taught. It ' s those small habits like gratitude, exercise, meditation, smiling and asking yourself What can I do to be happier in the present moment. Gemini Mercury/Taurus Sun: You've got your hand on the buzzer and will press it even if you don't know the answer. You believe it's better to be in the game than warming up the bench.