Saturday, 24 October 2020

Happiness in Contentment

People differ from one another. They think, feel and act differently because at different times and in different situations different authority figures influenced their emotions differently. Every person has their own characteristic behavior, value system, filters or lenses they use to evaluate and assess what is happening to and around them. We can also say everyone has his or her own way of understanding things against the background of how they grew up. They also react on what happens to them according to the influences from their upbringing. To illustrate, let's go back to the example of the mom stuck in traffic on her way to drop her children off at school. Her head is throbbing. A depth therapist provides a warm, normalizing environment that was missing in childhood so that what seems unacceptable can now be owned and integrated into the self. Naturally, integrating what a lifetime of fear and avoidance has kept down doesn't occur overnight. It takes time and multiple experiences to accept forbidden impulses. For example, if anger was forbidden growing up, even mild annoyance will set off the alarm bells of anxiety. No matter how successfully the person appears to be at not feeling angry, it's a losing battle since anger is a part of life. In counseling, the therapist is able to contain, or hold, the patient's anger, which gives the patient permission to try letting the feeling in. Gradually the person can experiment with expressing it, initially tentatively, then with more and more assurance. Old, unresolved anger can be worked through and detoxified as the person integrates unfinished angry feelings. Then outside relationships that elicit anger can be explored. Finally, anger toward the therapist can be examined, as this can be one of the hardest areas to examine. Though the disease is progressive it can last many years, so it is essential to educate yourself about the condition as well as the best ways to care for your loved one so that you can continue providing care for many years. Who gets PDD? Parkinson's patients who have hallucinations, mild cognitive impairment (MCI), excessive daytime sleepiness, and/or more severe motor control problems have the greatest risk of developing dementia.

Could my loved one's PDD be dementia with Lewy bodies instead? There are two types of dementia associated with Parkinson's: PDD and dementia with Lewy bodies (DLB). These conditions are very similar in how they appear, both in person and when the affected brains are looked at under a microscope. The difference is in the timing. PDD is diagnosed when a person with PD has had motor symptoms for a year or more before they develop dementia symptoms. DLB is diagnosed when a person develops dementia symptoms within a year or even before they develop motor symptoms of PD. How is PDD diagnosed? This is how it goes with movement. Working out regularly will absolutely help you look your best, but I don't want your appearance to be the dominant force behind your desire to exercise. Moving your body in a focused way is amazing for your long-term health, but in the short term it also makes you feel better--right then and there. This near instant gratification is a great reason to work out, but it's often not the primary inspiration for moving. So many women approach working out from a place of vanity. When they do so, their dedication to making movement a part of their everyday lives--for the rest of their lives--starts to fade sooner than they would like. Looks are simply not enough of a motivator. When these women hit their ideal weight or give up on changing their appearance, working out becomes less of a priority and their health is then jeopardized. Make it a goal to integrate focused workouts into your everyday life. Yes, you will become stronger if you work out regularly, and this newfound strength will help you feel more beautiful and confident, but daily exercise needs to first come from a place of health. When we believe that our colleagues, friends and family members can do more and achieve more, this is very often the exact reason for why they do. Unfortunately, this also works the other way round - which very often is the case. Every time you meet someone, try and see the greatness that lies in this person.

Ask yourself What makes them special? What's their gift? As you focus on it, you will discover it. It also makes you more tolerant of not-so-friendly people. You can say I'm sure they have great qualities, and today they only have a bad day. And let me know how it goes for you. Nice people also say no or enough is enough. What you say matters. People look up to you for approval, and when they get it they're happy, but when they don't? Well, they're likely to take it personally--just like you would. That's why it's always wise to ask yourself how you would want to hear a criticism or a reprimand if you were in the other person's shoes. Chances are you would want it to be honest (within reason) but also encouraging. Speaking to someone the way you would want to be spoken to creates a personal rapport that's heartfelt and resonant. Leo Mercury/Cancer Sun: Children gravitate to you, as do pets and small animals. It can get a little awkward when they ask you to take them home. What they all recognize is your kind and giving nature. The tunic, for example, is a classic shape that's in fashion right now, but if you're very petite, a long tunic can overwhelm you and make you look like a sack of potatoes. This is a hard, hard lesson to learn, but one worth repeating every time you're in the dressing room: If it doesn't look good on you, it doesn't look good, period! Which brings me to my most important shopping to-do .

Here's a list of forbidden fashion items for every woman past the age of thirty who wants to look effortlessly chic and classy. The lesson here: Buy less, buy better, be picky. If you can walk away without getting a pang, do yourself a favor and walk away. You don't need another piece of clothing in your closet taking up valuable real estate. DRESS YOUNG, BUT NOT TEENAGE YOUNG It's fine to shop for fun accessories and costume jewelry at stores such as Forever 21 and Claire's, but buying clothing at a retailer that caters to juniors will only make you look like an OL who is trying too hard to look Y&H. There's a reason that the prices are cheaper in the teen department. She is clenching her teeth and her eyes are staring in front of her without seeing much. Traffic is heavy. Drivers are hooting impatiently. Traffic lights are not working and the children complain in panicked voices that they are going to be late for school. Then, just as it was her turn to cross the intersection, a lady pulls out behind her and shoots past stealing her opportunity. If you were the mom, how would you react? If you have allowed negative thoughts from your sub-conscious mind to dictate your actions it would have caused negative emotions of anger, frustration and anxiety. You would have reacted negatively giving her a piece of your (negative) mind. Or you would scream and curse or pound on the steering wheel, pressing the hooter continuously You might perhaps also clench your fist and gave her the finger, or whatever you do in situations like that. All that would have influenced you negatively making you want to bite everybody's head off ruining everyone's day. Over time, owning and feeling and expressing anger gets easier and easier. It may not feel pleasant, but it no longer feels scary or anxiety-provoking. The general level of anxiety goes down.

Slowly, as forbidden feelings are no longer forbidden but owned, the holes in the self are filled in and a new exuberance emerges. The need for signal anxiety disappears as the disowned feelings are integrated and become part of the whole self. The energy invested in anxiety becomes excitement to fuel the person's life energy. One particular type of signal anxiety is often referred to fragmentation anxiety. Here the signal of anxiety warns the person of impending fragmentation, so anything that sets this off is avoided like the plague. To understand this better, some brief context is helpful. A strong, coherent self deals with life's challenges by responding to the event and growing stronger in the encounter. As with other types of dementia, there is no single test that tells us for sure that a person with Parkinson's has dementia. Doctors can, however, order an MRI or a CT scan of the brain to see whether some other structural changes or pathologies may be causing the symptoms. They will also look at a patient's medical history and results from a physical examination and memory tests to make their diagnosis. How is PDD different from Alzheimer's? There are some symptoms of Parkinson's dementia that may vary from those of Alzheimer's and other dementias. With PDD, people usually have major problems with attention, have a hard time making decisions, experience challenges with planning and reasoning, have slow thought processes, and encounter difficulties with memory retrieval. In Alzheimer's disease, there is a great loss of memory and intellectual abilities. The memory problem is more often one of storing memories as opposed to retrieving them, as in PDD. People with PDD may also have more insight into the fact that they have a memory problem than do people with Alzheimer's disease. What are the symptoms of Parkinson's dementia? Working out keeps your heart functioning at peak performance, which keeps cholesterol levels in check and heart disease at bay (currently the number one killer of women in the United States). It also keeps your bones strong; More and more studies are finding that regular workouts also help to keep your brain in tip-top shape, potentially warding off degenerative brain diseases like Alzheimer's.

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