Thursday, 22 October 2020

I need you to anchor me to safety

More importantly, you should always remember to seek a second opinion from those around you. There is a good reason why we have friends and social circles. They should be there to help you offload thoughts and emotions that seem to weigh you down. Talk to your loved ones and if there is no one to talk to, you can always engage in self-talk. Life today is filled with lots of noise. Every day you have to overcome many forms of distractions from the digital space and the world around you. Before rushing to work, you might want to spend a few minutes checking your emails to see whether your project proposal was accepted. While driving to work, you have to control yourself from getting mad over reckless drivers while in traffic. That's not all, after sitting down in the office and getting ready to begin working, your notifications go off and you're tempted to check your social media articles and look at what your friends are saying. Undeniably, the digital world we live in today is full of noise. What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us. Thoughts are only words strung together. They have no meaning whatsoever. It is we who give meaning to them. We give meaning to them by focusing on the negative messages over and over in our minds. What we do with our feelings is very important. Are we going to act them out? Will we punish others? Sadness, loneliness, guilt, anger, and fear are all normal emotions. But when these feelings take over and become predominant, life can be an emotional battlefield.

For example, if you are happy 80% of the time and your partner is happy 80% of the time, then you'll both be happy together 64% of the time. Those are the good days. Life is fun. Life is good. It also means that you are in bad moods together 4% of your time together (20% times 20% is 4%). Those are the bad days, the challenging days, the fights, the struggles. They are part of every relationship, they are normal. They'll help you grow. This means that in 32% of your time together one of you is happy and one of you is not. That's a third of your time together. Be especially sure to ask this question if you are going to take the drug long-term. Do the benefits outweigh the risks? Is this medication intended to prevent a problem or treat one? What is the evidence that this drug is actually effective? What is the NNT (number needed to treat) for this medication? Are there natural alternatives I might try first? I'd like to try natural alternatives first. Would you be willing to let me go that route for three months and then retest me? There is strong evidence that adverse effects of new drugs are kept hidden. The Burden of Toxins:

This happens for two or three days in a row and then it hits you - a cold, flu or just a general feeling of being run down and being extra tired. Your energy is sapped, you find it even harder to get up in the morning and you are counting down to the weekend so you can sleep in. Looking at it, it's pretty easy to determine that this probably isn't the optimal way to get into a great shape and have more energy. Nevertheless, this was my life pattern for nearly four years when I worked as a primary school teacher in London. I would lie awake in the bed on a Sunday night worrying that I would miss my alarm the next day and my whole week would be ruined. Sleep, anxiety, worry and stress are something that have affected me a lot during my life. Thankfully, since understanding what was happening on a physiological and neurological level, realising that there was nothing actually wrong with me and that those feelings were pretty common has allowed me to find strategies to `hack' that stress, worry or anxiety in my own life. I'm not a physiologist or a clinical psychologist. I am just someone who was interested in finding out why I felt so anxious, worried and stressed all the time. As it had a direct impact on my health, energy and fitness and of those with whom I work, I always found myself fascinated by the psychology and neuroscience about what happens on a physiological level. You've completed your first run, so don't ever again say you are not a runner! Reinforcing Your Why At the end of each training session, particularly as you are feeling positive about your achievement, it's a good idea to spend a few moments reconnecting with your `Why' - the reason you are doing this in the first place. Visualise the end result of your efforts, and how you will look, feel and act once you have achieved your goal. By linking your training activity to the goal you are pursuing you trigger the reward centre in your brain and release dopamine, the brain's `feel good' chemical. This reinforces the connection between exercise and reward, and in terms of the way the brain functions, if something feels good you are likely to want to do it again. Instructions from here on in can be summed up simply by saying, Rinse and Repeat. However, as you begin to work your way through the 12 week program, keep in mind that you are running a marathon and not a sprint, to use a rather apt analogy. What this means is that the first week or two will be your honeymoon period. Not only does this mean that it represents the easiest part of the program in terms of mileage and effort (your walk/run ratio will be at its highest), but you will also experience actual brain chemistry changes as your dopamine-rich reward centres trigger motivation and desire for the pleasurable experiences now associated with exercise.

Violent attacks/abuse Process to Clear Your Family Lineage and to Help Free Your Ancestors Invite your higher sacred self to be with you throughout this process. Ask your higher sacred self to guide you, to show you what you need to see or hear or experience in order for liberation to occur for your ancestors. Drop into the space in your heart, breathe, and visualize a beautiful space in nature; This is the place where you are going to invite in all of your ancestors for seven generations back. Make the space inviting, decorating it in a way that would be inviting and comforting for your ancestors. Set up lots and lots of chairs, and begin to invite your mother and father, grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great-grandparents. They are sitting in front of your higher sacred self. This process feels sacred and safe. In social psychology, Deci and Ryan's self-determination theory shows us that our interpersonal environment has a huge impact on how much we feel like starting, end up sticking with, and enjoy a particular action along the way. In parenting, teaching, managing employees, and many other arenas, what we do (and don't do) deeply affects other people's motivation to act or change. In Sol's case, his therapist helped him find a different AA meeting, one where for a variety of reasons--members his own age, a warmer feel, and most particularly a group where people spoke openly about lapses and cravings--he felt he could be completely honest, and where Sol felt supported and encouraged even when he'd slipped, which is of course when he needed it the most. We encourage clients looking to join a support group to try several for the best fit. Many people benefit from 12-step involvement, but ultimately this model isn't for everyone, and there are other options. Even within AA, groups vary from one to the next, and multiple groups in any given area can accommodate many people. One big thing in your loved one's environment that you can change is, very specifically, YOU. You are malleable too! If you've been told a thousand times that you're supposed to stay out of it, because it's up to your loved one to change, then it may sound like we're saying it's all up to you. It may even sound like the job of changing is your job or that your loved one's resistance to change is your fault.

I told my family how proud I was of them, how beautiful they are, how great the food was, I thanked them for small things I usually overlooked, how I appreciate what they do and that I will always be there for them because I love them. Nothing was too much or too difficult for me to do for them. At the checkout till in grocery stores I would complement the lady for serving me so well (even if it was not really true) saying that I admired her for working such long hours with so many mean clients and wished her a wonderful day. When people, whether they were family, friends, older folks, younger people, or anyone else needed help or assistance of any nature, I offered my help when they asked and sometimes even before they asked or expected any help. Some were so surprised that they felt guilty, others were so grateful they just wanted to do something to compensate me for it. It changed their whole attitude towards me. After I helped them they were friendlier, stopped to chat with me and smiled all the time. When you treat people in a way that makes them feel good, appreciated, beautiful, respected, wanted, loved, etc, it changes the way they think about themselves, you and even the world around them. It changes their attitude from negative to positive which triggers positive and profitable results around them. If you exercise an excellent serving attitude in your normal everyday behavior, you will influence people and change their attitudes for the better, which will in turn give you a rich harvest on many levels, even money. For these professionals, awareness and honest acknowledgment of both the personal and professional influences on their views about hoarding will be helpful in facilitating a consistent and reasonably objective assessment. Talking with colleagues, especially those who have different personal and professional orientations, may also help limit biases that contribute to inaccurate assessment and understanding of hoarding problems in individual clients. One significant advantage that many community providers have over clinician assessors is their ability to make a home visit to see firsthand the extent of clutter and its impact on daily functioning. Clinical psychologists and social workers and other mental health providers are typically limited in their ability to work with clients outside their offices, including during the assessment phase. By the nature of their tasks and mandate, public health officials, protective service workers, and first responders, all of whom regularly encounter hoarding, do their work inside their clients' homes. Being in the environment facilitates a nuanced understanding of the clutter and its impact on daily life. Someone who sees their therapist only in the office might describe their bedroom as having a lot of stuff, so much that I can't sleep in my bed. A child protective service worker who visits that same home will be able to observe that the bedroom is packed with so many piles of objects that no one can enter the room because the door does not open fully. The use of photographs is often a good alternative when the mental health provider or community service staff member cannot visit the home. Asking people to take photos of every room at home and bring them to the office as part of the assessment process provides direct information about clutter and also helps them see their spaces through the camera lens.

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