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She brought the customer cold water, some ice and slices of lemon. In doing so she exceeded the need of the customer and stunned him with her service. She did it because she had an excellent serving attitude which reaps a much greater harvest than an ordinary and even negative attitude ever will. What would you say if you were the customer? By the time that the bill is paid, which of the two waitresses would get the biggest tip? I'd say the second one! Do you agree? The excellent quality of service of people with positive attitudes will always produce better results than ordinary and even poor service of people with a negative mindset. It will be beneficial to check out what your serving attitude is to determine it's the level of excellence. Compare your answers to the excellent serving attitude we discussed. Researchers have reported good internal reliability of the SCI subscales (meaning that items within the subscale are closely related to each other), and each subscale can discriminate people with hoarding problems from community members and people diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder. As for the measures of hoarding symptoms described above, the SCI and its subscales are strongly correlated with other measures of hoarding. The SCI can be found on the Oxford University Press website (www. How do communities decide when hoarding is a problem? So far in this article we've described measures that are commonly used in clinic settings for people seeking treatment. These measures can be administered by a clinician or by the person with hoarding (self-report) to determine the severity of hoarding symptoms. However, studies conducted in the general community suggest that only a subset of people with serious hoarding behavior receive a formal diagnosis and seek help from mental health clinics. This means that there is a large segment of people with lived experience of hoarding who are discovered by community members and service providers. In those cases, determining the severity of hoarding rests in the hands of social workers, housing providers, protective service professionals, public health officials, community nurses, and others in the human services sector. In article 4 we discuss the impact of hoarding within the community, and in article 9 we discuss community-based interventions for hoarding.

If you can focus on your anxiety or your confusion, you can gently move back and forth and use your Resourcing practice to create an open and welcoming space for both emotions. When you've cleared a space for both to coexist, you can ask each of them their internal questions. I suggest that you ask these questions only after you have lounged around meaninglessly for a while because that's an important confusion-supporting action. After resting and Resourcing yourself (if you need to), you can ask the questions. However, since confusion can be a sign that there's simply too much going on in your life, I'll simplify the questions and make this a two-step process: CONFUSION: What is my intention? This question came to my husband, Tino Plank, in a dream back in the 1990s. He heard Intention ends all ambiguity, and when he woke up, he noticed that the reverse was also true: Ambiguity ends all intention. Since then, we've used this intention question for confusion that won't lift (after we rest, of course), and we usually find that our intentions are muddled or missing. Our anxiety was powering forward brilliantly, but it was doing work that had no real meaning. And this bonding is very important because it makes something foreign familiar. It's one thing to feel people's pain but it's quite another to care about it, and for a Cancer this can only be done on a one-on-one basis. There has to be a personal investment. Pledges can be broken and promises left unfulfilled, but bonding is like the mother penguin who can pick out her chick from among the hundreds of little ones slipping and sliding on the ice or a mama bear who goes racing to the rescue of a cub in distress. It links you to a person, place, or thing both intimately and psychically. And once forged, that tie is unbreakable. It's useless telling yourself not to get attached. You always get attached. It's in your nature. You were born under the zodiac sign of hearth, home, and family, so blood ties will always take precedence.

In the ongoing tearing down, repairing, and rebuilding of our brains' cellular structures, we want to consume high-quality fats in order to continuously rebuild our brains with the best fats possible, beginning with omega-3s. Unfortunately, it's estimated that 95% of the American population is deficient in omega-3s. A diet high in unhealthy or bad fats slows down neurogenesis and creates inflammation, but a diet high in healthy or good omega-3s reduces inflammation and raises neurogenesis to a higher level. Omega-3s work in a number of ways besides increasing neurogenesis. They build up bigger, more functional brains by increasing neurite growth, enhancing neuronal cell transmission, increasing neurotransmitter release, and protecting against inflammation and oxidation. DHA is the single most important nutrient for the brain. Of the 60% of the brain that's composed of fat, a third to a half of it is DHA. Some evolutionary biology thinkers link the growth of the human brain over the last few million years to access to DHA through fish and meat. Researchers raised monkeys on two diets, one low in DHA and the other high in DHA. Then they looked at their brains. Hang your eyeglasses from a necklace. No matter how bejeweled the necklace, it screams OL. But I don't have to let the whole world know that. The better solution is to have a wardrobe of glasses stashed in various places: the glove compartment of your car, your desk drawer, your bedside table . Marcia Cross GOING WITHOUT: GLASSLESS OPTIONS Yes, eyeglasses can make you look smart, sexy, and chic, but the quickest way to look Y&H is to wear no glasses at all. The most permanent solution is to get LASIK surgery, in which a laser is used to correct near- and farsightedness. This is a great option, but it's not for everyone, for a variety of reasons, including eye shape, astigmatism, and other eye problems. The only way to know for sure if it will work for you is to ask your eye doctor.

Imagine if people only succeeded without making mistakes. Mistakes should be perceived as a stepping stone towards success. As such, always remember that being too hard on yourself is damaging. On a final note on how to stop overthinking, you should bear in mind that anyone can be a victim of overthinking. We all yearn for the best in life. Therefore, it is okay to overthink things from time to time. However, this becomes a problem when it develops into a habit and you feel as though you cannot do anything about it. The practical tips discussed in this section should help you catch yourself when you think too much. Your self-awareness, for example, will come handy each time you slip into a state of overthinking. Additionally, looking for positive distractions can encourage your mind to think about other things instead of sinking into your thoughts. Who am I still punishing? What am I giving out that attracts in others the need to irritate me? Now ask yourself these questions and write down your answers: What do I want? What makes me happy? What can I do to make myself happy? Think about ways you can create a new space inside you to feel good about yourself. Think about ways you can create optimistic and cheerful patterns and beliefs. Your Heart Thought for Day 11: I Deserve to Feel Good Life is very simple. We create our experiences by our patterns of thought and feeling.

It will be when you don't need a relationship to be happy anymore, that's when you will find a great relationship. Until then, work on the relationships with yourself, be a great friend. Be with people who support you and value you. Less many times is more. Also, in the relationship and friendship department, choose quality over quantity. Have a few high-quality relationships instead of many superficial ones. When it comes to the ONE relationship Neil Pasricha, Author of The Happiness Equation makes a very important point in his article. He shows us how important it is to choose a happy partner because the person you are with affects your happiness tremendously. He invites us to examine our romantic relationships with our partner or spouse and look at how much time we are happy together, how often we are unhappy together, and how often one of us is happy, and one of us isn't. These are very important questions, and you need to be completely honest with yourself. Educate yourself on alternatives, using high-quality resources. If you can afford to see a functional medicine practitioner with a good reputation, this can be an excellent start; Ask your doctor the 10 Big Questions about the drugs you've been prescribed What does this medication do? Is this drug intended to cure my underlying condition or is it intended to give me relief from my symptoms? What are the potential negative effects? Are they minor or major? Common or rare? Have long-term studies been done on this drug? Have studies been done for this drug on the elderly or women?