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These intense relationships with animals strengthen the person's sense of well-being but also lead to intense concern about losing the animals for fear of personal disintegration and depression. Such theories have also been proposed to explain addictions, consistent with the idea that animal hoarding, and perhaps also object hoarding, may be a form of addiction. The relationship between hoarding of animals and of objects is not entirely clear as there are overlapping features but also differences. From a frequency perspective, most people who hoard objects do not hoard animals, but those who hoard animals do tend to accumulate excessive clutter. Both groups show strong attachment to their animals and/or objects and great difficulty parting with them. Both have limited insight (awareness of illness), although this is especially problematic in animal hoarding. Both groups also have histories of stressful and/or traumatic life events, but this is also common to many mental health and substance abuse disorders. For instance, your anxiety can pair up with your anger, which helps you set boundaries and lets you know what's important to you. If you've got emotional skills, you'll be able to identify both emotions and work with them in turn: you'll be able to set clear and loving boundaries with the help of your anger, and you'll be able to prepare yourself, gather your resources, and complete your tasks with the help of your anxiety. But if you don't have strong emotional skills, you might lash out at people and set harsh or painful boundaries with your anger, or you might repress your anger and refuse to set any boundaries at all. You might also feel destabilized by your anxiety and try to run away from it or shut it down in any way you can. When you don't have the skills that you need to work with your emotions, they can feel miserable, irrational, or out of control. But if you can welcome your emotions as vital parts of your intelligence and know that they're always trying to help you and bring you specific skills, then you can shift your attitude and pay loving attention to them. When you can work with your emotions as your friends and allies, even when they're intense, you can change every part of your life and discover the emotional genius that has been working inside you your entire life. One of the genius aspects of anxiety is that it scans your interior life and your emotional health in order to assess your readiness for upcoming tasks and challenges. This is something that Anxioneer Jennifer Nate from Alberta, Canada, discovered in her work as a DEI trainer and consultant, and as a DEI instructor online. Jen and fellow Anxioneer Sarah Alexander from Oregon (who is a DEI professional and a licensed clinical social worker) have helped the rest of us observe anxiety working not just to complete our exterior tasks, but also to complete our interior tasks. Some people have trouble accepting the losses that can accompany Parkinson's, but as tough as it sometimes may be, you need to remember that you're not responsible for your loved one's happiness. You might think this sounds cold and unloving, but it's not. Detaching simply means living a life that isn't centered on someone else's.

It is the ability to be close to your loved one without giving up your independence. To be detached is to recognize your loved one's anger or frustration without taking it personally in terms of something you did or didn't do. It's avoiding jumping in right away to fix a complaint and instead expressing interest and asking them to offer solutions. You can detach by making caregiving a smaller part of your life. Focus on personal fulfillment through hobbies, relationships, volunteering, getting active, or learning new things. Give yourself a break What motivates you to be a caregiver? Nourish the brain and self to get stronger. Minimize what weakens the brain and self. Both of these are important, otherwise we'll be spinning our wheels. As long as you continue ingesting neurotoxins, merely adding good things will have only a minor effect. But these two antidotes together reverse the two main causes of the brain's deterioration. The next article goes into detail on this two-pronged strategy for developing a radiant, robust brain and self. This is followed by articles that offer remedies for the disorders addressed by this article. In identifying what the problems are, it becomes clear how to reverse them. The following discussion is only a cursory survey of these problems, for a thorough examination would require volumes. The Assault on the Brain: Surely, some women are so obsessed with beauty and style that maintenance is a full-time job. Whenever you tell them about a new procedure, they've already articleed the appointment. Whenever you tell them about the latest must-have, they're already on the waiting list.

Then there are the bare-basics women (granted, Janet is the extreme) who can't be bothered with any of that fuss. Just knowing all the options that are available -- even if you don't have the time, desire, or cash to partake -- helps democratize the injustice of beauty. If you didn't luck out in the gene pool, it's comforting to know that you can always buy flawless skin, gorgeous hair, and a big, white, flashy smile. At Glamour, we once interviewed the comedian Sandra Bernhard and asked her if she'd rather be smart, pretty, or rich. Smart, then rich, she answered. You can always buy pretty! I'm all for full disclosure about the heavy lifting some women do because it's healthy for our collective self-esteem. You will see that you don't have to continue feeling stuck, hopeless, and frustrated by today's epidemic of trauma and PTSD, but that you can make a difference. You will begin to feel a sense of connection with me, which will organically build a deeper sense of trust as you hear my story of overcoming trauma by using alternative methods and how I've helped many others to do the same. You will begin to understand the journey that takes you from merely practicing meditation with the intention to heal from trauma, to gaining enough confidence and wisdom to be able to hold safe, sacred space for others to begin to heal, grow, and transform from trauma meditation. You will understand that we are leaving behind the Kali Yuga, the Iron Age of separation, fear, and loneliness, and moving into the Satya Yuga, the Golden Age of inner peace, oneness, and connection. You will learn the broad spectrum of trauma and the numerous, insidious ways that it is affecting your ability to live in a calm, connected, state. You will get in touch with your wounds and how it has the ability to affect not only your physical body but your energy body, action body, mental body, knowledge body, and bliss body too. You will understand the physical aspects of how trauma gets stuck inside the body, how it creates dis-ease, dis-order, and what you can do to bring harmony back into your body. In order to begin the healing process, you must start at the base and create a healthy foundation. You will learn the subtleties about how trauma affects your energetic bodies, and how that effects the body-mind connection as well as the connection with yourself and with others. Finding Your Core Power When you put it that way, it sounds terrible, said Marvin. Are there that many leaders who have so little trust? I can only go by their behavior, said the Empowering Manager, and by the results they get from their employees.

It's not that people in organizations are unable to be their bestthey're afraid to be their best. Most organizations are set up to catch people doing things wrong rather than to reward them for doing things right. Marvin thought about that. You know, he said, I agree. I've seen organizations like that. Then he paused, sunk deep into thought, and finally said, That's part of the problem at my company. Again he paused, then added, But I'm not going to be that kind of leader anymore. When you blame others for things that happen in your life, you give them the power over your life. You become a victim and only the others can fix the situation. They have to change (and that won't happen). That my friend is a horrible way to live. Always at the will of others. Stop giving away your power and take responsibility for your life. Blaming others is just another way of making excuses for your sorry life. Building a successful life on excuses is impossible. You are the only one responsible for your life choices and decisions, and most of the things that happen in your life are consequences of past actions or decisions. Take responsibility and move on. Write down the word should. Next to it, make a list of words to use instead. You might start with the word could.

Post several of the new, positive affirmations you learned today on your mirror so you can practice them whenever you see them. Your Heart Thought for Day 3: I Always Have a Choice Most of us have foolish ideas about who we are and many rigid rules about how life should be lived. Let's remove the word should from our vocabulary forever. Should is a word that makes prisoners of us. Every time we use should, we are making ourselves wrong or someone else wrong. We are, in effect, saying: not good enough. The Mind as a Perfect Time Machine From a psychological perspective, the human brain works like a time machine. It is only through your mind that you can travel to your past or into the future. Think about it this way: the mind can take you to the future and help you plan for it. These are the dreams and aspirations that you have for your life. Similarly, the mind can also travel to your past. By connecting you to past events, you either regret or feel happy about what occurred. Your brain works like a clock. It is wired to keep track of time yet also the changes that come with it. When heading home after a busy day, your mind has a schedule that it will try to maintain. That is, we desire things that are, ultimately, not under our control. Similarly, we are averse to losing those same things. The problem is, Seneca reminds us, that by desiring what is not under our control, we put our happiness in the whimsical hands of Fortune.