Kindness makes us better humans

I could go on and on with examples of hardline coaching tactics. But my love of sports outweighed any abuse I took, and in the end, I developed an incredible work ethic and learned how to fight for success. See, that's what you need to understand: life can be tough; We all must develop our own strategies to overcome the anxiety and insecurity that challenge us to the core. And yet when the woman next door starts smelling of booze; With tut-tutting, shaking of the head, and disapproving whispers of How could she be so irresponsible? The general assumption is that alcoholics have only themselves to blame, that they're weak or self-indulgent, and that it's their fault for failing to control their drinking. No wonder people with a drink problem tend to do their utmost to hide it. Unfortunately this only makes the problem worse because in hiding it from society, we also hide it from ourselves. We deny that we have a problem and thereby deny ourselves the opportunity to solve it. Let's get one thing straight: Addiction to alcohol is not a weakness. It's something that can happen to anyone, rich or poor, strong-willed or weak-willed, intelligent or stupid. The reason society thinks it's a weakness is because we're all fooled into believing that normal drinkers are in control. As you will discover by reading this article, no drinker is really in control. People with these personalities have difficulties altogether their relationships, and other people who have of these traits together are susceptible to indulging in crimes. Narcissists have a way of entitlement and superiority; Psychopaths haven't any guilt. They're going to do anything and not feel sorry about it. They lack empathy and have destructive impulsive behavior, they need an ego so deep, and that they never accept responsibility. Machiavellian is selfish, ruthless, and manipulative.

People with these personalities create problems both individually and when brought together. Personality affects how these people relate to people. These people are likely to perform poorly at their workplace. This is often because they are doing not have an honest relationship with their colleagues thus affecting their workflow. The trouble is that it doesn't go very far. While it is true that a good salesperson makes sales, a great salesperson makes customers. What is a sale, after all? An event that is soon over and done with: a transaction. What is a customer? A human being who may produce sale after sale, and then tell others about you, thereby producing even more sales. This is a relationship. Obviously, then, it is beneficial to communicate in order to create relationships, not merely to generate transactions. The 50 Words to Avoid--And Why You probably don't need the list that I'm about to give you. Some days are better than others, but your pain is slowly worsening and becoming more constant. You finally decide to see your doctor. You've always trusted your doctor. Why wouldn't you? From when you were a kid seeing your pediatrician to now going to your general practitioner, you have never been let down. At your physician's office, he or she listens to your story, gives you a prescription for anti-inflammatories, tells you to rest, and says to come back in 6 weeks if it hasn't improved.

Unfortunately, you don't really know what rest means. Can you still exercise? Are you supposed to lay in bed all day? What if trying to do your favorite activity still makes your pain worse? Being teachers, my parents would be in school when I was, and then we spent our afternoons together at home. Later, we moved to the foothills of the Sierra Nevada mountains, where my parents bought a beautiful piece of land and planned to build a house. In the meantime, we lived in a huge barn on the property, and my mom designed the whole space on her own. I loved this time of my life and remember it affectionately. But things did begin to change. This was the '70s, and it was all about sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll. The fun that filled my parents' early years started to take over. The party lifestyle soon ruled my mom, and she and my dad began to fight nonstop. The situation escalated as her drug and alcohol dependencies grew. She just couldn't be a mom anymore . Because if there is one thing I know from creating this article and this life of mine, it is that almost nothing makes sense. Or, that it all makes sense in the perfect and divine path that is your aliveness. Or, that nothing is out of place; Or, that no matter how many times you get far away from your truth, there will always be a path to get back to it. Or to carve out a new one. Or to literally destroy every path ever, because all the paths sucked, and now you need a new path that no one has ever created before.

Your bones and your muscles and your heart hold everything you've ever dreamed of. Ever dreamed up. Ever dreamed about. You can have the life you want, even if you don't think you deserve it. Early human beings used to spend an awful lot of time and energy just surviving. When we weren't busy with moment-to-moment survival (eating, raising children, running from predators, sleeping), we were busy securing survival for the future (building shelter, hunting, farming, or--later in history--making money to see us through hard times). As ultimate testimony to how good a job we did, we now find ourselves with something called leisure time. It's pretty amazing: we got so good at taking care of our survival and security that nowadays we have time, energy, and perhaps money left over. Now this is very, very recent in the scheme of things, at least for people other than kings and that ilk, but the fact is, if you're reading this article, you've got leisure time. Congratulations. The great thing about leisure time is that you can do anything you want with it: read, go for a walk, wear leisure suits--whatever. If you don't have much leisure time at this point in your life, we'll work on that in the Liberty section, but for now, here's a pop quiz: How much of your leisure time do you spend having a truly satisfying, fulfilling experience of life? How much is it? Jeff represented western Canada and carried his torch in Langley, BC. Halifax was my city--where I'd landed my first job with the network, as a reporter for CTV News in 1997. It was there that I'd covered major tragedies such as the crash of Swissair Flight 111 off Peggy's Cove, and stories close to my heart such as the legacy of Africville, the Black Halifax village that was demolished in the 1960s, a blot on Canadian history. It was amazing, absolutely amazing, to return to Halifax to be part of this Olympic ceremony. I felt a lot of pride to represent my country this way. My husband, Lloyd, and our daughter, Blaize--she was only five years old--flew east with me: this opportunity was too exciting to miss.

We planned to spend a family weekend in Halifax afterward. We checked into our hotel and, as instructed, I went to meet the organizers and other participants near Citadel Hill. It was late November, cold and grey. As the relay was about to get underway, we were given our instructions and special clothing, which included a white hat and track suit and red woollen Hudson's Bay Olympic mittens. Joan had finally realized how important it was to protect her energy by giving up the starring role as her family's beck-and-call martyr. Joan's story gives us a good example of how we can have much more control over the quality of our lifestyle when we set limits on how much energy we are willing to spend on being emotionally reactive. Drama or Happiness: What's it Going to Be? It may be hard to believe, but happiness can take some getting used to. True happiness comes from knowing your own mind, reading your true needs accurately, and meeting them. If you are not accustomed to doing this, you can create a great deal of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in your life as you pursue one wrong thing after another. Yes, the original sources of unhappiness may have lain in our pasts, but reading our own mind now is the key to happiness and is available to each one of us every second. It is available, that is, if we are willing to trade the false excitement of emotional drama for real happiness. Drama is what happens when we substitute imaginary persecution and emotional reactivity for knowing what we really want. In his writings on the human condition, Vernon Howard40 stresses that we can become addicted to emotional excitement - and even pain - because we fear going through the process of discovering what we really desire for a peaceful, fulfilling life. Thoughts of self-harm and suicide can also accompany a depressive episode. Depression can be a chronic disorder that may have periods of relief, and then come back again later during the course of a person's life. It can be a response to situational triggers such as increased stress, a recent trauma or loss, or a major life transition. It can also be related to negative past experiences such as childhood trauma or family dysfunction. The symptoms can range from mild to severe, and can be accompanied by additional symptoms such as anxiety, insomnia, and other psychiatric disorders. When we are depressed, people often tell us to buck up or to stop being so negative.