Overwhelmed, Lying Down

Unexpectedly, the courage to tell the truth brings in all the help that is needed. This is something not known to the person afraid to face the truth. As soon as they have the courage to face the truth, which is to say yes to the energy of life itself, then life says yes to them and provides the way forward. But truth requires humility and letting go of denial, and many addicts actually die rather than make this step. Because this is what your ego will use to stop you. In light of recovering your ability to wish for changes in your life - what risk is really all about - ask yourself, what fear is this risk stirring up in your primal, tribal, childhood self? It is probably saying something along the lines that you are putting your life in danger, you are not very capable or strong, and it's a jungle out there. Risk is also about inviting you to become a board-certified adult, to take responsibility for how your life turns out. That's a showstopper right there, isn't it? Taking a risk doesn't have to be big or dangerous to have a powerful psychological effect on us. Often it is those little risks that reveal how different we are from our families that scare us the most. Sandy's Story I had been working with Sandy for many months on her penchant for picking men who inevitably ended up leaving her. Sandy was a pretty, petite woman who was turning forty and had no man to share her life with. Let's assume somebody, for instance, is wearing a black hat, blonde hair, a triangular ring, and a green sweater. The aim is to first notice the information and then later remember them. Some scientists call these passive memory training brain exercises. They're passive, and you don't use any special methods for memory. You simply ask your mind to do what it was supposed to do: to remember. Why does it matter?

Since we do not practice observation, we fail to observe and obtain the exercise simply by asking our brains to remember that it brings knowledge. We also struggle to observe things we don't see, making it difficult to construct mental representations of them with these three basic visualization exercises. If you would like to be a better observer of the world around you, it will help even better to note and imagine information than brain training apps like Cog med. It's scalable as well. The drivenness to reach the ultimate state is something that we validate in the addict and alcoholic. The person is addicted to that experience of their own inner higher state of consciousness, and they have demonstrated enormous drive to reach the highest states, putting their life on the line and giving up everything for it. The goal is valid and noble. It is simply a matter of changing the technique and realizing that the inner state of peace does not have to be sought; When the clouds are removed, the sun shines forth. Recovery is that process of removing the clouds of despair, guilt, shame, fear, anger, pride--transcending all the lower energy fields by facing them and letting go of them. When a person seeks treatment for an addiction, they are usually at the bottom of the Map of Consciousness, filled with self-hatred, regret, and despondency. The energy field of Apathy (50), with its hopelessness and despair, is one in which the person cannot help themselves. Hopeless means just that. For example, the president of a county bar association for attorneys literally died of starvation while living alone in a rooming house. Her longterm relationships stayed just that: long-term relationships, without an ultimate commitment. Sandy had been married for a few years, but she was not surprised when her husband left because she could never quite understand what that handsome, successful man ever saw in her in the first place. Since then Sandy had dated a lot, but no commitments had materialized. She was confused and frustrated because consciously she longed for someone with whom she could share her otherwise happy, active life. Who would think that being willing to have a happy, committed relationship was taking a risk? But for Sandy, it was.

She had always worried a great deal about her mother, who had suffered from chronic depression since Sandy's early childhood. Her marriage to Sandy's father had been a miserable one, and yet everyone kept going through the paces. One day I asked Sandy what she might be risking if she were to find a man to marry. Of course, she could see no risk at all in such a wonderful outcome, but I pressed her to think of the big picture. You can start by watching only one individual a day. You can add more knowledge or more people (or both) once you've gotten good at remembering four specifics from just one person. By memorizing the data using a Memory Palace, you can scale this memory exercise even further. You may also note specifics of houses, vehicles, movies or shows, and foods that enhance memory to increase your cognitive ability if you like. But the more potent recall exercise is to concentrate on specific individuals. It's a great social ability to be observant of those around you. Number exercises that skyrocket your concentration Numeracy is a powerful ability to develop your cognitive skills. It's something you can focus on, both with and without memory strategies in play, to improve critical thought. Add 3 minus seven is a fun brain numerical workout that you should try today. He was addicted to a combination of Valium and alcohol. He never picked up the phone to call anybody for help. A person of that caliber has many friends, all of whom would have dropped everything to help him, but he felt there was no point in making the phone call because there was no hope. That hopelessness of one's condition often expresses itself as You may well recover from this, but my case is hopeless. In the level of Apathy, God is dead for the person, and all we can do is pour energy into them. The process going on within consciousness is that of the loss of energy.

The person is de-energized, blank, and totally dispirited. The answer is to pour energy into that person through concern, lovingness, physical presence, nutrition, and every other possible way to move them up to the next energy field of Grief. Grief (75) has to do with the past, and when the person comes out of a blank, shocklike state, they begin to cry and regret the loss that all the addiction has cost them. There is regret, along with a feeling of self-pity and sorrow for the fact that they are in a rehabilitation facility or wherever their addiction has landed them. What would such a change in her life mean to everyone she cared about? What began to emerge was the realization that finding committed happiness with a man would only serve to highlight her mother's unhappy life. Sandy risked losing the deepest part of her connection with her mother if she renounced her own depressive attitudes and claimed happiness and contentment. Above all, Sandy did not want her mother to feel more abandoned or worthless than she already felt. The joy of announcing an engagement or planning a wedding would be a cruel contrast to her mother's emotionally barren life. Sandy's story shows how anything, even the thing we say we want more than anything else, can be secretly perceived as a dangerous risk which could hurt us or someone we love. Deep down, we might see what looks to others like avoiding happiness as a sensible avoidance of enormous risk to the balance of our family loyalties. As long as Sandy gave up happiness to protect her mother's feelings, she was never going to find the right man. First of all, Sandy had to think long and hard about the subconscious loyalty vow she had unwittingly made to her mother, in which she pledged not to become too happy. Sandy's challenge was to come to grips with the need to take the risk of leaving her unhappy mother behind, at least enough to live her own life. All you do is pick any three-digit number in order to get started. Then, three times to add 3 to the digit. And minus seven times out of the new number seven. Repeat the procedure at least five times and the next time, select a new 3-digit number. To challenge your working memory more, you can also take a different route and begin with a 4-digit number and use other numbers. You could begin with 1278, for instance, and add 12, 12 times, and minus 11, 11 times.

To dictate the level of difficulty, it's up to you and the number of numbers. Know, because of the amount of information you need to keep in mind to complete it, and this brain exercise enhances your working memory. We all know in our hearts that when we talk, no one is really listening. And that's unfortunate. They are sad about life and their addiction and feel completely abandoned by God. At this level there is regret about the past, so we move the person's energy field up to the next level, which is Fear (100). At this point, the person begins to fear the addiction, aided by worry and anxiety. Fear has to do with the future. The person is no longer in an inflated state of denial; The world looks frightening, and they may feel that God is punishing them for their past sins. They misinterpret the addiction as a punishment and fear more punishment and further loss in the future. We see how the energy of each level, if they work with it, can move them up to the energy of the next. The person transcends the Fear of the addiction by desiring something better (Desire, at 125). Once they tire of being a victim of wanting and craving, they move up to Anger. Barnstorming Barnstorming was an old flying pastime that can be a model for taking risks in our own lives. Daring pilots would go up in their small planes and fly them low and fast right toward something big like a barn. Charging, or storming, the barn in an airplane looked like imminent catastrophe, and of course, crowds loved the make-believe challenge. At the last minute the pilot would pull back and narrowly evade a collision. Nobody expected the pilot to actually crash the plane into the barn;