Wednesday, 7 October 2020

A victim mentality

Certainly these are negative thoughts. You are simply expanding your comfort level with others. You may never like large social events. There is nothing wrong with that, but you can handle attending them when necessary or beneficial. There's no reason for you not to have an active and healthy social life. Take the initiative and plan smaller events with your close friends and family. Our goal is to go against your inclination to avoid social situations. You may never feel completely comfortable with certain social groups and situations, but you will be better equipped to handle them when they arise. You may never enjoy large, loud, meetings at work. But if other than those meetings you love your job, you can teach yourself to be able to handle it. Use visualization. You know the type that can fill you with pride and make you sing and laugh and dance for joy! Take a few moments to imagine just how cool that would be and enjoy the feeling that goes with it. Now think how grateful and thankful you would feel if it actually happened. Imagine what it could be like if it actually is happening now. Notice how your body is responding. Be playful, allow yourself to be entertained by the prospect. Give the feeling space to build. Decide now to dip just momentarily into that feeling a handful of times each day over the next week. Go on about your daily business now as if nothing much has changed.

You have played an imagination game that feels good. He begins people on just one-eighth of the tablet daily, raising the dose slowly as is comfortable. He recommends that people with severe gastritis (heartburn) or neurologic symptoms go especially slowly, as killing the infection in the stomach (parietal) cells may initially cause ulcers. Over several months, he raises the dose to three to six tablets daily. What I have seen in a very severe refractory case was that the person's CFS dramatically improved after two months on three tablets a day. Dr Chia also considers two months to be a fair trial of the treatment once the person reaches three tablets a day. So, although he would only recommend doing the treatment if the testing is positive, there is an argument to be made for simply treating empirically in refractory cases of CFS/FMS. Especially: If the illness started with respiratory and/or gastric/intestinal symptoms. If the person has tenderness below the right rib cage, in the solar plexus, or in the right lower abdomen, where immune tissues called Peyer's patches can be found. As the treatment is relatively low cost at $1. They are just as negative as confession and repentance, and like confession and repentance, they point life in the right direction. When you begin to hear comments like these, you know that your person is headed toward a great outcome. But comments aren't enough. You want to see both attitude and behavioral changes, as both are necessary. To say I get it -- it's been all about me and that's not the right way, is good, it's progress -- but if it's not followed by better choices, it won't bring complete success. It reminds me of one kind of seed that Jesus mentioned in a famous parable: The seed falling on rocky ground refers to someone who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. But since they have no root, they last only a short time (Matthew 13:20 - 21). Great start, poor follow-up. For the person to begin changing behaviors, grumbling the whole way and resentful of you, but doing it because they fear you, or because they don't want your threatened consequences, is progress.

It's better than nothing. Empaths tend to be daydreamers. Harness that natural inclination, visualize the social situation you are dreading, and how you will handle yourself. Visualize yourself giving a fantastic presentation at work. Visualize yourself socializing with people you don't know at a party. Think about the insightful comments you will make and the interesting topics you'll bring up. Your skills as an empath will make overcoming social anxiety harder for you than the average person. Remember that you are not average--you have an exceptional skill! Conquering your social anxiety will make you an even stronger person. If you and your trained medical professional decide that an anti-anxiety medicine is right for you and your social anxiety, this is nothing to be ashamed of. You are using the tools you have at your disposal to help yourself live a more healthy and well-rounded life. You have agreed to remind yourself over the next few days, more for the sake of the feeling it gives than the consequences it may produce. At some point in your day, something will happen that will catch your attention and make you think for just a moment. When that happens STOP and LISTEN. Is this your intuition nudging you in a particular direction? If it doesn't appear to fit with what you are doing, yet you notice a gentle pull towards it that feels right to you, I invite you to follow and see where it takes you. Life may never be the same again! You will be consciously experiencing The Law of Attraction at play! How to Build the Habit of Happiness Take charge of your thoughts.

You can do what you will with them. As it may benefit the Th1/Th2 immune imbalance seen in CFS/FMS. But again, I start with a low dose and work up slowly as is comfortable. I have people stay on three to six tablets a day for three months to see if it helps, as both a diagnostic and therapeutic test. Retroviral Infections Dr Dietrich Klinghardt is a fascinating and cutting-edge researcher. About thirty-five years ago, when I began following his work, his concepts were so radical that I thought they could not be true. But time after time, he has been right. He is simply twenty to forty years ahead of everybody else. For example, a few trailblazing researchers (such Dr Mark Sivieri) and I have recently begun exploring the connection between immune and autonomic dysfunction. Although I have been patting myself on the back for making this connection, I found out recently that Dr Klinghardt's PhD thesis forty years ago was on, you guessed it, the connection between immune and autonomic dysfunction. But it's not the whole picture. Many are the times my kids cleaned up their rooms, feeling irritated at me the entire time, but never once do I recall them saying, Thanks for being a dad who is developing my work ethic. Researchers who study personal change now take a neurological view of this process. Someone must have the aha moment -- when the lights come on, the neurons fire, and the insight comes, as with Paul's Damascus Road experience (see Acts 9:1 - 6). That aha moment is necessary, because external change starts best with internal change. This is only the beginning, however. In the next phase, our neural pathways need to get trained to do things a different and better way. This is where habits come in -- habits of regularly thinking about others, of taking ownership and initiative, of doing the right things even if they are the hard things. I have seen the process start from both directions.

Sometimes it will be a clear conversation in which the entitled person dramatically sees what must change. Consider this: would you judge someone else for taking anti-anxiety medications? Of course not. Don't judge yourself either. Social Anxiety Challenges You don't have to live with the strain of social anxiety. You may always be a little nervous about certain social situations, but you should work to get yourself to the point that you don't completely avoid them. Challenge yourself to expand your boundaries and increase your comfort level in uncomfortable situations. Check off once complete. Do as many or as few as you like. Make your own, based on the situations that make you anxious, focusing on the particular areas you want to improve. Conscious Versus Subconscious Consider when you were just an infant and you were learning to walk. You didn't get all the way up off the ground on your shaky little legs only to fall on your bum and say, `Well this is not really working out for me, this walking thing. You got up every single time. You looked at where you were going and even with wobbly legs you began to focus on where you wanted to go, to focus on what it was you wanted to have. When you were crawling about you had the idea that walking would improve things for you, if you could just get there. Mummy's there and Daddy's there and they are beckoning, `Come on, come on, come on you can do it . And you did. Eventually you toddled right over to your mother's arms.

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