Friday, 23 October 2020

Barriers to our brilliance

A young client of mine, Sabrina, who is new on the path of applying these teachings and practicing various meditations in order to stay in a connected state, texted me in a frenzy because she and her mom had gotten in a big fight. Her mom was upset by something she had done and ended up writing a long, hurtful text message to my client that upset her and she didn't know what to do. As we spoke, I asked her if she had applied any of the practices that we had done together, and she said she hadn't. She had gotten caught in the emotion and had forgotten. I like to refer to this as failure of intelligence. I always tell my clients that catching yourself is the hardest part, stopping when you realize you are triggered and consciously choosing to do something different. We did the Serene Mind practice together on the phone, and afterward, her distraught emotions dissolved; She brought herself back into intelligence. The third type of intelligence is people-centered intelligence. You are able to sense people intuitively and make decisions and judgments from your heart. If it's still too upsetting, take a break and come back to it. Changing the way you think about change can make you a more effective collaborator. Think about a change you've tried to make in your life, especially a big one. Maybe you had the goal of getting more exercise, and you tried repeatedly and struggled every time to stick with your plan. Maybe each time you didn't reach your goal, or struggled to sustain the change, it became harder to feel optimistic. Perhaps you have had the experience of ending a long relationship; Afterward, it seemed like everything reminded you of your ex and made you question your decision. Maybe you remember how lonely you were at first and how long it took before you figured out what to do with the time you used to spend together. Maybe you've tried to change the way you relate to people, to be more outgoing, or not lose your temper so much. Did you feel shy and awkward at the office holiday party even though you knew everyone and they were all smiling and being nice?

If you take a look at the Cycle of Success again you will also realize that it does not take someone with extraordinary skills or special abilities to successfully complete the cycle. Rather, it takes someone with motivation and determination to do it. It takes a person with a positive attitude to do it. When we discuss the behavior of successful people with positive attitudes later you will have the opportunity to reflect your own attitude to see how positive you actually are. Whether your attitude inclines to the negative or the positive, you should shortly be equipped to make big changes that will enhance your ability to succeed in whatever you put your mind to. You will be given a recipe to change your thinking and negative habits that lead to failure and create positive habits that cultivate success. There are, however, some questions you need to answer first. Your answers to these questions lie at the core of your success. They reveal your motivation and desire to succeed and whether it will make you determined enough to do what it takes to achieve your goal. So grab a pen and paper and answer these: Dr Preston suggests that modest levels of hoarding could reflect animal hoarding instincts that respond reasonably well to cognitive and behavioral interventions such as evaluating the costs and benefits of keeping items and learning to organize possessions (see article 7). Severe hoarding more likely reflects a protective burrowing and nesting instinct that may be more difficult to treat without calming underlying fears and insecurity. Is attachment to possessions related to problems with attachment to people? Biological, psychological, and social models for psychiatric disorders assume that these conditions are multiply determined. That is, in addition to biological features in the animal behavior theories above and in genetic (article 2) and brain structures (article 3), there are also likely to be psychological and social influences on human behavior. Such models also focus on the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and their interactions with biology and social experiences. Psychological models for hoarding also assume that serious hoarding problems are likely to be caused by multiple biological, psychological, and social factors. The biological conceptualization following animal behavior described above is a compelling one but probably not sufficient to explain all hoarding behavior, especially the social and cultural influences on hoarding and the symbolic emotional attachments to objects and other emotional components of hoarding often seen among affected individuals. Below we describe two models that focus on security needs and developmental attachment to help explain hoarding symptoms. Site security model

This kind of awareness is uncomfortable, but it's often necessary, especially when you're trying to create something new, move forward into unknown territory, or address a longstanding problem that involves many preexisting issues. As a simple example, imagine that you're planning a trip. You and your anxiety are humming along, organizing all of your ideas and gathering supplies, and suddenly, your anxiety ramps up into a panicky state. In a split second, your trip takes on a haunted feel, and the whole project fills you with dread. You look around yourself to see if there's an emergency, but everything's fine, so you don't need to fight, flee, or freeze. You suspect that this panic relates to the past. You slow down, ground and focus yourself if you can, and ask your anxiety: What brought this feeling forward? Perhaps you remember a time when a trip was cut short by a natural disaster or by an injury or illness. Knowing this, you can use the Conscious Questioning practice to devise a plan to avoid that kind of trouble this time -- or perhaps to prepare ahead for it so that you're not taken by surprise. If you need support, you can talk things through with a friend or loved one and explore what your panxiety is trying to alert you to. You have a reputation for being fastidious, doing what you're told, and going the extra mile. And it's true that you will fulfill--if not surpass--your employer's expectations. It's almost physically impossible for you to leave a job half done, and nothing makes you happier than to check items off your to-do list. But you're not some Labrador retriever who fetches sticks and gleefully accepts a pat on the head in return. You learned a long time ago that the secret to ruling the roost isn't to shout orders or bully people into submission. The secret is to make yourself indispensable. When you wait on people hand and foot you become more familiar with their hands and feet than they do. You can anticipate their every need, predict how they're going to react, and even nudge them in the direction you want them to go. Over time that person you serve will entrust you with more and more responsibility. They might ask for your input, defer to your judgment, or charge you with certain duties.

This yellow extract has strong anti-inflammatory and glucose-regulating properties as well as increasing BDNF and neurogenesis. It also has been shown to have antidepressant effects. Standard doses are 400 mg, 1-2 times daily. This mineral is used in the treatment of bi-polar disorder in large amounts and has shown neuroprotective benefits from the brain shrinkage caused by the disorder. It increases BDNF levels in the brain. It can also be taken in small (eg, 2-30 mg) amounts, but some people find it makes them relaxed or sleepy. For anxiety reduction this can be just what's needed, but otherwise watch the effects on your consciousness if you decide to experiment with this. More recent recommendations are micro doses of 300 mcg per day which does not seem to produce noticeable effects. Additional Nutrients that Increase BDNF and Other Neural Growth Factors BDNF is the major, but not only, neurotrophic factor in increasing brain cell growth, but its presence does not ensure that neurogenesis is occurring. The Y&H way is a thin line as close to your top lash line as possible. The goal is to look like you have a naturally dark lash line, not like you have liner on. To make the line look more organic, use a pencil (brown, forest green, or gray -- black can look too harsh), then smudge it. Note to cosmetic companies: Why can't every eyeliner pencil come with a rubbery smudge tip on one end? We don't need to carry around yet another tool for smudging. Luxe Lashes The Old Way . Pump the brush; The Newer Way . Don't pump the brush;

Mindfulness Exercises to Help You Sleep There are numerous mindfulness exercises that you can use to enhance the quality of your sleep. The following are a few that you can consider incorporating in your daily routine. One Minute Meditation Just as the name suggests, this is a meditation exercise that will only take you a minute. Start by finding a comfortable place to sit. Close your eyes. As you maintain your comfortable and still position, scan through your body and connect with the parts of your body. Take a deep breath as you continue scanning your body for any joints or muscles that want to relax. Again, take another deep breath in and breathe out. What do you say when you first look in the bathroom mirror? What do you say when you take a shower? What do you say when you get dressed? How do you leave your house for work? Do you just run out the door, or do you say something nice first? What do you do when you get into the car? Do you slam the door and growl about going to work, or do you bless the traffic on your journey? Too many people start off their day with Oh, shit! It's another day and I've got to get up, damn it! If you have a lousy way of starting your day, you're not going to have a good day--ever.

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