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Scientists have also studied a problem called compulsive buying disorder, which is characterized by frequent shopping episodes that lead to financial problems and interpersonal conflict. The individual is unable to control their urge to buy things, for example clothing and household items, to the point of extensive credit card debt and corresponding personal, work, and social impairment. Another problem, known as kleptomania, refers to stealing items from stores without paying for them. While kleptomania occurs occasionally in the context of HD (one study puts the incidence rate at about 10%), it is much less common than buying or acquiring free things. Both compulsive buying and kleptomania are considered impulse control disorders, a category of psychiatric disorders that also includes other impulsive behavior problems like chronic gambling, hair pulling (trichotillomania), and skin picking (excoriation disorder). For the most part, hoarding has not been strongly associated with these other impulsive behaviors apart from compulsive buying. Excessive acquisition of free things in hoarding obviously shares some features with these two acquiring problems, especially with compulsive buying, which often occurs as part of the overall acquisition problem in HD. Even in fields where emotions should be a main focus, such as psychiatry, psychology, and neurology, emotions are often treated as problems or afterthoughts or as much less important than the so-called rational processes. Thankfully, this is slowly changing. In The Language of Emotions, I write a great deal about the centuries of emotion-trashing ideas we humans have been subjected to (and still are subjected to). While that long, sad history is interesting, my friend anxiety suggests that I can speed things up in this article and focus on helping you work with emotions in new ways. As I've studied our backward and unhelpful emotional education, I've identified four key concepts that can help you see and experience your emotions as supportive parts of your awareness, your social skills, your empathy, and your intelligence. There are no negative emotions, and there are no positive emotions, either. All emotions are messengers that tell you how you're feeling and what's going on. Each of your emotions has important messages for you, and all of them bring you the skills, awareness, and energy you need in every situation. Even though the way you work with your emotions can have positive or negative outcomes, your emotions themselves are not good or bad. Unfortunately, the idea that emotions are positive or negative is promoted in most of psychology, psychiatry, and neurology, where emotions are sorted into positive and negative categories, or valences. Contrary to what you might think, focusing on your needs while being a caregiver is not selfish--it's an essential part of the job. Don't forget: YOU are responsible for taking care of yourself. There are many things you can do to take control of your care.

Reduce your stress levels Several factors influence stress levels in any caregiving situation. Stress is not just affected by the situation itself, but also by how you perceive it. For example, some naturally see the glass as half full while others see it as half empty. Remembering that you're not the only one in this situation may help you see and cope with things differently. Other factors may influence your stress levels. One is whether your caregiving job was voluntary. When these tight junctions are opened up, toxins flow into the body. These toxins cause the body to mount an inflammatory defense, which soon becomes chronic and further attacks the body and brain. Zonulin also opens up the tight junctions in the blood-brain barrier allowing toxins to flow into the brain. Further, gliadin, a protein in wheat and gluten, also stimulates zonulin and creates leaky gut in everyone who eats it, even though only 1-2% develop celiac disease and only 10-20% of people become gluten sensitive. It's a few short steps from leaky gut and leaky brain to toxic brain. Eating organic food can reduce this exposure by 70-80%. It's in commercial meats, which are raised on GMO grains with high glyphosate levels. Almost all corn, cotton, and soy products are GMOs created to tolerate extremely high amounts of glyphosate. Eighty percent of commercial food in the U. Currently 600 million pounds are used yearly in the U. And then there are some beauty routines you never, ever have time for. These fall into the life's too short category. Mine include waiting for moisturizer to dry after showering, massaging in cellulite cream every day for six weeks in the hope of seeing improvement, and at-home paraffin kits for hands.

We all have our unwritten life's too short lists, our wish lists, and our absolutely, no matter what happens, can't live without this lists. Take this quiz to determine whether you're currently a high-, medium-, or low-maintenance woman (and what that really means). Define Your Maintenance Level TAKE THIS QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU ARE. You never leave the house without Your closet When you're traveling, you wear Every moment lends opportunity for change, for new beginnings to emerge, both literally and figuratively. How do we show up as a trauma meditation facilitator to help others heal? There are a few things you need to do in order to facilitate trauma meditation. Be in a calm, connected state Remember and repeat the sacred vow to yourself Call forth and remember your deep desire to serve Create a safe, sacred container for the meditation Be sure to know your audience and what the trauma is that this person or persons has endured I make sure that no matter where I am facilitating meditation, the space feels safe, sacred, and calm. After the October 1 shooting that took place in Las Vegas, one of my companies, Inner Peace Initiative (IPI), was brought in to help facilitate trauma meditation for the first responders of Clark County. Sounds more like a ride at Disney World than anything else. I honestly don't know what you mean by it. It's not a fantasyland, she clarified.

What do you think it might mean? Well, said Marvin, letting his mind roam, the word journey suggests that it might take some time to get there. Sandy nodded. Encouraged, Marvin went on. It also conjures up tales of adventure, where one follows roads that lead over steep mountains and through dark forests. Unexpected things happen. There are lots of tests along the way. On your way to a happier, more fulfilling life and to building a healthy self-esteem, one toxic habit you have to leave behind is the habit of judging others. Judging goes hand in hand with the bad habits of blaming and complaining and will keep you from becoming happy and developing self-esteem. Accept others without judging them, and without expectations. Walk a mile in their shoes before you judge them, as you want them to walk a mile in your shoes before they judge you. Everybody you meet on your journey is fighting their own unique battle, and we have no idea what they are dealing with, just like they have no idea what you are going through. Just stop judging and show some empathy. It's easier said than done, but there is no way around it. Did you know that each time you're judging somebody you are actually judging yourself? The things that bother you the most about others are actually the things that bother you the most about yourself. So, put some thought into it. We're going to do our mirror work and send new messages to our core: I am willing to let go. I release blame. I am ready to forgive.

The messengers will pick up these new messages and say, What's this? Where does this get filed? We've never seen this one before. Can you imagine how wonderful it would be if every day you learned a new way to let go of the past and create harmony in your life? My dear ones, you have already started by doing your daily mirror work. Each day you are clearing out the layers, the blocks of the past. Each time you say an affirmation in front of the mirror, you are removing another layer. When people say that they remember things, they are more precise about what they can remember. In this case, human beings are conscious. Generally, the ability of the mind to consciously take us into the future and back to the past allows the human brain to work like a time machine. But, why is this insight important to your life? Understanding how the brain functions can help you program your mind to think in a particular direction. You can either choose to focus on your past, future, or present. Future-Focused People Focusing on the future keeps people engaged in their careers. It gives you hope for a better tomorrow. Accordingly, future-focused individuals are always ambitious. Not at all coincidentally, the central part of this article, which you are about to read, is largely organized along the three disciplines of Epictetus. Section 1 of the Field Guide introduces the dichotomy of control; SETTING THINGS STRAIGHT