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If you look back at the first key to emotional genius, you'll see that we're working to unvalence the emotions and get rid of the simplistic positive and negative valencing that make us so emotionally confused. The word ambivalent means both valences, and it suggests that if you feel one positive emotion and one negative emotion at the same time, you'll become confused and unable to make a decision. The word ambivalence tells us that feeling two emotions at once will essentially immobilize us! English language, what? Vocabulary is so important in helping us understand concepts, yet English fails us in regard to multiple emotions because it doesn't contain enough words to help us understand how emotions truly work. In DEI, we play around and create new blended emotion words so that we won't be impeded by the severe lack in our English vocabulary. Throughout this article, I'll share some of our made-up emotion words, such as panger (panic and anger), panxiety (panic and anxiety), jealenvy (jealousy and envy), shangrief (shame, anger, and grief), and so on. Our deeply limited English language can't stop us from understanding how emotions work! Understanding that emotions should work together is especially important in your work with anxiety because anxiety often needs the support of other emotions, such as fear, confusion, shame, contentment, anger, panic, and so on. This is a healthy thing, and it's different from reacting to your supposedly negative emotions and creating an unnecessary emotion pile-up. She thought her problems were due to getting older and gaining weight. She noticed a tremor in one hand, had problems getting up from a chair, and could hardly dress herself. Now, with treatment, she dresses herself, goes up and down stairs easily, uses her treadmill regularly, and generally feels much better. About 1 in 10 caregivers report that caregiving has caused their physical health to worsen. Providing this statistic here isn't meant to scare you away from caregiving but to make you aware of the possible negative impact caregiving can have on your health, especially if you don't learn proper stress management and other coping techniques. Caregiving can have all the features of a chronic stress experience. In other words, it creates physical and psychological strain over extended periods, is often uncontrollable and unpredictable, often creates secondary stress in other areas of your life (such as your work or relationships), and often requires you to be on high alert. Not all stress is bad for you, but long-term stress of any kind is, and it can lead to serious health problems. Some of the ways the stress of caregiving can affect your physical health are by weakening your immune system (causing you to get more colds and illnesses than non-caregivers); The last point of weight gain is something I'm going to focus on because I've heard from many readers that it is an issue.

The Standard American Diet (SAD) is highly inflammatory and also produces excess free radicals, which are neurotoxic. Chronic inflammation is a major source of brain deterioration, involved in Alzheimer's and other neurological disorders. Pesticides contribute to inflammation and make it worse. The mitochondria in cells produce the cells' energy, and when the mitochondria of the brain decay, so does brain function. Inflammation, free radicals, and neurotoxins powerfully diminish mitochondrial function in the brain, directly leading to the mental disorders discussed in this article. Stress hormones such as glucocorticoids are another internal neurotoxin. Short-term, moderate stress is fine, but chronic or extremely high stress produces high levels of glucocorticoids that kill neurons, especially in the hippocampus. Glucocorticoid excess is implicated in Alzheimer's, cognitive decline, brain shrinkage, anxiety, and depression, reduced immunity, cancer, and heart disease. Another source of assault is the microbiome, which consists of the bacteria, viruses, and fungi that line the intestinal walls. They produce chemicals that either help the brain or hurt it, depending upon the type of bacteria present. These stars did it, and now you will, too. CUSTOM SOME BANGS LOOK 5 YEARS YOUNGER NOTHING AGES YOU LIKE . TOO-SHORT BANGS . TOO-LONG HAIR PARTED DOWN THE MIDDLE . HELMET HEAD . HIGH HAIR . VISIBLY THINNING HAIR For my mother's birthday, I decided to frame a collage of family photographs.

Begin to practice this oath as a home practice and watch how it will support you in dropping into a deep space of calm and connection. Sit in a comfortable posture and hold your spine erect. Close your eyes and breathe slow and deep. Bring all your focus to the heart region. Visualize a golden light blossoming in your heart and spreading its light around. Now repeat the three vows slowly, one after the other, while meditating on the golden light in your heart. I vow to set aside emotional disturbances and act from a calm consciousness. I vow to set aside a disconnected consciousness and stay connected with people in the meditation class. I vow to set aside my limited self and connect to the Universal Intelligence. Feel the power of the Universal Intelligence transform these sacred vows into your experience. We'll just have to find a new way to look for the signs, Marvin ventured. That's exactly right, Sandy said. And there are other, less obvious payoffs that are significant and long-lasting. An example is the feeling of ownership that comes over people in an empowered culture. If you're open and receptive, even the times when you seem sidetracked will yield important findings. Also, right in the midst of all that frustration, you'll learn that you are being changed into an empowering person. It's as if the journey and the destination are one and the same. To be honest with you, my contemporary managers and I fear that empowering the work force will lead not only to loss of power and control but to loss of jobs as well. Sandy nodded, acknowledging her appreciation for Marvin's concern. I understand that's a fear, Sandy replied, and it's a common one.

I knew I'd fail, I'm not good enough and on and on. The worst thing is you can't run away from this voice; Hear the negative self-talk, but don't buy into it. Listen more to the other inner voice, the one that always supports you, understands you, and believes in you. The one that is compassionate, kind and loving and always encourages and motivates you. When you work on something, and suddenly you start doubting or feel your energy decreasing. When you are stuck, bored or tired of the task at hand, that's when you inner critic begins speaking to you. Listen, but don't take him or her seriously. Don't resist. Respond the negative self-talk with So what? We create habits and patterns because they serve us in some way. It is amazing how many illnesses we create because we want to punish a parent. We may not be doing this consciously--in fact, in most cases it is not conscious. But when we start looking within, we find the pattern. We often create negativity because we do not know how to handle some area of life. If that's the case, ask yourself: What am I feeling sorry about? Who am I angry at? What am I trying to avoid? How do I think this will this save me? If you are not ready to let something go--you really want to hold on to it because it serves you--it doesn't matter what you do;

It pushes you to second guess everything. Thinking too much can be compared to a spreading fire. It burns down everything that it finds on its way. Therefore, you will suffer as a result of overthinking. Overthinking is when your mind clings to the faults that you have made and takes you through them throughout the day. When you overthink, your life will be on constant pause. You will always feel as though you are waiting for the right moment to do something. The problem is that this moment never arrives. You're always anticipating that something could go wrong. You will be overly careful when doing anything. For some, losing a job is a catastrophe. For others, it is an opportunity to seek a new path forward. Most people shy away from pain, but some voluntarily expose themselves to it in pursuit of a higher goal, such as completing a marathon or passing a difficult exam. The same goes even for death itself: it cannot be a bad thing, because you will not be there when it arrives. And yet, fear of death keeps human beings slaves of whoever or whatever they believe may help them avoid the inevitable, be that a religious or a technological cult. Now here are three stages of wisdom: the unwise person blames other people for what are, in the end, her own judgments about things; DO NOT CONGRATULATE YOURSELF FOR things that don't really belong to you. Do you have a nice car? The merit goes to the engineers who conceived it. Do you have a nice house?