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Although Grace was taken aback, she listened to her daughter and promised to restrain her opinions in the future. Grace wasn't able to change a lifetime of habits at all times, but that didn't matter to Janette, because she now felt comfortable to speak up whenever she was irritated. Ultimately, her affection for her mom grew, not only because her mother listened when it must have been difficult to do so, but also because it had been very stressful and draining for Janette to bottle up her irritation. But do not think that this kind of thinking is only rational: it also makes room for creativity. Someone who is able to think critically often has more ideas and suggestions, which always leads to innovation in company projects. Taking away your personal opinion gives you room to think about other opinions - and this is where the best ideas are born. Even customer service is better when the employee has critical thinking because it leads to empathy. When we set aside our own beliefs to analyze a situation, we can better understand what the other is going through. In this way, the employee understands the customer's needs and can better serve them. No wonder critical thinking is seen as an essential skill for every good student or employee. Knowing how to question, and especially if questioning, is important to make room for knowledge and the emergence of new ideas. Those who live with a colleague who thinks this way know how their ability to resolve conflicts and understand others is essential in the workplace. How to develop critical thinking? The problem is they are so fused with negative self-judgements (`I'm so dull/boring/dumb/unlikeable') or harsh self-criticism (`Oh, that came out wrong! Why did I say that? This leads to two major problems. Firstly, a lack of fulfilment in socialising: we won't enjoy it if we're not fully present. Secondly, a lack of reliable data about how we are actually performing: if we're not mindfully engaged, if we're all caught up in the ongoing commentary inside our head, then we can't accurately read others' responses. The same issues arise in `impostor syndrome' or any other form of pervasive self-doubt. Yes, unhooking from our mind's judgements is important, but not enough in itself;

In other words, we need to: Mindfully engage in the task at hand. Later reflect on what we have directly observed (as opposed to buying into our mind's commentary on what occurred). Nonverbal, Emotionally Intelligent Communication Builds Trust When stress is under control, we are more aware of our emotional needs and can better access nonverbal modes of communication, which are powerful tools for resolving conflicts in ways that build trust. Words spoken in the heat of anger rarely communicate the real issues at play in a dispute. Dialogue in heated confrontations is more likely to serve a protective, rather than communicative, role. Conversely, unspoken, emotionally intelligent communication can say more than the deliberately hurtful words uttered in emotionally charged situations. The fact that Elliot didn't speak Russian was probably an advantage during his dispute with the Russian police officers, because it forced him to pay attention to their nonverbal signals. Had he picked up hostile, aggressive signals in the officers' facial expressions, tone of voice, gestures, or body language, he would not have felt safe to defy their orders to surrender his camera. Although conflict with strangers is apt to be less threatening than conflict with someone we know well, fortunately nonverbal communication skills work even better with people whom we care about. Trish and Andrea: Face-to-Face In order to start developing your critical thinking, it is important to invest in three different aspects. However, it is important to remember that, above these qualities, critical thinking is an exercise that must be constantly practiced to perfection. Asking questions, not being satisfied with easy solutions and seeking more knowledge is the tripod of curious people. Leave acceptance aside and invest in curiosity. Understanding Understanding the full picture of a problem is important to becoming a critical thinker. If you focus only on one small aspect, you may not be able to ponder it effectively.

Start stimulating your logical thinking with mind-defying exercises. Do Sudoku, crossword puzzles and reasoning challenges. Once you work on these three characteristics, it is possible for critical thinking to come to your mind more easily. If still in doubt, get honest, non-judgemental feedback from trusted, competent others. BETTER OR BEST? In this article we've focused on improving, advancing and getting better. And in many areas of life, we may be happy to let this happen at its own pace; For example, while I want to become competent at riding my bicycle, I have no inclination to try to excel at it. Similarly, I want to get better at lifting weights in the gym, but I am not in the least bit interested in trying to excel at it. However, for most of us, there are at least one or two areas of life in which we do want to push ourselves; Now before we go any further, I wish to declare loudly: I do not recommend taking this attitude to every area of your life! If you're always trying to do your very best at everything, you've been hooked by perfectionism. Motivational gurus love to shout from the rooftops, `Always do your best! Trish and Andrea enjoyed a good relationship as business partners until Andrea began to feel victimized by the amount of time she needed to devote to a project. Overwhelmed by the prospect of what lay ahead, she sent Trish an e-mail demanding a larger share of the profits. Trish was shocked and hurt by the message and by the impersonal way it was delivered. Rather than let herself become overwhelmed by hurt and disappointment, she reminded herself that she and Andrea were friends and that she didn't understand what was so troubling. Trish made an appointment to discuss the matter leisurely with Andrea in a comfortable setting that favored communication. When the two met, Trish was relaxed and genuinely interested in knowing why Andrea felt resentful when she hadn't in the past. Face-to-face, with Trish showing genuine interest and regard, Andrea relaxed and was able to tell Trish that their project had become more than she could handle.

Andrea felt reassured by Trish's support and their interaction, as they discussed possible solutions that would enable Andrea to continue working on the project. The discussion ended with each feeling greater excitement about working together and more appreciation for one another. Emotionally Intelligent Communication But never forget that critical thinking is a time-consuming exercise and requires dedication. Critical and non-desiderative thinking Before we have indicated that critical thinking helps us not to get carried away by the opinions of others and consider this something totally true and correct. However, we must not confuse critical thinking with acting on our impulses. While being critical of what is taken for granted is a great help to improve ourselves and create new ways of seeing the world that does not mean that we have to depend on what we create without further ado. This could lead us to think that what we want or think about something is the truth, which in turn can lead us to commit cognitive biases. For example, a person with major depression may believe that his condition will never change and that everything he tries does not matter. This does not mean that this is the case, finding (either alone or with professional help) in your life positive things that will help you improve your condition. Critical thinking in itself implies being able to set aside the different fallacies and biases to focus on seeking a truth that is as justified and reasonable as possible, seeking evidence and evidence that what is said or done is true. It is based on the search for objectivity, bypassing the subjective and manipulative elements that other people or even one can introduce in the analysis of information. Always give one hundred per cent! Lance Armstrong knew that if he trained as hard as possible all year round, he would not reach his peak; So for several months of the year, he would deliberately ease off the pressure: cut down significantly on his training, increase the amount of fun and play in his life, and avoid entering major competitions. We can all learn from this. So, keeping this caution in mind, if you want to be the best parent, partner, lover, businessperson, entrepreneur, artist, musician or athlete that you can be; He speaks from the heart: genuine, open, enthusiastic. His words flow spontaneously as he reaches out to each and every member of the audience.

She leaps through the air like a panther, oblivious to the crowd of spectators. In one smooth motion, she lifts, aims and shoots. The ball flies across the court and into the basket. Cues That Help Resolve a Conflict Nonverbal, emotionally intelligent communication is, more often than not, responsible for success or failure in conflict resolution. When one person gives the impression of being angry or defensive, it triggers defensiveness in the other person. A clenched jaw, distressed lines around the eyes, or raised shoulders can and most likely will invite fear and opposition. In intense emotional situations, it is not the words that have the most power to sway, but the nonverbal communication. By eliminating stress and being able to focus on reading the cues you are giving others, or they are giving you, conflicts can be resolved more quickly and easily. Here are some questions to ask yourself about emotionally intelligent, nonverbal communication when you are in conflict: Do the spoken words align with the expressed nonverbal signals and body language? Does the person I am facing look more upset or less upset than his or her words convey? Do the spoken words strike me as sincere or as attempts at manipulation? What skills does having critical thinking imply? We have made a description of what is critical thinking. However, it is worth asking what exactly is necessary to have it? Having a critical thought means that the individual who has it has some degree of the following skills or traits. Capacity for reflection To be able to have a critical mindset it is necessary to be able to reflect on things in abstract terms. That is, being able to associate the information that comes to us with its meaning at both a superficial and deep level, as well as the implications that such information has with respect to the rest of reality.