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Life is too short to spend time with people who don't treat you with love and respect. Let them go and make new friends. Choose your relationships wisely. Especially the romantic ones. A lot of your future success will depend on it. They say you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. But you are an even bigger average of the one person around you the most. Relationships are the #1 predictor of long-term happiness. The one thing that all extremely happy people have in common is good interpersonal relationships. But it also works the other way around. This speed- and profit-driven approach is starting to catch up with us. I'm seeing a sharp increase in the number of young patients suffering from autoimmune diseases like lupus, Hashimoto's disease, and Crohn's disease. Often, rounds of prescription antibiotics, prescribed for acne, sinus issues, or minor childhood ailments, combined with poor diet, are at the root of these conditions and have caused the gut to become damaged and inflamed. A process of gut repair and restoration is what's required (article 174), not just more symptom-reducing drugs. On top of this, prescriptions for sleep-aid drugs (which don't tend to restore proper sleep patterns for the long term) are common. Antidepressants are also dispensed like candy and can cause weight gain, decreased libido and sexual dysfunction, and aggressive behavior or suicidal thoughts--and many experts are beginning to agree that they are sometimes more harmful than effective. This rampant prescribing is not as innocuous as it may seem. There is strong evidence that adverse effects of new drugs are kept hidden. A study published in a prestigious medical journal found that almost 65 percent of side effects found in drug trials are left out of the reports that doctors use to make treatment decisions. In my opinion, the three worst offenders among problem-causing prescription and over-the-counter drugs are proton pump inhibitors for acid reflux (because they cause an imbalance in the microbiome that creates a higher risk for infections and inhibits the absorption of nutrients, plus they may be connected to dementia and earlier death);

I have a picture of Holly beside my bed and, on the mornings I don't want to get up at six o'clock, I look at that picture and remember my `why'. I think to myself, `if I don't get up, if I don't work, she doesn't eat'. That's extreme, but that's the difference it makes between getting up and getting dressed or hitting the snooze on my alarm. Finding your why, what drives you, can make the ultimate difference between getting and not getting everything you want in your life How to find your why TONY ROBBINS We all experience emotions like frustration, anger or being overwhelmed and develop a strategy to end these feelings. Some people use food, some use sex, drugs or alcohol. Others use running, going to the gym or reading. Sometimes your pain point can be your strongest why. Getting a Side Stitch Although painful, side stitches are quite harmless and are normally caused where the upper body and abdomen is being heavily used in the running process. Swinging the arms and twisting the core can cause movement of the internal organs, so concentrating on form and not overworking the upper body can help reduce this. As your technique develops and your core becomes stronger, this is less likely to occur. Also, make sure you have completed a good warm up session before your run, and avoid eating heavily an hour or two before your run, as this is also thought to contribute to side stiches. When a side stitch does occur, simply take a break and walk. Breathe slowly and deeply and wait for the pain to subside before slowly jogging again. The good parts Whilst you may have felt pretty terrible at times as you were actually running, it's strange how we can still find positives in our efforts when we look back at the session after we've completed it. This is why people finish a marathon saying, Never again!

Anger, confusion, resentments, desire for revenge Greed, jealousy, resentment, intolerance Unfulfilled desires, unfulfilled commitment from family The negative states of your ancestors as well as the positive states are with you, playing through in every life event that they magnetize to you for healing. One of my teachers says, Life equals relationship. Whatever you experience in relationships defines what will be your experience of life. I often have clients who seem to have more challenges in life when they compare themselves to others and ask questions like Why always me? You are born into your family for specific reasons, some of which will forever be unknown, yet I share with you below more knowledge for you to digest and see if it helps you understand and accept your why in this lifetime. Family karma (good or bad) affects at least seven generations. This is known in many of the indigenous traditions. I am less depressed about my arthritis when I use OxyContin; There is a counterargument to every one of these reasons, but that is precisely the point: ambivalence is the pull in two directions at the same time, both of which can seem like good directions. The more this can be accepted as normal, the less people have to cling to the unrealistic idea that there's no looking back, and the more openly and effectively they can deal with their ambivalence. When clients tell us what they think we want to hear--their unswerving commitment to change--we're wary. We actually want to hear all about their ambivalence, the reasons pro and con for continuing the status quo or for changing. We know that if we are only hearing the cons of their behavior we are only hearing half the story, and unacknowledged pros have a way of ambushing people. Similarly, if you can't tolerate ambivalence in the change process, your loved one will sense this and probably tell you only what he knows you want to hear, if he tells you anything at all. If he knows you won't go berserk, on the other hand, he'll be more likely to tell you when he's wavering. When you know about it, ambivalence can be a huge opportunity for you to help. This is important because holding to a black-and-white notion of unwavering commitment to change is often a setup for excessive disappointment and destroyed confidence about lapsing.

She's a real looker! Within a few minutes she was back. She brought a jug with cold water, a glass, a holder filled with ice and a small plate with sliced lemon and put it in front of the guy. She smiled and asked: Would you like anything else, sir? In this illustration there is something very important that underlines the fact I stated earlier. Let us look at the two waitresses. The first one was asked for a glass of water and she brought exactly what the customer asked for. She delivered a good service because she provided to his need. Waitress number two was also asked for a glass of water. She however, went a step further. As discussed in article 3, people with hoarding behavior are motivated to keep many (if not most) objects that come into their lives, leading to cluttered living environments and interference in everyday functioning. In addition to the well-validated measures described above for these symptomatic aspects of the hoarding problem, determining what thoughts and beliefs drive their collecting and saving behavior is important in understanding it and selecting appropriate intervention strategies. The Saving Cognitions Inventory (SCI) is a 24-item self-report questionnaire that assesses the attitudes and beliefs of people when they are trying to discard their possessions. This instrument contains four subscales: (1) emotional attachment to objects, (2) belief about memory, (3) need for control over objects, and (3) responsibility for objects. Examples of SCI assessment items include, Throwing away this possession is like throwing away a part of me and I am responsible for finding a use for this possession. Ratings from 1 to 7 are used for each item, with anchors of 1 not at all, 4 sometimes, and 7 very much. People with hoarding are asked to rate the extent to which they had difficulty with these thoughts and beliefs while making decisions about whether to discard an object during the past week. SCI scores are calculated by summing all items within each of the four subscales, and the total score is determined by adding the scores for all items. For subscales, the average scores for clinically significant hoarding are 38 for emotional attachment, 20 for memory, 16 for control over possessions, and 22 for responsibility. Total scores of 95 and higher are associated with beliefs characteristic of a hoarding problem;

This is a shame because rest is a crucial aspect of true productivity. If you can learn to see confusion as an essential part of completing your tasks and meeting your deadlines, you'll be able to take advantage of its floating and aimless nature. This may not be true for you, but I noticed a couple of years ago that I was using television viewing or online browsing as my confusion practice, especially during intense writing deadlines. This doesn't work in the way lazing around aimlessly does. The restful lazing that brings you healing neurological benefits requires that you take a break from focus and input. There's a way that watching screens will zone you out, but there is still a lot of data and information coming at you, so it's not restful in the way that lounging and lazing around is. During a confusiety break, it's important not to do things that are cognitively activating or highly focused, and as such, many of the Empathic Mindfulness practices aren't applicable. Many of them require thinking, and that's not what's needed when confusion or confusiety arise; One practice that may be helpful for confusiety, however, is Resourcing. Resourcing helps you make room for more than one sensation or situation, including ones that may seem to be opposing forces. Now you might laugh and say, I wish! Maybe it's a prenatal memory, an archetypal fantasy, or simple wishful thinking, but this image has the power of history and it's so insistent that even if it never happened to you, you will live as if it had. And it doesn't matter if your mother wasn't a particularly nurturing person or if the circumstances of your childhood were harsh and unpleasant, you will still be warmed by this nostalgic idyll, so much so that you will aim to make the childhood of your own children better than the home you were raised in. Mothering is wired into your cosmic DNA--and that goes for men born under Cancer as well. Cancer, Virgo, and Scorpio are the three zodiac signs where the mother plays a prominent role in the horoscope. Cancer is the sign of the Good Mother. You can't resist the impulse to pick up things and to hold them; It's obvious with babies and children, but it's also apparent with animal rescues, beloved objects, and even places that you return to over and over. You just have this need to hold things close, to drink in their scent, and--should the occasion allow--even to hum to them. It's all part of the maternal bonding.