Saturday 24 October 2020

Giving Help without Expecting Returns

Exercise: Self-Care Checklist Ask yourself the following questions each week. If you took up tracking or journaling from the previous article, record your answers in your tracking log or journal. You may track or journal any number of these areas daily, especially areas in which you are focused on change. Am I eating a healthy, balanced diet? How much of what I eat are prepared foods, eg, processed or fast foods, or frozen dinners? Am I using alcohol or other substances--including caffeine and nicotine--to cope, and/or consuming more of any substance(s) than I want to be? It doesn't matter if you consider yourself overweight or in shape, athletic or lethargic. Everything you've done before picking up this article--and everything you've thought--is in the past. Making the bold and brave decision to show up for your health and create a life that is truly in balance starts right now. I encourage every woman and every teen who wants to feel better in her body to start where she is today. You are exactly where you need to be. Your best friends on this movement journey will be curiosity and awareness. Take curiosity with you as you begin to practice the workouts in this section, and the process will be a whole lot more fun. Keep curiosity with you as you dive deeper into working out, and you will discover aspects about yourself that will help your exercise time be more impactful: You will feel happier and stronger, and you will look healthier. Curiosity allows you to enter each workout with a light heart and an open mind. Before you start each workout, ask yourself a key question: What is it going to feel like to move my body today? And it hurt - I won't lie to you. But I kept on trying and with patience and persistence things eventually worked out. I was rejected by dozens of publishers;

I was rejected by agents; Banks wouldn't loan me money to invest. I went back better prepared and got a much better deal. If you need to hear a 100 No a day, to make five sales, would you do it? The problem is that many people are not up for it. It's a numbers game. Be prepared for rejection. Push yourself to think deeper. Critics are a dime a dozen; If you're going to identify what's wrong, then be ready to show people how to make it right. You need to figure out what's salvageable about an unsalvageable situation, how to turn a near miss into a direct hit, or--if things truly are a disaster--how to begin again. Nobody's asking you to kiss their boo-boos and make them better. What they want is to make things better and for you to show them the way. Capricorn Mercury/Sagittarius Sun: You're not quick, but you're thorough. You rarely make a reference without citing sources, you use air quotes when unsure of your facts, and you footnote your texts with hyperlinks. All of this guardedness can sometimes result in endless disclaimers. Once you've tweaked your skirt length, look at the width, too. Sharyn often advises shoppers to narrow their skirts. Sometimes skirts are too wide, she says.

Narrower is sexier. You can make a skirt short, but if the width is too wide, you look out of it. So while you're at the tailor's (see the section later in this article), tweak the width if you need to. GETTING IT STRAIGHT: YOUR PERFECT SKIRT If you think I'm going to say let's hear it for the A-line, I'm not. Conventional wisdom says that the A-line, which flares out slightly from the waistband to the hem, is the most universally flattering skirt, and it is. And if you have very thick legs, it can balance you out, like a pair of boot-cut jeans. I like what T. Eker said about this in a video I listened to. He said: Don't believe a single thought you think. He also said the reason you do not have what you want yet is because of this main culprit in your life. You do not have to live by what your mind tells you. You do not have to accept that all the information your mind prescribes for your behavior is the best for you. You have the ability to choose who you want to be and how you want to live your life. If you want a better life where you enjoy success and happiness, which I think you do, you can decide to change your thoughts, behavior and habits to become who you really want to be. Of all things in the universe, God only created humans with a free will to choose and decide who and what they want to be. Think about this incredible ability you and I have! Ann had a thin body and nervous demeanor that reflected her struggle with anxiety. She entered therapy when her drinking started getting out of control, which was the only way she'd found to cope with her anxiety. She also took Klonopin, and at times appeared drugged and like her mind was working more slowly.

Ann's mother was an anxious woman with a traumatic childhood who'd lost her own mother at age 13. Lacking anyone who could soothe her, Ann's mother was unable to give Ann what she'd never received herself--a calm nervous system. When Ann would turn to her mother for comfort, her mother wouldn't know what to do. She'd stiffen, feel inadequate, and hurry Ann on her way, telling her to be a big girl. Over three years in therapy, Ann learned to sit with her anxiety rather than try to immediately escape from it. She learned different relaxation strategies, ways to breathe into her anxiety and to observe it arise and pass away. With time, she was also able to trust me and feel reassured that her feelings were normal, not scary monsters that she needed to run away from. Have I had trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep in the past week? Am I getting the amount of sleep I need? Am I treating any mental or physical health problems? Taking medication as prescribed? Slowing down/taking time off when I'm sick? Am I getting enough exercise? Do I have enough energy to do the things I need and want to do? Have I tried using at least one new tolerance tool in the past week? Did I practice with any I've already tried? Am I keeping track of my progress in at least one area that is important to me? That's curiosity. As you transition through each movement, notice what's happening in your body and mind without labeling it or judging it. That's awareness.

A curious mind is open and neutral, simply interested in what's happening without labeling it as good or bad. I always say, Don't judge me, don't judge the person next to you, and don't judge yourself. This is not a race. This is not a competition. As you practice the exercises in this article, you may find that you are able to tear through all the exercises, or you may find that you are able to do only a few of the moves, or you may discover that you are unable to do any of the movements without getting tired right away. Whatever the result, treat it as valuable information--an awareness that will help you as you continue to show up for your workouts each day. It may be as simple as: I'm aware that my arms get tired when I extend them for more than a few seconds. Deal with it when it comes and keep on hustling. When somebody tells you No, thanks, you think NEXT. Letting go of the past and learning from past behavior is crucial to developing a healthy self-esteem. Feeling guilty about things you have done, or staying stuck in situations that have already passed is not learning from the past. Every moment you spend in your past is a moment you steal from your present and future. You cannot function in the present, while you live in the past. No mind in the world can cope with two realities at a time. Don't hang on to your drama by reliving it indefinitely. LET GO OF IT! Focus on what you want instead. Remember that the point is to get to the point. Capricorn Mercury/Capricorn Sun: You're like Hamlet on the parapets of Elsinore--absorbed with matters so weighty that they make to be or not to be sound like a trick question.

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