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Underactive: Heartless, feeling numb inside, inability to connect with anybody, totally indifferent, silent outside, aggressive inside, no love, cold, no care, no warmth I allow myself to give and receive love freely. Giving equals receiving. Visualize a green orb at your sternum. The heart chakra is your center of love, giving, and forgiving. The heart is the organ that keeps us alive, but it's also our energy life force. Perhaps you were taught it is better to give than to receive. You could stand by a tree, inhaling and exhaling - you are participating in an equal exchange where both giving and receiving are required. With the inhalation, you receive the clean air that the tree filtered. With your exhalation, you give that same tree the carbon dioxide it needs to thrive. Volume matters. In fact, these may matter more than anything else. Our families tell us that not yelling is the hardest change to make because they are often so upset. But when we yell, people don't hear us. They become defensive and flooded with emotion. The conversation becomes a fight; Also, when we yell we model yelling, that is, we teach other people to yell back. The only upside to yelling is letting off steam. While we might feel better for an instant, there are other ways to let off steam (or cool down before we come to a boil) that don't sabotage communication and damage relationships. In addition to all the things we've discussed so far about motivation, there is one other thing we know from research studies and clinical experience: confrontation is the archenemy of motivation.

They have something that motivates them to such an extent that nothing, no black dot or any other adversity they encounter can keep them from losing sight of their goals. The reason why they keep on going, why they refuse to quit, is bigger than all the problems and obstacles or anything else trying to distract them from their goal. Here is a good example of a person with a determined attitude who refused to give up in his quest to achieve his goal: Robert worked for a well-known insurance company in a big city He loved his work, especially interacting with people. Although he worked in the industry for many years, his goal was to become the insurer for one of the largest companies in the city. Achieving this was his ultimate goal and the accomplishment would fill him with satisfaction, pride and joy. But, making an appointment to see the CEO of that company was also one of the biggest obstacles he ever had to face. He'd tried everything he knew to schedule an appointment for years. He phoned, visited, emailed, wrote to the CEO, but each time the secretary told him that the CEO did not want another insurer for the company and is too busy to see him. Robert's friends, who also tried to insure that company but gave up and quit trying, joked about his dream to see the CEO and bag the business. In this article we've directed the reader to the most commonly used methods of measuring the severity of hoarding and assessing related features. These include self-report and clinician-administered tests that are applicable to research and practice contexts for clinical and community providers. We conclude by drawing attention to a few additional assessment instruments relevant to hoarding and squalor in case these are useful to readers in the course of their work on hoarding. These measures can be found through an online search. The first two are diagnostic instruments intended to determine the presence of HD. It contains questions about clutter, difficulty discarding, acquisition, distress, and interference and inquires about co-occurring mental and medical conditions in order to make a differential diagnosis. It is intended for use by trained clinicians and can be found through an internet search. It is designed for use by mental health clinicians and can be found through an internet search. The measure has two subscales: compulsive buying (12 items about the reasons for buying and interference caused) and acquisition of free things (6 items about picking up free things). The CAS can be used in clinical and community settings and is especially relevant for those with serious acquiring problems.

If you deal with panxiety, you may have already found practices that help you calm and soothe yourself. A simple practice that can be healing and supportive (if you need one right now) is Hands-On Grounding. Stroking and soothing your body can help your panic and your anxiety realize that you're in a safe place where they don't need to be on such high alert. Developing many ways to soothe your body is a key to working with panxiety, and we'll explore supportive practices and therapeutic approaches in the next article. Attending to Panic and Anxiety In our DEI community, we regularly use the Conscious Questioning process to work with our anxiety, but some people noticed that there were times when it didn't help. Others noticed that their anxiety increased when they questioned it consciously! After many months of studying this phenomenon as a community, we learned what was going on: Panic was present alongside the anxiety. Working with the anxiety had unearthed the panic. We learned to differentiate between what we now call situational anxiety (anxiety that alerts us to a situation that we can address) and what we lovingly call panxiety (panic and anxiety acting together and creating a continual sense of hyperactivation, apprehension, overthinking, or dread). Aries, Leo, and Capricorn are the three zodiac signs where the father plays a prominent role in the horoscope. Leo is the sign of the Good Father. But what does Good Father mean nowadays in a world of gender fluidity, sperm donors, and single-parent households headed by women more than men? Is Good Father even a relevant term anymore? Let's face it: not all dads are good, just like not all kings are just and not all leaders know where they're going, but that doesn't keep us from wanting them to be that way. We all want someone to look up to. Someone to be the bigger person, to take the high road, and to take us aside and explain why bad things happen when they do. A Good Father shows up. He protects, provides, and disciplines. He leads by example and helps his children get back up on their feet when they stumble.

Blueberry extracts are preferable due to their lack of sugar. Look for extracts with the highest amount of anthocyanin content. Some are available at 25%. Hesperidin. This flavonoid is found widely in fruits and vegetables and has been shown to increase the rate of neurogenesis by 25-41%. With most nutrients we don't yet know if the neurogenesis increase is due to a greater rate of neuron birth or survival. With hesperidin we do know. It comes via an increase in the survival rate of neural progenitor cells. Thus, like an enriched environment, it functions to keep alive the newborn neurons rather than having them die off early on. Regular hesperidin is difficult for the body to assimilate, but a form of hesperidin called methyl chalcone is much more bio-available and well worth the slight extra cost. Worst of all, they can make you look like you're trying too hard, which, as you know by now, is so OL. Designer Sunglasses. Top designer sunglasses can run upwards of $300. You can buy a similar-looking pair from a sidewalk or flea market vendor or at a mall kiosk for $10. So should you spend the big bucks? Go for quality over price, as the cheap ones are unlikely to protect your eyes from UV rays. Yes, sunglasses look great, but they also serve a very important purpose: protecting your corneas from the damaging effects of the sun. The lenses in sunglasses bought at optical shops or department stores likely have been treated to filter out UV rays. Look for a sticker reading UV400, signaling that the lenses meet the requirement of blocking 99 percent of UV rays. A pair of $10 shades may stop you from squinting, but they may not really be protecting your eyes.

Pay close attention to what is happening in your mind. Notice the thoughts and sensations that come and go. Don't resist them in any way. Just notice them. You are not required to react to these thoughts and sensations in your mind. Sure, they might be burdensome, but try to gently return to your point of focus without judging what you're feeling or experiencing. As you finish, gently bring your attention to where you are now. Sit for a moment without doing anything. Breathe in gently and breathe out while allowing your body and mind to flow with it. Take another deep breath while gently opening your eyes as you complete your meditation. I believe that we have a choice between love and fear. We experience fear of change, fear of not changing, fear of the future, and fear of taking a chance. We fear intimacy, and we fear being alone. We fear letting people know what we need and who we are, and we fear letting go of the past. But the mind cannot hold two opposing thoughts at once, and at the other end of the spectrum from fear is love. Love is the miracle worker we're all looking for. When you love yourself, you can take care of yourself. When you are frightened, remind yourself that it means you are not loving and trusting yourself. The belief that you are not good enough is often at the root of your fears. But when you love and approve of yourself completely, you can begin to overcome your fears.