I Won't Be in

This year we'd chosen San Francisco, a place neither of us had ever been. I had a medical checkup scheduled the day before we were to head out of town. I knew something was wrong when the ultrasound technician seemed to go over a certain spot on my stomach numerous times with the wand. I didn't like the look on her face. She told me I could get dressed then disappeared from the tiny room we were in. When I sit at my desk, I turn the hourglass, work until it empties, and then check my phone for a couple of minutes. Normally, Instagram and the constant thought of What if somebody texts something urgent? After the phone check, I turn the hourglass again, work until it empties, and then leave my office and do something active, creative, or relational for five or ten minutes. Sometimes I hit the jackpot and get to do all three. My office is in a church, and I work with people who were friends before they were office mates. Usually during those ten minutes, I walk laps around the sanctuary (active), maybe listen to some voice messages from friends while I walk (relational), play the piano (creative), or chat with a friend on my walk back (relational again). Those ten minutes give me exactly what I need to do increasingly better work for the next two turns of the hourglass. Maybe the start of your work isn't where you need a routine. Maybe it's the middle. AN EVENING ROUTINE Positive affirmations Acupuncture and acupressure Visualization Emotional freedom technique (EFT) Journaling Aromatherapy Art therapy Flower essences Breathwork Light therapy

Exercise Color therapy Nutrition Gem and crystal therapy Vitamins and other supplements Psychedelic therapy Before quitting, really get to know the mechanics of your addiction. Watch yourself in the mirror as you engage in your addiction: smoking, drinking, eating, or so on. I see starches get vilified all the time, which is a pity when we know they can help with appetite suppression, that they contain fiber, vitamins and minerals, and that they can help with controlling blood glucose. I know people who actively avoid adding potatoes or rice to their meals as they deem these foods bad. Starches can and should have a place in your diet, as long as you pick whole-food sources. Whole-food starches are typically found in peas, corn, cereals, grains, rice, oatmeal, quinoa, and root vegetables like potatoes, yams, and butternut squash. When we were kids, we were all told to eat our vegetables, right? In my house, we weren't allowed to eat any meat until all of our vegetables were gone, but that's a whole other story. There's a good reason we should have listened to our parents: when you include vegetables with your meals, you are loading up on nutrients including not just fiber but also phytochemicals, vitamins, and minerals. Getting those from real food beats any pill or multivitamin. And vegetables are delicious and versatile, as well as ridiculously low in calories, so eating more of them helps with fat loss because we can enjoy colorful, filling meals with very little caloric impact. No need for mini-meals when you include lots of veggies. Becoming more active provides a huge range of health benefits, including improvements in mood and reductions in the risk of heart disease, cancer, and stroke. I don't like doing exercise for its own sake, and I hate the gym, so I have found ways to build it into my life. See the Appendix on article 267 for some simple resistance, aerobic, and HIIT (high-intensity interval training) exercises to help you get going. Does it matter when I exercise? It is best to exercise first thing, ideally in the early morning light and ideally in the fasted state (ie, before breakfast).

We're told that we shouldn't exercise in the evening because it interferes with sleep, but there seems to be very little evidence for that. The important thing is you do it, so don't worry too much about whether the time is right. Will it help me fall asleep, straight off? Probably not. Doing more exercise and being more active will undoubtedly help you sleep better. After receiving a diagnosis, as the partner without Asperger syndrome you may be left feeling both happy and sad. Although you are likely to feel a sense of relief and that you now have the ability to understand what has been causing many of the problems in the relationship, you may also feel like you have reached the end of a journey and be rather exhausted by it all. You will very likely be in need of some comforting. The trouble is that your partner may not be aware of this need or be able to offer this kind of support and warmth. Tell your partner how you feel, but not in a judgmental way: this is not about blame. Explain in a direct and clear way that you are relieved you now both know the reason why there have been some problems in the relationship and that together you can now work at sorting things out. If possible, do this when you are both sitting quietly together, have plenty of time and will not be interrupted. One woman I spoke to had an agreement with her husband that, rather than expecting him automatically to know, she would always tell him when she wanted a hug. This took the pressure away from him and he was always happy to oblige. If your partner, though, is not able to offer any comfort, then it is important to seek support from friends and family who can prove quite invaluable at this time. Vitamin B6 (pyridoxal 5'-phosphate, known as P5P) Vitamin B6 in its active form (P5P) has been shown to enhance memory. Vitamin B6 is utilized by the liver to help metabolize (break down, convert and store) glucose and it is required for liver and muscle cells to access energy stores of sugar to make glucose for use by the body - so it's important for weight loss in people with strong healthy livers. It's also used by the body to help make its own vitamin B3, serotonin, taurine, dopamine, norepinephrine, GABA, and histamine! Vitamin B9 (Folate)

Having decreased numbers of vitamin B9 appears to be associated with chronic brain issues (eg Alzheimer's). Folate has been proven to increase mental outcomes in many tests of cognitive performance. What foods are rich in this awesome vitamin? Organic cruciferous vegetables (dark leafy greens) have epic amounts of fabulous vitamin-B9. Vitamin B3 (Niacin) Again, it's a choice of perspective. Our perspective also affects how we react to things that happen to us. You may have a girl who's emotionally reactive or stubbornly set in her ways. Both are choices of being. It may seem overly simplistic to suggest she choose a different way of being, but next time you or she over-reacts or is unwilling to try something new, ask, How is that working for you? The thing is, she can keep her habits and old ways, but a change in perspective will change her reactions and thus her mode of being. Try challenging her to see a different path. Ask, But why not try a different choice once? Just for kicks, for fun? As an experiment? Types of Goals There are three types of goals: Outcome goals, process goals, and performance goals. Each of the three types differs depending on the control we have over it. We have the most control over the process goals and the least control over the results goals. Outcome Goals (Results)

Outcomes goals are specific and spell out the results you hope to achieve at the end. For instance, I will lose 30 lbs. While they give you a target, they do not tell you how to reach it. In business and competitive sports, outcome goals may be goals like winning a championship or hitting a specified sales target or winning a certain percentage of the market. In these cases, outcome goals compare your performances with other competitors. Thus, most of ancient Egyptian art is known as idealistic art (except the Akhenaton Era, 1353-1336 BCE, in which art was more realistic). This approach to art reminds me of the many Photoshop-like apps we use on our smartphones, like Facetune. This simple app lets the user use filters to make his image look as close to `perfect as possible. You can add more detail to the face or change its shape (yes, really), patch up imperfections on the skin, whiten teeth, and much more. I was also curious why humans and animals were combined in Egyptian art. Ismail explained, Pharaohs usually had human form, but sometimes they were represented by a combination of human and animal form, like the Sphinx, which represents the king as a combination of power and intelligence. Its form says the king should be as strong as a lion and as smart as a human. In artwork, vultures and cobras were also symbols of protection and power. To me, this sounds like the app Snapchat, which uses filters so the user can have a tongue like a dog, hair like a rock star, or a flower crown on her head. Doing more research, it seems that Egyptian pharaohs were often overweight and not as healthy as portrayed: Egyptian art commonly depicts pharaohs as being trim and statuesque, but this was most likely not the case. This is why the willpower method makes people so miserable. They have to endure the rest of their lives waiting for nothing to happen. It's hardly surprising the vast majority fail. IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE CURED COMPLETELY? Different people reach this stage of the article in different frames of mind.