Identify Your Emotions

It's up to you to decide how to move forward. You can support a codependent person, which is certainly important, but maybe this kind of relationship has become too much for you. My recommendation for you is, that knowing the truth, you will be supportive to your codependent partner. Remember, behind all your disagreements, is the person suffering from this condition. For some, love relationships and partnerships are a source of energy for coping with life's challenges, while for others, it is an energy field that sucks the life from you causes many problems. One of the most common problems in such relationships is the dependence. Some emerging clients recognize that they are addicted, and want to overcome this challenge, but there are large numbers of people who are not aware of their addiction, but only recognize the many symptoms that have arisen from it. In reality, it's best to stick to the natural colour of your skin, whatever that is. If you're naturally very pale, the only healthy way to get a tan is to fake it. Sunbeds are not the answer. They are a synthetic light at close proximity and are known to be a cause of skin cancer. I have interviewed many people who used them, or who had loved ones who used them and, as a result, had basal cell carcinoma (cancerous growths or lesions that come about in the skin's basal layer) removed, leaving lifelong scars and memories - and, sometimes, led to more serious illness. Yes, Vitamin D is needed and sunlight is key for many health reasons beyond skincare, however, basting ourselves with oil like a Christmas turkey to bake in the sun is immature and irresponsible, given what we know now about the sun and ageing. There are three rays that we're exposed to from the sun: UVA, UVB and UVC. C is predominantly protected by the ozone layer; B is only present where the sun shines (think B for burn). A rays are the longest (and we're exposed to them all year round even when it's cold) so penetrate into the living deeper layers of the skin causing accelerated ageing. Five basic signs of addiction Although your mind tells you that the relationship is hurting you, and that you cannot expect any improvement, you take no concrete steps to end it. You give yourself irrational reasons for maintaining the connection that are an insufficient counter to the negative aspects of the relationship.

When you think about breaking up, you feel fear, even horror, so hold on to it even more. When you take steps to break up, you suffer from acute symptoms of separation anxiety, which includes physical and emotional pain, only alleviated by reestablishing the relationship. When the relationship is ended (or so you think), you feel lost, lonely, and empty. If most of these signs are present, you can be reasonably sure that you are in a relationship in which the elements of addiction have taken control of your ability to manage your life. The first step in resolving this addiction is to acknowledge that it exists, after which you need to learn how it works. The next steps are focused on empowering you as an individual, leading you to a degree of freedom, and then you can decide whether the relationship should be improved, accepted or ended. And lastly, the message I always emphasize that goes beyond being dependent on a partner. These are deadly rays. Shielding the skin is key but it is virtually impossible to cover every single centimetre of your body with sunscreen so that no sun can touch you at all. All you need is for the sun to hit any exposed area of skin for Vitamin D to be synthesised and you get enough in a twenty-minute period. Be safe in the sun and don't lie to yourself - you don't need that much Vitamin D, you just want a tan - and a tan is always a sign of sun-related skin damage. Sun damage (aka photodamage) is seen in age spots, discolouration, redness, freckles, loss of elasticity, lines, white marks (hypopigment) and, yes, a tan. Although we celebrate it, we are not born with the tan and should recognise that it's the body's way of defending itself. It's a sign that your skin has been damaged. If you are born with pigment in your skin, this is not a tan, this is your genetic makeup. The other extreme is having kids so protected that they fear the sun - an educated balance is ideal. In this article, we will explore my favourite skingredients, some of which you'll already be familiar with from the Nutrition article (see article 49). Let your relationship with a codependent person be a choice, not a commitment. I have an opinion that I feel the need to share with you. You have to look at all of this through the lens of pure logic.

If you have lived with a codependent person all this time, and you were unaware of this condition, why would you leave the relationship now that you know the truth? That just isn't logical to me. You have a unique opportunity now. You can help a codependent person now. You have all the necessary tools to help that person in this article. My advice to you is simple--don't give up. How to Save a Relationship before you break up I've broken these down in terms of acids, antioxidants, hydrators and lightening (which is the term used in skincare for brightening and correcting skin colour) ingredients. Glycolic acid Glycolic acid is probably the most commonly used AHA (alpha-hydroxy acid). It is the smallest AHA molecule, which means it can penetrate deeper into the skin than its cousins, lactic acid, mandelic acid and citric acid. Because of this, it is not as easily controlled and can cause huge change very quickly. This is a double-edged sword as it is also slightly more likely to cause irritation. Glycolic acid, like all AHAs, gets into the skin and prompts the dead skin cells on the upper layers to slough themselves off. This constant cell turnover means that it can dehydrate the skin and is best used alongside hydrating ingredients. Overuse of glycolic acid can be detrimental to the skin, hence the importance of long-term guidance alongside its usage. Glycolic acid is derived from sugar cane - don't use sugar to exfoliate unless it is chemically with glycolic acid! Don't give up on love If you are not happy about the relationship, and you are facing problems, do not give up and end a relationship that used to be great. Keep in mind that many couples are in crisis, but that doesn't mean you have to break up.

Here are some things you can try to help save the bond that is about to break. Communicate as a team One of the worst things to do is to break up without discussing it openly. Remember that. You don't want to permanently hurt someone's feelings, and at the same time, you have to talk openly and honestly about why the relationship doesn't work, says relationship expert Rory Sasun. Be kind, and talk sensitively, so that the partner responds in kind, and feels safe to speak honestly and openly. If things don't work out or you get into a routine, try putting some excitement into the mix. A word to the spot-prone: some find it brings up an abundance of under-the-surface buggers. For a good glycolic range, I like the IMAGE Ageless range, particularly the cleanser and serum and overnight mask. Helps with: Ageing skin, dull skin, those looking to get rid of pigment, sluggish skin, hardier skin. Be conscious of: If you're dealing with breakouts glycolic acid can bring things to the surface and cause your skin to purge. Lactic acid Lactic acid is possibly the reason why Cleopatra bathed in milk! It was first found in sour milk but it can also be synthesised (in this case, made in a lab to mimic the effect of milk-derived formats). It is an AHA like glycolic acid but it is a much larger molecule, which means that it works more slowly and is therefore more gentle, yet effective. Lactic acid is the acid to go for if you have more reactive skin. In smaller doses, lactic acid can also hydrate the skin by preventing transepidermal water loss. It may seem counterproductive for you to say yes, when your relationship is on the verge of breaking up. The idea is to give yourself a whole lot of room to save the relationship, says relationship expert Marla Martenson. Try to rediscover the excitement and adventure of the relationship, be ready to help, and try to smooth things out where they don't work.

Get rid of bad memories Make a pact to start over, and to explore opportunities for a happy future. One of my favorite techniques is to practice deliberately forgetting all the bad shared memories a couple has, and only remembering good things, says Martenson. Usually, when the relationship is on the verge of breaking up, there is a lot of resentment and negative thoughts among the partners. By practicing this, so-called selective amnesia, you can get rid of the ugly past and enjoy the present. Be patient after a big conversation If you had the big conversation where you talked about your feelings, don't expect things to change overnight. Lactic acid molecules, although larger than glycolic acid ones, still get down deep enough to speed up cell turnover so it will be nearly as effective on hyperpigmentation, dullness and fine lines. Due to the strength and potency of glycolic acid, lactic acid is often considered safer to use during pregnancy. The best lactic acid I could recommend is Environ derma-lac, for all over the body product and face. It's great for keratosis pilaris which we'll discuss in the Full Body Skin article (article 257). Helps with: Sensitive skin, ageing skin, acne-prone skin, pigment, dull skin, sluggish skin. Be conscious of: If your skin is particularly sensitive to all acids, or you've had a reaction before to a similar acid, then you should patch test. Salicylic acid Salicylic acid is also known as beta-hydroxy acid (BHA) and is derived from willow bark. It is the chemical exfoliant for oily and acne-prone skin, as it penetrates into the pore and dissolves the plug of dead skin cells and oils. Salicylic acid also prompts the skin to slough off skin cells from the top, just as AHAs do, but it is gentler as it is anti-inflammatory in nature. Be patient, and if things don't improve, then think again about your relationship. After talking to your partner about what's not working and why you're not happy, you should be patient and give your partner a chance to make some changes. Set specific goals