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But because anxiety is such an essential part of your basic functioning, repressing it will only make it come at you with more intensity. Repressing anxiety might seem like a good self-care practice in the moment, but anxiety is necessary, and repression will initiate emotional turmoil as your anxiety attempts to reassert itself. I've seen this turmoil lead people into addictions and distractions of all kinds, including obsessive exercise or obsessive meditation. It takes a lot of energy to repress an energetic emotion like anxiety. But let me be clear: expression and repression are healthy responses in many situations. For instance, if you feel a lot of sadness, and it's safe to cry, it's great to express your sadness and your tears so that you can let go. But if it's not safe to cry, and you understand sadness, you can soften your body, breathe in quietly, and let go as you exhale. You can repress your tears and sadness on the outside but still honor your sadness in the privacy of your own body. If you don't understand sadness, however, your repression may be a way to pretend that you don't feel it. This kind of repression may train you to see your unwanted and unloved sadness as an obstacle or a sign of weakness (and that's truly sad). Avoid multitasking during mealtime so that you can taste and enjoy your food, as well as pay attention to portion sizes. It's okay to enjoy your wine, but make sure you're not using alcohol as a crutch. I am a red wine lover, but moderation is essential for me to maintain a healthy weight. Your loved one may qualify to get these paid for by a government program, so it's a good idea to look into that. It's okay to have this from time to time, just watch how much you eat--moderation is key. In the summer, try fresh berries on top of angel food cake instead of heavier, more calorically dense cheesecake. Olive oil, flaxseed oil, and the oil in nuts and fish such as salmon are considered healthy fats. One of my favorite good fat foods is avocado. I eat one of these almost every day on my salad. Homemade guacamole is also a tasty treat!

It often takes 20-30 years before science can establish the toxic health effects of something like tobacco, especially when it's a slow, gradual impact. The introduction of glyphosate and other pesticides, the increase in carbohydrates and sugar and reduction in healthy fat, the use of cell phones and computers, the 80,000 chemicals that have polluted our world--it takes time to comprehend their effects. We are just now understanding some of the potent neurotoxic results such things have. Physical Malnourishment The lack of a proper diet produces more brain malnutrition than any other source. If you want to build a beautiful, high-end house, you need to use high-quality building materials, not rotting or inferior wood. It's the same with the brain. To build a robust, radiant brain requires high quality building materials, and the Standard American Diet (SAD) comes nowhere close. We are just beginning to recover from decades of disastrous dietary policies that have produced the health crisis in the West. This is not the place to go into why these policies came about in the first place. No matter what the magazines claim is the must-have cut of the moment, stick to your bangs -- or some variation. Bangs have their hot seasons, but they're never really out of style. Get a trim at least every three or four months when you see your hairdresser. Resist the urge to snip them yourself in between visits; CHANGE IS ALWAYS IN THE HAIR Once you reach a certain age, you've probably had every hairstyle imaginable and have zeroed in on what's best for you. But even though your days of wild experimentation are over (you're not going to shave your head like Britney Spears), it's still good to keep your style evolving. What does that mean? We're talking subtle changes to keep you from getting stuck in a hair rut. Do you have friends or relatives who haven't changed their hair since high school?

Raise the arms to a sixty-degree angle. Curl the fingertips onto the pads at the base of the fingers. Plug the thumbs into the sky. With eyes closed, concentrate above the head, and do Breath of Fire (rapid breathing in and out through the nose). The emphasis is on the exhalation and the inhalation will automatically happen. Think of blowing out a candle with your nose. If you ever feel light headed, go to long, deep breathing, and once you feel balanced, pick up Breath of Fire again. Inhale and touch the thumb tips together overhead. Exhale and apply mulbandh (root lock), tightening all of the sex organs and anus, pulling all of the energy in the pelvic floor up. Inhale and relax. So they are the real source of the information you seeknot me. With that, she stood up and ushered Marvin out the door. Marvin found himself standing outside the office, bewildered. He walked over to the woman who had shown him in. I'm Marvin Pitts, he said. I know, smiled the woman. Are you Ms. Fitzwilliam's secretary? Actually, I'm her associate, came the reply. Marvin found himself thinking, how did I know she was going to say that?

Do you need the validation of others to tell you how well you are doing? A person with high self-esteem does not feel the need to compete; They don't even need a reward for doing a good job - because they know they are doing their best and because they know it's not about the result, but about the journey. A person of high self-esteem recognizes his or her potential for what it is and strives for excellence in their life. The only competition is with themselves. The goal is reaching greater personal growth and achieving excellence in everything they want to do. Become that person. Stop competing. Keeping your word is one way to boost your self-esteem that most of the time gets totally ignored. Every commitment you make, even those you make to other people, is ultimately a commitment to yourself. Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. I have discovered that no matter what the problem is, the best way to resolve it is to start loving yourself. Loving yourself means having great respect for everything about you, inside and out. It is deep gratitude for the miracle of your body and your mind and your soul. Loving yourself is appreciation to such a degree that it fills your heart until it bursts, overflowing with the joy of being YOU. It is impossible to really love yourself unless you have self-approval and self-acceptance. Do you scold and criticize yourself endlessly? Do you believe you are unlovable? Do you live in chaos and disorder?

You only find yourself in a vicious circle where you simply think a lot, but there is little that you do. Perhaps the best strategy to prevent yourself from falling into a thinking trap is to try out the alternatives you have. A simple decision to act will make a huge difference. You Can't Let Go Often, we make erroneous decisions that could lead us to fail. When this happens, it can be daunting to let go more so when you reflect on the sacrifices you have made to get to the point you are at. You might feel that it is painful to let go after you have invested a lot of money on a certain business. The issue here is that you don't want to fail. However, it is important to realize that failing to let go only holds you back from trying out something else that could work. It also affects your life since you will think repeatedly about your failures. The universe does not owe you anything, and does its business without concern for you. Instead, remember that what is truly up to you is to do your best in order to achieve your goals, while also keeping in mind that actually achieving those goals is not entirely up to you. In life sometimes you will win, sometimes you will lose, and at other times you will get off with a tie. Cultivate, then, an attitude of equanimity toward externals. Be glad and appreciate when they work in your favor; IF YOU ARE SICK, YOUR body will be hampered, but not so your will. You can manage to be a decent human being even when sick. Lack of money will hamper your ability to do certain things, but not your will. You can manage to be a decent human being even if you are poor. The same goes for every other condition imposed by externals: those things that may constrain your actions one way or another will not constrain your will.