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Expression and repression have their place, but if you only express your emotions outwardly or repress them inwardly as if they are problems, you (and the people you love) may learn to see all emotions as trouble. This is especially true when you're dealing with intense emotions and multiple emotions. Luckily, there is a healthy middle path between expression and repression, which I call channeling. Channeling your emotions is an empathic engagement process that helps you learn what your emotions do and how they work so that you can work with them mindfully and intentionally. Channeling means listening to your emotions and working with their unique gifts so that they can contribute their intelligence and energy to you and then recede gracefully. For instance, to channel your sadness, you would know that your sadness helps you let go of things that aren't working anymore, and you would use your sadness to let go of things mindfully (including ideas, attitudes, physical tension, or old, tired ways of working with emotions). When you can let go, your sadness will recede to a softer, almost imperceptible intensity until it's time to let go of things again. Or to channel your anger, you would know that anger helps you set boundaries and state what's important, so you would use its gifts to find your certainty and your focused and assertive voice. When you can set your boundaries skillfully and state what's true for you without harming others, your anger will also recede to a softer and almost imperceptible level of intensity until you need it to set a boundary again. Channeling is a healing approach to any emotion, but in the territory of anxiety, it can be life changing. You can ask your doctor or pharmacist about this. Also check out the U. National Library of Medicine's Medline-Plus website for detailed info: https://medlineplus. Just remember: you can never out-exercise a bad diet! If you are experiencing any of the adverse physical effects of caregiver stress, talk to your doctor. It's crucial for you to get the help you need to help prevent any significant health problems. The Costs of Caregiving Try and reduce stress in your everyday living by altering your lifestyle. Downsize your home, thus making more money available to you because of the reduced costs of heating bills, electricity, rates, taxes, and maintenance. Invest the savings to increase your income.

It's a twisted story of junk science exploited by powerful economic forces, governmental acquiescence to industry lobbies, and the revolving door between corporations and government agencies, scientific mob mentality that invalidated opposing views--in other words, many of the usual culprits that influence society. As a consequence, since the 1960s the medical establishment advocated a diet high in carbohydrates and low in fat. This misguided diet has caused a surge in heart disease, diabetes, obesity, cancer, Alzheimer's, metabolic syndrome, and many chronic diseases, as well as high levels of inflammation, lowered immunity, disordered metabolism, and insulin resistance. No surprise the brain gets hammered also. Most people in this culture get far too much sugar and too many carbohydrates, too many unhealthy bad fats, and too few healthy good fats and fiber. The brain is composed of about two-thirds fat, and everyone needs plenty of healthy fat to build a better brain as well as to fuel it. The rise in childhood depression, anxiety, and ADD/ADHD rates began when Americans switched to high carb, low fat diets in the 1960s and beyond. On a low-fat and bad fat, high sugar diet, the growing brain cannot--repeat CANNOT--grow into radiant, optimal health. Plus, there are a number of nutrients that are essential for optimal brain development that very few children or adults get enough of. Take an average American schoolchild's diet: breakfast of orange juice, a high sugar and carb cereal, low fat milk; That long, straight, flat hair parted down the middle from your teens and twenties will only accentuate your current age if you're still sporting it. Styles change, and so does your face, so try tiny tweaks such as playing with the thickness of your bangs (as long as you don't grow them out altogether). Here are some small changes to discuss with your hairdresser. STAR STYLES Better Banged Anne Heche 2003 Salma Hayek 1997 Mariska Hargitay 2000 Once you get the angles around the face, it opens everything up, says Antoinette Guzzo of Frederic Fekkai, who styled my hair for TV. Maybe wear your hair longer in the summer than in the winter.

This exercise opens the lungs, brings the hemispheres of the brain to a state of alertness, and consolidates the magnetic field. The Science O ur world is laden with trauma. Mother Earth embodies trauma. Mother Earth is forced to embody all of our trauma in response to the ways in which we treat her, use her, abuse her, and neglect her. This is an entirely different topic that deserves its own attention and/or article, but it's important to disclose the reality of trauma that we've co-created as a species on this planet at this time and how this is in direct reflection to the trauma that each one of us carries, to varying degrees, within. Our world is ridden with trauma, and it doesn't seem to be slowing down anytime soon. If we plan on leaving a planet with enough resources for our younger generations to be able to survive, then we better start taking a deeper look at what is creating this breakdown of the tiniest cells to the creation of the Universe - the micro to the macro. Living through the tragedy of September 11, 2001, in New York City, losing my college roommate in the most horrific terrorist attack ever still to this day in the United States of America, and then being diagnosed with PTSD and prescribed Klonopin to get me through it, forever changed my perspective on life. I went from living an externally focused existence - address in Soho, closet of Manolo Blahniks, traveling to exotic places hired to do hair for brides - to living at an academy in India in hopes of training to become a monk. Then the woman added, My name is Amelia Engel. How may I help you? I want to find out about how empowerment works around here. So I guess I'd like to talk to some of your, um, associates. We're all involved in making this an empowered organization, replied Amelia, so anyone here could help you. Perhaps I should start at the bottom. That's where empowerment really has to go, isn't it? Not really, smiled Amelia. Anyone who interacts with our customers is considered to be at the top. Okay, okay, laughed Marvin.

If you don't follow through with your commitments and your promises you will slowly lose trust in yourself. You pay a high psychological and emotional price whenever you lie, cheat, or are dishonest. You are sending yourself the message my word is not worth anything. Hence, I'm not worth anything. Don't undermine your self-worth and keep your commitments. Over-deliver on everything you do and don't make promises you can't keep. Be there, if you say you are going to be somewhere. Mean it, if you say you feel something. Do what you say you're going to do. If you discover that you can't, won't or don't do something tell people the truth right away. Do you attract lovers and mates who belittle you? Do you mistreat your body with unhealthy food choices and stressful thoughts? If you deny your good in any way, it is an act of not loving yourself. I remember a woman I worked with who wore contact lenses. When she did her mirror work, she began to release an old fear from her childhood. In a few days, she complained that her contact lenses were bothering her to the point that she couldn't wear them anymore. When she took them out, she looked around and found that her eyesight was almost perfectly clear. Still, she spent the entire day saying, I don't believe it. I don't believe it. That was her affirmation.

You need to move on. It's important that you shift your attention to something else instead of beating yourself up over something that is now out of your control. Convince yourself that there is nothing you can do about what has already happened apart from learning from it. The best thing you can do is to let go and move on. You Always Want to Know Why Without a doubt, the notion of asking why can be helpful to solve problems. This is because this probing attitude gets you the answers that you might be looking for. Nonetheless, it can also be damaging when you can't help but always wonder why. Normally, we are accustomed to answering questions from kids. They just love to ask why about anything and everything. That is the only sense in which you are free, and in which your freedom is up to you. HERE IS A GOOD WAY to navigate your life: remember that for anything that happens to you, you will find the resources within you to deal with it. Say, for instance, that you are tempted by lust; Or maybe you are experiencing pain; Or perhaps someone has insulted you; Practice your abilities regularly and you will not be overwhelmed by the happenings of life. YOU SHOULD GO THROUGH LIFE as a traveler who stops at an inn: never regarding anything as truly yours, but as on loan from the universe. Has someone taken away your property? That was not yours in the first place (because nothing is), so you gave it back to the cosmos. But it was taken from me by a bad person!