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About three-quarters of people who hoard animals are women, a higher proportion than is commonly seen in object hoarding. Most are middle-aged and older and are not married (single, widowed, divorced). When people who hoarded animals were compared to those who owned a similar number of animals that did not have health or environmental problems, both groups showed strong attachments to animals, urges to rescue animals, and similar histories of stressful and traumatic life events. A few differences were evident, however. Those who hoarded animals reported more chaotic childhood environments and difficult early relationships with caretakers, as well as more dysfunctional current relationships and mental health concerns. They were more likely to attribute human characteristics to animals. This suggests that people who hoard animals tend to experience more problems in their social life and carrying out everyday roles, and animals may be used to fulfill social and personal needs. They take care of you, they protect you, and they support you. Your emotions work together, often in pairs or groups, to help you meet whichever situations you encounter. Something that can confuse you (if you don't know that your emotions should work together) is that many anxiety-provoking situations can activate other emotions alongside anxiety. For instance, if you're postponing things, and you aren't listening carefully to your anxiety, your guilt and shame may arise. The presence of these emotions is normal and necessary, and when your guilt and shame are well integrated in your emotional life, they'll help you live up to your agreements and your ethics. Your guilt and shame will also warn you when you offend someone or let yourself or others down (or are about to). When you're delaying your work past a reasonable point (or avoiding your tasks), your guilt and shame may arise to help you complete your work. But as you may have experienced, anxiety that arises in combination with guilt and shame can be difficult to tolerate: these emotions can be insistent, nagging, or even overwhelming! When your intense emotions work together like this, your emotional skills (or lack of skills) can be the difference between comfort and misery, or between success and failure. Your anxiety may team up with any of your other emotions, depending on your situation, your emotional awareness, your physical condition, and your needs. Know their limitations Evaluate your loved one's limitations in relation to other available resources (friends, neighbors, paid help, etc). Even though you may not always accept all of your loved one's requests, let them know that you care about them.

As much as you can, try to help your loved one maintain their independence, as this will keep them happier and healthier longer. Accept your limitations We want to provide for all of our loved one's needs, but it's almost impossible to do so. Stick to helping only in areas that you can manage positively. Giving help grudgingly will only leave you both angry and frustrated. Stick to your decisions If your loved one asks you to do something that you consider unreasonable or simply more than you can manage, explain your position and suggest alternatives. When we see how the brain and self are weakened, then we can see how to strengthen them. Let's examine both neurotoxicity and malnourishment to understand how much damage has been done. These two categories look simple, yet they describe much in modern life and appear in a wide variety of forms. The good news is that the brain is remarkably resilient. With the right nourishment, it comes back to a remarkable degree and usually can develop into an optimal, peak brain. How to Heal and Optimize the Brain and Self As the brain stabilizes, it helps the self to stabilize. As you feel better, you function better, recover faster from stumbles, and operate at higher and higher levels. When this happens: This article proposes a two-pronged strategy: Here's to looking younger, feeling better, and winning the battle. If I can do it, so can you. ARE YOU HIGH, MEDIUM, OR LOW MAINTENANCE?

I've been fascinated by maintenance ever since I learned there was a word to describe all those little things women do to make themselves look better and feel better on an ongoing basis. I love to know what other women do, where they go, how much time and money they're willing to shell out. When I consider the women I know, our maintenance levels run the gamut depending on where we live and what we do. My sister-in-law Janet and I laugh about how two women in the same family can be so polar opposite. When she was traveling through Africa on the back of a date truck, all she needed was toothpaste, a toothbrush, and toilet paper. Now that she's home, her beauty needs don't extend beyond a moisturizing mist from the health food store. I, on the other hand, could open up a store with the beauty products I have collected over the years. This is a guidearticle, a map that takes you through the annamaya kosha , the physical layer; For most of us, we are only tuned in to the annamaya kosha (physical) and/or the manomaya kosha (mind). If we're lucky, we might be tapped into the pranamaya kosha as well, but that is already getting pretty wuwu-guru, speaking of energy. Yet, why do so many indigenous traditions, teachings, and wisdom talk about the various bodies that exist beyond the physical, how they affect our 3D reality and our state of being a human, and what we can do in order to create a healthier, happier, more holy version of you? In each article, you will dive deep into a greater intelligence of each kosha and the roles that each play in your perceptions, your health, and your experience of life as a human being. You will also dive deep into the understanding of how ignorance and living asleep greatly hinders your ability to feel a deeper sense of connection in your relationships; As you grow, learn, and evolve, your capacity to guide others to do the same also grows and evolves. This inward journey is often referred to as the peeling of an onion, layer after layer of revelations, of getting to know oneself, of becoming more and more aware and conscious of the divinity that exists within you. You meditate as a means of getting to know yourself again, as a way to quiet the incessant chattering of the mind and to begin to shift the awareness from the annamaya kosha to the more subtle layers or sheaths of the body, ultimately to atman, or your truth, the purity that is you. You will be able to better understand your desire to help others heal from their trauma as well as overcome your doubts and struggles in being able to fulfill that healing. Recognizing that the world might pass you by if you don't change is half the battle. This is particularly true when you understand what empowerment is and what it is not. That would certainly help, said Marvin.

I've never actually heard a good definition. Empowerment is not giving people power, she explained. People already have plenty of powerin the wealth of their knowledge and motivationto do their jobs magnificently. We define empowerment as letting this power out. But you see, she added in a more subdued tone, I've learned this the hard way. Empowerment has a sense of ownership at its core, and it starts with the belief system of top management. Too many leaders still need to get over the notion that their people head off to work every morning asking themselves how they can get by with doing as little as possible today. John's Afformations. Afformations are questions. Instead of saying I have an unshakeable belief in myself and my abilities, which your inner critic could counter with No, you don't, you are a loser and always will be, Noah would ask Why do I have such an unshakeable belief in myself? Why does everything I do work out? No answer from the inner critic! You can also visualize yourself as a person with a great belief in themselves, or you can fake it till you become it, which means you act, walk and talk like a person with an unshakable belief in themselves. Stop blaming others for what you have or what you don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Blaming others doesn't accomplish anything and annoys anyone around you in the process. Accept that you are in charge of your self-esteem. You can blame your parents, your teachers, failed relationships, the government, your ex-boss, but the only person that is responsible for building your self-esteem from today onwards, is yourself. I am a magnificent person. I am lovable. I am worth loving.

Choose one or two of these new, positive affirmations and say them over and over again. Keep saying them until you feel comfortable with them. Each time you pass a mirror or see your reflection in a window throughout the day, stop and repeat these loving affirmations. The Power Is Within You: Your Day 3 Journaling Exercise Did you repeat a negative story today? Write down how many times you repeated it and how many people you told it to. Now write down something positive you can tell those people tomorrow that will help them feel better about themselves and everyone around them. Establish New Patterns With regard to the notion of overthinking, there is a likelihood that you would find yourself thinking too much about negative events. When this happens, you should try and free yourself from such a negative mindset. How do you do this? Directing your attention to something more pleasant can change your outlook towards a situation that you might be facing. For instance, you could try listening to your favorite song or read an interesting article. This can draw your attention away from thinking negatively. Now you have an insight as to why the mind is attuned to think negatively. In addition, you know how you can prevent your mind from drifting and thinking about all the bad things in your life. The following section will take you through a comprehensive look into why the mind is regarded as a perfect time machine. Indeed, when we say that we can influence an outcome what we mean is precisely that some components of the action are up to us and some are not--by breaking our understanding of things into parts, we see that just what Epictetus stated is true. The most important passage in Cicero's metaphor is the very last one: hitting the mark is to be chosen, but not to be desired. Obviously, the archer intends to hit the target, that's the whole point.