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Ultimately, the images that we develop help to shape the lives that we yearn to live while at the same time limiting us from experiencing harsh life events caused by the poor decisions that we make. This article will take you through an in-depth look into what mental models are and how they can affect your life. Defining Mental Models Simply put, mental models refers to the way people view or interpret the world around them. If you act from the fear of having excess body weight, when you notice you are experiencing hunger, you will likely overeat or under eat. Either way, the body has not been fed properly. Without the fear of being hungry, without the fear of being overweight, you are more likely to feel satiated and more likely to lose excess weight. Don't believe me, though. Try it in your life. If you act from a fear-based resistance to exercise, you are much less likely to engage in as much exercise as your body needs to be healthy. Without the fear of being active, without the fear of an identity of being someone who exercises, you are more likely to motivate yourself into physical activity and more likely to hit the road. I encourage you to apply these experiments and experience your freedom. I invite you to consider doing something that you want to do and know in your heart that you need to do for your well-being. Choose something where you have thoughts that say you can't do it or where you resist doing that thing. A journey in which we have looked into the eyes of our ghosts of the past and present with the courage not to look down. I feel the pleasure and honor of sharing with you everything that has allowed me to understand, feel, and finally manage this strange thing called codependency. I do hope it was a shared pleasure and I hope everything that allowed me to understand my old pacts with myself and with others will be useful for you and your loved ones. In this article, we have seen scientific evidence and personal vicissitudes. For scientists, it's too difficult to demonstrate scientifically if we love ourselves or somebody else and they do not even try to understand the meaning of our love. Their tools are powerful but not enough.

Limits are the size of every grandness, but it means that in love we are more alone and also freer to decide what is love for us. If as said, our healing from codependency only can pass through our love, depending on the meaning of love we chose, a long list of things will change in our lives and quite quickly. Love is loyalty and it's important to be fully aware of where we are putting our loyalty and why. Love is a contribution. We learned as much as we could about diabetes. Halfway into my treatment, just after celebrating our twentieth wedding anniversary, my husband told me he was unsure of his feelings for me and our marriage. What else could I possibly be asked to deal with on top of diabetes and cancer? It was insane. I suffered incredible anxiety that I would be alone with all this stress, and even worse, that no one would be around to love me after I got through my treatment. Prior to this, I had worked my way up to a VP position in a Fortune 500 company, gaining much respect in a male-dominated industry. I had three beautiful and healthy boys. I was ready for my close-up, with my career, marriage, family, friends, and community all in place. When all of this hit, I was stripped of my happy little reality. I hated the way I looked and felt. The mental models that people have in their minds help them to evaluate what is going on around them and make relevant decisions. There are several notable characteristics that are evident in a mental model. First, a mental model provides an interpretation of what has been seen or observed. These include events, circumstances, people, and relationships that people have been through. In this regard, mental models will give people the assumption that things, events or circumstances are objective reality. The observations made are not facts, but they are just stories that have been developed based on our understanding of the world around us.

Secondly, mental models disguise the interpretations that we have and it makes us believe that it's the truthful reality. This is done by providing us with justifications and shared views that we tend to believe they are true. In line with the perceptions that we have in our minds, mental models determine possible occurrences as a result of what we choose to believe. More importantly, mental models dictate the behaviors and attitudes that we adopt following the interpretations that we make. This is a soul-liberating fear. This type of fear is one that, when you test it, it lifts away from your ego-mind much like the shell of a seed lifts when the embryonic seed inside of the seed-shell begins to grow. The soul-liberating fears additionally serve as nutrition for the growing soul and eventually become reabsorbed by the soul as its very life force. As an example, let's say that a person knows what she wants yet is afraid to ask for it or is resistant to going after it. She tests the fear, and she may unlearn to fear asking for what she wants or needs. Also, her soul can be strengthened to make a similar request in the future. A soul-liberating fear is helpful to the soul because fear identifies itself very clearly, and it shows itself as being based in illusion and time. How can you know the difference? A soul-liberating fear is the fear of something that is for your own well-being or the well-being of those you love. A soul-liberating fear points us back to being responsible and living in integrity. Every one of us should be able to change in the name of safe and simple love, it contributes to improving the lives of many people. When we get out of a difficult situation, others are looking to us: sons, daughters, parents, friends, partners. Love is not perfect and we do not need to be perfect to heal. Love allows us to make peace with our past, with our present, with our family, with our mistakes and with the temple that has hosted us since we were: with our dear, loved and precious body that is healing with us, every day a little more, curious to meet your new identity. Nice to have had a tiny part in your life. LENNY1 is a 55-year-old divorced man of European heritage who became severely depressed over 2 years ago, following very significant difficulties at work and in his marriage.

By the time I started treating him, he was fairly isolated and inactive, spending most of his time in his apartment, watching television and surfing the net, and occasionally playing video games. LENNY and I met for a total of 18 sessions over 8 months, using both a traditional cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and a recovery-oriented cognitive therapy (CT-R) conceptualization and corresponding interventions. You'll read more about the recovery orientation in this article and throughout the article. First, I conducted a diagnostic evaluation. I had no hair. My body felt crumpled and broken. I lost thirty pounds I didn't need to lose. On top of that, we had severe financial issues, which caused constant panic. During all that time, the one thing I never did was lose faith. I prayed every day and cried out to God for support and direction. I wrote about it, talked about it, looked for signs, listened to others on the subject, and reached out for love. That's what carried me? How does love carry you? What does it take to be the first female anything? So, this shows that mental models have a direct impact on our lives. Depending on the attitude that one will be taking, they could either choose to view life from a positive or a negative perspective. Mental models can be applied to our everyday lives. Whether in business, psychology or in the technological world, these models help us to better understand the world around us. It is through the theoretical and practical knowledge gained from these models that individuals can explain the way they are living. For instance, in the world of business, mental models are helpful as they define how people strive to shop economically.

Likewise, investors have to comprehend mental models held by their consumers to effectively meet their demands. Before making any decisions, people reflect on their mental models. Let's take an ordinary example of a man buying flowers for their spouse on Valentine's day. When heading to the store, he will have a specific budget in mind. The fear of asking for a date when you want to start a family, going after a promotion at work when you are qualified, or fearing entering a program that will ultimately benefit you and those you come into contact with, are all fears with soul-liberating potential. A soul-liberating fear is not to be confused with something that you can logically convince yourself is beneficial, yet is actually not for your well-being in the long-term. Being afraid to do something that you can convince yourself is good for you temporarily, when you actually are compulsively drawn to that activity and it is harmful to you, is not based on a soul-liberating fear; For example, an individual who is addicted to drugs may be able to convince themselves that there is some sort of short-term gain to doing that drug, even when they suspect that they are addicted. However, even in situations like these, perhaps you can find the soul-liberating fear. Soul-liberating fears have to do with the experience of suffering, lack or loss. These kinds of fears might sound like, I am afraid that they won't think I love them, or I am afraid of having needs, or I am afraid that if I take care of my basic needs first that that means I'm selfish, or I am afraid that they won't be able to survive without me. ALL FEAR ENDS IN DEATH All fear will eventually point the soul back to the fear of some sort of death. This death is the conclusion of some sort of identity or attachment. In the next session, our first treatment session, I gave LENNY information about his diagnosis, the theory of CBT, the process of therapy, and my proposed treatment plan. I asked about his aspirations (how he wanted his life to be) and values (what was really important to him) and then we set goals. LENNY wanted to have a better life, to be productive and helpful to others, and to be optimistic, resilient, and in control. More specifically, it was important to him to manage better at home, find a job, improve the relationships with his ex-wife and children, reconnect with friends, start going to church again, and get in shape. We discussed how he could become more active in the coming week and agreed on an Action Plan (therapy homework). Then I elicited LENNY's reaction to the session.