The muscle was damaged and angry and resisted our efforts. Before the presentation, try to get some alone time, when you can separate the emotions you are feeling through other people from your own. Your nervousness is enough to deal with; If you have a coworker who's consistently happy and confident, try to spend some time with them right before the presentation. Embrace their emotions and positive energy. Avoid the negative people, if possible. Change your thought patterns. People with social anxiety tend to have a negative, cyclical way of thinking about social situations. For example, the more stressed you are, the more likely you are to have physical symptoms. This gives you even more to worry about. You may begin the conversation already stressed, but then, as you analyze everything you are saying in a conversation, you reprimand yourself and think of how you could have said it better. If you are changing some things all of the time you will get there quicker than you thought. Imagine a loaded gun was put to your head right now, and the trigger was about to be pulled and you were asked: HAVE YOU BEEN MAKING EACH MOMENT COUNT? Could you say you've been doing the best that you can? Because if you can't, it is time that you change things so that you can and you do. Change things so that at the end of each day, you can look back and smile. Exercise: The Final Month Consider what you would do if you were informed that you were being granted one final month to complete your life on this earth after which, without pain or incident, you would no longer be a part of the life you now know. You are also told that you will be given sufficient extra time to say your goodbyes and to get your technical affairs in order in the appropriate way, so those matters can be excluded here.
Gerry French, a good friend of mine, was in the audience the first time I presented `The Final Month' exercise to a group. The person has pure CFS with predominantly flu-like symptoms, with debilitating fatigue and little or no pain, or with low blood pressure symptoms (NMH/POTS; Antiviral Treatments Antivirals can be helpful in about 25 to 50 percent of CFS patients. This level goes much higher if the symptoms above are present. For all of these, you can see initial flaring with treatment, called the Herxheimer reaction. This is a good sign, confirming that the treatment is killing a bug that is causing you problems, but pushing through the flaring will not speed healing. It will delay it. So stop the treatment till the flare passes, then start with a teeny tiny dose and work up slowly as is comfortable. Absence of your symptoms flaring does not mean that it will not help. Here's how I begin: It had grown used to the old, protective ways of dealing with the damage that I had resorted to before physical therapy began. In time, however, the process worked. That is much like how it will be with the person you're trying to help. You are Dave, and your entitled person is my rotator cuff. The elements of therapy you will use as described in this article give you a broad-brush stroke of the behaviors and attitudes that will help you to help that person. But don't expect it to go smoothly or even quickly. Check Out Your Why First, why do you want to go to the trouble of helping this relative, this friend, or these employees? To keep your energy and time focused, you must be clear on why you want to do this.
Make sure you have good and healthy motivations. Try to stop and think rationally. You may have stuttered a couple of times during a conversation. Would you judge someone for stuttering? Is it really a big deal? Remind yourself that as an empath, you are naturally a good listener. Try to concentrate on being a good listener, rather than focusing on judging yourself. This should come naturally to you! It can be helpful to remember that as much as you are judging yourself, the people you are interacting with are likely doing the same thing. Unfortunately, for an empath, this means that they are absorbing this energy from the people around them. This is an instance in which getting in the habit of practicing separation of your emotions from the emotions of others will be important. After setting up the exercise and explaining what I wanted the group to do I noticed Gerry sitting motionless, his arms folded and a stubborn look on his face. I said to him, `Gerry! What's the problem? In another seminar in Scotland, I overheard one of the delegates arranging his funeral; This is an exercise in positive thinking. So, using the present tense, I want you to write down below what you are going to do over the next thirty-one days, what you are going to do with your final month? Epitaph: What would you most like to be remembered for and how would you have it written on your headstone? Now that you have completed this exercise, look and see if there is anything on your list that you could already be doing. You know it is important.
Your happiness depends on it. Famciclovir (Famvir) Plus Celecoxib (Celebrex) This is what I begin with in most people. Famciclovir (Famvir) at a dose of 500 to 750 milligrams three times a day was modestly effective. Excellent research by the surgeon Dr William Skip Pridgen and virologist Carol Duffy, PhD, has shown that adding 200 milligrams of celecoxib (Celebrex) twice daily dramatically increases the effectiveness. I found this interesting. In my first edition of From Fatigued to Fantastic! I noted at that time that I had no idea why this drug worked in fibromyalgia. It turns out that celecoxib has significant antiviral properties, which augment those of the famciclovir. The main side effect of famciclovir is the Herxheimer reaction, so start slowly with a low dose and work up as is comfortable. The main side effect of celecoxib is indigestion or acid reflux. All of us find it easy to be driven by less-than-optimal reasons. People get so frustrated with entitlement, and they feel so helpless to do anything about it, that their irritation can color their motives. If you aren't acting primarily out of love and concern for the one you're trying to help, then your reasons are suspect. Consider some of the whys that you should release. Don't allow any of these to become your top motive: While this consideration may be important, it can't be your top motive. Because it reduces the individual to the role of being a bother to you, a project, something to fix like a leaky faucet, it's not very loving. Besides, good boundaries could do a lot to reduce your stress with the person, without the investment of time and energy required to change them. Saying no to someone who undeservingly asks for a bailout is a no that helps you;
Everyone gets angry at the entitlement of others. Are you only thinking about what you did wrong? Perhaps you were blushing when you told a funny joke that got a great reaction. Stop thinking about the blush and think about how people enjoyed the joke! Are you focused too much on the past? Were you made fun of in school? Well, you're an adult now; You don't judge others by how they were when they were younger, so why would they judge you like that? More importantly, why would you judge yourself like that? Think of all you have accomplished and how much you have changed. People often say that you should treat others the way you would treat yourself. You know what to do! Some people think, `I can't be doing that, what would people think? Is it because it just doesn't feel right? That's just part of the `selfishness is bad and you'll burn in hell for it philosophy' put forward by people who know no better. Selfishness is not a bad thing, it's a good thing. Selfishness opens the door to selflessness. In order to be selfless you need to be selfish first, that way you can give freely and with compassion. Success Requires Clear Positive Thinking Decisions and beliefs are alike.