Tuesday, 27 October 2020

Arm Swinging

This shift of perception is from I am the body to I have a body. It becomes progressively obvious that the body is not experiencing itself at all. On the contrary, it is the mind that is experiencing the body. Without the mind, the body cannot be perceived at all. Elaine saw her guilt as not having done enough or given enough. Elaine was looking for meaning and purpose in this lifelong, desperate self-sacrifice, even if it meant blaming herself. She had come to the conclusion that she must have done something wrong if things were this bad. Elaine had made the mistake of thinking that because she was giving, the other person must be receiving. Therefore, if her sister did not get better, it must be because Elaine was not giving enough. It was very hard for Elaine to realize that her help and intercessions ran through her sister like a sieve, having virtually no effect on the situation. Elaine ultimately did accept that painful truth. She took a long, realistic look at her sister and at what the situation was doing to herself. Elaine realized now that her job as an adult was not to feel everybody's pain, but to cope with the situation in a way that was reasonably fair to everyone, herself included. When Elaine couldn't stand her sister's self-pitying calls from jail anymore, she got angry with her sister and told her so. Every single day, they work on their objectives. This helps them achieve success more quickly than anyone else. Most individuals, however, try something but never stay consistent. It becomes their roadblock. To achieve success, you wish concentration is important in your life. Successful individuals never allow disruptions to get in their way.

Losing your focus may mean that you get frustrated and impatient with yourself. Anxiety starts to mount on the list of things being done, and the next step to success on the ladder can feel like an impossible task. So how can this change you? A lack of focus impacts both your home and work life. The arm cannot experience its arm-ness. Only the mind can experience the arm-ness. This, of course, is the very basis of anesthesia. When the mind is asleep, the body has no sensation. It slowly dawns on us that, in fact, the body does not have any sensation; This is a very important shift of consciousness, because now the preoccupation is not with the body and defending it. We begin to notice that people are not really responding to our bodies at all but to our inner attitudes, our inner energy state, and our level of awareness. We let go of worrying about our physical appearance, for one day it dawns on us that everyone and everything in the world are actually responding to our level of consciousness, our intention, and the inner feeling we have about them. We register the magnetism of saintly people such as Mother Teresa, the Dalai Lama, and Mahatma Gandhi. We see that they are beloved not because of their physical appearance, which is often unimpressive, but because of the inner radiance of love and peace they emanate. She stopped sopping up all her sister's turmoil with the sponge of her heart. Instead, she offered help when she could, but not at the expense of her own stability. Helpfulness and loyalty were strong aspects of Elaine's personality, so her solution wasn't to totally walk away from her sister and her problems. Instead, she did what she could without exhausting herself, then hoped for the best. Focusing on her own feelings and realistic limitations made Elaine feel like an adult, as she said with a calm smile one day. It was as though she had found the magic key.

Elaine didn't have to stop loving her sister, but neither did she have to sacrifice her life just to suffer along with her sister's bad judgments. When she finally told her sister that she was unable to tolerate the constant demands and telephone calls, her sister backed off and was more respectful of Elaine's time. Actually, her sister had had no idea how much Elaine was taking the sister's problems to heart because Elaine always managed to act so unflappable. Growing up, Elaine was not only a bright little girl, she was also the highest functioning person in her family. As a consequence, all your relationships can start to suffer when you're more irritable and anxious in a similar way that if you drop focus on how you're relationships going, this can cause friction and affect your mood. For you to achieve your full capability, this vicious cycle must be broken. Focus includes giving priority to what's important in your life. If you know where your primary problems lie, channel your focus to the problem region. For example, if your home life is troublesome, it may be best to transfer your efforts on returning your family life to its usual harmony before taking on a new project at work. It's exciting when we start a project, but the glow wears off after a while. Many individuals, for example, are passionate about their new work and perform tasks with enthusiasm and energy. They can make sacrifices to improve their careers as a result of this buzz, such as working long hours or neglecting their personal lives. When things settle down, the job is no longer as pleasant or motivating. We are tired of losing sleep, not exercising, or eating a balanced diet, and the cost of the initial increased effort has hit. The shift of focus from the physical level to the level of consciousness brings rapid results. We begin to pour energy into our inner health. The continual surrender of negative feelings and attitudes means that the associated guilt is also being constantly relinquished. A consciousness that is not guilt-ridden tends to no longer attract disease. In the unconscious, guilt requires punishment and sickness, with its attendant pain and suffering, as the mind's most frequent means of self-retaliation. This self-retaliation may take the form of an accident, a cold, an attack of the flu, arthritis, or any of the multiple diseases that the mind has invented or latched on to.

These diseases take epidemic forms due to television and media publicity. When a prominent figure shares with the public some serious illness, there is a sudden jump in the incidence of that illness and it becomes increasingly more prevalent. The unconscious grabs hold of a disease and utilizes it to settle the score. With the constant surrender of inner guilt, there is less and less of a score to be settled. Not just the highest functioning child, but the highest functioning person. Elaine had the combination of personality strengths that allowed her to function at a higher level more consistently than anybody else in her family. She was smart and emotionally under control. She could contain a tremendous amount of anxiety and still function. As Elaine noted in one of our sessions, If you are the highest functioning one in the family, then you have to be that. You can't be who you really are. It all flows to you, whether you want it or not. Now seeing her old family arrangement with perspective and with compassion for herself, she was able to say no when she had to. Am I Able to Love? Unfortunately, many sensitive, empathic people like Elaine grow up with the gut fear that perhaps they are incapable of loving. Our home life has become a little trickier, in addition to this. This frequently causes our focus to start to waver. The predominant reason why many companies fail a short time after opening is burnout. It causes us to lose sight of our original objectives by dispersing our resources and focus on so many activities. Since we're not sure what they are, we're struggling to grasp how we plan to accomplish them. This is a significant contributor to failure.

Self-control and focus Focus is, of course, closely linked to self-control, which is why you frequently read papers that simultaneously mention each of these principles. The term self-control is typically one of the reasons people can't concentrate when you think of the challenges to the process of concentrating on something. Lack of self-control contributes to a lack of concentration, as the two have more in common than you realize. Therefore, a person who is free of negativity and free of guilt tends to be free of disease and suffering. Health and well-being, then, are generally the automatic consequence of letting go of guilt and other negativities, and the letting go of our resistance to the positive experience of health and well-being. There may be uncommon cases in which illness or infirmity continues unabated due to unknown factors such as karmic proclivities. Continual surrender brings healing at the level of inner being so that, even while the body appears to suffer limitation and others may see it as tragic, the person is at peace and radiates an inner well-being that uplifts others. Through surrender at great depth, such individuals have let go of self-pity, guilt, and resistance to life circumstances. They have transcended the view that their illness is a barrier to personal happiness and see it as a vehicle of blessing to others. In recent years, public examples of this phenomenon have included the late Pope John Paul II, who approached his unremitting Parkinson's disease as a spiritual opportunity to take on or be with the suffering of others. This process of surrender takes a person all the way to the top of the Map of Consciousness. At first, there is the identification: I am the body. As the inner awakening continues, it becomes quite obvious that I am the mind that experiences the body, not the body. This is because their love was never enough to help their loved ones, no matter how hard they tried. This is not about anyone's inability to love. It is about a family's inability to receive. The bottomless-pit quality to a family's misery is often because they cannot accept love, even though they constantly demand it. You often may have come away feeling like your efforts just were not enough or that it was too little too late. This especially includes gifts of the heart - like trying to please them or make them proud of you - not just material things you might give them.

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